sylve11:
The man's confidence is not from this world.

Thats not confidence.. that's someone blinded by their own ego.

Odili flexed his muscle and left. Omehia, Amaechi.

Whether Wike likes it or not, he is the ex governor and not the current governor. He can't have it both ways.

It will be in his best interest to leave Fubura alone and focus on his job as the FCT minister

ikeno:
With the on going war in Ukraine dem still get time to watch porn.

Lifemanage:

Which one ur own senator don do...?

This is the problem with us Nigerians.

Because my senator have not done right, does it mean that your own senator shouldn't do right?

VULCAN:
Your own candle can never gain light when you try to switch off that of another.

Name the councillors in your state that provided 800 street lights at once.

If not, you will remain in darkness

Your own candle will NEVER light!!.

Rubbish, why can't you offer your own opinion on a fact instead of cursing yourself??

Street light from a senator is now celebrated??

Street light is a councilor level project... senators have bigger budgets for constituency projects and she should do more for her constituency.

FanRong:

Thanks for your advice.
She checks most of my boxes and that's why I'm so disturbed.

Well then.. it's time for that conversation.

I wish you both the best.

Cheers!!

shortgun:
It's logical to tell you to leave the girl or run for your life....but to who?
The experience you are having is just how women behave, you won't find a better one anywhere!
The only ones who will appear to be better are those who will pretend but will later show their true colours.
Any man who has made up his mind to get involved with a woman must be ready to put up with their nature and illogical dramas or just stay single.
You are even lucky she doesn't get angry with you cos you are cheating on her in her dreams.

The areas where I see you lacking is in dominance and assertiveness; you need to dominate her to conquer her.

I respect your opinion but disagree with your second bolded paragraph.

It is similarly as saying women should just "endure " characters they don't like in their husband because that's their husband.

The truth is in a relationship, no one is perfect, but when 2 people come together, they should be able to work with one another to get the best version of their partner.

Relationship is not only about sex, people in relationships shouldn't be coming together only for the purpose of sex if that want that relationship to last.

In marriage, a man and woman must live their homes and come together to create their own new world and that entails both parties working on themselves, dropping certain attitudes and picking up a new one that would fit the common objective which stands as the foundation of their new home.

I really don't like that saying take me as I am.. everyone has fault... and we should be working actively to get better .



Cheers!

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

No need to rush into marriage. It seems you both have some loose ends to tighten.

Please if you still love her.. if she still checks most of your boxes.

Don't rush the marriage thingy and work things out first to make sure you both are on the same page.

Frankly, I hesitate to say this but I have to. .. from what you wrote her.. I think she might be having double mind getting married to you.

The speed she used to call her ex and the speed the ex showed up sort of throws me off a bit.

So, my suggestion is to have a sit down talk with her and very directly ask her how she feels about your relationship, don't use proverbs etc.. direct talk... ask her how she feels, what's her plan for the future, if she is in with you or wants her ex back..

Either way, you just want to know where she stands and if she decides to move on.. bless her heart..
Similarly, get ready to answer those questions yourself and point out things she does that you don't fancy and areas you want her to improve and your willingness to work with her for the improvement.

you don't want to waste anyone's time or anyone to waste your time or for either of you to be in a unhappy relationship.

Cheers!!

Follow who know road, but no let dem use you clear road..

They don use this 26 clear road.. used as a political pawn

Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have listened to a couple of preachers both secular and religious on the issue of what is prime in a relationship and they revolve around these three which are romance,finance and purpose.
Some said romance is important, while others finance and yet some others purpose.

Which is more important.
I think it's purpose.

What do you think.

They are all important.

You just have to arrange them in the right order.

Odidigboigbo:
Why attacking Air peace? How about road transport? Everyone knows that in a period like this, transportation fare get increased, just a simple economics of Demand and supply. If you can't afford air travel, you can make use of road; better still, you can board a trailer.

The problem for me is the way they worded their statement.

I think it was bad in my own opinion.

True that transport fare generally increases but again how you defend the increase as a business could make or break your case.

As a business of that calibre.. they need to be more diplomatic in their public responses.

vicdom:
Onyema is a big fool for putting up this warp comeback defense, because I'm highly disappointed at him. There's no justification to hike up in threefolds when the other prevalent price determining factors have not varied. Higher demand than supply can never be enough to trigger such humongous hike by over 300% . It's just pure greed! You want to make the whole money you didn't make since January to November just in a couple of weeks. I blame the government for lack of price regulatory agencies in the country. Imagine this big fool with a lame defence.

