This days many married women bother themselves so much about their man's unfaithfulness.

I know it is not easy to be with an unfaithful man especially for a completely faithful woman, but I think the point of concentration shouldn't be the man but financial independence as this can solve many of any woman's problem even if the man is going places with his unfaithful acts.

Here are 5 huge reasons why any married woman must be financially independent:

1. Men's failed promises

We all know that human being in general are insatiable.

Most men are always moved by beauty. To most men beauty is not just about the facial looks but the figures too, that even after getting married to a queen they still get themselves trapped to another queen because no matter how gorgeous the woman a man is married to is there are plenty queens prettier than the one he is married to outside.

At times it is it is not because a man is determined to be disloyal to his promise that makes him go against the promises, but because of other unforeseen circumstances, this is not to justify any error but to make you see reasons to the point of discussion.

When you have your own source of income apart from your man it reduces this fear because you will have what it takes to take care of yourself and the children even when the man forgets his responsibilities.

2. Untimely Death

We really need to face the reality of death as it is uncertain to any man when he/she will surrender to death. Any responsible man should do all his best to make his woman financially independent as death can come anytime, when this happens to a woman without any source of income how do you expect her to cope especially when children are involved?

I believe if any man claims to love his wife he needs to make her financially free in order to cater for the home in his absence. Though, no one wish to give up the ghost untimely but it does happen and if it does what should be the fate of the partner behind especially when it is the woman?

We shouldn't be blinded by love, the future is so important, i mean the sustenance.

3. To balance the earnings

In this economy, it is important that not just the man but also the woman should earn to sustain the home. It is not a situation that you are not educated or because your man is well to do but sustainability.

I believe no amount is too small as earning because if properly managed it will definitely increase with time.

The truth is that it gives the man joy to know that his woman will be fine without him. See, nothing is small or unworthy to get money from so far it is legal. Women can still be involved in many trade unlike men especially when it comes to buying and selling, I know you have the idea, just get busy and earning, it helps the home to grow financially.

4. For personal satisfaction

For me it is not everything you need to buy you need to ask for the money from your husband. I understand he should be the bread winner but too much load kills the head, why not try to get something doing to relieve him of some spending.

You want to buy pants, sanitary pads, matches, seasonings and some other minor things you might need should be something you can sort on your own.What about if you need to take some appetizer, everything shouldn't come from him. Help him, let him feel the impact of a partner and not a liability.

5. Because financial freedom is good

To me it is even good to be financially independent because you are free to cater for anything you need without anyone questioning you for the purpose of what you have used your money for.

When you are financially independent you are able to cater for any situation be it foreseen or unforeseen which may arise without you waiting for one partner before it can be solved as being financially dependent can cause huge embarrassment to not just you but the family as a whole.


I know many women are nursing the desire to be financially independent but things are not still working for them, just keep pushing hard, don't think it is when you start big that you can make your ground, fingers are not equal; remember, fruit trees started from the seed.

Feel free to add your comment, i love contributions.

Cc: Lalasticlala, Ferano, Talk2Bella

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/10/5-reasons-why-any-lady-should-be.html

It is just an illusion, not reality.

This is the truth. Before the relationship starts, every serious woman is afraid that she will be jilted immediately after the intercourse by the man as they think that is the usual trend of guys all over. Some might just recovered from a break-up as a result of this same issue and trying to pick herself up.

This is the reason some women pull back when it comes to pre-marital s3x, please don't blame them, they might have gone through a lot.

This feeling that you will run after you have reached apex become so glaring after she has allowed you inside her because that moment the trust she has in you will be refreshed, it will be as if you didn't plan anything about the future of the relationship with her. This is why some guys are careful at this period as whatever you do to her at this period will count for/against you.

It is not true that men starts misbehaving after the first love making, it is just your fear at work. That fear makes whatever the man does to be imperfect and sign of him not interested in you anymore. If you don't know, he knows you will be having several thought in you after you both have expressed your love to each other, so he tries to be so open for you to see every of him that period, but no matter how hard he tries you will still find reason to think he will soon disappear.

I know some men are like that though, this is why you also must be sharp and never let an unserious man outsmart you. The moment you are determined to collect his money or make him spend his money on you just be prepared for the worst as the only thing he can collect in reciprocation of his kind gestures is "you".

The fact is that when you make it so obvious to any man you are interested in his money he knows what and who you are already and will want to do a fast play on you, he will be afraid something will come up that will not make him share of your honey well, so he will look for all means to get you.

Know this for sure, a man that you made to detect that you are interested in his wealth will never respect you as a woman and this is the kind of man that disappears immediately after the first intercourse.

