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 Family / The Right Conversion Might Be Poisonous To Your Marriage by bamisepeters(m): 3:46pm On Jul 15, 2017 |
I watched Toke Makinwa's latest vlog "the right conversion" and I think I need to let you know what i feel about it, you are free to criticize anyways. This is all about money in a union or relationship. Money is important to keep a relationship going; no doubt about that. She said women should stop doing what the man should do, that financial responsibilities belongs to the man, the super woman thing should be stopped by women. Watch here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFQ6Oo189Qw Well, she made valid points, she even said in the beginning God made man and made them king over every other creations (in summary) forgetting that another woman caused man to do what he shouldn't have done that changed the plan of God for humanity. This alone is enough to make women see reasons why they must also be financially responsible a bit and ignore that fact that men should be completely financially responsible. I said in my current video that women shouldn't be treated like slaves, that men should assist their women the little way they can here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKHPqnXZY-o but i think if Toke should say men should be completely financially responsible no matter the financial status of the woman, then women should do without a maid and should also be ready to do all house chores no matter if the man is busy or not. One thing I will like everyone to note is that relationship differs from one couple to another, what works for one may not work for another and some other it might work for might even need to twist it a bit which means there is no general formula for a working union. I know some men are not responsible, once a woman uses her money to cover up financial loopholes he will keep relying on her to continue forever. I use to say no woman should accept a full house wife option, if it is not to assist the man so as to lessen the financial burden then the aim is defeated. Not all men cheat, this is one fact every woman must know. This is because Toke mentioned that some men will give the money to girlfriends while keeping the money away from the super woman at home because she has proven to be financially independent once. I believe in collective responsibility and not individual brilliance. Like a comment in the video that husband and wife are one and should be united in their dealings, this is exactly how it should be. This days we refer to old testament in the bible when we need a backup for abnormality, yet, when it is time for tithe in the church is when we will say tithe was mentioned in the old testament that grace is what the new testament preaches. We are in the computer age, where we do things differently from the way our forefathers did it. No crime in helping each other in a marriage. The woman should help the man financially while the man helps when it comes to house chores the little way he can. Some men, no matter how hard they push it they may not be as successful as their woman; some will say God forbid, the truth is most men don't pray for such but we have many examples, and there is nothing anyone can do if it happens that way, will you say the wife should ignore the financial needs of the home? A responsible man will not rely on his woman for too long and will even appreciate the woman if it happens she is the one taking care of the financial aspect of the home. What Toke said only confirmed why some men never wish their woman to be richer than them which i think is not a good idea. Even if you ask your partner the greatest question before you start a relationship and he/she is able to give you great dreams as answers but is not destined to fulfill the whole dreams no matter how hard they try, who will you hold responsible? Collective responsibility is what i think we should preach to each other for a union to last because of the economic situation most especially. Doing one's part in a marriage also entails having the sense of collective responsibility in any marriage that want to go far. Also, each union knows what works best for them, this i think will go far than any other advice someone else outside might give. Will you support that a woman should not share financial responsibility with her man? Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/the-right-conversion-might-be-worst-for.html
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| Romance / Build A Working Formula For Your Relationship Apart Of That Of Your Parent by bamisepeters(m): 2:25am On Jul 15, 2017 |
Many times we use the romantic life of our parents' relationship to decide the way our own should be forgetting that what works for them might be poison for ours. The point is that you need to define the one that suites you as a different entity as you are different from your parents and your partner is even character-wise far away from you let alone your parents. Though, at times what they do that is yielding positive result for them might also work for you too, but observation is key and change is imminent. Immediately you see things are not working the way they should have turned out, then you need to try something better. Because my parents don't eat together, yet, their relationship is blossoming does not mean if you try eating together with your partner yours will not be better. Your partner may even enjoy that as a means of bond between you two. You must be ready to try new things different from that of your parents', don't be enslaved by the way their union as turned to either positive or negative as it may not suit your style at the long run or that of your partners', remember the foundation and the individual involved differs. You only need to apply wisdom in all you do. You need to prove you've gotten the best home training ever, this will only show when you apply wisdom in yor relationship to bring the best out of it. Not only that the ways they do in the olding days is completely different from this century alone, but because a man's food might be the cause of death for another. We are not equal on some certain parameters, thorough observation of one's partner will direct on the part to take for a long lasting relationship. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/06/build-unique-formula-for-your.html |
