if he said it was ok to come to his house, then he probably has nothing to hide.
but if he refuses to take your calls and calls youonce in a while, my advice is to let him be.
if he's really interested, i'm sure he'll let you know somehow.

in summary, don't worry about it. not worth the trouble.

@jydewalker.

wow, i'm sorry for your loss. it took 10 years for you to actually see your wife , find her again, realise that you never stopped loving her only to lose her. wow. ( i keep saying that right?) but im in awe of all she went through. what you both went through. i always wonder how the gap/ distance between couples appear.

people , especially ladies get into marriages for the wrong reasons sometimes. all your friends are married so why shouldnt you be?
when in fact all we're planning is the wedding and not the marriage. pressure from home and society, coupled with the never ending age factor
tends to make people hurry.
i agree that marriage should be enjoyed and not endured.

i actually read every single word!
@ poster
spot on. nuff said.

look, by now you know you have made a mistake and im not trying to make you feel better, but worse things have happened. but what you do from here on will determine the future of your marriage, cos lets face it, its your brother in law and not just some stranger so the stakes are definitely higher.

truth is,you stand to lose a whole lot and not just your marriage.
you do know you need to work on your self control switch don't you?

([tr]i have sorted out the mess
in my way through God's help)[/tr]

im curious girl, how have you sorted it out?
please id really love to know.

if you're sure you will be able to say "no" and mean it , then you can go spend time with him if you like.
and watch closely for the reaction when you say "no".
be carefull.

dear grow fast.
guy abeg na you put post for naira land dey ask people for opinion and you come dey abuse them for the matter again.

abeg next time if you no want people to tell you wetin go pain you, keep your _dirty linen to
your self .you hear?

i no even get wetin to tell you about this your freaky ass post! please keep all this kind things to yourself abeg.

[[s]sub]nb: you take style check your spelling abeg[/sub][/s]

1.dump that _LovePeddler girl.

2.buy your brother a beer and thank him for showing you what you thought you had.

3.go home and don't overstay your wellcome in your friends house.

_4.[sub]you still try keep your chics away from your bro abeg,(e be like say the guy get skills)[/sub]
5. forgive yourself.(it will set you free).

doh!

how can you honestly ask somebody not to insult you when you clearly have big problem?!

oh ! and, no, it's not normal and yes, you are crazy!

if you put a woman and a man together for long enough, they're gonna start liking each other
wether you like it or not.

point: men and women can't be" just" friends. it always ends up getting complicated.
your woman knows this, your corper friend know this and you my friend, know it too.

so quit playing around.

. self-service,

its safer, cheaper, you can do it as many times as you like,and it wont mess up your marriage.duh!

what are you thinking?!
sleep with your colleague that has the hots for you and complicate issues all the more?
get a grip man!

fabulous10:

brother! u really dnt need much advice. i'll advice to dump d chic and move on fast.

need i say more? open your eyes and get to stepping .

my dear, remember the good times you had and forget the rest. like someone else has so rightly pointed out, if he had the guts to tell you , then he really means it. letting go wont be easy, but it sure is possible.

be strong.

if you are brave enough to tell your parents, they will rush you to church for deliverance.
quit messing around with such thoughts. if you are nigerian, then you know its an abomination to even think along those lines at all.

i'm curious as to why you told her though, maybe you were hoping she felt the same way??
and then what?? , live happily ever after? get real man.

i wish i could give you an advice that would make your problems fly away, but thats not possible.
the decision is yours. what ever you decide should favour your wellbeing and state of mind.
its easy to tell you to leave him, but marriage is not a boyfriend- girlfriend issue.
so i suggest you talk to someone. eg, your mother. and see what she has to say.

ultimately, what ever you decide, you're gonna have to live with, so make it count.

all the best.

better think about it and end it now. . .

that is if you go fit,

get real! you know you are not in love.

you are just loving the exitement. better come back to earth and take a cold shower
cos getting involed in the office will only bring you loads of wahala.

better go teach your wife the things wey you like before you mess up your marriage.
you hear?!

no! it is not okay except she says its okay!
unless she reads yours.

there should be some privacy men, even in marriage.

@poster,i feel your pain. been there.


hopefully though,he might just let you know soon. i think its a good idea to always have stuff defined. i'd ask.