Dollabiz:
fact is the only reason why many nigerian ladies remain single is because they are lazy and looking for mr right man who will solve all their problems and family problems..many will wait forever and many will take decisions out of desperation by settling for less when mr right fails to turn up

You are right.

helinues:
@op all this your write up is based on a religious good girl. How about good girls who are not religious?

In this part of the world being a good girl has religious backing, i am sure you know my boss.

sewa36447:
Please I need an advice, I am seriously confused.
My EX BF Friend is seriously asking me out for over 7 Months now. I broke up with my EX in 2017, before we broke up, i paid him a visit and spend one week. It was during the visit that this his Friend saw me and after then we started talking casually without knowing that he has interest in me because his GF will get married soon. I am also close to the GF then before she got married in January 2018. The house my EX BF took me to is the same house this his friend that is asking me out is staying because my EX have not rented an apartment then. Now, his friend is serious asking me for relationship and also said he want to marry me which i have accepted but i need an advice. I have already called my EX Bf and inform him that his friend is asking me out. This his friend is too carling and he calls many times every day. Now, he has been asking me to visit him because we have been talking on Phone for months now and he has been talking care of some of my bills. The house he want me to visit him is the same house I visited my ex bf in 2017, the place is own by him. I don’t know what to do.
Your good advice will be highly appreciated.
Thanks

If it is real, just be observant as that friend might just be acting on what he heard. Be very vigilant.

I read a writeup on why good girls remain single by Nelson Asuen as share here by sauta and i concluded on writing this. He made justice to the writeup but left it a bit confusing at the end especially with the example given.

Not just bad girls are those getting married each weekends. What about the bad turned good and then the good ones? No one will stop you from getting married if you can learn how to get your better half as it is not like the time of our fathers and mothers where nothing attractive appeals to most of them.

Now, no matter how ugly you think you are which i know no woman is ugly, you will find your own man so far you can be confident with whatever make-up and clothing you put on, you need to look good and smart, you need to mingle and not secluded in the name of being righteous

Not all good girls remain single and not all bad girls get married...
Here are some reasons some "good ladies" remain single:

1. They believe their own man must come from their religion

Very good, you pray to whatever God you serve for husband, but you have forgotten God can send anyone to you as your better half. You have also forgotten the fact that someone believing in same religion with you doesn't make them good for you or even a better man for you.

Think outside the box, there are different men outside your religion that will make life worth living for you better than those in same religion as you, your religious leader can not save you when you enter the wrong home.

Same as those waiting for someone in same religious home as them to take them as wife, i am not saying it is not possible, of course we have seen cases of such happening, but yours might not be same as that, think outside the box.

2. Hiding who they are

This is just common in our religious homes among those ladies who are ripe enough to marry but are still much single, they hide who they are from men.

This is one of those reasons you see men shying away from ladies in same place of worship with them. In fact, this days, religious leaders get angry when guys from their place of worship bring woman from other places as wife, it will keep on happening as ladies of this days pretends a lot, meanwhile most men want to know the worst side of them before moving closer as men of this days loves to see new good attributes outside religion in you when it comes to choosing life partner so as to know what they want to face and how to face it. They know you can pray, you can sing like angels, but they want to know those other things you can do as being too religious get us bored when you get home.

Some of you might be asking how they will know those other sides without talking to you or having a date with you...

How will they come to you when you always frown at men in your place of worship? How will they come to you when it is so obvious in your character that knowing them will make you derail from heavenly race?

You do all these in the place of worship but you are something else outside, you better wakeup.
You have to mingle and free to attract them, it is when you attract them you then screen some out as you cannot know them when your attitude is chasing them.

3. Because they are a Virgin they also want him clean

Most virgins look out for men that are also as holy as themselves, this makes them keep searching till eternity.

Being a virgin is soo nice, however, it doesn't mean you will get a man who has never done it in his life. If you get one, very good, but you should give room for those that have done it before.

Being a virgin doesn't mean the man is good too and because he has done it before doesn't make him unholy, don't forget he can decide not to tell you he has done it and you will not know the truth maybe for life.

4. Their shoulder is so high

You are not the type that can succumb to authority and you think men will look at you for a second, you are only deceiving yourself.