| Romance / Most Women Are Moved By What They Hear - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:05pm On Jul 12, 2017 |
Talking about what woman loves. Little wonder they are easily deceived by just words of mouth. They are strong in appearance but weak at the sound of words for those men that can swing sweet words together. Though your appearance as a man can be the first criteria to judge you, however, the words that comes out of your mouth to a woman is deadlier than the look. Don't blame some women if you see them have a man who is neither handsome nor rich, the weapon is the tongue. At least, if you don't have the money it is better you are skilled at making good use of words for the woman you want and love. Women loves to be complimented and appreciated not just before they are married but also during marriage. They want you to say they are pretty even when it is obvious to the blind man their appearance is not appealing, they don't mean to ask you to stop when you are giving them all sorts of compliments. If you really love and cherish your woman you should try to appreciate and compliment them always with good words, remind them what you told them from the beginning before they accepted your marriage offer. Tell them thank you when they sneeze. Tell them the odour of their fart is pleasant just like their look(please for the beautiful ones, you are on your own if otherwise), let your words bring them up when they are down. Let them hear plenty remarkable words from you so that when they hear little outside they know you shower them with lots and best of it at home. Sweet words is a weapon to win any woman no matter if single or not, so, if you don't want to fall victim let her hear more and the best of it from you often. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/most-women-are-moved-by-what-they-hear.html |
| Family / Re: Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 6:44am On Jul 09, 2017 |
Anextin:didn't specify the cause, it's been so many things, cheating is just one. |
| Family / Re: Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 8:33pm On Jul 08, 2017 |
prettyblaqy:disgrace is even understatement. |
| Family / Re: Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 8:31pm On Jul 08, 2017 |
Nofuckgiven:Haba! Never said it is a must, but what is the essence leaving with flimpsy error na. |
| Family / Re: Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 8:05pm On Jul 08, 2017 |
asuustrike2009:thanks for that correction. |
| Family / Re: Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 7:17pm On Jul 08, 2017 |
Richy4:lol, i know you understand what i mean here. |
| Family / Re: Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:00pm On Jul 08, 2017 |
Benita27:You are right though. Apart from celebrity marriages you really need to go to court and see how people are just filing for divorce any how when they can easily settle the issue within the four walls of their home, this is common among young couples. I think TRADELYNis right for this TRADELYN: 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 4:12pm On Jul 08, 2017 |
Richy4:Thank you. The point is that there is limit to tolerance, not all cases should someone say i am no more interested. Some people think they married a spirit that is meant to be perfect forgetting human will be human and bound to make mistakes. Of course there is nothing you can do when your partner is taking your meekness for stupidity. 2 Likes |
| Family / Divorce Should Not Always Be Solution To Marital Troubles - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 2:32pm On Jul 08, 2017 |
I saw people blasting Toke Makinwa on a post on her twitter timeline about Jay Z " When is JayZ coming on Twitter oooo, we have some questions, he cheated on our queen, ha! My chewest! HOV is back ya'll" and it took me googling about celebrity marriages especially those that refused to crashed on the basis of cheat. Unfortunately, I couldn't find any search result for celebrity marriages in Nigeria that survived after cheat was detected, all i saw was endless list of celebrity marriages in Nigeria that cheat crashed. Going abroad, Bill and Hillary Clinton never gave up on their marriage after Bill had what he termed "inappropriate Relationship" with Monica Lewinsky. Snoop Dogg and Shante even after Snoop Dogg admitted to have cheated several times never put an end to their marriage; They celebrated 21 years of their union of recent. Even David Beckham and Victoria Beckham are still fine together after it was reported that Beckham had a fling with his personal assistant Rebecca Loos. The list abroad is endless. Coming home, Olu Jacobs and Joke Silver, Soni and Betty Irabor, Patrick and Ireti Doyle, Omotola Jalade and Matthew Ekeinde, Richard and Jumobi Mofe-Damijo, Fela and Tara Durotoye are all still some of the numerous celebrity couples who are still much more enjoying marital life after at least 5 years. Come to think of it, some of those Nigerian celebrities i mentioned above started their marriage at an early age, and you cannot say one or more out of them have not experienced the case of cheat in the marriage but you can only know what they want you to know, they make use of the social media wisely unlike some others who allowed the social media to give their marriage hot slap. Apart from the fact that they have taken their relationship out of social media they are also dealing with the temptations and other issues that might lead to divorce which many of us don't know and will never know, this is what we should call maturity and not those that will be happy to have started the marriage and before you say jack they will have started screaming i want divorce. Most times it is not the wish of your spouse to do things that will go against your marriage but it will have happened before they realise that they had made huge mistake. Most people thinks