DouglasH92:
Dating two women at the same time defeats the primary essence of dating. If you aren't in love with someone then you shouldn't date them in the first place, because without the element of love, you can't fulfil other necessities and commitments required in a proper relationship.

Thank you.

bezimo:


I thought Moses played or he didn't.

i am only current relationship-wise not football. I know he didn't play first match.

Smartixy:
Honestly speaking to find a true relationship is the most difficult thing now. Girls now can't date a single guy and social media has increased the rate which girls are been asked out, so someone maybe now asking out your girlfriend now.

Guys especially first timers tend to love much and give everything to a relationship and that's hurt a lot as a girl will just decide to leave you for another dude for no reason or even cheat on you which may hurt you much which even lead some to suicide, committing murder or going to jail.

So I have a small list for those who need way.

1. Don't love too much:
My point here is to never love much, always take any girl as just a girl that may leave you anytime anyday. Don't take any relationship too serious.

2. Double date :
Dating two or more girls will reduce the hurt when a girl turns back at you. You will just go to the other one for her to cheer you up

3. Ensure you have s*x with her:
Don't get me wrong here I don't mean you force her but don't be keeping her thinking till marriage, because when she cheats you will surely regret.

4. Don't give too much
When a girl breaks your heart, you will be thinking about what you give in to the relationship and it hurt to remember all what you did to her. A friend of mine once told me about a girl he was dating which he help her washed all her clothes and about a week the girl told him its over between them, see can't continue, just imagine. To avoid this type of situations don't give much to a relationship.

5. Patience
Try to know that you didn't marry her and she is not your wife, she is just a girlfriend. So just be patient and know she can do what she wants. If you can share her then no problem but don't be a fool.

6. Forgiveness
If you love her so much that you can't let go then you must learn to be forgiven till you marry her and she officially becomes your property.

Add yours

lalanice:
are you asking or telling?


one thing people need to know is that situations are not dsame with everybody. some people can easily stay friends with an ex without the thought of cheating with them, keep in mind that it depends on how they became ex. but for the sake of an insecure partner you might have to totally drop a good ex

forget all others, the bolded is the concern.

bezimo:
It shows also that the defending champions can dig deep even without key men such as Hazard,Pedro, Fabregas,Costa, Cahill to grind a win out of nothing. Shows the chiampions are still the team to beat. Even Chelsea FC

moses nko?

Please the wife should be working along, no matter how little her income should add. And don't invest in marriage ceremony. It will never be easy but time will heal.

Cooking for a girlfriend or wife to me isn't a big deal, i know it is for some men sha, but it doesn't make you less a man.

One thing about social media and many that preach that social media and relationship are enemies are the ones that will always want to see other people's relationship on the net.

Relationship will crash not because of social media but because those involve want it to crash. What is social media without your relationship in it?

If you don't want people to know about you and your relationship just stay away from social media.

Young03:
Op is just blabing


Nothing sensitive in your topic

Jeez! This is not good o.

Personally, no issues about me dating a runz girl that want to change. You only must be ready to deal with the nonsense she has done that will roar their ugly head in the future if the dating culminate to marriage. Also, you must be able to satisfy her sexual urge as most of them needs it to the extreme so that she will not try to take back her vomit stylishly. But the two of you tried sha, with all the help and nothing happened between you.

If you can deal with all those you can go on, everyone deserves second chance.

The fun is great and i will like to join... Get me Toke Makinwa

Guess blogging is truly good, no doubt, I am also available for relationship guest post if you have huge amount of traffic sha.

dingbang:
Well some ladies don't give a damn about your cash...

yes, i didn't generalize it because it would have been a total rubbish if i do as i have some ladies who care less about your cash.

LordKO:
I wonder why a man of noble class would stoop so low to have a small-minded woman as a partner in the first place. Come on people, there's something called a "virtuous woman." A virtuous woman cannot be caught pilfering her lover/husband's money instead she's a both a helper and a keeper.

Goodness isn't negotiable, a woman that cannot tick the boxes on all the necessary good attitudes is far from being virtuous. Perfection is what one shouldn't expect; when one expect a woman to turn 1 naira to 1 million naira within a twinkle of an eye, that's perfection and can only be expected from a non mortal.

In summary, you have no reason to panic when a virtuous woman knows where you kept your money.

you are so right.

