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What is good for one goose like I usually say is good for another goose. If the man can fetch for the money to take care of the home, the woman too should deem it fit to also fetch "little" at least to supplement the effort of the man.

At least, what a man can do many women will say they can do best (on a lighter mood though).

I know some men disallow their woman from working, however, a store or super market can be helpful here. Even allowing her to engage fully in handwork is enough to make her have time to take care of the home.

Here are some reasons I think a woman should also work.

1. To supplement the effort of the man

In this harsh economy the effort of the man alone may not be okay to feed the whole family.

The price of good have skyrocketed, yet, no increment in salary, but you must still adjust to the prices of those goods when you need them.

With the little effort of the woman i think it will be good to serve as subsidy.

2. To fulfil personal needs

Women are always in need of one thing or the other, and waiting for the man always wouldn't speak well of you.

At times some men get mad when you ask them for money for ordinary matches let alone pad to guard against menstrual flow.

3. In case the man couldn't leave up to expectations

Many things could cause this even though we pray against them day-in-day-out.

I think people in marriage need to think about not just the present but future. What happens if the man becomes jobless unexpectedly or paralysed due to accident or something, who takes care of the financial needs?

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You might not earn enough but the little will go a long way.

4. Men can be so adventurous

We all know that some men love to taste anything in skirt even if it is a cow, so far it is in skirt they are good to go.

Some also fall prey by error, they are not promiscuous like some others but fall victim the day they try to follow the footstep of friends or when they are in distress.

What happens when your man put another woman in the family way when he is still struggling to provide for one.

The attention will be shifted away from you, and it wouldn't be easy by then as you will need to start sharing what only you should have enjoyed.

But you will not feel the effect much when you have your personal source of income as he will not even try coming to you to collect from you for your rival.

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5. Financial independence is self satisfying

The feeling of having the money to spend whenever you need it is out of the world.

Thought many men who don't want their woman to work is running away from the effect of a woman being financially buoyant to fulfil all her needs as some women has shown some men hell just because they have the money, so they want to guide against it.

You feel good when you don't need to call him to ask for money before fulfilling your needs, no matter how small.

Some men are even happy when they know their woman can spend on her own without calling him.

If he does not allow you to work he doesn't love you because the fact that anything can happen to him next minute is enough to make you financially over satisfied,or how will you cope with the kids when no income is coming his way and you are jobless?

There are several onlime jobs a woman can even do while at home to make money, why not seach around and find one suitable for you.

If he cannot deposit millions of whatever currency you are using into your account that will be at least sufficient in case of any unforseen negative circumstances please don't give in to his option of a full house wife.


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Many people have turned fake due to reasons best know to them. To some they need to belong just like their mates are, while to others they want people to believe they are perfectly okay.

The disadvantages of living fake life are so enormous and many needs to run from it because of those negatives.

Here are some of the disadvantages;

1. Gives wrong perception to potential helpers

This to me is the greatest disadvantage of being fake. Those that are meant to help you wouldn't see any need to help you as you have shown to them you don't need their help through your fake life.

2. You struggle to meet up

You have been giving people false perception about yourself which you need to keep it that way.

Even when you don't have what it takes to meet up you will either stay in door or you sacrifice other important things for less important show off.

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3. Expensive to maintain

You think you don't have the money like those you are looking up to? When you calculate not just the little money you have spent on the cloth and the time it took you to be under fake life, then you calculate the other important things you should have used the money for which you denied yourself you will know you are even still better off.

Remember it is your type that will want to visit eatery, especially when you want to have visitor of the opposite sex and you will also want your house to be in good order with latest equipments because you have shown to many what you are not and you must meet up in all ramifications.

You will now want to make them believe what you are showing them is what you really are.

4. Involvement in illegal deals

Of course you will not be the type people will find with the legal job since you go extra mile to show what you are not.

Even if you are known with good job you will still involve in other unclean deals just to meet up with the false impression you have created.

People not living fake life are still found doing shady deals let alone someone who needs to keep giving wrong perception about themselves.