marriage is as sweet and rosy like many people in marriage makes it to appear not knowing many are enduring so many things while many have given their spouse more than another chance. It all depends on the dream you have for the marriage most times and determination as "Survival of a marriage depends on the intention of the two involved, not the temptation that comes their way". I am never in support of cheating, battery or other anti-marriage offences, but it is good to know that as human beings we are bound to make errors and it is divine to forgive each other especially lovers. Read Also: Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Start A Relationship I think when someone accept his/her fault and is offering apology we should try and forgive, i don't really care if you forgive immediately or not because as humans that we are it will also be so hard to find a space in our heart to forgive certain offence. It is not every issue that requires divorce, we should learn to manage since we could not decide to fall apart while courting, that same spirit that mate the courtship to culminate into marriage should also be activated to make the marriage work. There is no successful marriage without one negative story or the other, it is not always rosy, we should learn to deal with the good, bad and ugly experiences of marriage. We should always remember we are humans and boud to make mistakes and it could be anybody Cc: Lalasticlala Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/divorce-should-not-always-be-solution.html 18 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family / How Do You And Your Spouse Handle Disagreements And Dispute? by bamisepeters(m): 1:01pm On Jul 07, 2017 |
Today, i would like to hear from those married men and women how they handle that argument, disagreement and even how they settle after a big dispute with their spouse . I know it is not easy to be with someone else for so long without disagreement because. It is not easy with siblings nor friends let alone someone you never grew up with together. This topic is for married couples, and not that it is just for those married alone, it is for everyone to learn what is keeping some home stronger amidst all issues. There are those that are not planning to marry and those planning to do so any moment soon who can learn from experience of those who are married. Do not underestimate the impact the experience can make in the home of many, what you are keeping might be what another needs to rebuild their about-to-break home, please do not hesitate to share and feel free to ask questions while the person the question is targeted to should also not hesitate to answer. Let's learn from each other, what works for you might work for someone else too, possibly with a twist. Please, how do you and your spouse handle disagreements and dispute? Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/how-do-you-and-your-spouse-handle.html |
| Romance / There Is A Limit To Relationship With An Ex - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 9:23pm On Jul 04, 2017 |
I read a story of someone who impregnated his current lover and his ex lover almost the same time which is source of this post. I think many people don't know what it means when you refer to someone as ex this days. You see people calling themselves ex, yet, they contact each other through call or social networks indiscriminately. You here them calling themselves pet names and still inviting each other over to their home. No matter what led to the break-up i think the distance between the two should be completely wide because we are talking about emotion here. This is common among those who when they were still dating they make love often and possibly their new found lover is not as good as their so called ex in bed. I also observe that most ladies that are dis-virgined by a guy before they break-up find it hard to move on with the new found lover most times. All this nonsense should just stop already as you don't need to go back to your vomit. When you say bye bye to a lover let it remain that way. Some will even go as far as blackmailing their ex just to do the thing with the ex. Haba! When you know you care about the ex why did you allow the person to become an ex, why not do all to keep the person? I am not saying you should talk, call to greet or say Hi once in a while, but nothing else apart from greeting should come up one you have decided to turn each other to ex. You need to think about the emotional reaction of your new lover when dealing with an ex, no one will be happy to hear that their partner is still having secret affair with their ex and learn some simple ways to get over an ex To have decided to move on it means the new found lover is better than the ex, therefore, nothing should make anything secret come up between you and your ex. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/07/there-is-limit-to-relationship-with-ex.html |
| Romance / Your Ex Might Be Bad For You But The Best For Someone Else by bamisepeters(m): 10:30am On Jul 04, 2017 |
Have you checked yourself? Have you made adjustment towards the noticeable error(s) of your last relationship which prompted your partner to conclude you are the wrong person he/she has ever met? Despite the fact that the two parties may not want to accept the fall in the relationship, while one is claiming to be right at the expense of the other to anyone who cares to listen, you must have learnt one or two lessons which should help in your next relationship. The obvious truth is that your partner might have been the worst you have met but they are the best to their current spouse. Have you ever thought about the fact that not all the people you come across are meant for you even when you think or make them to be for you? This however, is the worst thing to do because regret precedes it. No matter how you make somebody be for you when you are not meant to be associated with the person you will just run a race of no finish lane. The first time you come across your partner, they are the best you ever met, you think you are destined to be together not until the unthinkable