Define what you want and try as best as possible to work towards it, never derail because of anything so as not to regret. If you respect yourself men will also respect you, don't let your demands be abnormal so that he will not do the abnormal with you.

The truth is that either you make love the first day you started dating or you hold it for years before the first intercourse, it will not stop the guy that will leave you from leaving you.

Who even says the first experience of intercourse with the guy cannot make the girl be the first to run? Trust me, it could be either ways; hence, it is wrong to conclude that most guys misbehave or run away after the first intercourse since they have achieved their aim.



Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/10/is-it-true-that-most-guys-misbehave.html

This is the deal, we all have our weakness and strength, calling might be his weakness which you must bring into him. You said he is now fiancee, meaning you have gone a long way and at this stage i don't think you should battling with this. I think you should have insisted on the reason behind that breakup he mentioned. If the next day he does as if nothing happened the previous day why not bring it up so that he and his parent knows you have brains too and not a toy. I think if you cannot make your point at this stage of your relationship you will have a lot of war to fight if he eventually force himself to seal the relationship with you. There are lots of things you still need to know about him and a lot you need to let him know about you and a lot about what relationship is before saying "yes i do" or you are in it for a bitter marriage experience.

At times love is not enough to make your decisions, you have other things that surrounds it. Why not try move on, she was with someone before you met her, she left the person for you and left you again for that person, dont you think she doesn't know what she want yet? You guys to me still needs a bit of maturity to finalize your decision, when you have not gotten to a stage or if you are yet to experience some things you might still even be unripe to make decisions. She still has a lot to learn, don't allow yourself to be played on.

Well, you guys are taking this issue for joke which is not. Do you think some girls that are yet to make it are not trying their best to be successful too, you think they are just lazying around without dreams, right? You said some go around using their private part as ATM. Don't you think we men made them believe they can make living out of it through our acceptance of their belief? If you know how hard some ladies are trying legally to be successful you will not talk the way you have talked. Success draws not just even women but men too, don't be deceived that women don't want to leave successful men because even men don't want to leave another successful man. There is nothing wrong if a successful man help another woman to achieve her own successful dreams too, when you start thinking like this you might have issues in your relationship not even marriage.

Marriage is just one of those good things around us and we all love good things. Though some choose not to like this part among those good things, it is their choice, but marriage to me is a good thing.

Many now go for the other cheaper products for the economic reasons instead of the bigger products like Samsung,LG and the likes when it comes to home appliances. Not that those other cheaper ones are not good and cannot serve their purpose though.

But for you which would you prefer, the products by those big producers or the other ones with pocket friendly benefits?

kaptaneSaka:
I broke up with my girl yesterday..... who know? Abeg unto d next

i know, so you are important too.

Many people will advise you to drop any relationship that you seems not to understand its direction anymore forgetting that in all human endeavors we tend to face difficulty but we do all we can to get the issue resolved.

Relationship is one small but mighty issue among human as it has led to the down fall of great men and rise to fame for many others, this alone is enough to determine the extremity of relationship, hence, counseling someone in relationship requires one acting/putting him/herself in the other person's shoes in orther to understand better before giving any advise.

When you don't seems to understand where the ship of your relationship is heading to you need to be sure if you are still in control or not.

you have tried all best possible to put you partner to test when you observe the change in attitude but all proved abortive.

The only thing needed after all other things have been done to either move the relationship forward or to put an end in order to move on is "communication".

Communication here is not just the talking part of it but the facial expression also. This is because most times the word that comes out of our mouth are so deceptive and this will always be in war with our facial expression for someone who can read the lips and the expression, you will always know the truth when you weigh the two means of communication together.

What I am saying in essence is that you need to sit your partner down in a place where there will be no distraction to discuss the way forward. Here you need to be truthful to each other so as not to be stagnant.

Here, you need to tell your partner if you still share that special fever feelings that brought you together in the first place, if you don't abore that feelings it will be very kind of you to put it in a mature way to your partner so that he/she can move on instead of him/her keep being committed to a failed relationship which could even lead to worst situations when you make him/her know or find out what you've been keeping away for some times.

At this point if you still can't say the truth as regards your feelings towards each other, then you will keep struggling as there will be this other you that will keep doing that negative thing that is within you against the relationship because you cannot keep that hidden negative feelings for long unless you want a failed marriage.

I know you will not love the idea of failed marriage, failed relationship is very good, it makes you learn things you need to do to make the next relationship a success if you are lucky to have a partner that will also share same positive view with you.