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5. You become the best debtor

Well, you will be known to be a regular debtor by those people so close to you when you have used the little you earn to show off.

Fake life isn't the best, it is better to be humble for helpers to locate you and for people to know you for who you are.

You can't say, it might be those you least expected that will connect you to your breakthrough.

Don't wait till you start regretting your actions, you can still go normal and let those that will lift you up locate you.

Don't let what is meant for you to be given to someone else, because it is even those that does not deserve it a bit that will get the opportunity you threw to the gutter with your fake life.


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Just like the difference between a wife and a girlfriend, we shouldn't also get this twisted as there are large difference between a lover and a friend.

Though, before the relationship with the lover, there is a wide margin between the friends and the would-be lover, but immediately the relationship with the lover is defined, there become a large difference between the lover and the friend.

1. A friend is never a romantic partner:

This is one significant difference between a lover and a friend. There is a limit to everything you do with a friend.

You cannot say because someone is your friend then they should also fulfil the romantic pleasure with you.

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This is for those sleeping around with "friends" what will now be left for your spouse to do?

2. Your lover is your deepest secret keeper:

Talking of how it should be here, the lover should know the deepest secret that no one else knows.
However, this is not how it is this days as friends most times knows this deepest secret than lover depending on the root of the secret.

3. You are free with friends than lover:

This is because you will want to be careful with lover so as not to fall victim of breakup. Meanwhile, friend cannot threaten you with breakup as they know they can also be the subject one day.

4. Unlimited friends but limited lover:

There is a large room to entertain a friend, but tiny room for a lover as your lover cannot even tolerate sharing you with someone else, neither will you.

5. Limited time with friends and unlimited time with lover:

No matter how much time you wish to spend with your friends you will be conscious of the time as your lover is expecting you and no one will query you when you spend the whole day with your lover.

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The day you start staying longer than expected with friends is when your lover start cautioning you as they will start feeling unsecured.

6. Jealousy issue:

When you start the relationship your friends start getting jealous of the fact that you will shift attention away from them.

Meanwhile, the jealousy of a lover starts when your promise and your commitment start shaking.


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You think it is only when you beat a woman that you maltreat her?

There are so many ways you can be maltreating your woman which includes lack of care, not spending time with her, not fulfilling her desires either sexually or outside it and so on.

The truth is that the more you maltreat her the more you show her the way to the arms of other men out there who are ready to give her multiple of what you are denying her of.

Many women can only endure hardship for a while, they can be manipulated easily, for this alone you as a man needs to be up and doing.

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Do you know how hard they try to resist the temptation that comes their way? Let me even put it this way; do you know many men are dying to get just a minute of her time? and do you know there are those ones dreaming for them to have her in their bed or those even saying it to her that they are ready to give her whatever she want if she can grant them entry into her most sacred part?

I bet you, you wouldn't know how much it hurts to see your woman moan in response to sexual pleasure under another man.

If she is trying all she can to resist the temptations staring at her face which other women out there cannot resist and you cannot still deem it fit to be all she deserves then you need to really check yourself.

Every good woman deserves to be cared for and mostly should share little of your time with you.

This is why I usually say that even if you are as busy as the president of a state you should try to make out time to be with your woman.

Money isn't everything you know? Apart from fulfilling your financial duties she also deserves to be cuddled and be listened to.

Remember that social media now make it easier for you to get other people's attention, don't let the disadvantages of social media ruin your home as someone else might be giving her the attention she is lacking from you which might catapult to something deeper.

A woman who is shown care and all is still finding her way into other men's arms let alone the one you are battering or not giving little of your time just to put smiles on her face.

The truth is that she will soon find a place to hide and it will be in the arms of another gentle man who knows the worth of a good woman.

The truth is that you are the one that will regret it as you will not find someone like her.

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They use to say it is only God that is not replaceable, humans can be replaced. I bet you, in this case when it gets to that stage when a good woman have to leave you for another man you will find her type to no avail.