starts pushing itself to reality. It's a must a man and a woman go into courtship before marriage for familiarity purpose. After you try making it work and its not working out then the door is still wide open since it's not been sealed, not in a childish manner, but maturely before it gets out of hand or when it will be problematic to be dotted (you know when i mean). With this, the two parties have learnt something which will make each of them to be a better person in the future relationship rather than managing. Though, tolerance is one important characteristic of a good relationship, but once the tolerance is taken for granted somebody isn't meant for the other, but trying to make it work when the seal is done is the biggest problem because the two parties knows that it will be difficult to desolve the union. There is a man for every woman who will tolerate you in any circumstances you find yourself, but because you dont want to be a ball, you dont want to risk because may be you think you might not cope emotionally, then you want to endure the pain forever which isn't meant for you anyways. There is no rosy relationship. All relationships with its own ups and downs but the way you and your partner deal with it matters. I know a great couple that had mutual misunderstanding when they were courting, the issue lasted for almost a year but later things came back into shape and they got over it. The two were ready to depart but naturally they are meant for each other. This is to say that, when two people are meant for each other, no matter how hard they try to separate each other it will never work because they are meant for each other. Risk taking is another characteristic that makes a unique family. Don't be afraid to take risk because once you are afraid to take the risk then you will face the danger associated with not taking the risk for the rest of your life. Don't feel your partner will term you bad simply because you want the best for yourself, but the truth is that you want the best for him/her also since the two of you might not be happy being together in the boundage for the rest of your life.. Many man/woman have been termed bad by their ex, go to their matrimonial home now they are the apple of their spouse's eyes and the best mum/dad in the whole universe to their offspring. Don't make the mistake that will ruin your life by not taking risk. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2014/10/your-ex-might-be-bad-for-you-but-best.html |
| Romance / When A Woman Loves You She Does Completely - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 7:42pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Unlike the men, when a woman loves you she is committed to you whole-heartedly, she is ready to go any length just for you alone. When she loves you, no matter the circumstances, she will always stay with you because the love is unconditional in the first place. It is not in the amount of money you have nor your looks and neither is it the size of your manhood. You find out that even in your weakness they find strength, and they do all it takes to keep you to themselves alone not minding the cost. The only condition for this kind of woman is for the man to stay completely loyal in order not to provoke her loyalty. This kind of woman can also go any length to destroy any man once they notice his disloyalty. They don't care if what they will do to him will lead to eternal poverty for their family, all they know is that when you don't have the resources to maintain the relationship you are building with those ladies outside your marriage you will stop messing around. Especially when she was completely supportive when there was nothing till you conquered nothingness. In short, they are "capable" of killing you if proper steps are not taken, she doesn't know when she is reacting but her eyes will be crystal clear after the result. It is better to just stay loyal to a loving wife except if agreed otherwise due to reasons best known to you. If it is a curse for you to run after other girls it is advisable you are smart about it, the day she out smart you is the end because a woman that don't even care about what you do outside your relationship can destroy you let alone the one that is completely devoted. Accepted that she will only have to cope with your mistake in case you put a woman in the family way, but it will not be easy to calm her to accept the reality. Fire is not a good thing to play with you know  Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/10/when-woman-loves-you-she-does-completely.html |
| Romance / Re: 6 Secrets Your Man Won't Let You Know - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 3:40pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Akinbahm:lol, world warIII looming. |
| Romance / Don't Let Your Job Ruin Your Relationship - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 1:05pm On Jul 03, 2017 |
Well done to those men and women who are responsible for all the positives in their home or relationship. It is not easy to sustain the home and the relationship especially with the hard labour required of the places of work where the resources to maintain the home and the relationship is coming from. Jobs available this days requires more time and commitment considering the economic brouhaha. Companies want more than the best from their workers to be untop of their game due to various competitions staring at their faces. The job is important, so also the relationship and keeping the home is important as well, because even your relationship or your home can give you the happiness you desire to carry on working. Yes, to manage the relationship and your home requires the gains from the job but you can't make the job your spouse. Well, we have some people determined to be single till death take them but what about you who wants a home? There should be time for everything, your job is important so also your home. Though understanding makes two tangle but playing with the intelligence or understanding of the other in a relationship may cost you dearly. When you love someone and you don't wish to lose that person, then you have