₦airaland Forum

Ingratitude and Its Consequences

Ingratitude among struggling people often breeds a sense of entitlement that hinders progressive thinking.
It nurtures callousness and a sadistic outlook, especially among the less privileged.

When ingratitude takes root, a person ceases to see anything good in life; nothing ever feels enough. The more one expects from others, the less satisfied they become and the greater their disappointment—feeding the very spirit of ingratitude.

Constantly looking up at others “above the ladder” can also diminish one’s sense of self-worth and worsen the perception of one’s condition.

Yet, no condition is permanent. Gratitude is a key that unlocks peace of mind and hope for tomorrow. Learn to give thanks, appreciate even the little you are given and remember—no one owes you anything.

Social Media Addiction: Text, Digital Mask and the Reality

Communication, as I was taught in Unilag, is the transfer of a message from a sender to a receiver, with the receiver having the ability to decode the information and respond accordingly.

It comes in two broad forms: Verbal (oral and written—don’t argue that verbal is only oral, abeg) and Non-verbal (sign language, gestures, body language, etc.).

For me, the most effective forms of communication are oral and non-verbal, especially when expressed physically. There’s an authenticity in tone, presence and gestures that words on a screen can never fully capture.

Recently, we’ve been hearing shocking reports of sudden deaths—friends, neighbours, relatives, even influencers—people who, just minutes or hours before their passing, were active online. They were dropping comments, liking posts or sharing content. Some were even gravely ill or recovering from serious conditions, yet their online presence masked the reality of their state.

Social media addiction has hidden itself behind texts and emojis—a form of communication that can never truly convey genuine emotions or physical realities. In a world where fake life has become the norm, where likes, shares and clout dictate perception, no one can truly understand your condition or state of mind through mere posts, comments or emojis.

This is why phone calls, physical visits and genuine conversations remain irreplaceable. They connect us to reality and allow us to see beyond the digital masks.

The Reeling Reels and the Silent Cultural Shift of Morality

Scrolling through social media reels today, one is struck not by innovation or intellect, but by an overwhelming flood of seductive gestures, erotic displays and shallow performances. The glorification of body enhancements, half-naked presentations and hyper-sexualized content has become the norm, while men parade philandering attitudes as badges of honor all in the name of content creation.
What was once private is now public spectacle; what was once shameful is now celebrated- What a pity!

This reality points to a deeper crisis in values. Social media, originally designed as a tool for connectivity and creativity, has mutated into a theatre of vanity where attention, likes, views and shares are the currency and moral boundaries are the first casualties. The “BBL culture" (Y'all BB-ELLing), the obsession with flaunting wealth and the near-worship of pleasure with no limit reflect a generation seduced by immediacy and superficial validation.

At the heart of this phenomenon lies the philosophy of "Enjoy Before Next of Kin". Thus, justifying reckless indulgence, unrestrained desire and an escape from accountability. The pursuit of pleasure without principle erodes the very foundations of society: respect for self, honor in relationships and responsibility to community.

Yet, it is not all bleak. What we see online mirrors what society rewards. Algorithms amplify what people consume and people consume what culture silently endorses. This means that a cultural reorientation is possible—one that redefines influence not by sensuality but by substance. Imagine a digital ecosystem where reels of creativity, innovation, mentorship and inspiration trend louder than empty erotic gestures. Imagine a society where discipline and integrity are applauded as much as beauty and wealth.

*Omitogun, Azeez Ayodeji.*

Restoring Dignity to Labour: The Plight of Nigerian Civil Servants and a Call for Subsidies.


There is dignity in labour—yes, all over the world. Workers everywhere should earn decent wages and live with dignity- yes everywhere. But in Nigeria, this ideal has become an exception.

Civil servants, once regarded as the backbone of stability and service to the nation are today a shadow of that dignity. The harsh economic realities have reduced many to ridicule as a majority can no longer afford the most basic needs. Food, shelter and transportation are beyond the reach of many households. To mention healthcare and education for the children of civil servants is to open a deeper wound of neglect.

The Nigerian middle class, historically sustained by civil servants, is fast disappearing. With its decline comes a widening gap between the rich and the poor leaving society lopsided and unstable.
This erosion of the middle class is dangerous not only for individual households but also for national cohesion and long-term economic growth.

The struggles are glaring. Today, many civil servants resort to loans, not to finance their children’s university education or invest in home projects, but simply to buy food, pay rent or cover the cost of getting to work. The concept of labour as a path to stability has been turned upside down. What once represented self-reliance and dignity is now a cycle of survival and despair.

Equally troubling is the grim state of Nigeria’s business ecosystem. For civil servants who once entertained the thought of resigning to establish businesses, the environment now appears cloudy, gloomy, and unpromising. Fear of the unknown has become a permanent companion further compounding their vulnerability.

This is why SUBSIDIES are no longer a luxury but a necessity. Food subsidies, transport subsidies, healthcare subsidies and targeted welfare support can go a long way in cushioning the realities of today. Such interventions would restore hope, reduce poverty and keep the nation’s workforce motivated and productive.

A society that ignores the plight of its workers undermines its own foundation. If labour is to truly retain its dignity in Nigeria, then urgent steps must be taken to protect civil servants from sliding deeper into poverty. Beyond speeches and promises, what is needed is concrete action that makes life worth living.

