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Screwcode1:
Someone out there got this 100$. Please don’t thank me or try to send a message to me. Post about to be deleted

Screwcode1:
I hope someone who really needs this, get it. 100$ for someone out there

LandMann:
You're a very lazy or unambitious man with low self-esteem, that's why you think a working class single mother is your meal ticket out of poverty.

Look at your life right now and ask yourself, with the job I have and the skills I have or will acquire, is there a way I can be earning N400k or more monthly by the time I'm 33 years old? If your answer is no and you're still entertaining the thought of getting married now, especially to a single mother who earns more than you, then just know that you'll suffer in life by the time you're 40 and above.

Some men can be proud loafers, relying on women to provide for the family. Such men never get respect in their marriage and they suffer in their marriage a lot. Is that what you want in your life?

Even if your salary is 100k right now I won't advice you to get married now cos marriage is not all about love.

Marriage is 80% about providing and shouldering responsibility and bills as a man. Can your 100k feed you, your wife, your adopted child and any child or children you'll have in 2/3 years time if you get married now? Can same 100k be enough to pay school fees, house rent, and transportation? Or are you hoping to depend on your wife salary?

It's like you want to be unfortunate in life.

Go ahead, go and marry her.

We will either read your unfortunate case on Nairaland few years from now or watch you crying in divorce court.

Alternatively you can shallow your shame and pride as a man and be ready to become a slave in your marriage.

Shalom

Afonja44:
Only a brain dead man marries a Nigerian female

Negroid001:
I've seen where sugar daddy sponsor wedding and husband dey dance on wedding day.

blowjohn:
Naija gals pay more attention to their faces than to their vaginas.

They buy more hair, attachment, cream than they clean their nether region.


They eat, drink and smoke more times than they bath.


Same for many guys too. Smelly armpits.

@blowjohn

ItisWell22:
May just be too comfortable with and fond of you.

Maybe, just maybe; marking her territory.

Any girl coming around go know sey another woman dey run that space.

blackpanthar:
relationship is the new orphanage

MrNice04:
Good day romancelanders ,happy Sunday to you guys,I have an issue I want table before you my friends and I trust your judgement on this issue, alright I'm 28 years old and I've been into lots of relationships but one thing I've observed is that no girl has ever bought any gift for me despite my heavy spending and when I confront them,they'll say they don't have money,a lot of them see me as rich even though I'm just managing,just that I'm not the stingy type...how do I go about this please

Oracleee:
Are you asking for a friend or yourself

For Myself

chachanga:
The dirtiness alone shouldn't be your main fear right now but other little things folks fail to consider when the romance is still hot.

- Her zest for progress and new things

- How innovative is she and how easily does she budge when encouraged to leave her comfort zones

- Her attitude to correction

- Is she the communicating type or the moody passive aggression quiet type.

- Dirty or not, do you have any Class Difference between you two. Is she just dirty perceptually or consummately? Like, I mean, does she just do things that would look clean to those at her level like running around with unshaved armpits, not showering before bed, not using body sprays, cologne etc OR is she the eating with dirty hands, leaving the whole house dirty, eating without picking plates, leaving stinky filled kitchen sinks for days OR the absolute worst type, the holding-spit-in-the-mouth-all-morning-without-brushing type?

If she's any of the above and she's the type that doesn't take correction or makes you an enemy for pointing out these simple things to her, your marital life, mental health and future happiness does not have a snowball's chance of survival in hell.

She will settle down, settle in, unpack her gross antecedents and start raising little piglets for you after making your home a pigsty.

Magnoliaa:
I would like to hear the girl's side of the story.


We only have your words for it.

- You might be stingy.
- Perhaps you don't like to share...
And she was starving.


Or maybe you guys have had a previous disagreement like that and she feared your reaction?

Daptboy:
Seems this gender never ceases to amaze me... They just keep doing things that make us go 'ugh' or 'yuck'

In addition to what the OP said above lemme share how a simple lie can be so damaging..