to do all it takes to balance everything up. Apart from the physical job you do, take your relationship or home as another job which you must not toil with. The life span of your job is higher than the life span of you yourself let alone your relationship or your home. Also, do not let the issues causing you discomfort at work to affect your relationship and home. Job and relationship are two different things that must not be mixed up, because some bosses might get you angry or even some clients/customers. No matter how much you make, if you don't have time for your relationship or your home you are calling for strange visitor who is not earning what you are earning or not earning at all. You should always create time to spend with your home as the happiness derived from your home makes you a better human at work. Two huge things that can be managed together without issues that will also give you happiness to manage them together if properly handled is your home and your work. Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/07/don-let-your-job-ruin-your-relationship.html |
| Romance / 6 Secrets Your Man Won't Let You Know - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 8:33pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Truth be told, the content in the link above might be true to all men, but if it is accepted to be true then i don't think it is secret anymore or should i say there is nothing you can do to it than to play on. As the ladies hides those secrets, men also have there's that they will never let their girlfriend know about. Here are six of them: 1. When they admire another girl Of course you will not expect them to tell you they have any kind of feelings towards another lady since they will not want to lose you. This is when they start telling you why you are better than that girl walking along meanwhile they want you to feel as if you are the only girl that exist in the planet and in other not to make you feel they find the other girl attractive. 2. They are jealous more than you To the men, they know if they make mistake it is not new on the planet as so far they have the resources to cater for more than one woman they are good to go. Most times, they prove they care less about you especially when they see you with another man they have never seen you with or heard you talk about with them. They know at times you might have a crush which you will never tell them, they are always afraid that you might quickly grow feelings for another man since they know they won you through sweet words and they know many men can do more than they did, meanwhile, they will make you believe if you leave them they can still go out and pick another. 3. Without money you can't stay They know you love them, but at the back of their mind it is what you see that is keeping you with them, once they are down they think you can never endure. They will never tell it to you directly, they know you will not be happy that you say it to them that the love is money motivated, but they can say it to other girls or their friends that without money no good wife. 4. What their ex is doing differently from you (they don't want you to feel insecure) They left the ex because they need to move on. Men will always hide those things their ex did better than you from you. You can call it being loyal to you, but at times, they can for that fact prefer her than you even when they know deep down they cannot go back to her because you will hardly see a man go back to his vomit even if that is the last thing. Or as a woman, how will you feel if your man says his ex is a better cook or he lays the bed better? We know you cannot take it, men are peace lovers. 5. How much they really worth Yes, there is nothing about him you don't know, trust me, many men earn or have more than the amount you think they have. Most men knows that even if a woman is rich, she will always want to collect from the man till they sees he is in the red zone. And they know that if you know all the amount they have and if suddenly you notice he has nothing more when you have asked for something, then, you will want them to be accountable for all they did with the money despite the fact that it is their's. Men spend on miscellaneous too (drinks, tiny legged girls and some other things they might not want you to know about). 6. Almost like the women, his pal knows what is hidden to you You think he shares all is secrets with his you? No man will open his mouth that his friend knows him more than you his mirror. No matter how hard you try to make him think you are the only true confidant, that friend still has edge over you even by just 1% because no woman has the mind to hear nor know some risks taken by the men. Or if he has a girlfriend outside or even another woman outside with a child who do you think will know first? Though, you might find out later but the friend is his accomplic Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/09/6-secrets-your-man-wont-let-you-know.html |
| Romance / Re: Don't Service Someone Else's Partner If Yours Should Be Untouchable by bamisepeters(m): 7:40pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
Gbemishile1:nice one. |
| Romance / Re: Don't Service Someone Else's Partner If Yours Should Be Untouchable by bamisepeters(m): 7:38pm On Jul 02, 2017 |
achieverme:thanks for your comment, you shouldn't take it personal na bros, out of nonsense there is an iota of sense you know! It doesn't even need to make sense to everyone, your comment is a push for me to do more, maybe the next you will see will make sense to you, i want to believe this is not for you that is the cause of your reaction. Thanks once more bro. |
| Romance / Re: Don't Service Someone Else's Partner If Yours Should Be Untouchable by bamisepeters(m): 7:30pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
itsJude:we have catch them, when they are the culprit is when they will start telling you how babyful they are.  6 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance / Re: Don't Service Someone Else's Partner If Yours Should Be Untouchable by bamisepeters(m): 7:28pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
