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Family / Re: Long Distance Marriage: How Do You Cope Married Couples In Similiar Situation by bamisepeters(m): 9:58pm On Feb 27, 2023
Some marriages are stronger when the two are far apart... It's 2023, things have changed.

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Romance / Re: Why Did You Dump Your Ex? by bamisepeters(m): 3:52pm On Mar 23, 2021
yeyeboi:
We dated for 6years and I dumped her because her mother never wanted her to marry me because I am not a Yo ru ba angry



I enjoyed the girl kpekus because I met her a Virgin grin

I am not sure the bolded is necessary.

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Family / Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by bamisepeters(m): 9:02am On Mar 20, 2021
judedwriter:
I can never compare the woman I ❤️ with another... even if she's fat. (I don't wish for that o)

Love is much more than just looks, when you truly love your spouse, it goes beyond looks, it has to do with the person's personality and character.
My Boss, that's you o grin. You really cannot tell, he might have been saying it without comparing her but she didn't yield. Maybe this time she will take him serious.

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Family / Re: My Husband Compared Me To Another Woman by bamisepeters(m): 8:55am On Mar 20, 2021
Zzor:
Also tell him to work on his pot belly and penis and that his penis has shrinked over time,tell him also that the pastor is still fit and his organ still very strong after five kids,just cause fight and after the fight he will learn to appreciate you.
Don't mind the likes on this comment, never try it. Just try work on the complaint, he doesn't want to keep it to himself and die in silence, I prefer it that way than for him to be deceiving you.

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Romance / Most Men Are Moved By What They See - Bamisepeters' Blog by bamisepeters(m): 12:11pm On May 17, 2020
It is almost a general conclusion amongst many women that all men cheat even when few can testify against it.
And at times many men are being misjudged by their woman that they are cheating even when they are not just because of mood swing; in short, some women will soon die of insecurity.

Because you heard that most men cheat secretly, therefore, your man too is one just because of a little change in character which might be caused by anything such as his work.

Looking good is a big business and this is why keeping a man is expensive.

Most women after wedding change the way they dress so as to look like a married woman forgetting that men always want their woman to look radiant.

Looking good and attractive always will make a man keep loving a woman because most men are moved by what they see.

You cannot be dressing like an old woman all in the name of looking like a married woman and expect that your man will want just you.

Yes, you are his wife, it is sealed, but you can show your man the way to other ladies outside through the way you appear.

If some pastors as devoted and prayerful as they are can fall prey to attractive women in the congregation, what more can we then say about men who are not spiritually guided?

Some men can testify to this; at times when their wife dresses he admires her, pull her back and then down.

The truth is that not all woman are completely attractive when they wake up, in fact, even the most beautiful women get another funny look after sleep, the power of make-up and the cloth they wear is the magic.

Also, as a married woman, your man is used to that same pretty look because he sees more of you even when you are natural, so, you need the extra touch on your head(good hair style), face and lovely dress to accompany the good and smart look.

You are beautiful inside, we know that quite alright, it is well appreciated, allow that of outside to always show too as it at the end complements each other.

I am not saying you should go naked in the name of fashion, dress smart and look radiant always and he will keep admiring and want you every day.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2020/05/most-men-are-moved-by-what-they-see.html

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Romance / The Duty Changes The Moment You Try It For The First Time - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 4:16pm On Feb 10, 2019
Those married will definitely know this that i am about to say in this post, they have the experience and they already know how to deal with it.

In marriage, the moment you try to do anything you have never done to please your spouse, it will be expected of you often by your spouse. This is common among ladies especially when it is their duty.

You might have been the type that has proven in your relationship that you cannot cook, wash, tidy up the room and bla bla bla!!!

In fact, you might have delegated some duties to each other, but the day you try to please your spouse and do what he or she does just to please the other person, it will be expected of you to continue either once in a while or often.

Now-a-days, there is nothing like i cannot do this, i cannot do that. Nothing like this should be done by my wife or she must not touch this as i am the man; please note that it has become collective responsibility immediately the union is legalized.

Now, do not get me wrong, this is marriage, rules are bound to be broken as marriage make you do things that you might not even do on a normal day. I guess that is why it is called marriage as it pushes you over your limits.