Naturally, men want to be the head in all ramifications, if you are still richer, some will still overlook, no man will overlook when you have an uncontrollable character.

Men want a woman that will listen and obey them. See, Now-a-days, most women don't even listen to all commands by their man, this doesn't make them bad, but the fact that they are married their husband will just overlook those attitude they portray ones in a while as they are also human.

So, even if you want to make some decisions ones in a while just show to him he can control you during that time you need a man, and you must be willing to obey his command, every other thing will fall in place.

5. Some call decency nudity

Some of these ladies will dress and you will be shocked. To them, dressing smart and decent means nudity.

Men of Now-a-days can not stand it when your dressing is not appealing whatsoever. See, the way you dress, make-up adds to your beauty, no matter how bad you look, your dressing and the make-up will reset your looks. You don't need to expose any part of your body, neither do you need to put on sack in the name of looking holy.

Using makeup will not make you lose heaven, you can make it light and it will complement your beauty, making it heavy can even cause confusion as when you visit your man and you clean the heavy makeup he will be confused, so, light makeup will go a long way, look good and completely smart and decent.

I did not only mention reasons some ladies are still single, i have also given the solution, so if you fall in any of those categories you need to rethink before it is too late. Don't forget, those people term bad are getting married every weekend, how much more you that is humble and all good! Please, this year shouldn't pass you by.


Source: https://bamisepeters..com/2019/01/5-reasons-some-ladies-remain-single-for.html

Lonestar124:
But family planing is a mutual agreement, one party can keep it hidden alone and if it happen to be that the lady has been aborting my baby without my consent at the same time giving flimsy excuse for such act, I'll sincerely abort her also.

My opinion.

marvin906:
If she was aborting my children without my knowledge for six years and I finally find out..
No need for too much talk..
Straight eviction

What are you guys saying? Aborting your baby for 6 years, how?

abiolamitodun:
a guy was dating a lady and he asked for sex and she denied him sex and said until they are married..eventually they got married after four years of there courtship... they had sex on their honeymoon and only to notice she wasn't a virgin and he forgave her and after a year no child and they went for medical checkup and notice nothing was wrong with the both of them but she was on family planing for six years and its after six years before she could give birth

I know many will ignore your post.

At least when they started was when she told him no sex till after marriage. You didn't tell us if the lady told him she was a virgin.

Now they married after 4 years she told him what she wanted, you also failed to tell us when she used the family planning drugs and the reason for using it, so don't expect us to start filling the gap.

Well, it is asumption according to you, not reality, please assume rightly.

Meta4element:
When next you are making love to her...use a C0nd0m and cover your second and middle finger..Dip it into that place...just try bring it close to her Nose...ofcouse she will ask you "Did you put your fingers inside gutter?"...Show her the place the gutter smell is coming out from..watch her reaction..if she's sobber?..please try help her..carry her visit a doctor...if she flares up?... dump her silly ass...As a man it will be a sad thing if we are to wake up one-day and see a topic on nairaland "Man dies due to Suffocation from Rotten fish smelliny kitten"...


#SayNoToRottenFishSmellyPu$$y"

Do you know that most ladies with smelly private part don't know? In fact, dipping your fingers into her and asking her to perceive will not even smell to her.

The best is for the man to table the matter like a responsible man that i want to believe he is and then get cure. It will only be hard if the lady insist there isn't problem when obviously there is. Cc:PraisePiano.

made4naijamusic:
Bizarre Moment Cheating Husband Caught In Matrimonial Bed With 22 Year Old Lady

Watch video

source :

https://www.made4naija.com/2018/12/bizarre-moment-cheating-husband-caught-in-matrimonial-bed-with-22-year-old-lady-video/

Now, which is bad among the 3 (married man, matrimonial bed or the 22 years old lady)? Because the way your topic sounds, the 22 year old girl is just like a baby.

Forget about the 22 years old lady, focus on the bad act and even on the matrimonial bed as the lady is old enough to decide.

Soccer for me.




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chijokz:

My thoughts exactly..I had the same argument with a friend who wanted to get into the e-commerce market. I warned him not to try it because fundamentally most Nigerians prefer to see and feel what they are buying and then negotiate well before parting with their cash which is not obtainable online.