WiredLeggings:
OP, generalizations...

nope, not general.

Women are very essential to every man, believe me, for many, they are incomplete without woman despite the fact that many consider them to be "serpent", they are inevitable in every home, their inestimable importance can never be overlooked by those who knows the worth of a good woman.

Women i am sorry the issue of discussion for the moment is against you, this shouldn't be taken serious but on a lighter note as this funny reality must be made known to those who don't know how it is. Trust me I am not bias, tomorrow may be against men.

To the issue of discussion, it should be known to those who are inexperienced that dealing with a woman requires special reasoning because no matter the age difference, so far she is your a woman she is wiser, as a man the technicality should always prove you to be ahead.

For you to keep money somewhere with her knowledge you must make sure you are ready to spend all or it is what you have planned to spend possibly with her, or else, that money is in trouble and if care is not taken you will not use it for the purpose you book it for.

Generally, when women sees any amount of money with you is when they start reminding you of things you promise them and that which you didn't promise but they think is needed.

Throughout the period the money is still remaining your names as the man will be so sweet and romantic till it is all gone so that their request will be met without hindrance as they know you are capable at that point.

It is important you know that it is not because they don't have money with them is the reason for taking or asking from you. They will keep their's where you will never think of.

I guess men can also know where they keep it but because we want to threat them well so we don't bother about that most times since we have what they want.

You are even lucky if you are aware before she takes the money for whatever she want to use it for as she knows you cannot do anything for her if she uses the money without your consent, to avoid stories that may touch the heart just keep your money which you have some other plans for out of the reach of your woman just like it is written on almost all drugs that you should take it out of the reach of children.

It is not as if they are being wicked, that is how many of them are provisioned, when you mention women you should know they are as friendly as anything when money is around.

Though, we are all very happy when money is available, but women will teach you how dangerous they are when you leave them with money.

I am aware that some men are also like this, they always pray to know where their woman keeps her money so as to steal and do as if they never knew where she keeps her money simply because she never told them where she keeps her money in the first place.

It doesn't matter how much a woman makes, no matter how rich she might be, your money isn't safe if she knows where it is especially if it is in the house, she will have finished the money before you realize it's all gone.

This is why some men don't disclose the exact amount they earn to their woman because if he is not careful there wouldn't be savings.

Little wonder some women still ask their husband for money even when he says he is financially down because they know many men are not truthful about the amount they earn.

Now let's be truthful, how many of you is truthful about your earnings to your woman?

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/08/your-money-is-finished-moment-she-knows.html

This is a mail from a constant blog reader, please read and share your opinion...

Hello Bamise (I suppose), pleasant evening to you. I stumbled on your thread that hit FP on Nairaland and I decided to get in touch cos the issues you addressed are all too familiar to me and I'm currently embroiled in one. I need your advice if you wouldn't mind and I'd explain the situation at hand.

I am not married but I was involved in a 'serious' relationship with a girl I met during my final days on campus. She was friends with my twin brother and apparently feelings were involved but things didn't workout between them, and somehow, we ended up together -dating barely 3 months into us meeting although there was a lot of controversy involved. I would turn 25 this August and I'm just about 8 months older than she is.

So, I was leaving School and she was entering into her final year and we were already involved. At the early stages of the relationship, things were soooooo great between us....the joy & excitement of being together was overwhelming and it seemed to be the fairytale "happy ever after" kinda thing. But a few months into the whole thing, things started changing; the initial fire and interest she once showed gradually started dying down. We went from talking every single day to talking every other day. She started bringing up the excuse of being so busy...and all that kinda stuff. Things really got so bad; at first I thought it was the distance cos we never really spent quality time together before I left school so we weren't exactly bounded.

She happened to meet a Naval officer who was running his Master's programme at that time and they became really good friends I wasn't really comfortable with the whole thing but she kept on assuring me that there was nothing more going on between them. I had no choice but to accept that. We started having recurring arguments, disagreements, the relationship was greatly strained. She started loathing me at some point...she wouldn't let me hold her,kiss her or get physically close to her...she never introduced me to her friends or family as her boyfriend.. Rather she'd just say I'm her friend. I realized she found me repulsive and to be honest, I don't know why. At this point, I became so insecure, my self esteem and confidence was brutally wounded and I lost belief in myself. I always struggled to try to make things right or win her back and the more I did, the more repulsive she found me. She always said I was boring...okay, I'm not an outgoing person, I really am not so good at socializing...I don't party,drink or do any of those stuffs. Cos that's not who I am. At some point she told me she went clubbing with the Naval officer and I was emotionally distraught over this but still she watered it down by saying there was nothing more to it and they went just as friends and I accepted.

