Lalas247:


Mtcheew
Men I do that a lot ... but I make up for it sha

Op it doesn't mean she is talking to a man .. even online shopping can make me ignore the world let alone my man

yet you proclaim he is more than the world to him, so you have been deceiving him abi... At times, understanding can make someone to be stupid sha.

marvelck:
Imagine you are talking to your girlfriend, and she's busy chatting with someone else (a guy) on her phone. What would you do? And what does her action towards the guy, implies? Cos when a girl start behaving like that towards her guy, then there is a problem somewhere.

Girlfriend abi? I will just stand up and off to my house na, when she is ready ahe should come, she will be punished with... when she come.

tosyne2much:
This is a very good thread

I also want to know how to handle a lady that prioritizes her phone over you

it all depends on what she is using the phone for. If she is a blogger making correct money you sef just have to let her do her thing, in fact you will need to get her more phones to enhance her job the more. If it is just ordinary chat you must make her choose one, either you or the phone, it is either she lose or otherwise, as the man just be prepared for the worst scenario.

subtlemee:
I delete mine because there are some messages I exchange with that *special one* that can cause river blindness if a third party should read it

He who finds naughty should see naughty na.

MhizzAJ:
I really don't understand some people
They will collect your phone and start reading your messages..too bad

bad is an understatement sef.

Kondomatic:
6. Because it is a useless message from the network provider or scamers

see you what kinda chat are you chatting with network provider, na una dey save suspicious contact with 9mobile abi

lalanice:
I'm. short of words, bamisepeters command try this one..

lol.

Op, dna4ril, one thing I have learnt since i have been in writing and counseling on life and relationship matters is that the way we take things in Africa is far far different from how we take it here in Africa, things we take so serious are just normal situation to them over there.

She has mixed with that unserious situation which you also must blend with.

You guys have been in the relationship for 6 years which is enough to know each other.

You need to be calm when dealing with her. Give her some space, let her contact you too and make the discussion as short as possible, don't let it be obvious you are madly in love anymore, if you are not careful you will lose her to someone below your qualities as it is "possible" she is seeing more of someone else over there.

Most women loves attention, they cannot cope so long when they are not getting it from the expected source, it is not a mistake to have agreed she go abroad for her education, it worked for some while it destroyed some others.

Just take it slow and try to give her so much space, let her miss you, withing three week you should understand some other unknown feelings.

You can also call her again and tell her what you have observed and ask her if she is still into the relationship, be as cool as you can when you ask her, remind her the years you have spent together and let her know it is never too late to start afresh with someone else if she continues this way, she shouldn't make you waste any time further, she should open.

If she is interested you will know from her response.

Warning* always be prepared for the worst.

Deleting social media chats from ones device is now something many people do for different personal reasons other than cheating.

Like we all know that it is not advisable to keep our mobile gadget away from our partner and even if we secure it with password our partner deserves to know how to unlock it.

This makes it easier for our partner to access our device not just in our presence but behind us.

This post will contain some of those reasons many people delete chat history:

1. Because of cheating:
This is the commonest reason for deleting or clearing chat history on one's device.

This is done most times when one's partner is becoming suspicious and of course, it is from the mobile device hidden secrets can be unraveled, hence, the mobile gadget will be under severe attack behind the owner.

Some don't wait till suspicion start setting in, they delete immediately any message that goes against their relationship enters.

2. For privacy:
There are some people that when you give them your mobile device to hold for you for few seconds they start toiling your device like you own it together.

They began to open everything not minding the fact that information it are for just you.

Many people don't like setting passwords for screen lock which makes their gadget accessible for anyone, but respect is deserved from whoever you deem fit to trust with such device which must times they fail.

3. They don't want their spouse to start thinking differently:
Like i mentioned earlier that it is not just when we cheat we delete chat history as sometimes chats are cleared so that our partner will not start growing negative feelings as regards the trust.