If anyone tells you not to try some things to assist your partner in this age, please think twice, whatever makes your spouse happy should be your priority even if it is something you don't do before but you can easily adjust to.

Marriage isn't bed of roses as i have been made to know, new things springs out almost everyday and we must learn to adjust to balance it all up to make the marriage work.

Understanding and tolerance matters, and whatever you assist your spouse with is nobody's business as it is your home which you must make to work.

Nobody is asking you to steal, defraud people or commit illegal acts to please your partner, this is talking about duties we do in the house and the good attributes, the show of love we portray to each other.

Whatever you do to/for your spouse to assist them, you must be willing to continue so as to avert issues in the home, because if you cannot do it then you wouldn't have shown it in the first place.

For you to have done it for the first time either with ease or through force, it means you can adjust and try again and again.

So, never complain, never restrict yourself to some duties, be ready to explore other duties, marriage will be fun and long if everyone is happy.

I know there are some very stubborn men, they will never allow you force them to act your role, so the woman should understand here the type of man they have, if they cannot act one of your roles to please you I am sure they will flatter yoh in some other ways, understanding and tolerance like i said ealier make marriage works.

Source: https://bamisepeters..com/2019/02/the-duty-changes-moment-you-try-it-for.html

Romance / 5 Terrible Effects Of Jealousy To Your Relationship - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 12:20pm On Feb 04, 2019
Jealousy is one big problem dragging it out with many relationship or marriage that if not properly checked it will wreck the union beyond recognition.

In this post I will discuss 5 of those effects of jealousy on your relationship.

1. Making new friends becomes hard:

Weather you like it or not, at a time or the other we meet new people, and they might even be part of those that will be responsible when it comes to reaching that milestone we see to be impossible to attain.

When your spouse knows you are the type that changes mood anyhow at the sight of an opposite sex it will be difficult to make new friends of opposite sex as it might not go well with you.

A jealous spouse will always be afraid of the friends of same gender as they will be thinking those friends might corrupt you, because of this you just lose the vibe for more frienship while you trim the current ones just to make him feel secured to an extent

2. Talking about opposite sex must be with caution:

You know your spouse flares up unnecessarily when it comes to you and other opposite sex, hence, you tend to avoid issues for those who hate trouble, you tend to be cautious of the way you talk with and about the opposite sex to your spouse or else the EOD becomes disastrous a jealous spouse is capable to destroy anything.

Read Also: Divorce Should Not Always Be The Solution To Marital Troubles

3. Freedom to expression will be limited:

When you know your spouse cannot hold him/herself when it comes to your relationship with opposite sex you will be very careful about your expressions and you will not be free to talk about everything that happens as when you talk about the good gestures of any opposite sex towards you or yours towards any opposite sex it becomes serious issue that might take longer than expected time to settle.

4. It makes your BP rise unnecessarily :

The issue with jealousy is that it makes the person guilty of it to feel that the relationship or union is not secured.

They feel that every opposite sex of their spouse are their biggest rival, therefore, they are always at alert so that nothing will meet them unaware.

They want to know more than they should know at a time without waiting for their spouse to display that loyalty by telling them by themselve, by this they are calling for heart attack indirectly and will indirectly affect you if anything goes wrong at the end of the day.

5. It is capable of making you lose all suddenly:

All the list will be incomplete without mentioning this.

Jealousy can make you lose your source of livelihood, your Spouse's life and make yours miserable.

This is because jealousy doesn't give you the chance to listen to explanations, it controls your behaviour, it makes you think you are always right not knowing what you think is right is completely wrong.

Jealousy makes you over react which is most times not good for your relationship.

We are at one time or the order jealous, we should just learn to control it so that it will not make us regret actions we have already taken as most actions in this case are deadly and irreversible.

This is my opinion, kindly add your contributions as it is important to me.


Source: https://bamisepeters..com/2019/01/5-terrible-effects-of-jealousy-to-your.html

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Romance / Re: We All Have The Tendency To Cheat, But... - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 12:30pm On Jan 30, 2019
ChrisAb1:


Continue cheating because ur husband is cheating... Meanwhile is never morally right for both party but worse for the woman. Traditionally forbidden by so many kingdom and community.. very deadly pal ... I have seen it wipe a whole family.
That is why one must learn to be contented with one's spouse, it can destroy generations.

