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Mindfulness:
Babe3,

a woman who gets involved with this sort of a man has some serious issues. You are a mess. I am not judging you because we all have a past and we all have erred at one point or another in our lives but I want you to understand that it would not have happened to you if you were emotionally healthy. You better not get involved in another relationship because you will attract another one like this. Luckily, you two have no kids. Imagine the drama if kids were involved. You really need to figure out what it is that gets you attracted to someone like this before the story repeats itself, which it will, if you don't learn that you deserve better, much better.

I respect that you decided to defend yourself. I wish you lots of strength. I am sure you will help many ladies in a similar situation.

My best wishes.

May this story help the two of you heal.

thank you mindfulness. YES, I was a big mess. You're right about that..... I'm healing though, it's a process but I am.

freecocoa:
Blawdy hell.
Am I dreaming?

No you're not. PM babe.

pickabeau1:
The truth is that when things were going well..no one knew

Now that things are haywire..this

Someone else will call you naive for allowing him have access to your private pics

If he leaves NL and comes in another guise how will it benefit you

A lot of private information will be released

It never ends well

However you are an adult and as you always espouse..personal choices and responsibilities to deal with the consequences

I understand pickabeau1 and thanks for your concern.

I'm not posting any other thing. I'm just proving that he did threaten to post my nudes.

Now for all of you saying he's innocent, why would an innocent person threaten to post my nudes ??

btw, who ever calls me a mumu is right. I was a mumu. I was the perfect mugu. He painstakingly scammed me. but that doesn't justify a crime. He scams people and steal people's credit cards for a living. It took me 3 long years to finally figure it out.

pickabeau1:
Babe3 please you are more than this
This path will bloody everybody

Leave this matter offline

some people here just want to hear gist

bloddy? how's exposing a scammer bloddy? how's this any different from exposing regular scammers? because it's "almighty coogar"?

smh pickabeau1

I feel asleep and mods deleted my posts. nawa o.

I went through the thread and this bastard said he went to lawyers...

I can't laugh. The bastard said I borrowed money fro him??

some called me mumu. I accept, honestly.
some said I'm doing this to spite, no I'm not.... I broke up with him...but he scammed me snd others a shitload of money, and even if I don't get the money back, he has to go down. Enough is enough.


edwide, dyt, nihilist, timbuktou, mindfulness, ifyalways,
ibime, 5minsmadness, cococandy
these are the screenshots of him threatening me, I cropped out his name and picture. he actually sent me the nude he was going to post but I deleted it before taking the screenshots.

edwife:
BABE3 hey,first off i want to command you for coming out,you are indeed very courageous.I have known you for quite a while now so does everyone but please can you at least post some real evidences and not just he said,i said.

coogar please address babe3 claims,the others are anonymous so i won't read any meaning to that but babe3 is something you should not ignore.

edwife, I can't say much here. I bunch of folks are working behind the scenes (as per legal matters).

He can't address my claims. He knows what's up.

First of, tell him to deny or accept if he threatened to post my nudes or not... we can start from there.

ifyalways:
I don't think it's necessary.

If it's true, she should take it up with the right authorities. Coogar have not addressed nor disputed her allegations yet here so she need not shot herself in the foot by bringing their confidential discussion/conversation out to the public.

exactly, if he denies, then I'll have no choice. I'm actually hoping he denies.

cococandy:
If true, pls save the messages in case you need to file a police report.
Intimidation, coercion and blackmail are serious crimes.
And if there are outstanding legal matters that you could get indicted for (you know what I mean)

Such messages can help clear you.

I have all the messages, the western union receipts of the money I sent him for over 3 years, evidence that he's uses stolen credit cards, and the posting of nùde threats. He called me 3 times last night. He was hoping I would answer so he can shut me down, but I didn't.

I immediately messaged ibime and wonlasewonimi that he's beginning to threaten me and they said the same thing you said; to save the evidence in case things go south.

olu4life:
Biko munch and post here na. U can crop out his number

I will if I have to.

sorry o, OP.

does this bastard really wants me to post the messages her sent me last night threatening to post my nudes?

wanlasewonimi and ibime, see me see trouble?

cococandy, pls check your mail.

cooger:
really?
you are not his type,unless you have been sending him your paycheque.he is good in begging and telling lies like there is a problem with his bank card and will repay later then he vanishes.
but i dont believe you,you could be him for all you know.