naijaboiy: |
| Romance / Don't Service Someone Else's Partner If Yours Should Be Untouchable by bamisepeters(m): 5:01pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Naturally, humans are insatiable, when we have the best we still wish to have another best and on like that. Little wonder there are more broken homes this days due to cheating either by the man or the woman despite the increase in relationship counselors like many people will say. This is not particular to a certain gender anymore like we use to have the male cheating most times in those days, women are now proving to men they can do better. The funny thing is that those that are cheating are the ones always on the tail of their partner just because they themselves are not clean. They love their own partner to be reserved while they perform all sorts of miracles in bed with someone else's partner and will then come back home like saint. They know all the moves as they are deep in the act, yet, they don't want their partner to be tasted by someone else. If your partner shouldn't enjoy or be enjoyed why not just leave other people's partner alone? I know no matter how hard we preach some people will never listen as cheating is innate to them. Even when they are not looked for they themselves will turn on the Searchlight as they are never satisfied with anything and neither can they endure with the little they have, they want everything in their partner forgetting no Mr or Mrs right. You cannot swallow your cake and still have it back as cake but waste. Learn to be loyal to your partner, you signed for better for worse, so, you don't need to enjoy the for better together and make him/her feel the pains of the worst alone. Even if you are cheating on your partner and your partner knows or otherwise and still loyal against all odds as he/she has accepted his/her fate, what will punish you will forever hunt you till you bite your fingers in regret. READ ALSO: 4 REASONS WHY SOME WOMEN CHEAT No Mr/Mrs right, this is why marriage is for two imperfect beings coming together to submit their ego in order to make themselves perfect for just each other. Leave other people's partner and make your home the perfect abode. Cc: lalasticlala, tosyn2much Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/12/don-service-someone-else-partner-if.html 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance / Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Start A Relationship - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:43am On Jul 01, 2017 |
Now-a-days, people enter into relationship for different reasons and intentions, some fails while some scale through. But before single people can fall into any relationship some questions must have been answered, these questions are as follows: 1. Are my really ready? Relationship involves commitment, concentration, care, etc. Have you asked yourself if you are really ready to also put your concentration on another being you are probably just trying to know? Will you be committed to the growth of the relationship? Are you really ripe for what you want to deep yourself into? Are you ready to bear all emotionally pains attached to heart break? 2. What exactly do I want? Yes, most of the times we know what we desire in our partner even before getting to know each other. I mean what attracts our attention in our partner because most of the times it is by what we see that prompts the instinct of our desires. Do you know your what you want in a partner? Even before building every other things to shape, some of the qualities you desire must have been seen in your partner. 3. Will I be contented? It is good to be contented with your choice of partner, though it is not easy but you have to scale through. You have chosen a chubby woman and you are looking at the skinny one on the street. You like her dress sense and you are still eyeing another who dresses even better, etc. Once you are in a relationship your eyes should be closed at other attractions. Yes, they will surely come but it is paramount that you are determined to be with the one you have chosen ahead of the rest till the end. 4. Will I be happy if my partner do what I do? This question looks simple but those that cheats will be able to interpret it well. You must be ready to answer this question if you want to have a successful relationship. Can my partner do whatever i do and will I be happy if I hear about it? If yes, then you are good to go, but most times the answer will come when you are already in the relationship. Even as the "toastee" you must consider those questions before accepting to any relationship proposal. You need to know that you will see the one better than your choice, it is not your choice that is the best among your point of attraction, there are many others, so you need to be determined to have a successful relationship with just that one you have chosen. I am not saying anything to scare anybody. This is what i think and you are free to think otherwise. But if you are still single then look at the questions critically if it is a long lasting relationship you want. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/06/questions-to-ask-yourself-before-you.html |
| Family / Your Marriage Failed Doesn't Mean Others Will Have Failed Marriage Too by bamisepeters(m): 8:17pm On Jun 29, 2017 |