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Romance / Re: We All Have The Tendency To Cheat, But... - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 8:58am On Jan 23, 2019
Tajbol4splend:


I will be a daddy

na so

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Romance / Re: Is It Right To Have Sex With Your Spouse While Fasting? by bamisepeters(m): 3:09am On Jan 23, 2019
delugajackson:
I've never read anything more stupid and incoherent in my whole life. Are you suffering from a brain shrink? How much more attention do you crave? From your previous posts, I've deduced that you're a dumb, unintelligent, and insecure airhead who's incapable of functioning on your own.

For the fact that you fvck round the clock without restraint does not mean you should involve God in your madness cause God cannot be mocked. It's okay to be foolish, but just don't abuse the priviledge.
Boss, please calm down, don't attack this person due to past thread(s) as the question is actually a good one.

With my little understanding, fasting entails depriving yourself of certain pleasure, food especially. As regards sex, i feel for the fact that you are fasting you can just hold on till till after the fast as sex is one big pleasure which you only do right when it is with your spouse.

I have asked this question once too, the answer i got was that even during fasting you can have sex, but take your bath immediately to make yourself holy. I was now like, so if i need to clean up after the sex then it is not worth destroying the sacrifice of fasting if it will make me unclean for just few minutes, what if it is during that few minutes my request will be granted, i will just forfeit the essence of the sacrifice.

If you have a sexually stubborn spouse, if you are forced to make love while fasting, just forget about fasting that day. This is not just because of cleanliness, but energy needed as you might even get completely exhausted which might cause you to collapse.

Fasting is just for a short period, and you can make love immediately you are through, not during the fast. #Myopinion.

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Romance / Re: My Relationship Is At The Vege Of Collaps. I Need Your Advice by bamisepeters(m): 9:44pm On Jan 21, 2019
Nacoss25:
Good day nairalanders. i have been in a relationship with my girl for the past 8 months. on several occation we do have misunderstanding sometimes the one that makes me feel heartbroken and when that happen i just terminate communication with her by deleting her phone number from my phone, i will only get the phone number back when ever she call me after weeks of not calling each other. most times during this long break my conscience start flogging me for not calling her because i do most of the calling. on the last one that happen, she have decisided not to call me i even appologies to her for not calling her when ever i meet her in her work place because she is still living with her perents and had to be open to her that i deleted he number because i can no longer use that "i lost my phone" lines; u know. none of her close friends are around now, i dont know any person now i can meet for her number. Brethren am loosing my mind now in regret, i know i deserve the treatment am getting from her because is not the first time i have deleted her phone number is just that this is the first time i am admitting that i deleted it intensionally. what will i do now to appease her. I love her so mush despite that the fact that am always in a hast to conclude.

madone:
grin op can u get out of here and grow up. U are soo dull and childish. U dated a girl for 8months and u still don't know how number by heart. You are just too dull to have a girlfriend, u are so unromantic,unentertaining,unreasonable,unExciting, unserrious, senile, ..may God forgive you for treating that girl so bad.

@OP, Seriously i am also surprised as number shouldn't cause any issue, for 8 months without knowing the number is an unpunishable sin, who does that! I don't think you love her, if you do you will still know the number.

The first thing is to try cram the number till you can say it while asleep, then go to her and start reciting her number, she will forgive and forget.

But if for 8 months only you guys have had several issues i think both of you still need to work on yourselves, you are still being immature. Work also on tolerance, it will go a long way.

Valerie47:
Na so so love stories I just dey read today, when I go find guy wey go love me like mumu cheesy?
Lol, with time everything wil fall in the right place. But use the right word, mumu is completely wrong, don't curse yourself please.

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Romance / Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 5:11pm On Jan 20, 2019
Whitewolf8:



technically.. yes!! but me I'm still trying to see if I can do it.
There we go, now this makes it hard... Possibly you have told her so many things that made her believe so much in your words, you have to deal with this with all senses at alert.

If you have made love with her you really need to be smart about rejecting her request as she will change it for you.

And if you are in a relationship and you have made her believe she is the only one, then it is no big deal for her to ask for your key, she is trying to be protective, she want to dominate which is the right thing.