I just sent you a PM. You seem to know so much about this fraudster. Lets rub minds together.

wonlasewonimi:
Shey I don tell you. Thank you babe3 for this confirmation. I have been trying to to goad him all these while. Coogar I told tonight you asari don tu

You're welcome o jare.

I just had to correct cooger.

damiso, I had to log in to comment coz of you.

I'm so happy and impressed with your results. I know it's a little weird, but seeing people embrace the healthy lifestyle (plus results to show for it) gives me joy.
I hope you keep it up (the food aspect) even after you reach your goal weight. You're awesome!

Oh, I have that pearl choker/neck band. Great minds shop for accessories alike. Love all your outfits too.

ikenigel:

Once again you compare the Almighty God with a physical human being. Our spiritual father is always there but allows us the choice of choosing to seek him or walk without him. The reason for this our freedom of choice is entirely up to him. I don't KNOW why, but I believe it is for our best interest.
Unlike the physical father who may not afford you that freedom of 'choice'.

you said God is unknowable (fùckever that means). But you just described how he operates from your KNOWledge of him...

How's that possible?

tearoses:
Not all salads
I do a mean Chicken salad
Thanks to Jamie Oliver

I meant in the general sense.

I don't even eat raw green veggies. If its not efo riri or a green smoothie, I'd pass.

edwife:
Okay i know that child bearing is a difficult experience and men should appreciate their women for going through 9 months carrying a human being.

But trying to make an excuse for that is very lame.Are you losing weight for your husband or yourself?we all know that FAT is poison.It kills.
Using Beyonce and Kim is a extreme but is it ridiculous?No because most of our girls have them as role model,so why not emulate them in that department too?Is it only their dressings and luxurious lives you want to imitate but not their physics?

After dropping that gorgeous baby,go out there and exercise.Eat healthy,be more active and stop using child birth as an excuse.Everybody can lose weight if they so desire,anybody.

Remember you are doing it for you,stay fit and live long.

My own is, staying healthy at any phase in life is 80% what you put in your mouth and 20% exercise. All i see here is people justifying gluttony.


Someone even said a salad is the ultimate healthy food. Salad is mainly veggies o; no proteins, no fats, no carbs. Such ignorance!

I blame it on ignorance and lack of education of these issues. If you know better, you'd do better.

Why am I even surprised; this is Africa, the more overweight you are, the more you're valued.

ekemini606:
If there where no God atheist wont exist.
Truly makes God creator of all things.

Logic! Logic!!
There are phenomenon that dont fit by way of logicall consistency.
am a christian, therefor when it comes to God, am illogical on purpose.

if there was no God, atheists will exist, because everyone will be atheists automatically.

Kimoni:


You are not a serious human being. Na she give herself belle baa?? Ntorrr

I think we're refusing to look at the big picture here. Not everyone can be a parent, or is ready to be a parent. It takes a lot of mental readiness and mental strength to be a parent. So what if he's 30? Must a 30 year have a baby?

I know it's fair to laugh at the OP, but at the end of the day who suffers for it? The incoming baby.

I don't know why females bother keeping babies that both parents aren't ready for. In most cases, this builds resentment. Resentment towards her or the baby or both of them... or the worst of all, she becomes a single mum.

EfemenaXY:
BABE3, how far na. T'is been a while, girl.

Re: topic - I say snooping is for bone idle folks.

Honestly, I think it's energy-draining to say the least. Why spend so much time and effort giving one's self a heart attack, when that time and energy can be used for something more productive - like making yourself happy? That aside, I think snooping on a spouse's or partner's phone is extremely distasteful.

What many folks don't seem to realize is that a person who intends to play the field will do so irrespective of whether the other chooses to play CIA / FBI. What stops a philandering partner from discretely getting another phone / number just for cheating? Abeg life's too short to bother oneself unnecessarily. I personally don't touch hubby's phone. I'm not even in the least curious. Whenever his phone rings and he's not there to pick it up, I find it massively irritating and inconveniencing to pick it up and hand over to him without bothering to answer the call.

I'm fine thank you. Thanks for asking. I'm sure you're fine too.

Noted. Just wanted to get people's opinions.

bukatyne:
You ran away from your thread.

Your thoughts?