At times some discussions with some particular set of people especially opposite sex are almost like flirting, or because we chat too regularly, hence it might give wrong impression to ones partner, clearing them off ones in a while is advisable to avert unnecessary doubt.

4. Because some chats are not meant to be seen by our partner:
Remember some discussions are not meant to be seen by our partner, not because it is against the trust but because it must not be seen at all by them.

Remember those women or men talk, the family talk or those ones someone so close to you sent to you against your partner which you know can cause serious issues.

There also cases when you want to give your partner a surprise gift which is sealed through chat, the essence o that surprise has been defeated once such partner sees such message secretly.

Getting such chats off is even advisable as its emotional effect is dangerous especially when you have a partner who is not calm.

5. What they have read/heard:
For some people they have read and heard about the effect of some chats with close friends and all that have been mentioned earlier and whenever such things they have read or heard about occur in their chat they do no think of any other thing than getting rid of it before what they have read or head will come to reality.

This is my opinion, kindly add your contributions as it is important to me.


Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/08/5-different-reasons-people-delete-chats.html

Personally, i feel some posts are not meant to be taken seriously, this post is just on a lighter mood, so don't take it serious ladies because i know many broke ladies are working extremely harder even than those rich guys. Keep huzling babes, e go better...

It is never wrong for your lover to tell you about their past as it secures the future. The only thing is to be ready to forgive in case some of the secrets will not go well with you.

mamagee3:
Hi all, Boyfriend of almost two years did not save my number on his phone.

He has his friends and family's number saved on his phone but not mine.

He once saved my number in the beginning but not anymore.

What does this mean?

It is painful though, but it might not be for other negative reasons. At times when you save a lover's contact on the phone it get wiped off when you change phone and it is on phone you can put all those modifications to reflect the importance of whoever it is. If your number isn't saved just know that it is in his head. I will advise you just tell him you are not fine as your contact is not saved, don't feel negative about it as he might not have negative feelings as regards that.

julioralph:

Thats good then, he knows he'll have to start from the bench most times.

lol

julioralph:
Is this Guy really needed at Chelsea

I am also asking this same question. But you know there is FA, Carling cup too, he eill do that job.

I know many men will not agree with me on this but it bothers me not.

As it should be, you shouldn't be sexually related to every opposite gender you come in contact with as you need to be able to control your lust and negative desires.

Some men don’t even usually think about their woman whom you have promised never to betray with another woman.

Apart from the fact that some women are not sex-able possibly because they carry some sexually transmitted disease or some other unseen spiritual bodies, the fact that she is not yours and that she is already taken you don’t need to want to have a taste of her.

You approach her and she turned deaf hears to your approach doesn’t make her immature like most of us usually term those that say no to our approach.

This is not to say if she is not taken you are free to ask her out with hidden and deceptive motive especially if you are already in another relationship.

I think we will be better when we start putting ourselves in our partner’s shoes.

When we start considering their feelings when we get caught and when we assume our self as the victim and not our partner who is still loyal against all odds.

As men we are more jealous, yet, we are caught in the act more. We most times cannot even imagine how it is when another man is sleeping with our woman but we are always over excited to sleep with someone else’s woman.

This is not to justify any woman’s infidelity irrespective of her status and I know some times women tempt some men and we give up when the temptation becomes irresistible.

Believe me, no one is a saint, we are all striving to be better and it is our wish to stay glued to one woman.

Most of we men usually say we get tired of eating one particular food all the time which is why we cannot stay with just one woman for a long time, but the moment we realize that women are not food and some foods are poisenous to our good health is when we will learn to control what and how we eat what we eat.

This time let’s forget the fact that she accept our own approach despite the fact that she is already in a relationship, let’s consider the feelings of the man she is in relationship with, remember it could be you too as you don’t know what your own woman is doing behind you which you don’t want to bother yourself to think about because of trust, but have you forgotten the man of the lady you are going nude with also trust her?