Even when you cannot fulfil the financial needs of a woman she knows you want to through your effort but because of one thing or the other you are not able to fulfil them.

Women also understand situations most times but not when you want to take them for granted.

If you think you deserve to be happy in your home consider making her as happy as possible.


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Truth be told, there are many men out there who are dating ladies older than them, some are even happily married to them.

It is not a matter of you falling in love with someone older than you, age is simply numbers, but the issue is the lady herself.

So far she knows about it and she is also fine with it i guess no cause for alarm.

However, women most times mature faster than men. A woman around the age of 17 behaves most times like that of 25 years old, so it is so much advisable to date a younger lady as a man so that the distance between the maturity can be curbed.

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Women most times are bound to disrespect men they are familir with let alone the one they are in relationship with.

This happens often after love making, they stop seeing that thing that makes you ahead of them the moment you remove the pant or boxer you put on in their presence.

After that, how will you cope when you have done that in the presence of someone older than you?

Wouldn't you shut up when she ask you to as you have gone to higher heaven with someone older than you.

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As someone older, she will want to dominate the decision making over the man who suppose to take huge part in decision making.

Now, all i said above is what people will think, but i believe understanding can make the two better no matter the age difference or who is older.

There are women who will leave their ego aside and obey their man even if they are older by 20 years, they have accepted the fact that they are under the small boy.

The truth is that as either a younger lover or an elderly lover, there is no difference between the rod in between a man's leg so far you are not using it for someone under age.

This is my opinion, kindly make your contribution.


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This is not just in a relationship as it happens to marriage also. We think we are through with our partner, however, we just started falling deeply in the love.

This is for those that feels they are the victim of the breakup and the decision maker of the divorce process.

Here are some signs you are still deep in love with your ex and you will be more than happy if the come back:

1. You never want to erase the memory

Once in a while the memory of things you do come back playing in your head. Instead of getting them off you begin to really make it linger more than expected which makes the feelings come back to you and you start wishing it never ended.

2. You do things you usually do together

There are some things we do in relationship that serves as things we remember when we have gone our separate destinations till the next time you meet.

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Also in marriage, there are some activities you do with your partner that you are used to and when you have divorced, you start picking some of them to keep the void without trying to fight them off.

This is a big sign you still want your ex.

3. You always want to hear from them

It is so easy to contact each others now-a-days with the advent of social media.

The moment you keep dragging with your head to say hi or to hear from your ex intermittently, you really want that ex back because on a normal day when you separate from your ex you rarely want to contact them as you will not want them to know much about you.

4. You keep tab on their social profile

Like i said earlier, social media has made things much easier unlike before its existence.

The moment you start searching and toiling their profile on their social networks to know what they are up to, where they have being or where they are planning to be, it means you still care for them and you want him/her back desperately.

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5. You mention about them to friends simultaneously

You think you really want them to go but you cannot do without mentioning about them in discussions with friend or those around.

This is to show that it was tough for you to have made that decision to path ways.

When you say you don't want someone you once loved it means everything associated with that person has become ex, hence, your memory should reset to delete major things about them because love is powerful that the effect of sin by the one you claim to love is severe hatred.

This is why I think we need to think deeply before we make some huge decisions as some decisions may not be reversed as the shame that will be attached alone will not allow you even if you want to.

It is good to have calmed down before making decisions that can be detrimental to one's existence, love forgives you know. But don't think of forgiveness when it is about physical, emotional or mental abuse.

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We are now in a world where so many things affect our love life. The struggle for survival is getting more real, and women are even more involved.

However, men are not dead woods, they need to and can be understood to get the best out of them.

You complain of some attitude from your man because of your reactions to some actions when you should have been calm.

Every women can enjoy their man if they can pay attention to the below "Ifs" ...

1. If you want him to listen to your advice and suggestion, do it with love. Love doesn't nag or scream to make corrections or siggestions, he will never listen or take you serious.

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2. If you want him to be sweet and romantic around you, learn to appreciate even the littlest thing he does for you.