I will advice you just tell her you still need to watch more before you can give her the key, she will not object it. But please define the relationship. I told my wife my plans for her immediately we started the relationship, no harm in telling her your intentions, if it didn't work at the long run no issues as it is just intentions.

Make sure your mind is settled with her before you hand the key to her because if anything happens in the future, the key might become weapon against you.

But i will also advice, if you have not made love, if your mind isn't settled about her, as you are pondering if to give her your key also ponder if it is right to make love with her.

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Romance / Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 4:56pm On Jan 20, 2019
Whitewolf8:



the thing is that most times we do cook together and we end up eating the same food together ...so I've not really given a thought to trusting her food or being scared to eat it cos we both do.
ok.
Romance / Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 4:53pm On Jan 20, 2019
Whitewolf8:



we haven't done anything extraordinary that's worth mentioning...what I said in the post is just the summary of our day to day lives .
Are you guys in a relationship? As in, how did it all started?

If no relationship it will be easier as you can just tell her you can't give her the keys as you do not want people to start thinking otherwise which may affect you one way or the other. You can also tell her your woman (even if you don't have one) wouldn't take it lightly if she comes and meet just her in the house, it will give wrong impression.
Romance / Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 3:23pm On Jan 20, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We ve only known each other barely a month,but she act and behaves like we ve known for years, cooks,cleans, etc acting like we re about getting married when i obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ...now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...,thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??
Wait, you trust the food she cooks and you are happy she id helping you with chores. Why not just tell her not to do all those for you if you ain't committed.

There is something you are hiding, how did you guys started and what have you done together outside cooking and washing, or let me say what have you spoken about as regards relationship?

Whitewolf8:





most times my busy work schedule don't allow me to do chores..so I appreciate the help n I can't turn it down

Dropping your key with her shouldn't be a problem if you could trust her food.

If you have not talked about relationship then she shouldn't have entered your kitchen or do chores for you as those things works with our emotion, and relationship can easily develop through that. You never even mention that you have someone you are dating, so share more light please

Please answer all the questions i asked as there is more to the situation than what you have said up there.

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Romance / Re: We All Have The Tendency To Cheat, But... - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:18pm On Jan 19, 2019
Tajbol4splend:
Especially when you are in my shoe when your everyday activities require being in facial contact with these beautiful Fulanis, I've come to realize that everywhere there are people of opposite gender, satan dwells there, even if you don't do it, at least it occurs to your mind.
You are completely right, but try hard so as not to give way for temptation as it might destroy a happy home, that is if you are married, if not, just get one you feel is the best for you to settle down with if you have what it takes. Best wishes my boss.

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Romance / Re: What Do You Do When You Fall For Your Friend? by bamisepeters(m): 5:15pm On Jan 19, 2019
ERORR404:
We were friends in primary school cos we live in the same area, until secondary school and then we departed for long. Long story short we got back together last year and during our chatting, she told me she had a boyfriend but we chat with each other like we are dating, (Sweet Dreams, "have you eaten" and so many things i can't go through right now) I wanted to pay her a visit but she said she'd come over and she did. I see the stare in her eyes when we lock eyes but I'm just so confused on what to do, I don't want to start something with her that will make us loose our friendship. I know i like her and i know she feels something for me but i don't know if it's what i feel undecided
She said she has someone already, the best is to let her be.

Don't conclude you are the only one she is chatting with as it can be more than 5 people at a time. The boyfriend might even be the type that doesn't use social media much.

If you cannot hold it, then, there is need for space. Just create that space anyhow. At times, we get wrong impression of women, do not take her social attitude for relationship signal.

If you talk her into relationship there is possibility she agrees but since there is no complaint that the boyfriend is irresponsible, there is need for you to create that space so as not to get too attached. If you get too attached you will only destroy the friendship as you will end up having sex with each other which can lead to huge regret.
Romance / Re: What Do You Do When You Fall For Your Friend? by bamisepeters(m): 5:14pm On Jan 19, 2019
ERORR404:
We were friends in primary school cos we live in the same area, until secondary school and then we departed for long. Long story short we got back together last year and during our chatting, she told me she had a boyfriend but we chat with eachother like we are dating, (Sweet Dreams, "have you eaten" and so many things i can't go through right now) I wanted to pay her a visit but she said she'd come over and she did. I see the stare in her eyes when we lock eyes but I'm just so confused on what to do, I don't want to start something with her that will make us loose our friendship. I know i like her and i know she feels something for me but i don't know if it's what i feel undecided
She said she has someone already, the best is to let her be.