I know i usually face this issue with the customer, but most willnot understand that these physical market you are talking about are still selling items from online stores.

dvdami:
Jumia, in a bid to survive, has flooded the online space with inferior goods being sold by its Chinese merchants called Jumia Global.


This development has further depleted the little trust that Nigerians had in online marketplaces.

Many of us bought highly inferior goods from Jumia Global last year and may never buy anything online again due to that.

well said, however, this can happen when you don't have someone who can give you firsthand info about any item you are ordering from Jumia, it is not supposed to be so though, but that is the situation of things.

I tried readinf the post all over again after reading all comments. With what i have read most people concluded already that she lost the job meanwhile she was told same thing they usually tell everyone either successful or not as she mifht be called later with the good news.

Accepting the offer for food to me is subjective as she might have her reason(s) be it medical or otherwise (we shouldn't forget that she was delayed which resulted to that offer, if she had not taken the food and something unexpected happened minutes later, only if she is alive is ehen she can share the experience as anything can happen at anytime).

The stain might affect the decision, but she might be considered if her performance during the interview was superb.

We shouldn't conclude she didn't get the job just yet as it is so obvious the post is talking about the conversation that took place immediately after the interview.

This has been a controversial issue since time immemorial, and this post is my little view about it, please don't read alone, share it and add your opinion as a tree doesn't make a forest.

Personally, i think at the age of 18 anyone is mature enough to start a relationship as such person is expected to be able to handle emotional trauma attached to relationship.

Break up is just one of those issues that might warrant questions when it comes to early relationship as many young ones at a tender age don't really know what they want yet.
We should also not forget that getting into relationship at an early age can affect one's concentration when it comes to education.
Several people started relationship early which worked for them while it led to early destruction for many who could not handle it.

Relationship doesn't recognize age or size of anyone, maturity matters.

There are so many people we consider to be small whereas the way they reason is far better than those we consider to be elderly.

Many people also cannot deal with the submission of ego and familiarity with just one person for too long while some others find it hard to tolerate someone else.

The truth is that we all know our limits and this should guide some of the decisions we make.

I mentioned 18 years as the appropriate age to start a relationship, this is because 18 years is the recognized maturity age in the laws of most countries.

This is not to say those younger than that cannot start too, and this should not be a yardstick to start one in case you are younger and not into any relationship and you are reading this.

Now-a-days, the younger ones are growing faster and are beginning to think and act faster than the older ones, this is where the duties of the parent especially the mother should come in for regulatory purpose.

I think the mother most times are closer to children and this should lead to friendship so as to be the first to know about issues affecting the child(ren), remember, the iron-hand formula cannot deter children of this age from early relationship.

Relationship shouldn't be an excuse for failure because no one forced anyone into it.

I read a thread on Nairaland about a guy who was thinking of breaking up with a girl who happened to be a strong force towards his good grade achievement in the University because the girl kept blaming herself and the relationship for the cause of the drop in GP of the guy.

Many first class graduates were in relationship even from the beginning of their universal education and managed it to the end. To me, those who managed the relationship and education well can multi-task greatly (personal opinion �).

You need to know yourself before making any decision as it might lead to negative end when you start what you cannot handle.

Relationship is for those that are emotionally, physically and mentally mature and not child's play.


Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2018/01/the-right-age-to-start-relationship.html

Many of us including companies, organizations, institutions with associated facebook page for the purpose of making our customers/clients and those people that likes our page to see posts we put on the page needs this.

You don't need to promote your page to get more likes anymore as facebook will no more show whatever you put on your page to those who liked the page anymore as in line with the new development announed and activated last week.

For your posts on your page to be seen by anyone, it must be boosted/promoted with your money.

This is what i think you need do now:


You need to start using personal facebook account and start making new friends on facebook. To get your page post seen by those who are your friends on facebook, just share that page post to your timeline through facebook app or any other browser and not through the facebook page application (the application will only share it to your page again).

With this, you need to make more friends on facebook as facebook will only be showing your facebook friends whatever you post directly on your timeline.

Your page post will be seen by not just those that liked your page, but everyone you choose through targeting when you have the money to promote or boost it.