AIR PEACE will soon deny that statement.

But I was shaking in my shoes and scratching my head like , what was their PR office thinking??

NiceLegs:
Hello everyone.

Please I need you inputs on this.

My Uncle who is a Citizen in USA filed to bring his wife in Nigeria whom he married in 2020 to the United States in that same year 2020.

Luckily after a very long wait time, the USA Embassy in Nigeria called the wife for interview after 2 years in the year 2022.

She went for the interview and was not given the Spousal visa or Green card or whatever they call it

They told her to get more evidence of their marriage as the Visa Officers were not convinced they were married.

They fixed her to come after 2 months from the first interview date.

Before the second interview date, my Uncle in USA fell terribly sick were he could not speak atall.

They could not communicate with themselves at this stage.

She went for the second interview after the two months and was not given visa again.

My Uncle's case got worse that he was even brought back to Nigeria in January 2023.

Now my question is this, in such case, can the wife still get the USA Spousal Visa on her own at this stage?

What can she do to still get the Spousal Visa from here?

My Uncle is still in Nigeria as we speak.

Experienced USA migration experts, what can she do?

Spousal visa for the US is a family reunification visa.

If the husband is here in Nigeria, why would she need a Spousal visa? Where is she going if the husband she wants to be reunited with is in Nigeria?

toprealman:

Nah, Jude is doing a better job. Erling Haboy🤣 is there. Mbappe is a prima donna!

Yes but check out their national teams as well.

England and France....

Jude plays better in Real Madrid than in England.

Mbappe delivers both for club and country.

Don't forget Ballon d' or is a France outfit.. that's politics for you.

Botragelad:
He's right.

I don't get why the Yanks keep letting in these dodgy immigrants. They're flooding in like there's no tomorrow. Ruining the place and no one's saying a word.

Paris is almost if not a shadow of its former self, with many streets spoiled by the actions of a few illegal black immigrants. Even the United Kingdom, my beloved, is not immune to this issue. It seems that lads can't even enjoy a pint at the local pub without fear of being harmed by Islamic terrorists, etc. I wonder why the government accepts these folks and allows this sort of behaviour to continue. Disgusting.

The other day, some Muslim bloke molested a 14-year-old girl, and her dad had a go at him. But no one had the guts to give him a punch. This is not a rare occurrence, you know. Europe, especially France, UK, Switzerland, has gone soft.
These guys are literally everywhere, breeding and breeding. Deport them all I say!

Please explain what the Belgian king did in Congo?

What the colonial masters did to their colony?

Many Scottish people have heavy disrespect for Buckingham palace because of the atrocities they committed years ago against the Scottish people.

While their are bad eggs in the immigrant circles.. the colonial masters aren't saints either.

Who gave the rebels guns to destroy Libya?

Libya wasn't perfect when Gaddafi was the president but because he didn't bow the westerners, they took him out.

What do you expect those people that can afford to flee the country to do? They fled.

Iraq, bush said there was a weapon of mass destruction? Then branded the Iraqi war as war on terror but Osama bin laden and many of the conspirators of 9.11 were from Saudi Arabia.

Why didn't he go to war with the Saudis?

So what did you expect people that could flee iraq? They fled.

Who supplies guns to the cartels? Research operation fast and furious.

Now where do you expect those Mexicans that can afford to flee Mexico to go? They are go north.

The west does enable corrupt African leaders to launder money in their country so they can be using it to develop their infrastructure. When they are tired.. they will eventually confiscate it and it may take years to repatriate it to the country of origin.

S

Why does he look like Ini edo?

blowjohn:


U dey underrate real Sociedad?

I am not underating anyone.. I am a manutd fan and we didn't even make it this far, so who am I to underate any team that made it this far ?

I just want PSG to win it because of Mbappe, I think he is the next face of world football, my worry is the money behind football will "try" and make this happen just like they did to Leo Messi when dinho was winding down at Barca.. lots of favorable calls for Barcelona that season..

I hope PSG wins it all

The referee got the red card wrong.

First the throwing was united's because the ball hit MO Salah last.

2 yellow cards within seconds for the same offense??