Fast forward to early this year, I had to go to school to tidy up a couple things at my department, so I met her, I was at her place one evening and I happened to stumble on her chat with this Naval officer and this girl effortlessly was professing love for him, telling him how much she misses him...and this were things she never told me... I had to beg at times Just to hear her tell me she loves me..and this guy was getting it all on a platter of gold....then I stumbled on a line that 'killed' me she said to him "we won't date and we won't 'DO' again....I interpreted the 'do' there to mean sex...that she had been having sex with him but still she denied it...she couldn't give a tangible meaning to it but she insisted she never had sex with him.....But I was broken....wounded...helpless...I felt so betrayed and useless....I can't find befitting words to accurately describe how I felt......a couple of weeks afterwards, I told her I was done cos o couldn't bear the bullshit I was getting anymore.

She was the very first and only girl I've ever had sex with and it meant a lot. She took It from me against my will but back then I found solace in the fact that we had plans to get married someday and that was my consolation. so I guess this is one of the reasons why I'm still hooked on her. I am still so in love with this girl despite everything. I've tried to move on, I've tried to love someone else but I'm too scared to let that happen cos I don't want to get hurt again..and I still have feelings for my ex. I try to distract myself with work but its only temporal. So I don't know what to do. I care so deeply for her. The irony is I'm still so angry and bitter and pained but beneath all of that, is a sincere craving for to be with her.

So please I need your counsel, advice, rebuke or what have you....

I'm really sorry for the long message and I hope to get a feedback from you as soon as you can.

Thank you.

Kindly share your response, it is so important right now.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/08/i-still-love-her-but-she-doesn-want-me.html

Psoul:


I kw you'll say a thing like this. I'm not surprised. Why do we always talk about a woman bn laid by another man. Whatever u do, will one day come back to you.

If you have bn sleeping around wt multiple women or other ppl's wife, ur wife will be laid by others. By the time it happened, you may have forgotten about ur own sin.
Let me tell you, a man is as guilty as the woman he commits adultery wt. Let us stop making women more guilty.

If you sleep wt women other than ur wife and u catch ur woman in the act and refused to forgive her, ur punishment will be unimaginable. This is because u just showed God that u don't deserve forgiveness.

i clearly understand your point, however, you make it looks as if all men in that situation committed such crime which isn't so. Remember cheating is not the only offense that may warrant forgiveness, there are others which even men fall short of.

Learnstuffs:
You are on point. But this might not go down well with our religious brethren

i know too, even my pastor will crucify me but he is doing what concerns him, i am doing mine, one servant shouldn't disturb the other, the truth must be said and i stand for it. They should ask those in the relationship how the market has been so far in order to learn the reality rather than what they show people it is so far...

Nma27:
Back in those days, the caning never stopped me from seeing him. When you with that special somebody, all d pains go away and all is forgotten but time always seems to run fast. Before you say jack, its already late and you koboko will b at home waiting... Lol

that's the irony of it all, instead of that cain drawing you away it takes you even more closer.

This post is my response to one big question that was asked by a teenager in my church yesterday 30th July, 2017.

This is the summary of that question.

"Is it advisable for a 17-year-old 100level university student to start a relationship and tell his/her parent about it?"

This got negative response from a professor and other men and children of God. Some said at 100l it is too young to be in a relationship because of the emotional effect coupled with studies.

The professor said one thing which i agree, that the moment you make love with a man you have given him the key to control you.

This is true, but it sounds like it doesn't even affect the male child too at that young age. I got a mail which will soon be shared if permitted by the sender on how the first sex experience got a guy attached to a girl to the extent that he is afraid to let the girl go while she is misbehaving.

I find it hard to speak relationship issues in the church especially among the "men and some serious children of God" and older ones because they put so many vital points under the tongue which is affecting many youths now and the older ones are unaware that the root of the so called "nonsense" going on now-a-days is from them.