One time I think you are a Christian.... today I

I'm a Christian o. Come aunty bukatyne, is it possible to be a Christian and not go by the bible? and just love my neighbor as myself ?


thoughts on this submission wahala? Dunno, don't care. Sowi.

freecocoa:
Okay.

Hallelujah cocoa.

People are beginning to see the bible for what it is.
It's a new dawn.

libertyfather:
Snoop at your own risk, if you can bear the pain!

That is for those that can't handle the truth.

ronald4lif:
Not to snoop is the best but how easy it is

I say to snoop is the best. What do you have to lose if you snoop? Matter of fact, you have a lot to gain. "Snooping" sounds kinda invasive but you get the point. I don't think going through your partner's phone should be a big deal.

Mindfulness:
If you feel like snooping, then you already have no or little trust. The question is why. Are you generally a suspicious, mistrustful or jealous person or does your significant other give you the impression that you can't trust him or her.

Those questions are kind of irrelevant. The point is, is there anything bad in wanting to know the truth?

...that is the question.

In this day and age, they say a smartphone says a lot about a person than words of mouth. So in a relationship(any kind of relationship), is going through your partner's phone/laptop advisable ?

•Some say "Snoop!".
Snooping has saved a lot of people from STDs. Snooping has made some so called main chics realized they were side chics. Snooping has even prompted a father somewhere to know that he is not the father of his 2 kids.

•Some say "Don't snoop, you have to trust him/her".
However, the trust you have in someone has no bearing on what the person will do or will not do. Trusting is a personal decision just like "faith", it has no impact on the truth.


So, what say ye ?

cococandy:
I know. I'm just saying you also have religious people who are tolerant towards atheists.

I do know why you put it that way though.
The "you will go to hell I can't stand you" kind of people.

Thank you jare. You get it.

cococandy:
@bold, I think that's a bit exaggerated.

I'm Christian but I can totally live with an atheist person on a daily basis.

I think it depends on individuals and their tolerance level.

So they may yet work around it if she's not condescending towards his beliefs and he's not self righteous towards her.

That was a figure of speech. What I meant was religious people are more tolerant towards each other than towards atheists.

jaybee3:
I actually don't see any problem with inter religious relationships so long as the two involved are ready to accommodate each other's differences.

No marriage will work without employing flexibility to key issues

We are all different people and we need to be able to accommodate each other's differences in order to coexist. I can't over empahisise how important this is as that's the only magic people fail to identify with

I see no problem with inter-religious marriages too. In fact, all the inter-religious marriages I know of are flourishing.


The problem is, atheism isn't a religion. Its completely off the religion tangent. A Muslim husband and a Christian wife both believe in a higher being. An atheist doesn't. 90% of a religious person's life revolves around God, 0% of an atheist's life revolves around God.

Atheists generally think religious people are ìdiots.
Religious people generally think atheists are the anti-christ.

A Christian will save a muslim from a burning building before he saves an atheist.

So you see, it's not the same at all.

I understand where you're coming from, but in this case its easier said than done.

freecocoa:
Okay then, maybe with more money(including mine)before them go talk say feminist dey find man money, I guess the refinement I so crave will come, by thunder by storm.

#Watchingandprayin

The religion issue is much more important than his height. So, I'll eat my words; I'm not sure it's advisable to go on with the relationship..... but what do I know? I can imagine how you make the poor fella feel during your religion arguments. Smh.

When you say you're more intelligent than him, I perfectly understand.

Lets say you guys end up together, when you start poping put kids, are you guys going to teach them to be atheists or Christians or half-and-half? Will your kids go to church?

What of his family members? Are they gonna be okay with him marrying an atheist/"devil's agent"?

God forbid something bad happens to him or both of you. Maybe he loses his job; I picture him blaming it on you. I picture him telling you its a sign that God wants you to change your ways.

What about him gan-gan? It's easier said than done. He probably hasn't thought about this as he should. He's probably just high on love, and not thinking practically.


Now, best case scenarios,
1) you convert back to Christianity
2) he joins you on your atheism journey.
3) both of you (including family) accept and respect each other's views on religion.

I know don't see "1" and "3" happening. So "2" is your best bet. Get to work!

Oh, before I forget, if you decide you're done with the relationship, I know a handsome atheist fella in the religion section looking for love; tall, dark, and smart. Holla..