One of my exes (we still dae smash though) she came around to the area.. Me been an indoor guy I heard her voice so I was like expecting her to knock and greet as customary.. She didn't..

Her friend lives in the same compound as I do... After a while I didn't see her nor hear from her... I then chatted madam, 'Afa you reach area you no come greet me sef'

Madam said 'I no reach area today o' I was shocked, shay my eyes dae deceive me ne?? So I stepped out to ask her friend who confirmed that madam was indeed around cos they were together..

I then told madam that 'your friend confirmed your presence yesterday,' madam said she wasn't around that she didn't 'reach that side' according to her..

I then called her a 'stupid liar' madam then left the main topic and focused on the 'stupid liar' that I called her..

You know women nau when you start dropping points they'll leave the main topic and focus on one insult you made or something that's not even in the topic on ground...

Madam later said '' I don't have anything to say' all the while claiming she wasn't wrong... Can you see how dumb she was??

Did you do this?? A simple yes/no would suffice... Why the blow up?? Why the sudden anger outburst??

Whats indomie and egg that you'd lie about?? What?? Hisses..

A creature that was created when we were unconscious, there's no way we can understand them bro.... But we can still show them who's boss..

That's women bro... Nothing upstairs..
Just salt water and toothpaste dazoll....

Haakeem:
lol, you'll fall in the same fate as that noodles with another man some days.
Or how should I put it sef. That noodles might be her ex someday..
That noodles you caught behind the gas might be the man she is cheating on you with some days.
RED FLAGGGG!

madridguy:
One of the major disaster that can befall someone is to marry a dirty spouse, the thing can sound funny but it is a calamity.

I personally sabi a man, he is a tanker driver, his wife is so dirty that even pigs are learning from where the woman dey. No neighbour will allow the woman spread her clothes beside their own because clothes are just like rags because she cannot wash properly. She leaves her kids used diapers inside the room, even when the kids poo she will not pack it and might leave it there for over 24 hours.

Infact, the man said he can only climb his wife only when his drunk. He doesn't eat his wife food. To nail it all, the man finally ran away with another woman.

StonedSaint:
my own worry is her disposal of pads near d pot of soup, hope bl00d didn't find it's way into ur food? if not u go hail, as only deliverance can free u from her hold on u

it's well known in dis parts that once u eat food containing menstrual bl00d then you'll be head over heels in love wit d food n by extension whoever cooked it. cos I wonder how pad go enter kitchen not toilet lol

Jersuiyjoe:
Three things you need to do in order to decide if you can still continue with her.

1. Ask her, what is her future plans?
2. Ask her if she's okay keeping her surroundings.
untidy.
3. Now if number one and two questions above didn't meet your requirements then set a boundary for yourself. Care less about her, let her experience the other side about you. Don't listen or do anything for her if she ask you for money or materialistic things. Don't bother yourself about where she went to, or where she's or what she's doing, just feel less concerned about what's she's doing as long as she's also less concerned about taking responsibility for herself and her personal life.
And, always leave the house early before she does. Always try to wake up early and prepare yourself for your day.
Try to find a place you can always go even if you don't have any where to go now, make new friends you can hangout with all the time.
Still, make sure you try to always come late at home after she's back.
Don't say anything to her if you meet the house untidy, just do what you can do. After all you don't pay her bills anymore, and all you care about is your self.

Try as much as possible to look out for yourself, take yourself to shopping, get new clothes. She will start to see what she's missing out, and maybe she might change.
But if she refused to changed or stop seeing you because you've changed and careless about her. Then it's time for you to call the relationship a quit.
You deserve a better woman.

That's the only advise I can give you bro, because I know that you love her so much.

Just use your number 6. All humans have a soft spot, find that soft spot that will make her realise
what she have caused you.

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Guy, it seems you don't like yourself. How can you condone dirtiness if you are not dirty yourself? She can never change and will only get worse. Las las she go poison your food with her dirtiness. Damn!!🥱

Bolt458:
person wey u suppose don discard. If you think she would change after marriage, it’s a lie. It will only get worst.