3. If you want him to love coming home, learn to make it peaceful for him. A man will always be unhappy to come home when he knows drama will surely ensue.

4. If you want him to be taking you out regularly, learn not to overreact on things you see or hear as every action will give him the needed response towards another outing.

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5. This is very important. If you want him to share secret with you, you have to learn how to keep it. You also must learn how not to misinterprete the secret.


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NSNO:
Please as a married person or someone in serious relationship, stop bringing your problems to Nairaland to ask for solutions for these reasons:

1. That person with the advice that has most likes in your thread may be an 18 year old guy using opera mini free mode (no offense to those who use it). What does he know about these things?

2. Most people on this platform are adversarial. Alot of Nairalanders are sexists, misogynists, misandrists etc and as such they lack the ability to give rational solutions to your problems.

3. Nairalanders are here to catch cruise, so they are going to tailor their advice to fit that agenda. They will belittle and even insult you. Na cruise them come catch, nothing concern them.

So if you want a quality and long-lasting relationship/marriage or you need advice and opinions to solve a particular problem, meet people around you that you trust. Your parents, trusted friends, spiritual fathers and mothers etc will give you better advice than Nairalanders.

A word is enough for the wise.

Well, it all depends, you might be right, but same way you might be wrong.

We have seen testimonies of people that oosted about their relationship here and got the needed solution.

When you seek advice, you are not to take to it, you have to choose.

Even those you claimed they can run to can mislead. You have to filter the advice you get.

It is well!

Chickenandchips:
Money is important in marriage. Your understanding girlfriend will change it for you the moment you can't provide her needs as a husband - Nigerian lady says

A Nigerian woman, Aisha Lawal has reiterated the importance of money in marriage.

“MONEY is very important in marriage. That your understanding girlfriend go change am for you the moment you can't provide her basic needs as a husband,” she wrote in a post on Monday.

It might look some how but it is the truth. Love alone cannot sustain a relationship.

As a man, you should even feel bad with yourself, if the money isn't coming. May God bless every hard working man.

I know you opened this to see gift item you can give your man, sorry to burst your bubbles 😂.

But do you know some things are worth more than gifts? (don't get me wrong, gifts are very important too but are material).

Here are 5 immaterial things you can give a man and keep him for life...

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1. Respect

This is the most important of them all. A woman who lacks respect can never keep a man. It is not possible you disrespect your man either by words or action and expect him to love you.

He is your partner, yes, you can play anyhow with him or speak whatever way you like, however, you should know when to activate the respect button. Speak with courtesy, serve with respect (not until you kneel).

2. Honor

Just like respect, you need to honor your man, he deserves it, not just in the inner room but outside as well. They say you dress as you want to be addressed, same way you honor your man the way you want him to be treated by outsider....

There is no point with inner honor while you dishonor outside. When you give to him the honor he deserves he will be pleased with you and love you.

3. Care

Like he is caring towards you, you have to also show quality care towards him. He deserves quality food, he deserves to be dressed, he deserves to be pampered too especially when he comes back from work. This serves as feedback to any good man for taking good care of the woman as someone that doesn't get enough care cannot give it back.

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4. Loyalty

Every good man wants a loyal partner, a wife that will be true not just to words but actions as well. When you say it is black, it must not be more than the black

5. Support

Every woman should always give their man needed support, not just when the going is bad, but when it is good as well as it can get better.

Give him the needed strength through action when he needs it, you must know when the time is right to give him the emotional, physical and mental support.


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Love has its way of dealing with some of us as we find it from afar and it goes on smoothly till the togetherness becomes permanent.

In some other cases, it is not cool for them, they find love from afar but dealing with is not just palatable, here is what you need to know.

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As humans, it is good to identify our strength and weakness in order to choose and pursue our dreams in life.

If someone tells you they cannot cope with long distance relationship and there is no way to brake the chain, just be glad they open up, it is the required honesty to avoid heartbreak and you need to know you are not meant for each other instead of pretending.

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Don't blame them for making you to know their capability, that they made you realize what is best for the two of you is enough to know someone truly cares for you.