The truth is that many are hypocrites when religion is attached to some serious relationship issues, we preach things we cannot do as we feel that which we do is not the right way and because we don't want others to look at us like someone strange.

Another truth is that many people that say this is how something is meant to be turns out to be the culprit.

Everyone want to deceive each other when it comes to relationship discussions especially in the religious homes and everyone want to be recognized as a saint at the same time.

Like so many of us, I am in so many relationship discussion groups and have read series of relationship issues among children of 12, 13,14 years old which i don't have choice than to advise them on how to do things.

It is still better here, however, we are also growing towards that direction if care is not taken because the growth of the children this days is as fast as something many still don't understand. You see a 10-year old child looking like a 20-year old adult and so on.

Personally, I think the things the parent hides are the real cause of what we term as immorality this days.

Many parent will never tell their children the reality of things thinking everything should be learnt in the school and this is why they spend huge amount of money sending their children to school.

Apart from education, the parent also have a lot to teach the children and to also be more of a friend to them so that whatever issue they are facing they will be able to tell you in order to come in with the best solution.

Many parents don't even want to hear anything related to relationship from their children forgetting that they mingle with other children from good and bad families and when you are not accommodating at home they have no choice than to lean on those outside not minding the effect of what they teach them.

Many parents want to be in charge forgetting that children of this age love to explore and react to what they see, if you are not as friendly as required they will do what they see behind you which may be disastrous to their future.

Even if the father will want to act strict the mother should be completely friendly so as to be able to lead the children through the right way.

Children of Now-a-days are exposed to immorality through things they see on the internet and on the TV screens, it takes the interference of parents to guide them so as not to act based on what they see.

Parental guidance is very essential as it cannot be given in the school, no matter how much you spend on the education of your child you should try to give them quality parental guidance as the two works hand-in-hand.

Your iron-hand will only cause greater harm than good as it is the cause of immoralities we see and hear this days.

Let your children to be free with you if you want to know about them and if you want to be able to guide them.

It is only when you have the key to a door you can open it peacefully, if not, you will be left with the option to unlock it forcefully which will damage the door.

The above is exactly how the children are to the parent, you can control them when you are friendly with them, but when you are not you will discover bad things about them which it will have been too late already.

Religious leaders will tell you it is not right to be in a relationship early not just because of the effect on your education but because they see it as immoral because to them there is no way you will not involve s3x in it when you are early, forgetting that many have managed that situation through serious agreements between the two involved.

Meanwhile, their daughter of 16-year old has had up to 2 boyfriend’s within 10 months, yet they think such daughter is more than even a saint who have no opposite gender as friends.

This is my opinion. Let's be sincere, as a parent, how will you react when your child/daughter who is still young Let's say around the same 17 years old who is also a university student tells you he/she is already in a relationship?

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/the-iron-hand-formula-cannot-deter.html

Like they use to say in church that some people will try all they can but the kingdom of God will still be far away from them.

Believe you have tried and she also aided your success so far. I bet you without her you wouldn't have achieved so much that you have achieved if it is truly according to what you have narrated.

You really need her in your life, such woman is rare and shouldn't be given away cheaply like you want to do.

She is a force to pushes any man who is willing to be successful to attaing a great fit.

The "worst" mistake you will ever make is to let her go. Get your phone and prophess to her how much she means to you.

I am a relationship blogger and will tell you categorically that my woman is also like yours, though i never aimed to be a 1st class student but i maintained my normal performance thrpugh her support.

When you have a supportive and understanding woman you need to do all to keep her for just yourself, her type is rare.

Much to say but no time my brother.

MummyAA:
A friend of mine that the husband is cheating on told me that she was advised to stop sleeping with him.

But I am of the opinion that such will completely drive him into the hand of the other woman.

Now my question is it proper to deny a cheating husband sex?.

Matured opinions needed.

Hear this, the moment you deny your spouse sex then there is nothing left in the union.

So many thinks can lead him to cheat which might even be from the woman. Cheating sometimes might not be the intention of the cheat till they find themselves in the act.

So far you are still in his house denying him of the sexual pleasure will bring more harm than good, you will also ne blamed by many as that single point is enough for him to win many people over.