When you have tried every other thing to make a relationship that is at the verge of breakup to work and it is still shaking, all you need to do at this stage is physical discussion. Communication is very vital when it comes to handling relationship, you don't need to kill yourself in silence thinking everything is alright when your partner is busy test running, disclosing your mind will bring about the other person revealing some other hidden secrets too.

At the point of communication you don't just need to listen but to also watch the expression behind every word as the expression even speaks volume than the words.

Never be afraid of the outcome of the discussion as it is for your good if you truly know what you want, at the end of it all and after deep thought you will understand better and will be able to make the perfect decision.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/10/try-this-when-your-relationship-is-not.html

I don laugh tire oooo

Like i once wrote in my post, relationship is for those who are ready to forgive here http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/relationship-is-for-those-who-are.html

This is not to say that we can take each other for granted.

It might be a general question, but as humans that we are, we do tolerate more than each other, hence no one can really say how much they can forgive a cheating partner.

But this piece can help... http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/08/the-amount-of-times-you-can-forgive.html

I understand, it is meant to be a question.

It is never a crime to love your friend's sister, at least, not your own sister or family member.

Some guys take ladies for granted when she is trying all her best to be a good lover and partner.

They know the next thing to do to make a relationship move forward, but because the lady has ignored all protocols for the sake of love they think they have gotten it all which makes the lady to be filled with regret and more than anger.

Here are things you can do to make him think of the way forward when you are sure he has all it takes to be a man:

1. Talk about it:

This is the first stage. Don't hide it at all, be vocal about what you want and how you feel about his non-charlatan attitude towards the growth of the relationship.

Hear his side and from there you can decipher if it is genuine or not.

2. Stop visiting:

If the chat session isn't fruitful you need to start reducing the visitation, allow your presence to be missed. When he sees you often the probability of him thinking on the way forward will be limited.

3. Let your social networks speak:

Go out with friends, all gender and in beautiful and attractive outfit. Take pictures and post it.
You don't need to tag him, he is watching you, so, there is large possibility that you are posting it into his hands. When he sees more of you in pictures especially on social media he will think more on how to get you completely.

4. End the call first:

When he calls, try not to let him end the call. Try also not to always use the "i love you" verbiage before you end, let him anticipate it and do the needful if he want it always.

5. Reduce your social availability:

Yes, you really need to pretend you are not available when he is chatting with you on social platforms, your availability is causing him not to think straight.

Don't allow a guy to waste your time and take you for granted. You need to put a great worth on yourself for him to guide you jealousy. If he truly loves you all those are enough for him to read positive meanings to.


Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/09/5-ways-to-encourage-him-to-take.html

Alexk2:
1. Know his background
Anybody who base his/her judgement on the above isn't smart and not ready for anything serious. Actually, experience have shown that on the average, those who came out from bad/irresponsible parents becomes a much better spouse in life than those whose parents are "good".....this is so because it is so much easier to learn from bad experience and be a better person than to learn from good experience and be best.

2. Ask about him
This should actually be no. 1 but in the right way. The point should read; "know your partner"
Do all your best to know all that you can about him/her; if possible, make him/her your besty for this purpose.


3. Watch is attitude when it comes to money and you
Very very important. No. 2 method will also be of help in this case.

4. His history relationship-wise
This is just an extension of no. 2

5. Give him a trial
I have reservation about this one...be very careful who you're giving a trial. If he/she fails all the above assessment, a trial may/may not be necessary depending on how sure you're about your results and your overall conviction.

really appreciate.

goingape1:
shut the fvck off














shut the fvck off






















shut the fvck off!

Kyase:
stoke fans

wahala lon ko arawon si.

Evaberry:
This is completely wrong

please feel free to tell us your opinion please.

Kyase:
why dem dey boo moses na

chelsea fans abi stoke people?

I have heard many ladies telling themselves this guy deserves you, he is calm, handsome, caring. This doesn't deserve you, he is only a player, once he enters you that is the end.

I will not say the assertion is true or false, possibly they have heard about the guy from someone or they are the direct source that couldn't open up (Some girls cannot even be truthful to their best friend you know �).

Here are five things you need to do to be able to know if he is the right or he is the player "if" you desire a serious relationship:

1. Know his background

Don't be deceived that background doesn't matter for you to know if he will deserve you or not.

Some people, not just the guys but the girls too are the picture of what their background is.

Some are used to cheating because it is what their parent do for living.

Some that are raised by just the father due to betrayal on the part of the woman may have poisoned the mind of the guy that what his mum did is the reflection of what other women outside are.