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Most times we enter into relationship with high hopes. It is normal anyways, but along the line we see the true nature of our partner, then, we start knowing if what makes up our partner is what we really want in a partner.

Do not forget, all relationships are not expected to lead to marriage, in fact, if you cannot cope, you should make up your mind and do the needful before it is too late.

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However, to end any relationship, it is advisable to do the below...

To end a relationship, it is advisable you call for a meeting. This might be through call or physical meeting where you must share your decision.

You must actually know that either your partner is good or bad, it is expected you tell them the good experience with them to reduce the tension in the air if they truly care.

You also have to be completely sure of your decision and make it straight without doubt from your partner.

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You don't need to tell him/her you should be best of friends, you have no need for such closeness as it could lead you back to what you are actually ending. This is not to say you should be enemies.

Don't act like you are the saint with no stain, no one is perfect afterall, it is just that you cannot cope with the person, so move on without pointing fingers.

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If you cannot tolerate it now, I will advice you move on, as it will be worse when you tie the knot. Take your decisionow and deal with it immediately.

MufasaLion:
You don't need prayer when choosing a partner. What you need is to work on yourself and find someone of like mind.

You need the prayer to sustain the findings, don't forget human can change from what you know or see them to be.

DECENTBWOY:
Pray for a loyal and faithful woman, a woman that can manage a home and protect her husband at all cost..

Forget about big yansh and bress, women are beyond that..

search as well, that's the needed work to make the prayer effective.

Jabez55:
My girlfriend parents refused me to marry their daughter because I didn't show up when they requested for me to come and see them. They claim that I'm not a serious person. Please how can I convince them since they won't allow me to come to the house? Please help me.

It's simple, you know the problem already. Be a man and show up, they need to see and access you.

Lyrics269:
The vast majority of nigerian girls have never experienced orgasm. Most Nigerian girls don't cum during intercourse. Most of them don't even know that as a lady they are supposed to squirt during sexual activities.
What's wrong with Nigerian girls?

Please any real statistics? Majority is much oo. 😂

I don't see reasons why they should be ashamed though. Affection doesn't care.

Verbtips:
Use the last two digit of your phone number to know what you need to be happy,

Why food and sex for me na

MrBrownJay1:
any man who has his mother in his life should cherish her regardless of how his future wife may feel... if a man decides that his mother's views are more important than his future wife's views then so be it. there is no right nor wrong here.
your mother's views are important and your future wife's views are also important, and as a man you need to balance the two and take decision in your family accordingly. expecting a man to always/automatically disregard his mother's views just because he is married is not only very foolish but also very dangerous.

example: a wife who never had children would be clueless about babies, and your mother would know best. automatically disregarding what your mother would say about such issue would be a grave mistake. remember, at the end of the day, a mother only wants whats best for her child.

You are so right.

The post didn't say one shouldn't listen to their parent actually, but wisdom must be applied.

I have seen a mother who is behind her children's childlesness.

Experiences have made many ladies run away when a single man still have his mum alive, this might be funny but sad as women tends to be the enemy of themselves despite the 'women supporting women claim'.

For a man, if you really want a woman to be happy with you, you have to be ready to take decisions with your lady and not your mother.

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If you are the mummy's boy type, you have to start learning to dissociate yourself from your parents, this is not to say they do not matter, do not get this wrong at all.

They can only give advice, you and your partner are meant to talk about things and then come out with conclusion and execute it. I have heard of cases where two in the relationship takes decision and after few days, the man's mother was the one that called the wife just to change the decision.

Your parent are not in the position to make decision for you, they can only guide you, if they call your attention to something, you need to also consult your partner and make the decision, this is the best way to show that you respect your woman and you value her input.

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If you marry right, you should utilize the gift God has given you, women are truly gifted with good wisdom, if you have the good one among them, don't allow the influence of your parent make her bad.

Even if your parent are trying to impose decisions on you, wisdom is needed before application as your partner's emotion matters.

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