Remember, Whatsapp status is another way to get your customers (those you saved their number and those of them that saved your number) to see those items on Jumia that you want them to see for possible order.

I hope this helps

Source:
http://www.bamisepeter.com/2018/01/important-action-to-take-to-get-your.html

XingXhang:
What happens on the internet, stays on the internet. It doesn't cross over.

Only concerned about the quoted, my boss, i don't agree with you on this, we have all seen the influence of social media not just on religious ground, but political and matrimonial levels.

At this age, whatever starts from social media don't stay there alone but stand as yardstick and even ladder to to which the issue climbs to reality.

DanielGb:

Oga bamisepeters reverse this statement. Men serve God more than woman. Woman are church goers, looking for solution to problems.

issokey boss

ubunja:
i love threads like this
good post bro.when u find time can u do a post on why sluts come to church to retire? an indepth post.
thanx

in draft already.

Opening of doors of great opportunities and favour this week.

deebrownneymar:


I think that term is wrong bro. was she in captivity or something?

ok boss, i understand.

deebrownneymar:



What do you mean 'liberate'? I think that word is too strong.

isn't that what many term education? And even apart from that it can be freedom from financial dependency as some men don't mind setting up a store for his woman and the likes.

The problem of most women when it comes to relationship and the only reason that brings fear to every man willing to liberate "his" lady is that most women are so flexible, as in, they can easily be twisted, not by anyone, but by what they want and this is the fear of many men when it comes to investing in the woman they claim to love especially when they want her to be a huge success for herself and their future family.

At times, some women makes it hard for some men to liberate them, it is after much investment have been made and it is time to rip the fruit of the labor story will start changing.

Here is the disturbing post…

“I’m a 26 year old woman and my parents died when I was 14 years old. I dropped out of school because no one could afford to pay my fees. I met a guy when I was 16 and he sent me back to school. He sold fruit on the street so that he could pay my school fees. He later got a job as a truck driver and sent me to university. I am now working as a lawyer. My problem is that I feel I cannot continue with this relationship because this guy is not the type of man I would like to marry one day. How best can I tell him that he is not my type without hurting his feelings? I want someone in my class not truck driver.”

At times some woman will see the show of love from that true man but will not feel reluctant to throw it at his face instead of embracing it so that someone else will not claim what they should have kept to themselves, and will start crying foul play when their new found lover is treating them like trash.

Now, look at this issue critically and tell me if the guy was at fault to have believed and invested in her all in the name of love?

Some women becomes all-knowing after they have been liberated. And to them it is liberation not knowing such liberation leads to nowhere than bondage. Some woman just get the opposite of your intention, this is what makes them what they are and even who they will later be.

I know some men are also like this but it is so disturbing after all your partner have done to make you happy to now make them look stupid instead.

The truth is that if she does not learn to love the man she will regret to have left him for someone she considers to be her type. This is because there is no amount she can return to the man that can replace the time, feelings and all that the man channeled towards her success.

I am not surprised to even see this as humans make series of mistakes, we will see wide road but will love to pass the bushy and narrow part looking for what is not lost.

Of course the man will get over it but he will surely laugh last as what she thinks is the best for her may be the road to complete destruction, and when the man will be laughing is when the reality of what she had done will become clearer to her which will definitely be too late to re-write her wrongs.

As human beings I think we need to start using our head and not allow this emotion to rule over our thinking faculty as what we want at times may not be destined for us and when we force it to come the result becomes disastrous; we should learn to manage what we have to get the best out of it rather than twisting what shouldn’t be twisted.

We need to be appreciative and also remember that giving money is not always the best way to show appreciation, other things are involved depending on the situation.


Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2018/01/a-must-know-single-reason-why-many-men.html

Unlike some selected men who believes they can get their better-half in the house of God, many other men don't look towards that direction due to one or more of the reasons below:

1. Fear of being monitored:

Many men don't like the fact that they are being monitored by a lady. They know that once you are attached with one lady in a particular area she will want herself to dominate everything that revolves around the man.

Even if the lady doesn't care about who the man moves or play with, he himself will want to thread with caution as he will not want to awaken the hanger of the lady he is in relationship with since things we don't even count to be anything may mean a lot to one's partner if not properly checkmated.