The lady that grew under the training of just her mum after divorce due to the fact that the husband usually abuse her not just physically but emotionally most times build the lady to be mean to guys with the mindset that all men are equal.

I am not saying that is how everyone in such situation thinks, some of them do this and it affects the guy or the lady that they will not want to fall in same trap as the one shared by their source or that they experienced.

2. Ask about him

Starting a relationship goes beyond just accepting everyone that comes your way without knowing about that person himself even after you have known about the background because most times some guys have good parents and they are trained well but get it wrong the moment they mixed with others without good training.

It is good to make enquiries about him from those around him and make some conclusions through things you see around him.

You might have heard so many times that appearance is reality, believe me, many things we see physically are the truth in many cases.

3. Watch is attitude when it comes to money and you

This is almost general among guys, that women are moved by money, especially when they want to start a relationship with a lady.

The moment his attitude is showing you that money is what you need, you need to be watchful.

The truth is that some of this guys have had experiences with other girls, they know a lot about girls, unfortunately, it is the bad things they know about them, hence, they categorize you under them and will want to entice you with it.

The moment you notice this from someone who is just asking you out you need to be extra careful and need to prove to him you are not the type.

4. His history relationship-wise

The truth is that many history makes the future. Except from those that are yet to be in a relationship before, you need to know the reason for breakup of the previous relationship.

The history is very essential as it makes you know the type of person you are in a relationship with.

Someone who cannot tell you the truth about his past relationship needs proper check before you accept his proposal.

I know some men can lie, however, as a woman you know how to get he truth of any situation when it comes to a man you want to know about, isn't it?

5. Give him a trial

Even after you have done all the above, giving him the chance to prove himself is very essential.

For many guys if you don't try them out you may not know if he deserves you or just another player.

The background might be deceitful, the friends he flocks with might just be bad while he is the good egg, don't forget, your appearance in his life might even take him out of their midst finally.

His history might also have gone through another series of scrutinization which might have changed him for better.

Judging him with some of those things above might be deceitful, but one thing is very certain, dating someone who you have not really known before for a more than a year or less can open your eyes to everything you need to know about him.

So many guys cannot hide their behavior for even a week let alone a month, but if you don't give them a trial you may not be able to know the reality of any man.

Many from good homes have even failed when you thought they should be better.

Some will fall to the temptations that stairs on their face and all, without trying him out you may not know if he is the right or wrong.

Judging one with the other will not also be the best until you try another as we can never be the same.

Like my religious leaders and brethren will say "prayer is the key", prayer is very essential for guidance so as not to fall into wrong hands.

Don't forget, the bad guys also have lovers, but if you are a good one your goodness or prayer can lead you to the right one.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/09/5-things-to-do-to-know-if-he-deserves.html

Narldon:


My neighbor's son just gave me SS1 Mathematics Assignment to solve!



Please fams!!

Pray for me for I'm about to disgrace my family

You need to move back into the other room with him. He might possibly not be cheating like some said. For some men the feelings go slow when their woman give birth, you need to communicate with him and find a lasting solution together, tell him what he is doing wrong for him to make ammend.

Well, i started creating my blog post on nairaland when i started blogging and got the bashing of my life as regards paragraph, words and the post itself. Those bashing never pissed me off but built me to face anyone because those that once bashed me are now interested in what i am yet to post. Here is more than a forum but a world on it's own.

kinginvagina:
What is this boy saying?

boy? Nice of you, you have forgotten you created a thread that same day abi? Just forget, ok!

Nackzy:

Yeah i know but Bros e no easy...

yea i know, definitely not easy.

DutchBruh:
I have noticed the worrisome dimension the Romance section has taken in mocking and castigating the Vaseline Crew. Leave them alone!

Vaseline crew PRO spotted

Why not, don't let us mix dates together.

kimbraa:
Op, still all these don't guarantee keeping a man. No be dog wey want you to chain you go chain am?.

someone that didn't read the post but judged by topic spotted...

Captain6:
Op, you are saying this,because you haven't seen brain resetting sucklent accessories, that can make your staff of authority raise with alacrity.

weidone with your grammar.

zaramgrand:
There's no manual to keep a man
Simply find out what drives him crazy in women and be the best version...

finding that craze sef no guarantee that complete loyalty, we are just insertiable as humans that we are, when you find one is the moment you will discover there is more.

tosyne2much:
Nice one Peter


I dey come

i dey wait you...

MhizzAJ:
There's no manual on how to keep a man

Relationship these days is filled with so much drama

exactly my point, it takes God's grace to be loyal as it is not easy to be.