The moment we all start resisting this temptations the better the human race will be, remember kamal is a bitch like many will say, protect your daughter's future with your good acts towards other ladies out there, don’t be over-protective of your own daughter when you try different styles with other ladies out there, she will get to that stage one day and it is very possible she receives all you have done with other women. She is the best to receive either the reward or punishment of your deeds.

This is my opinion, kindly add your contribution as it is important to me.


Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/08/o-guys-if-she-is-not-single-dont-go.html

www.bamisepeter.com too is a good blog for relationship issues . Come let's talk relationship.

The woman knows the father of her child better than anyone, even the presumed father.While you were around it is possible she was in another relationship. Forget the fact that you had sex the same day as it is also very possible she had sex with the other person few minutes after you had it with her. Some women are funny and unpredictable you know! I would have suggested DNA, however, you are not engaged let alone married, so just move on, if the baby is yours the truth will come out one day.

The mistake many make is that because they met a lady who showed huge interest in the pocket they generalize it. The truth is that many guys show more of what they cannot sustain as they only care about the present and not the future. Some just want the sex and flee while few get caught and trapped for life.

Nice one here. Please it is important to know what works with your partner. For some girls the neck isn't it. Different strokes for different folks. One thing that is also certain is that when you engage in communication frequently you will not know when the issue of sex will come up, this is when the two will decide on how, when it should be done between them.

Michaelhay:
My question is this: is it possible for me to find a girl that will not demand money like this girl am dating?

SirMichael1:
Rarely

your opinion though. What i have observed is that most guys show many girls the false aspect of themselves when they want to start any relationship, they think when they don't show the girl they have the money she will never agree to start a relationship with them. Whatever you show a woman is what she will take you for. i will say along with this person

DarkMagic:
One in a million don't ask for money
It is obvious she is using u to play tinko tinko
Yes..she is in because of the money...leave her b4 u she kills u with her greed and demands
U r too young to die

iamJ:

issokey o

emmanwandud:
Blah blah blah blah to many advices. ...pls don't shove it down our throats. If ppl ddon't cheat, hotels wouldn't make money. As a prospective hotel owner I don't welcome your views as I see them as misleading. Let the devil that leads them guides them.

lol, so you accept it is the devil that is leading them, that's fantastic as the only place the devil could lead them to is your own establishment making you an agent, oga o.

kinginvagina:
They feel no regret in deceiving and duping men, isn't it a sin and an immoral act?

happy Sunday lalasticlala

All of them?

Nickibeauty:
Guys given birth is nt a disease,sum are tru mistake,u datin after 1 does nt mean anytin sum are beta dan d gurl dat av nt give birth.

It is truly not a disease but many have qualities they want in their spouse. Many don't even add such criteria to their list, people who fall in that category only get loved by chance. I will advice anyone in such shoe to take good care of her kid and just keep looking fit should in case a lover will come her way one day.

andyanders:
dumb post with no meaning.

Don't be like this, you don't know the pains the concerned is facing with this, maybe you get the expression wrong but you need to show concern a bit.

iamJ:
checked the op dp all i can say is

you people, ehn!

Sleep should do that on behalf...

komekn:


All this rhetoric is individualism and personal ideology, preference that emanates entirely from self. Because it is self based it is self justified and therefore SELFISH.

The self is constantly inconsistent and therefore dependent on emotional sentiment which goes up and down. It's like happiness which is dependent on what's happening around you. So what you feel is a product of you environment and circumstantial experiences. Operating and being led by what you feel is a recipe for disaster.

Using the infallible and unquestionable standard which is set by God. Which is in the Bible, there is no end to forgiveness it's never ending, it's intrinsic to your Christian walk.

Forgiveness doesn't leave bitterness, rancour, animosity, discontent, rage, revenge, hatred it redeems you from all that. It enables you to love truly.