2. Pretense among brethren:

As we know that religious can make so many people look innocent, hence, to some men, it is dangerous to choose a wife from the church as you can not know the true character of anyone in the church.

Many takes the house of God as shield, so many things might have been hidden which will need serious familiarity before it can be unraveled.

Also, you cannot know the true attitude of the women till familiarity sets in which some churches might not even allow. You are seeing someone everyday, yet, you have not known the person in and out let alone someone you meet may be once in a week and even for few minutes.

3. Leaders Interference:

To so many of our men of God, once they sense that two adults are trying to get familiar with each other they try to interfere which is good not just for them but for the growth of the church as whatever happens will rather count for or against the church.

Most men don't want to go too far to the extent of making the leader to know about the relationship at the early stage as they might not have the intention to stay till death do them apart. Therefore, to avoid interference of any pastor, the man prefer to look for his kind of lady outside the church.

4. Fear of over spirituality:

It is almost a general belief that women serves God more than men. Some men don't want to look at any lady let alone approaching her in the church as they are afraid of having a complete SU who will take everything concerning church as priority at the long run.

Being spiritually filled is good but in this century there is need for caution so as not to open the eyes of your spouse to the world.

It is when some women are too spiritual they start monitoring the cloth they wear and every other thing that they apply for them to look attractive forgetting that they need to be in their best form to be relevant to their husband and that they can still apply everything and still look decent.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/12/4-why-most-men-look-outside-church-for.html

Hmmm!

Hmmm!

It seems many have forgotten that even before the inception of social media relationships have been experiencing issues leading to its breakup, we are only seeing many now because of the advent of social media and not because it is the cause.

Maybe we have forgotten the meaning of social media, you say people should keep their relationship away from social media forgetting it is part of those things that defines what social media is.

You say enmity between social media and relationship is second to non, yet, you flaunt your designer shoes, clothes, jewelries on it for people to know you have arrived, forgetting there are some people watching you who are not happy that you are enjoying life and will do anything to bring you down, but you think relationship should be hidden.

The funniest thing is that those that preach that relationship should be kept away from social media are those ones interested in seeing what others post while they keep mute, hence, you think they are not available, meanwhile they are available more than those that are posting.

Social media will not be interesting as it is without people posting about them for the purpose of those that truly care.

If you don't want people to know about you why not just stay off social media instead of killing the fun for those that are open?

The fact is that some people are quiet while some others are not and if you cannot tolerate each other there is no point being on social platform.

Relationship breaks not because of social media but because the two involved want it to fold up

Only when you are not sure of the future of the relationship is when you can still hold it to yourself so as to be able to make positive or negative decision as regards the relationship without the fear of anyone asking you about your partner they usually see with you on your social media timeline.

The only relationship we assume social media spoils this days is that of celebrities and this is because we take them to be god which they are not. We look at them as perfect being whereas they are as imperfect as we are as they are also humans.

They have the fan base and many bloggers feed on what ever goes around those celebrities. Hence, they make scene out of irrelevant issues because they know what the fans of those celebrities want to hear. In fact, they pray that they make mistake as it fetches them more traffic and you know the rest.

For a common man, they post pictures and everything that happens in their home on the internet with nobody looking at where they are because no one really cares.

If you can show to the world the latest gadget, car or wears you just acquired I think your partner deserves to be seen with you too, I am not saying every time but once in a while as it makes them feel important, not when you cannot censor what you share for people to see, If you mistakenly go naked they will watch it and you know how that will end.

The truth is that social media only expose how bad some people are at controlling themselves when they become famous. They cannot keep many things to themselves, they want you to see that they are also "there"and while trying to impress they start exposing their weakness for enemies to feast on which eventually destroys many things for them.

I am not seeing social media as enemy to relationship or happy home, we are the cause of whatever happens to us. Carelessness, ego and to know are major problems causing destruction to many relationships/marriages around us, until we can fight them, then we will have less issue as regard relationship break ups.

This is my opinion, kindly make your contribution as it is important to me.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/11/social-media-and-relationship.html

Please explain further.

Augustap:

Yea true. But most times, i say what goes for me. I know my self, nd i know how i'll handle each situation that comes.

your person will have been made obvious without the first line in your first comment on the thread, however, i appreciate your contribution.