It is not enough to demand diligence, loyalty and patriotism from workers while they struggle daily to feed, transport themselves or educate their children. True dignity in labour is only possible when the labourer’s life reflects security, stability and hope for the future.

For Nigeria, restoring dignity to labour begins with giving civil servants a fighting chance. It begins with subsidies, fair wages and policies that place people at the centre of governance. Only then can the country rebuild a middle class strong enough to balance the society and nurture sustainable progress.


Omitogun, Azeez Ayodeji.

If one lives long enough, one will inevitably witness events that, though once considered unacceptable and contrary to societal ethics, have now become not only tolerated but openly promoted.

In the past, communities erected gates primarily to safeguard residents from thieves, armed robbers, and other criminal elements. Today, however, the purpose of these gates in some areas has been alarmingly redefined, they are now used to shield criminals and obstruct law enforcement agents from gaining access.

This troubling shift has become more evident with recent midnight raids by the EFCC, SWAT units and other enforcement agencies targeting internet fraudsters, popularly known as "Yahoo Yahoo boys." While these operations often raise concerns due to certain unprofessional tactics employed, their core objective i.e. cleansing society of individuals who exploit others through cybercrime remains valid and necessary.

Unfortunately, in many developing communities, some residents blinded by the short-term benefits they receive from these fraudsters’ ill-gotten wealth (astronomical increase of house rent, inflated property valuation etc) actively support them. They go as far as installing gates or barriers to block enforcement agents, especially during late-night raids. Such actions not only undermine the fight against crime but also erode the moral foundation of the community.

Yes, the excesses and misconduct of some enforcement agents must be addressed. However, community leaders must rise above personal gains and prioritize genuine development. Protecting wrongdoers for temporary benefits will only harm the community in the long run. True progress lies in purging our neighborhoods of criminal influences and fostering an environment built on integrity, safety and respect for the law.

Omitogun, Azeez Ayodeji.

Attack is the best defence!

Makurdi no be Benue?
Hope you're doing it protected.
I won't say more than that.

Who be yhemo lee and wetin e dey do?

No be only medical doctor dey make am for this life.
Build yourself in the field you've found yourself.
Don't stop till you get PhD in that field.

Good morning
I recently got a postgraduate certificate in healthcare field and will like to move from my agency to another ministry (probably ministry of health).

I'll appreciate it if I can get the necessary information on how to go about it.

Thanks

Op, sorry o....Have you not heard of National Open University (NOUN)?

Restaurant manager trainee...at least free food is sure

Good day everyone
Pls, anyone with nestle aptitude test questions should kindly send to omitogunazeez@gmail.com

I'll advice u go for the 2006 model cos the best engine is not really complex
No buy car wey mechanic go dey take do rehearsal oo

Abeg....make I stick to my simple meal

They should at least let the trail ends
Who knows some other "lead actors" could surface
Who knew Abba Kyari could be featured?

PDP Governed Southwest States are known for security crisis.

gone

"Heaven helps those who help themselves".

It is with great concern and open mind that I pen this piece which I think should be a call to responsibility and lay to rest a long-term belief that loans given out by the Government are not to be repaid.

The Nigerian Government recently is trying every possible thing to revitalise the economy, ensure business sustainability and improve standard of living by introduction of some intervention schemes, exempt taxation on some businesses and key more into human resources development. These are established facts.

Having been an individual with close intimate with Government loan disbursement/empowerment organ, facts over the years have shown that an average Nigerian is a "bad debtor!"

Why is this so?

When an average Nigerian is profiled/selected to benefit from a loan intervention package, he/she believes right from the outset that the loan is a share of the National cake (especially if the loan is meager).

Some experiences with prospective loanees show lack of preparedness, unwilling to document, no feasible business layout and history of credit unworthiness (to mention a few) would make you wonder if Nigeria could ever be great again.

The only way out is to change our mindset and attitude towards the Government. (Yes, the Government has failed us severally but we need to realise that We are the Government).

Finally, I want to implore us all either seeking loan or not, to be responsible and responsive to Government Interventions be it monetary, trainings or in other forms it may be because "heaven helps only those who help themselves".



Omitogun A. A.
REPO I.
National Directorate of Employment (NDE).

A Lagos cleared unregistered Pontiac Vibe 2006 ready for ownership by serious buyer.

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Na same same dem be
Why not take a sack n leave?

the environment is super conducive for an average thug/agbero in Lagos cos the so-called pillar of Lagos supports them hence their multiplication.

U kari APC for head...Same U be Chelsea fan...Ozo d simp is Ur man...what a treble-trouble Sunday for U.

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Abeg to start with...which kind house Una dey stay wey go make Una sis-inlaw use Una shower?
Abi na dem old flat with just one bath n toilet?

It is now obvious that both the house of representatives and Keyamo were actually fighting a self-interest fight.
Keyamo whose duty was to supervise hijacked the whole programme and constituted his people.
The house of representatives on the other hand saw the handwriting of the honourable minister and flare.
All na still who gets what!

Is Mr VP the new Lai??

All na script.

How much dollar is it worth then and now? Wise up girl...invest.

Respect no kom dey again for these Honourables again.
Come to think of it...how's it possible for a mother pig to probe the dirtiness of a baby pig?.

Na the drama go chop the remaining part of this administration.

Abasha et Iranu. Kontinu Una research...But don't forget to get your mind cleansed