JustGood:
Plenty women for Nairaland don commit in the past and e be like say many of dem don get pikin wey papa no gree take. dat's why dem dey say e good to marry woman wey born pikin b4
make young guys shine dem eyes make dem no go fall for deception of the woman wey don born for anoda man b4 o. Dat one na d 1st comma for ur marriage because the pikin no be ya own and e no go easy to dey train anoda man pikin.

If the woman na betta woman, d papa of the first pikin for still dey with am

ravenesque:
2Legit, you made some very valid points. I was born and brought up in London (I'm still Nigerian either way) and I know for a fact that the large majority of single mothers that I know (Nija or otherwise) got pregnant because it would be easier to secure accommodation/benefits and funds and general sympathy. In some cases people got pregnant for the sake of holding on to their boyfriends or simply because they thought having a baby was cute.

Some of them were even in competition with friends etc: 'this person has two, I need two also.

I remember an uncle telling my cousin that she was actually becoming an old cargo so it would be better for her to forget about marriage and at least find a guy and get pregnant so that no one would think that she was a witch or worse, a barren witch. I know that there are people who gave birth because they procrastinated over the issue for so long/didn't realise that they were pregnant until it was too late and had the child for that reason only and not because they wouldnt have dearly loved to have an abortion, (nothing to do with being brave, resillient and responsible at all).

Whether anybody is comfortable with the facts or not is irrelevant, simply put, not all single mothers are responsible, nurturing, kind and lovely people. They are simply people like any other who happen to have given birth without the full participation of the other concerned party. Some are very good people and parents, some are ok and some are quite rubbish.

Further more having a baby does not mean that your womb is intact or that you are fertile. What it means is that your womb 'was' intact and you 'were' fertile prior to having your baby. Having a baby is not a straight forward procedure and many complications can arise during and after the event. Having a child already is not a guarantee of anything.
There are people who manage to have one child and no more.


Being single and childless could be due to the fact that you are careful and protect yourself well at all times (not just when you feel like it) and not that you are a risky area.


It has been clearly stated in the posts of others, however incase clarification is needed: Widows and victims of rape are in no way connected to this subject matter.

Peace.

guruofsat:
Disadvantages of marrying Someone who have a Baby
Tip

The case to face
1.You are not the first on her heart
2.You Might face a lot of challenges in futures

Tip 1

Ask the woman that she should point one out of you between The BABY and YOU and Her Mother and Her Father, who she love most? and she should step how the love great in his heart,ask her to swear and to be honest

Samples of what will be the result
1.She will select The kid
2.fellow by her The mother
3.She will pick you ask number 3 sometime she might pick you for number 2
4.The father or You can even be Number 4

If the Baby recognize his blood father that is another Disadvantage!because if the blood father came to visit ,the house mood will change with the kid

No matter what you gave to the kid if the kid see his father he or she will prefer to be with his father than you at that moment,

And if the baby is more than 3 year is i advise you,you think twice b4 you fall in a infatuation you call a true LOVE

i want to tell you,anytime the woman look at the ex man kid he will always think of him for Good or Bad,which divert you woman attention at that moment

and if the baby notice you are not the biological father,and you are try to punish he or she for mistake he or she might look at you like a Stupid man,and her heart will full of jealous,

Tip 2

After you have labour the woman ex man kid.the man might come in future and request for the child only if the child didnt not have a brighter future he will not bored



Solution 1

Only if the baby accept you as the father from the bottom of his heart,or they never tell he or she that you are not is biological father

Solution 2

There is a court paper to guide you that you are the owner of the kid


All my friend we have to be honest Blood is ticker than Water

anyway True love is blind,only if you are blind you are ready to face alot of stupids thing in futures

And remember getting marrying you are not the only one getting marrying the Both family must agree to be one too if you want to have happy family

if you accept the lady and you parent refuse

, you can post your idea




Please forgive me that I couldn't finish tip 1

But this so silly to ask her to choose between a child she birthed(like after the 9 months of discomfort,and delivery pains) and you.... Vert silly thing to do....it's like telling a man, don't hang out with the boys to watch football anymore...

And also very silly because she will still go through that process of 9 months discomfort and deliver pains for him too, to give him their own kids.

2Legit:
why she born for man dat doesn't want child?

2Legit:
yes o. i cant handle it
why shd i want to handle having children out of wedlock? you r right i cant handle children out of wedlock. take your immoral handling of papaless chidlren away from my sight now b4 i count 3

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Marylandmama:

Thank you very much.

Posh404:
@Ayotunde ....Dr oduro charges $2150 while soyoola is above 3K....used oduro recently

cyntop:
@ Ayotundesh I used northside hospital Atlanta last year November.
Am sorry is coming late but is beta late than never.
Northside hospital 3550 that's discount
Used Dr Andrew 1700
Paed fee 250 I think with discount
Paid additional money for baby 400 that's after discount
Used Turkish airline and it was good
Baby's ticket was 69
If you have any other questions you I ask,I will be glad to help if I can

firsttymum:


Lol... They can't advertise because people pay for their Hospital to be advertised.

What u can do is to pm people that recently went to birth there.
Or better still call d Hospital and get their recent quote.
Remember u wan go spend millions... Research and get good deals.

chibertha:
I see you're on course just contact those Dr you have their quote from 2014 for the most recent price.
All it takes is patience and time you will pull through.