GiantParrot:


Some of these fears are not strange. Some may be reasonably justified, depending on how risk averse the husband is. I'm going to present studies from the West with the premise that things that become the Western norm almost always find their way here, so they would apply here in the long run.

1. Higher earning women have higher divorce rates.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1310275/High-earning-wives-likely-end-divorce.html

3. 85% of affairs start at the workplace.
http://startupcamp.com/protect-workplace-affair/

More british women would like to be housewives than they would admit in public.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2324926/Majority-British-women-pick-housewife-having-career.html

Modern independent women are becoming more aggressive. Who wants such a woman?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3789957/Why-modern-women-aggressive-s-called-dark-equality-surge-respectable-women-flying-violent-rages-trivial-reasons.html

American women's subjective perception of their own happiness appears to have declined. Their grandmothers who were mostly housewives appeared to have a much better feeling of personal wellbeing...of course with the assumption of having a caring non-abusive husband. No one needs an unhappy wife.
https://ideas.repec.org/a/aea/aejpol/v1y2009i2p190-225.html

Quite related to the last point, more western women are having higher cases of suicides and antidepressant use. And this worse among the most liberated female demographic - the white women.
https://www.google.com.ng/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2016/04/22/health/suicide-rates-rise/index.html
https://www.google.com.ng/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/apr/26/suicide-rate-rising-american-women-cdc-report
https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1098023
Why would a risk averse man want to have a wife with a higher risk of suffering similar problems. Granted, correlation does not automatically imply causation. But it can be insightful.The workplace, especially in the private sector, is a tough, high pressure environment. It has to be a hellish experience for a woman to juggle between excellence at work, raising children to be well behaved and well cared for, and general quality care of the household.

Good men who want their women to be housewives during the children's tender years have reasons that are beneficial to all parties concerned - the man, the woman, and the children. Part-time employment, if not too stressful for the women, also makes sense.

By the way, being a housewife is not an idle vocation. It is very tasking to give quality care to the children and the home. There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed about being one as it has been the way of mankind before the battle of the sexes fueled by identity politics. A housewife married to a responsible, non-abusive hardworking man who appreciates the sacrifices she's making for him and his children will probably be among the happiest women in the world.

thank you.

Augustap:
All those things are stupid reasons.
1. A woman who loves you, would never disrespect you even if she's the president of a country.
2. There's no need to drag who the head should be. A man's role is never disputed or dragged except he's not man enough. And if his wife loves him, she should groom him into being a responsible head of the family.
3. Except you are marrying a new born child. Which stupid exposure, didn't she go to school, didn't she have friends. You better let her out, cos if she forcefully paves way for herself, you may not like the outcome.
4. It's not showing love in anyway. Let her exercise herself. Moreover, if something happens to you, how will your wife and kids survive? Let that woman hustle too, an idle mind is the devil's tool.
5. No woman would deny her husband sexual pleasure when she's been away from him and missed him for the whole day. She may be tired or even sick sometimes, but it's not gonna be frequent.
All these things, should not scare men, your wife is your wife. Unless you've decided to let another man have her

And you think I am talking about how it should be or the reality? We all know what is right but wealth can factory reset right to look stupid meanwhile to you, you are still on the right track. I will never support an idle woman but this might actually make some come back to their senses you know?

Just like I wrote in one of my posts that there is a limit to relationship with an ex, this is not because of the fact that because you are no more together then you have become enemies. You are never enemies, but in order to really move on after the break up there must be limitations to how you keep contact.

Here are five reasons why you should stop contacting your ex:

1. Getting over the feelings: The funny thing is that breakup is almost always been felt most by the person who loves more before the breakup. At times the two parties involved too might feel it but due to some circumstances that is above them they must end the relationship.

Now, to completely forget about the relationship in order to avert reawakening of any kind of feelings or to involve in any other sexual acts, the two must forget about contacting each other either through phone calls or instant messaging or other platforms if they really want to move on.

The moment you think you cannot move on is when you think you are still free to contact your ex, the moment you stop contacting each other the better you forge ahead as time wait for no man.

2. To pursue another life: Though it might not be easy to get over a relationship especially when you are the victim, but when your ex says he/she has lost interest in the relationship you should do all you can to move on.