Many marriages have collapsed due to one reason or the other. But in stead of the two people involved to move on with their lives, they start planting hatred of the opposite gender into their seed. Some single mothers do warn their female child(ren) to keep away from men so as not to face the same situations as their's. They are ready to go any length to see that they spoil the reputation of men just for their daughter not to go through what they have gone through that led to separation from their husband. Some single fathers are also alike. Because of what the wife did that led to break-up they try all in their capability to reduce woman to object of ridicule. In most cases, infidelity makes men to stay separated from their wife, and because of this they will paint all woman as same to their male child(ren) thereby seeing other woman as nothing to be taken too serious. Not all men are the same, so also, not all women are the same. If you say because of what a man or woman has done to you then nothing should work between those two genders then you are deceiving yourself greatly. So many homes are sweater than honey, yet, they consist of the different genders each of you are castigating, what will you do about that? Twins grew together in their mother's belly and came to the world almost together, yet, they behave differently in most cases. We all are not the same, we must be ready to give each persons room to prove themselves. Hasty generalization will lead to nothing but destruction. You only dealt with just an individual out of millions and you concluded that everyone of same gender behaviour. You Shouldn't expect everyone to make same mistake as you. Also, we are humans, fall is very possible, rising from the fall is what makes a man. Because we fail doesn't mean we cannot work to turn the situation around. Before making your conclusion you didn't even think about what you did wrong yourself that made your partner do what they did. Furthermore, what will you say about your friends and other people around who are married and are happy with the marriage? Yours fail didn't mean that of others will also fail, never compare your situation with others as we have different issues we contend with. Before you advice on marital issues remember to include those who are enjoying theirs and learn to be positive. I am not saying there are no wrong partners, of course there are many, but the issue is that you yourself might be the wrong person for your partner. It is better we walk on ourselves at times before castigating a partner. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/02/your-marriage-failed-doesn-mean-others.html |
| Romance / 7 Signs You Are In The Wrong Relationship - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 5:11am On Jun 29, 2017 |
Many relationships are not worth holding on to, many thinks they can still hold on to it, however, if you know your worth you will realize you need to end it for it not to end you. Some of the signs you should note that will not make your relationship stand includes: 1. When your partner don't believe in you My God! What are you still waiting for? And you think something can change that? No two ways about it, you are just being used pending the time that your partner will get a better replacement that he/she can believe in his/her potential. This happens to women majorly, i was shocked when i heard a man will always shun his girlfriend whenever she tries to speak English when he is around just because she is a drop out with statement like "is it your kind that speaks English language?". What else do you need to prove to you that you will suffer even if he marries you? It is abuse on your part if your partner don't believe in you if you don't know. 2. Your partner does not have your time You claim you are in a relationship and your partner is giving you negative attitude and forming to be busy more than Dangote or Otedola, you are on a very long thing if you don't run to that person who will cherish you and accord to you the time you desire. If you think a miracle will happen over night you can keep it going, no matter how busy someone will be if that person loves you they will always find time to be with you, don't be deceived. 3. When your partner is not proud to introduce you Yes, many have been introduced, yet, nothing good came up. It didn't end well not because you two are not serious about the relationship. At times destiny steps in and there is nothing anybody can do about. If you don't know, introducing you gives your partner the sense of responsibility? That alone has a lot attached to it for those who really mean business and not for children. If your partner keeps telling you it is not yet time, it might not be time till you die separately at old age. 4. Your partner is Stingy uncontrollably I am not saying your partner should give indiscriminately. But you will know when your partner is stingy. If it is the man, though you might end up in marriage but the future is very important, he will be stingy till everything get worst. Part of being caring is to give your partner freely when it matters. Please run for your dear life if your partner is stingy uncontrollably, it will affect you, the children and the family at large. 5. When your partner is jealous uncontrollably The fact remains that we are all jealous but we only control it. If that of your partner is uncontrollable, then you are in it for the worst experience ever as anything can happen, your partner can kill you if you are not careful. 6. Your partner don't give room for mistakes You need to watch it when your partner nags at every slight opportunity. Their should be room for errors, and this is why communication is necessary in any relationship. You are human and you are bound to make mistakes and also bound to be corrected as you are also bound to yield positive response towards the correction. Here, a man should not be too arrogant to be corrected, no one is above mistake. 7. When your opinion does not count Two heads they say are better than one. You should be allowed to make suggestion that will keep the relationship going. If it is only one out of two that is making decision it will affect the relationship. Do you know the way we handle our relationship also shows how we deal with people outside. If you are the type that is bossy in your relationship, you cannot be a good leader. If you keep going in such relationship you are heading into destruction. It is good to let your partner feel he/she is important when it comes to decision making in the relationship. Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/07/7-signs-you-are-in-wrong-relationship.html |
| Romance / 5 Things You Should Not Do For A Successful Relationship - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 8:13pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
