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Op needs therapy,you need a change of mindset. The purpose of marriage is abused here,marriage done the proper way is for partnership, companionship,procreation. If you are not ds way due to a past traumatic experience then you need a change of mindset as to what a proper marriage is about(i suggest you get professional help from Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo).
Seems you ddnt tell your wife ds arrangement b4 u went ahead,you will only hurt her and trust me u don't want her raising your kids in such state of heart,it will take the grace of God to have stable children in ds kind of arrangement. I also like my personal space but i gave room for another when i decided on getting married. Get help pls don't hurt the people that love you,it's no longer about "YOU" alone

Thank God there were no casualties ,i believe GSM will do the needful

It is good you know what you want as an individual because you must hold on to that even in marriage(talking from experience). Since you want to have your business as an individual,try to make him see what you want,if he can't respect that, it is a red flag,i do hope he's not controlling or showing signs of it. The truth is that finance is one of the causes of frictions in marriage.
Personally, i had a joint account with my partner but he decided to close it though i ddnt like the idea,the purpose was abused so i couldn't fight it cuz he has a right to his decision as an individual if joint account can't work.
I suggest you follow Pst kingsley and Mildred on youtube on topics like ds and many more b4 you go into marriage, na eye opener after all d euphoria of love me i love you don clear.
A partner that you can communicate and reason with is the goal,discuss it ,let him know your stand on the topic and listen to his,then decide.
He could look for another business to set up in order to get free from his job,it mustn't have to be yours.

If you know what is good for you,avoid wealth.ng , they are a huge mess.
Their website looks good and attractive and you will get your money ,just wait till there's a little error,that's when you will realise that only one or two guys responds to you when you call customer care and they are absolutely clueless,make your money no hang o,reconsider your choice cz u go call them taya, na 2weeks going to 3 weeks i don dey call them now,dem dey dribble me,my money dey with dem.
They refused to pick my calls and after calling them repeatedly each time,they will now send msg that it will be resolved just to free me. AVOID INVESTING ON THIS PLATFORM FOR YOUR PEACE OF MIND O. Aluta continua,i must get my money back on top bvn verification of old/new account

Thank you my brother

DavidJones98:
So sorry for the loss
My sincere condolences

I miss my mom! We lost her last month......the pain still fresh tears comot my eyes as we dey celebrate and pray for mothers in church today.
You are never prepared for such a great loss...it is well

Please what is the current state in ajah today?
I need fuel and can't stay too long on the queue

Nice one,it's good you obeyed ma'am. We all have our personal dealings with God,it doesn't mean that putting on jewellery is a sin but the(her) intentions behind it,it was already becoming a "god" to her so God had to caution her and it might even hinder her ministration to others.... shalom!

Ur head dey there[Qquote author=vivalavida post=107234851]

Hello ma. I used to work with so so person whom I believe u know. I am trying to relocate back to the east and start my life there. She said he had a friend that just set up a public lab there and gave me your contact. Should you be willing to hire, please I want you to put me into consideration. My cv is available should u need it.[/quote]

Clear, u r reading my comment from that point of view,which is very much allowed,everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, i was mainly stating d situation of things generally, people will tlk,make comments like we both are doing but it all boils down to d fact that she needs help from those who are ready and willing to family or not and i also hope she will be willing to accept the help as well. Don't bother quoting me,i'm out of here, use dat energy well.

lexy2014:
most of d stuff u wrote are emotional stuff cos am not sure how judging her got into d discussion. which would her family prefer to welcome, her and her 3 children or her corpse without her 3 children?

Like i stated,u don't know the kind of family she has if they won't welcome a woman with not just one but 3 kids back home from her husband’s house. U really can't understand what people are going through if u r not in their shoes.
People find it easy to judge or tell her what to do,no one really cares,if they care enough they can reach out to her or help with contacting agencies that address this kind of issues nd not use her matter to catch cruise. It could happen to anyone ur sister,friend...etc

lexy2014:
doesnt she have a family? why is she still staying with the man?

Speaking from experience, that woman needs help. It's easy to tell her what to do just reading or hearing her story,but you really have no idea what to be a victim is like,the trauma is indescribable and in a situation like dat she can't be in a clear state of mind to make d big decision to leave a marriage "involving kids" especially,she will worry about her kids welfare nd if her kids won't be taken from her if she leaves.

What she needs is a SUPPORT SYSTEM, those that are willing to help her leave nd help her thru all d drama that comes with leaving(trust me u av no idea),and those that won't judge her for marrying a bad man and not looking before leaping ,people change . The last thing she needs now is a reminder of her wrong choice. That being said, unfortunately, even the closest people,family,friends are not willing to help but would rather judge,that explains why most women continue to suffer and smile.

Thank God for some influencial people who have come up with support groups as this,even the lagos state govt. I hope she gets the help she needs,in the mean time ,please stop judging her because even that love of your life can turn monster in marriage!

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"Most richest" monarch bawo? I mean,the editors shud be sacked!

I'm not sure nd ts late to check but what i know is dat Firman products are strong and good. Mine is quite big and was around 220k as at 2yrs ago. U might want to consider making a budget of 100k so as to get one with high enough capacity for d purpose u want it to serve. You know things are now more expensive due to exchange rate. I hope ds helps

Benard5050:
What's d capacity(Kva) of the one youre using and do u have an idea of d price now pls?

Firman products are great,just buy a new one form a reliable source. Using mine for about 2 yrs now without any fault.

Benard5050:
I'm planning to open a laundry business pls prescribe a generator that can power iron, washing machine and pumping machine. Not the one that can power all at a time oo...

But d one that can power one at a time.

Budget is 75k/80k

You are soooo ON POINT....beware of the doctrine of men and those who quote d bible out of context to support their personal opinion.

jesusjnr2020:
Some women who God has used to greater effect as Smith Wigglesworth's wife actually questioned their husband when he had strayed from the faith and began to demand things of her that were not of God.

She told him that he was her husband but that Jesus was her Lord!

That was the saving grace of the husband as he was hence restored back to the faith, and would never play with his wife afterwards. That's probably why we hardly have women of such such spiritual calibre these days, because they have made their husbands to take the place of God as the Lord and Master of their lives, hence God cannot use them for much because He cannot share His position with any man.

Moreover, the wife of Abraham questioned her husband concerning Hagar and her son Ishmael, that it was said to have grieved Abraham much, but God told him to hearken to his wife's voice.

Genesis 21:12 (KJV)

And God said unto Abraham, Let it not be grievous in thy sight because of the lad, and because of thy bondwoman; in all that Sarah hath said unto thee, hearken unto her voice; for in Isaac shall thy seed be called.

So you can actually see that even though it's what men love to hear, this saying of a woman not questioning her husband and being demonic is not of God but of men.

God bless

Infact,i had to refresh again cz i no understand which new year we dey tlk about. Anywez since we are wishing ourselves a happy new year,my new year begins in September as a member of the RCCG household. Tankiu