Don't conclude you are the only one she is chatting with as it can be more than 5 people at a time. The boyfriend might even be the type that doesn't use social media much.

If you cannot hold it, then, there is need for space. Just create that space anyhow. At times, we get wrong impression of women, do not take her social attitude for relationship signal.

If you talk her into relationship there is possibility she agrees but since there is no complaint that the boyfriend is irresponsible, there is need for you to create that space so as not to get too attached. If you get too attached you will only destroy the friendship as you will end up having sex with each other which can lead to huge regret.
Romance / Re: Between Virginity And Character Which One Is The Major Pride Of A Woman?? by bamisepeters(m): 5:01pm On Jan 19, 2019
Factfinder1:
As shared on facebook by Emmanuel Kings

Between virginity and character which one is the major pride of a woman??

Responsible Answers pls
Virginity is better as you didn't specify the kind of character.

If the positive character, then good character is importanter.

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Romance / Re: R Me by bamisepeters(m): 4:57pm On Jan 19, 2019
omron:
Good afternoon all,
My name is Oluwasegun from Ondo state.
I am a graduate, and self employed person
I am really going through a tough time now which i think i need your positive and solution solving advice.
I met a lady in 2004 that gave birth to me and due to her stubborness and nagging attitude we broke up when her attitudes is affecting my well being but i have always been taking good care of my son which have clock 5 years. We broke up last year January
She resides in Abeokuta right now while am in Akure
I have since then been dating another lady called juliet she so much loves me but i hide my last from her i didnt tell her since feb 2018 we met.
So last December invited her to my house and told her my past and that a lady has born a son for me,
She was shocked and left my house in annoyance i begged and persuaded her all to no avail thr next day she called me and cried and asked me why i hide such secret from her all this while but i apologize to her that its fear of loosing her.. After my plea she forgive me and we moved on... But the problem am having now is anytime she remember or we talk about my previous lady she used to feel disturbed and tell me she is not happy i will calm her again, but this is becoming too regular and am afraid she wont quit one day and on the other hand i just met another matured lady but she is older than me by 2 months i revealed all about me when u met her and she does not mind my past and she always care for me if i go to her place she is a Christian and she also have a ministry she is Aged 39 while the juliet is 27 but am confused now whom to go for juliet is doing somehow if she remember my oast and my story while Grace does not care but i love juliet more than Grace even grace is ready if am ready to get married to her this year.
She also have influence and she is planning we travel to canada if i marry her, but i dont love her the way i love juliet and juliet does not have much like Grace but i love her .. Please kindly Advice me am confused..
Thanks in advance to all that will advice me kindly
Anytime she remembers your old lady that gave birth to your first child she feels disturbed. Thank God she is not hiding it. Do you think any lady will be happy when she remembers such? Ladies don't even like it when you talk about your ex let alone the one you impregnated whose child is still very much alive. Why must you always raise issue of your ex? The mistake you made is that you didn't tell her from the start, she has never pictured it that it is not just you alone, so it will take time for her to blend. In fact, with such mistake you made you must not mention about the child, that is, the child must not even stay with you.

My advice:

Speak with her, if you guys must continue she must accept your first fruit, else you will move on with someone who will accept you with all your falls.

Make sure she genuinely agree, if possible involve her family members so that if anything happens against it they will not fault your actions.

If she genuinely agree just move on, if not, you are free to move on with grace, age isn't a barrier in love so far the two involved are mature in all aspects.
Romance / We All Have The Tendency To Cheat, But... - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 1:05pm On Jan 19, 2019
To many, no matter the number of times a man cheats it is most times overlooked unlike when the coin faces the opposite sex. Most times women are being castigated and termed hoe when they cheat.

The truth is that we all have the tendency to cheat, cheating is not gender fixed. It only takes strong determination and not just ordinary determination as we can fall if not careful.

Many of us have the eyes working perfectly, our eyes are the major culprit here as they send what they see to the senses. Despite the fact that many are married/engaged to what "we" term perfect, those eyes will still see other more perfect being you didn't care to watch before sealing your union, it is the determination that stops whatever thought that might want to germinate.