You don't need to start contacting your ex thinking they can be the one to help you move on, the truth is that you will not move on if you still contact your ex. If you think your ex wasted your time, the one you will now waste while contacting your ex instead of moving on will be more than the one you think your ex made you wasted because that ex might have already started another relationship while you are still playing around thinking maybe a miracle can happen.

You need to pull yourself together so that you can give room for another relationship.

3. Averting issues in the new relationship: One dangerous thing that can cause troubles in ones relationship is the sound of an "EX" as we all know how dangerous keeping contact with an ex can be. Almost everyone considers the ex of their partner as rival no matter the condition that led to the breakup.

Therefore, to avert issues that may arise in your new relationship with keeping contact with an ex in you must try not to keep close contact with your ex.

4. To seal your decision: This is particular to relationships ended due to infidelity on the part of the partner. If you know you don't want to keep rolling around with same story all the time, you need to keep away contact of that person you told it is over or else you will keep forgiving and keep wasting your time forgiving and breaking all over and over again.

5. To make that ex know you are fine without him/her: When you keep contact with an ex it gives them the impression that you cannot do without them.

To make your ex realize he/she has made mistake to have taken your loyalty for granted, you need to show it not just by word of mouth but through your behavior too. Keeping contact is never a good response as it can make them feel you are nothing without them.

Not keeping contact with your ex does not mean you have become enemies, but for you to be completely healed of the trauma that may arise from the breakup and for a better future relationship-wise, try to stop contacting each other.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/11/5-reasons-why-you-should-stop.html

This is the continuation of my last post 5 Reasons Why Any Woman Must Be Financially Independent where i said that it is important for any woman to be earning at least little in order to complement that which the husband earns for the growth of the home and for the sake of the unknown future.

The last post was not meant for just women but for the men too to open their eyes to some realities as only love cannot sustain the family. Lost of job and death may roar their ugly head, any of these two will definitely tell when just one person is the source of income.

Never-the-less, it should be known that most men love the idea of a working wife but are afraid that some other things might come up which will be detrimental to the relationship and running of the home at large.

Here are some of those fears:

1. Women lose respect easily: Most men are of the opinion that women shouldn't be allowed to make money as they do as most women grow wings when they can claim that they toil to make their own money.

They feel they become arrogant when they are also earning to the point of seeing them the man as minor all because they are also financially involved in running of the home.

2. Race to remain the head: Many men are of the opinion that as the head there are things they must do to remain relevant.

Providing the resources should be their sole duty, hence, it should be a no go area for a woman as they should be in the kitchen and to take care of the children not just when they(the man) are away but at all times.

3. Fear of the effect of exposure: This is common among men that are promiscuous. They know that when their woman mingles with others, especially men, there is possibility of them having admirers who can become a fierce rival.

They know that when some men are determined to get a woman they can do everything humanly possible to get them, possibly because they think some women cannot hold their feelings and decisions.

They trust women less because of what they have done to other ladies out there, hence, it becomes uneasy for them to trust and let their woman work too.

4. They see it as the only way to show love: Some men feels the only way to win a woman completely is to make her sit all at home 24/7. They believe so much in giving her every thing she needs that will not make her even think of setting up a business let alone looking for job.

When she wants sanitary pad during her period or any other thing she should just take from the one given to her or ask at any point in time.

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5. Fear of being denied sexual pleasure: Some men that are so active sexually don't love the idea of allowing their woman work because they don't want the complaint of being tired whenever they are ready for the legal matrimonial war in the bed. Like it is the sex they will keep feeding on.

If your man gives you the opportunity to show the world your talent in exchange for money as usual, it is important you make good use of that opportunity. Taking advantage or allowing yourself to be ruled by that female ego, especially when in power should not be your case.

There is no big deal when you have your own money and still ask for some from him, remember that he might be short of cash and you might be the only saving grace.

Remain humble and respectful even if you are making more than your man as it is still in love he allowed you to face the world as nothing is sure, tomorrow might come and he is nowhere to be found, what will be of you and the child(ren) when such meets you in a complete idle situation?


Source:http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/11/5-undeniable-reasons-some-men-want-full.html