We tend not to let go till the end even with so many temptations on the way when we get into serious relationship. This is how we were taught about relationship and also what we have seen among many happy couples. Remember, we look beautiful in a happy relationship. To prevent unhappiness here are some of the things we shouldn't do when we want our relationship to last. 1. DON'T COMPARE We all know we started from somewhere, your partner might not be your first, therefore, don't compare the one you have now with the one you once had or compare other relationships outside yours with your own. You don't know what those you are comparing yours with are going through. You are just seeing the physical part of other people's relationship, the one internal may not be bearable for you. Also, comparing relationships with your own will lower the self esteem of your partner and will see nothing good in your relationship. 2. DO NOT KEEP MALICE You too should be best of friends. Argument will arise definitely, you and your partner must be able to contain it in order for it not to get out of hand. 3. TRY NOT TO THINK OF YOURSELF ALONE Always remember you are not the only one in the relationship, you alone cannot make up a relationship. It is even better to think of your partner first. Thinking of yourself alone will not make the relationship grow. In fact, at a point it will just destroy all you built as it will make your partner to grow some other intentions that may destroy the relationship. 4. NEVER EXPOSE YOUR ROMANTIC MOMENTS Your romantic life should be private. No matter how close you may be to your friend, no matter the secret you share, try not to disclose your romantic experience with your partner to your friend because what you are enjoying/dislike might be opposite to your friend of which they might want to be part of that experience. Remember human beings can go extra miles to achieve whatever they desire. Not all foods should be given to your friends. 5. NEVER KEEP LOOSE FRIENDS The friends you keep also determines how long your relationship will go. And the way you respond to pressure also determines the longevity of your relationship even when you have the bad ones as your friends. The best thing is to be careful of the advice you take from friends and the kind of attitude you emulate from your friends as it can shape or destroy your relationship. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/07/5-things-you-should-not-do-if-you-want.html |
| Romance / 6 Avoidable Causes Of Fight In A Relationship - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 2:28pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
Depending from one relationship to another and also from one individual to another. It is not until you start beating each other you fight, exchange of negative words can also be fight. There are many things that can cause fight in a relationship or marriage, here are some of them: 1. Understanding Relationship without proper understanding can cause not just fight but war. 2. Opposite sex This causes fight when one or the two people involved get extremely jealous. 3. Food This might not really cause fight in the western world like my blog readers over there corrected me, but in Africa, if your cooking is bad as a woman fight is imminent between you and that man that loves fresh food made by his woman. Not just about the love making, the kitchen must also be an important part of any responsible African wife, or else she will be rivaled by another kitchen addict. 4. Money This is needed to keep a relationship or marriage alive as it services it. You need to buy things, feed the home and all, when there is no money to buy the needed at the right time fight is bound to happen. Read Also: 8 Avoidable Causes Of Marriage Failure 5. Argument Despite the fact that argument makes relationship stronger, it can also cause serious fight. This is why you need to be able to control it, if he doesn't give up for you just give up for him for peace, and remember to choose your words rightly or else... 6. S3x This happens among married couple, especially when one of the two is in the mood and the other is not. For some people, it takes them so much time to be satisfied and for the other person it is as early as you can imagine, obviously there is a problem and this can lead to serious issue. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/06/6-avoidable-causes-of-fight-in.html
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| Romance / Marriage With Someone Who Has No Relationship Experience - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 10:59am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Unlike job opportunity or other things in life, experience doesn't matter in relationship. What do we even call experience in relationship? We have some people who will start a relationship today and after they had explored the other person they dissolve the relationship, will you call this experience too? Either you are experienced or not, it doesn't make your relationship successful or weak. Often times we have seen people with undisputable experiences in relationship, yet, their relationship and even marriage is nothing to write home about, while many people who don't have that slight experience are even still enjoying blessed union. It all depends on the mindset and the individuals involved. At times, determination to do things right pushes some people to do exploit in their union. You don't need to start looking for someone with 3 years of relationship experience for an affair, or else, you will lose the right person for you in the name of experience. Relationship and marriage requires everyday learning, what you learn from your first lover will definitely be different from the new lover. Also, even with that same person it takes time to understand each other perfectly. It is a continuous learning process, this is why experience cannot count for relationship as there is no standard. Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/06/marriage-with-someone-who-has-no-prior.html |
| Family / Re: Most Women Respect Spiritual Leaders Than Their Husband - Bamisepeter's Blog by bamisepeters(m): 9:21pm On Jun 27, 2017 |
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