The Moment any man sees that beauty they want in a lady which can be facial or body, the eyes speaks immediately to other sense organs and those sense organs start making you to imagine how romantic it will be lying with the lady meant for another man. To us this is normal, isn't it?

If that is normal, why should it now be abnormal for woman to see the perfection they want in another man too and also imagine and then complete the series? The chest, height, looks and of course size of pocket are worthy of attraction.

All these are those things we see that makes anyone cheat on their spouse except for cases where either of the two involved causes the other to look out through bad behavior, sexual displeasure or anything best known to the partner. Even if those existed, it is bound to be the growth process and we are meant to adjust, manage in order to make the union stronger as marriage is not always as rossy as we usually imagine it to be. There can be an agreed solution through proper dialogue and consultation if need be.

Lack of Contentment has made many cheat on their partner. Some can not even endure financial downtime for a minute while some will even want to do all they can to get the cash to take care of the other as insecurity is bitting their thinking faculty even when the other person is doing all to manage with the situation as they know it can not last.

The above isn't particular to ladies, many men who sought after sugar mummies and well-to-do ladies are not left out of that.

Apart from those above, anyone has the potential to cheat so far the eyes and other senses are working perfectly.

It has never been easy for those who lived together for years without cheating on each other, they only never allowed the distractions the eyes and other senses can cause to lead them astray and they stayed contented.

There are some that your eyes or senses did not cause directly, but the other person who allowed their senses to act against you probably due to what they see, feel or hear about you or what you are going through, hence they package themselves to make you observe and desire to lost in them, but because you ain't so strong you just fall for their distraction.

Just like anyone can cheat, we can also decide and be determined not to cheat. Cheating is not something of a particular gender, it can be anyone.

Let's try as best as we can to be determined and contented, it will go a long way building a long lasting and successful union.


Source: https://bamisepeters..com/2019/01/we-all-have-tendency-to-cheat-but.html

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Romance / Re: 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 6:31pm On Jan 18, 2019
Mcquine:


That's what Bubu said in the beginning.
lol, he still maintains it o
Romance / Re: 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 6:28pm On Jan 18, 2019
buttlover:
please do you have guide for the village cleansing ritual. I need it. I just don't know why I hate girls although I like kpekus a lot, I just can't put in emotionally with girls.
grin grin
Romance / Re: 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 12:16pm On Jan 18, 2019
ajayiopy:

cool TO AVOID HEART ATTACK
The one mumsy no give popsy that led to you! Well, maybe you have something more hidden. Just pray for a good one any you will enjoy the rest of your life my boss.

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Romance / Re: 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 12:12pm On Jan 18, 2019
boiz2men:
bamisepeters

Guy your name looks familiar. Are you a doctor or uniben is your alma mater?

Non of the two o, possibly you are one of my customers with Jumia.
Romance / Re: 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 7:30am On Jan 09, 2019
Divay22:
Lol
Village people grin grin
But marriage is a beautiful thing... If you're sure of the one you are with, go ahead and do everything to make it work.
Lol.

Marriage is indeed a beautiful thing when you are with the right person, but when it is with the wrong person it will be like a curse. May God heal those distressed home and help those about to choose. Thanks for the comment.

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Romance / Re: 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 7:29am On Jan 09, 2019
nkwuocha:


How can we be sure.When many of you are same with rainbow.Different shades of character.
grin
Romance / Re: 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 7:26am On Jan 09, 2019
baralatie:
cry this is where women will have a free day
Well, men had theirs in my last post, i am for everybody my boss. grin
Romance / 7 Reasons Many Men Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 12:17am On Jan 09, 2019
This is the direct opposite of 5 Reasons Some Ladies Remain Single For Long as requested by my readers.

I know many ladies will like to read this, but don't blame men o, life itself is hard.

Well, there are series of reasons some men have refused to leave the single life alone for small boys, i know you know some, here are few of those reasons i can think of as at the time of this post.

1. Financial Ground

It is never easy to rule the home without the cash, despite the hardness many men still think they must store that millions before settling down, however, they are those you will find in bars, hotels and the likes after working hours wasting part of the money they should have kept doing fine boy; with such attitude i just wonder when the millions will complete.