Do your roles without excuse, for better for worse is what you signed, take the cheating adpect to be the worst side of the union while you try to sit him down for a discussion in order to get the reason for his actions in order to find a lasting solution.

If possible, try to get him talk after a good session of love making so as to find a lasting solution as patience and communication are vital at restoring homes and marriage about to crash.

taylor88:
do u know why men like me last long



no matter how experienced a slay Queen is u will never know am cumin


I don't shake or make sound( I be mosquito? )


I cum and still fire, dick still strong and reliable


pussy gets wet i blame it on her consistent orgsm

before u know am i don last 4hours without her knowing I've ejaculated 3 times

4 hours when it is not a road trip, kilode!

It all depends on the understanding, what people will say shouldn't be your own priority because no matter what you do you cannot satisfy everyone. If she is okay financially you can go on, at times when you don't do somethings what you want to achieve may not come. Most times It is only a woman that is financially independent that will tell you money isn't everything. Not that she doesn't know money is also needed to sustain the relationship, but because she has it and with that no man can relegate her. To me, it doesn't matter if your woman is richer than you, it all boils down to how you manage each other and the maturity of your woman as power intoxicate many of them, you know money breeds power.

If you love each other and you both have what it takes to make the marriage work i will advice you go on.

Psoul:


My brother you are correct but why I chose to take it to married ppl is dat marriage is a more serious affair than boyfriend and girlfriend relationship.

A partner in boyfriend girlfriend relationship may chose to walk out of the affair et any flimsy excuse and no one will worry much about it. You may decide not to forgive many things in such affair and ppl will find no problem wt dat.
In marriage you have more stake and tend to endure what u may not ordinarily endure.

i get your point sha.

lonikit:
There are lots of things that people do to hurt another. The christian leaders preach that we Should always forgiven and forget. In my own case I easily forgive but I don't forget whatever you have done either to hurt or to impress me.

Does the fact that I don't forget mean I have not forgiven the person that hurt me.

Is it even possible to forget?

this is one bitter truth, only the person without brain will forget something that is done against you. Religious leaders will say what they have to say because that is what they must say, it is left for you to pick the one meant for you. Even a pastor will still remember the offense against him of 10 years ago. Even spirit find it difficult to forget let alone human being, forgiveness is normal, we only pretend when it comes to forgetting as we cannot forget, we can only disallow the effect of not forgetting an evil done against us.

ndifonsimon:
So u mean if u can't forgive, u can't go into a relationship? Have u been offended before Mr/Mrs writer? Have u tasted the agony of pain before? I mean the kind that u hardly forgive your own self let alone your offender? I totally disagree with this write up

you are free to disagree but know that most times i have experienced what i write through some people. I read my posts like a normal reader because what i write most times isn't with my understanding. I write them and when i read i feel like i didn't do this. It goes even beyond muy understanding, we are all learning.

Prince16:


U must've listened to Ebenezer Obey's Kétékété (if not, go listen to it). U can't please d world. Even d son of man who came, healed and fed d ppl was also crucified by d same ppl he came to comfort.

Thank you for this, i was speechless when i saw that comment and something moved in me which i controlled. I just remember that something that is about to be great will face stones and thorns.
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#on_point!

Who is ds religious leader pls?

you know joo.

princessayesha:

Thanks for the advice but she has moved on. It was not me lol...am not married yet.

i saw it but i am used to directing comments to the poster.

djgrafiti:
In a satanic point of view....if a man slap u on one cheek,smash him on the other,an eye for an eye,a blow for blow,give pain for pain with compound interest,love those who love u and hate those who hate u....now back to the topic...I will only forgive if she is ready to forgive me when I offend her too.She don't forgive,I don't forgive.

that is why i said it could be anyone at fault as humans, this is why you should learn that forgiveness spirit as its importance in marriage sustainance cannot be over emphasized.

princessayesha:
My friend's hubby of 5 years divorced her earlier this year with two kids because he has met a rich fine babe on facebook. She was so heartbroken that it affected her studies and her health.
He is now back begging her to forgive him and take him back, we later found out that the facebook girl he was so in love with turned out to be an old lonely woman in Maiduguri.
Please advice my friend

kindly forgive him, he should have learnt his lessons. However, you need to be financially independent. I want to believe you will not be completely down the way you were the first time in case it happens again.