They don't hide corruption again in Nigeria.

I think we have entered, "go and die politics" "what can you do politics ", " do you know who I am politics "

twinskenny:


Installed this at a client site in awka 150liter centers heater…. Pressure pump was installed to push the flow…

This is serving 6bedroom duplex.

Very nice to see people investing in stuff like this.. ahn ahn..

Which one is water heater in every nook and cranny of the house while we can just have a central water heater and be done with it.

Kudos!

EmperorCaesar:




White Worship

Swiss Garri should be more nutritious than ours, same as Swedish Ogbono

Not so much oga.

There's a difference. Personally I don't think any country does tomatoes like Italy. Even today in the stores across the world.. it is Roma tomatoes.

We could also have the same conversation in anything else out there.. Beer etc.. we can't compare star, life etc with German beer which many people think is the best but for me , I give it up to Belgium. I think k Belgium has the best beer.

We have chocolate factories in Nigeria but for me, I am in between Swiss chocolate or Belgian chocolate because I think those tastes better and their quality is top notch that spans centuries.


9ja products they are typically good in the first few years and then they drop their standards.. check five alive, chivita products etc..

Just like everything else..

SadiqBabaSani:
Rivers State wahala is gonna swallow Wike politcal career if not carefully handled. People hate ingrates as much as they hate godfatherism.

His political career is finished.

He thinks politics is gara gara.. even ObJ with his power and Gara gara.. couldn't gara gara himself to a 3rd term.

Everything has limit.. sadly Wike have reached his..

spyder880:
Sand filling as seen from different parts of the compound.........

Oga / Madam of this house really chop money here ooo

Once again, Mr. Spyder delivered as always. Keep it up brother man!

ImoleNaija:
For weeks, I have lost interest in sex. Even when I try to force the erection, I lose it before mounting, as there's no strength to sustain it at all. All her words of encouragement/motivation hold no water. She's so pitiful.


Experienced husbands, how do you manage your sex drives & financial depression?

Financial depression.

First sort yourself out first.. once your mind is relaxed you will enjoy sex well. But if your mind is not there.. your dongoyaro will be on hibernation.

Remember sex is more of a mental/emotional game... same situation is even if someone is not depressed.. if they lack sleep, they don't won't enjoy sex as well and the mind is not ready to connect all the "wires" in the persons mind to be able enjoy the activity.

This is one of the many reasons why it is good to have a hobby.

If you love to watch football, wrestling, photography. Just try to engage in those things to bring your mind down.

There's this channel on YouTube that I enjoy their skits.. Gags for laugh. Check them out. You might like it. It is something that can losen one up..

If you have Netflix, those cooking shows.. greatest British baking show etc.

On YouTube... check out those walking tours.. say walking tours of Rome, Milan, any city of your choice.. and enjoy the views.. I personally find these things relaxing and enjoyable..

I hope you find them helpful

Cheers!

Greenfaces:
Depending on the day of the month.

Between first 10 days after salary, I can eat three packs.

From 20th above I eat just one

From 20th and above that's when Sapa don dey show hin face

LagosG:
I don't like the big pack noodles. I prefer the smaller packs. I'm old school like that. The only problem is that these days as a fully grown adult, I don't eat noodles as an in-between meals. I eat it as a full meal, breakfast, lunch or dinner so I make 6 to get my filling. Someone called me a glutton because of this and I must fry eggs with it.

Abeg adults, when you make noodles at home, how many do you cook?

Pic credit - Google

6 noodles plus fried eggs in this Tinubulation economy?

Baba na you dey reign oo

Manutd is the only team in the premier league this season that have never drawed a game.

Their motto this season is W or nothing

Either I beat you or you beat me.. no in-between

Then Tinubu or anyone affected should sue him.

Tinubu did not just release his records. Atiku had to sue him in the U.S.

So if you are pained by Atiku's action of not voluntarily releasing his results, then go to Court!

Righthussle:
How to stop Japa syndrome

1. Make the economy better

2. Make the process of Japa unimaginably difficult

I know our president will be considering number 2.

Then they are in for rude awakening..

For gaint of africa.. our land borders is too porous.

Just enter cross river and jump a boat to Cameroon or enter many of the northern states and walk over to Niger.

Let them make better sustainable policy
.
People that have japa will even come back enmasse ...

Hojlund will score manutd first goal