Meanwhile, they have one lady they keep wasting her time, asking her to continue praying for devine favour so that they can take her to the altar.

Some men, no matter how hard they try things still get harder, no stable job or anything, i wouldn't blame those who fall in this category.

At times we can't blame these men with the kind attitude our ladies portray this days.

2. Observing The Lady

Some guys don't actually know what they want, they place lady under observation, if you ask them what's up they will reply with their usual verbiage, "i am still observing her jare", this is not because of finance or any other thing, but because they want to explore everything explorable.

After they have done everything they should have done inside marriage while courting they will now look for excuse to discharge the innocent babe... There is God o.

3. Parental Influence

There are many of these guys that will never learn how to take decisions on their own even after 30 years of age, their parent instruct them on everything to do, meanwhile, some of these our parents are selfish, they want to keep having all your resources for themselves thinking you will lose that financial concentration on them to the lady, hence, they will keep condemning all your choices, non will be better till you open ya eyes.

No one is saying you shouldn't obey some of this kind of parents, but we have to know how to play the game so as to make it all balance, once you decide they will not have option than to follow you, but there will be problem if the cash isn't going their way, that us where you need to know how to deal with it all.

4. The Big Boy Gang

Those in this category will never marry till very late 30s and early 40s. They want to enjoy the wealth before they decide finally. They are the ones all the big girls around knows, they are those that will be spraying money where they are not needed just to remain relevant in irrelevant places.

The money to wed or to spend when the woman is home isn't their problem a bit. They usually say it is better to enjoy the wealth before they are caged, meanwhile after they get married they still go back to those things secretly, they are those that must not hear their wife speak with a man let alone hugging the man.

5. They Don't See Anything Special

This is one reason some men don't marry till very late. They never see anything special in any woman no matter what she is or how she looks.

You will keep seeing them with different ladies as they get tired of one easily. They are the kind ladies keep following about, yet, nothing good in any of them. At the end they will either be compelled to get married or one be forced on them. At times they will not also have choice than to take the lady to the altar after the lady has mistakenly been put in the family way.

6. Religious Ground

One big reason some men will not get married till their religious leader can't bear it any more is because of their over belief.

To them, for any lady to appeal to their senses such lady must share same belief with them. Their faith has covered every sense of their reasoning, hence, they expect you to be perfect. They are quick to condemn the cloth, makeup, choice of words and the like to the extent that nothing you do is perfect and inline with religious teaching.

These kind of men understands the Bible than their pastor, they don't have the time to give room for mistake, their kind can never be God as they are ready to throw anyone in the fire even before they commit sin.

With those attitude they can never get married until they are forced or raped.

7. Village People

Lol, there are many men out there that because of their sin or that of their fore-fathers or even immediate parents they will be cursed.

At times, those village people might have seen that when he gets married his finance will turnaround, they will just change everything for him, people around him will just notice he keeps hating every lady that are supposed to be best for him.

The solution is to go completely spiritual to cleanse the man off the curse.

Source: https://bamisepeters..com/2019/01/7-reasons-many-men-remain-single-for.html

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Romance / Re: 5 Reasons Some Ladies Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:53pm On Jan 08, 2019
helinues:


Not totally right. I have met good girls with no religion background. It all depends on what you are exposed to at an early age.
You are right, but majority it is.
Romance / Re: 5 Reasons Some Ladies Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:26pm On Jan 08, 2019
Joromi12:
female empowerment. in my office they hire equal number of males and females. the females never date the males cos they know ur salary. the males marry nysc or fresh grad mostly cos they can control them. then the females are looking for men above their levels which other women are doing too. so they reach 31, with a car and 8m in account looking for males better than them. last last some go marry dem driver at 35.
You are so right, well, the point is endless as no one can understand woman matter completely, we just need to be brainful, lol.

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Romance / Re: 5 Reasons Some Ladies Remain Single For Long - Bamisepeter's blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:21pm On Jan 08, 2019
Spygadgets19:
Both the Op and the Blogger needs to be sent to be trash. Your mates are engaging in leadership, your here mascafonin
At times i laugh at some conclusions. Check the source and moniker you will know it is same person. But you don't know what other things i do, i am not that blogger that is about the money, when you talk of leadership you don't know those i control, relationship talks is a passion, not my source. Thanks for your comment anyways.

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