However, if you are not a Christian or you are just church goer or member. Then you can follow what you feel. In this case this adopted assumed superior Eurocentric ideology. The same ideology that has birthed the bestial, perverse and unnatural practice of homosexuality and now crowned with same sex marriage. These Ideologies are totally alien and an affront to Afrocentricity and our Nigerian norms and values.

In my experience responding to your husband cheating with divorce will never lead to SATISFACTION in most cases you will lead a life of discontent and unhappiness and may never remarry. Well for absolute certainty no Christian will EVER be married to a divorced woman.

On the contrary Forgiveness will allow you to experience JOY which comes from God and is indeed great strength.

There is no limit to forgiveness. Because the joy of the Lord hath no understanding it's beyond the limited intellect of man. FORGIVENESS is a precursor to the Joy of the Lord.

no clapping smiley on nairaland � that is your opinion too as regards cheating spouse.

declaro:


You can forgive your spouse once for cheating. For me, I will definitely forgive but I will never marry her again, never.

hmmm, but you know at times you can never tell till it happens?

It is a known fact that Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each other but there must be limit to the extent of forgiveness as it will be taken for granted.

Apart from one or more characters of your spouse that you might find uneasy to contend with, i think cheating is the greatest crime one's spouse can commit which can warrant that extra ordinary spirit of forgiveness.

I know of someone whose women cheated on him for up to four times and he has been forgiving her, four times is nit cheating any more, it has become an attitude.

There is limit to everything in life, so also in relationship there is limitations to everything you do to your spouse.

If you cheat ones and your spouse forgives you, you should just count yourself to be lucky because many cannot forgive a cheating spouse.

It is not because of ego or anything but because there is limit to what everyone can accept.

For someone who cheated just ones it takes the intervention of the supernatural forces to be forgiven, and it shouldn't pass just that once.

If it is more than once, believe me it will continue because it has turned to attitude as your spouse will always have it at the back of his or her mind that you are a legend when it comes to forgiving.

Like i said in a post that divorce should not be the last resort to all marital troubles it doesn't mean that you should now turn yourself to complete fool all in the name of keeping your home.

Divorce may not be the last resort to marriage issues, but it is the ultimate solution to many other people's matrimonial challenges and no matter how hard they try to defend the union in the face of persecution they can never win that battle.

If your spouse cheat on you for the first time I think they deserve another opportunity to make it right.

Like a colleague made mention of a quote sometimes ago that fool me once, shame on you. Fool me again, shame on me.

And you will continue to be that lovely and romantic fool if you listen to another reason why your spouse cheated on you again when you know you are up and doing when it comes to your union.

I know that for some people the idea and reality of cheating is innate, hence, they will never stop even after you forgive them, if you know you cannot cope just give yourself a final break.

You are not worth that torment that comes along with a cheating spouse.
The thought of someone else over-smooching a woman you deal with gently in bed or the thought of another lady over-satisfying your man to the brim to the extent that he finds it hard to satisfy you when you are in the mood alone is enough to deal with you greatly.

I trust you will not try that 77×77 times that the Holy book preaches for forgiveness as this is not that kind of offence you can apply such law for as you even find it so hard to forgive just once let alone 7 times.

After one more chance I don't think someone in his or her right senses should even smell cheat anymore, else, you will be taken for granted for life.

This is my opinion, kindly add your contributions as it is important to me.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/08/the-amount-of-times-you-can-forgive.html

IamAirforce1:

Your hubby on every thread as if you're the first to marry ..

Women who go about talking about their husband at any given opportunity are usually not happy in their marriage.

what a conclusion

softwerk:
Please advice me on the way forward with my relationship; My Boyfriend squeezes & sucks my Bo*obs Like Oranges whenever we make love

I used to enjoy it at first because he promised to marry me......But it is now 5years since we met and i'm still waiting for my ring

Please advice needed because of the condition of my boo*bs!

PICTURE ATTACHED

without the picture sef your story is more than funny.

ProudtobeaMUMUM:
You will see ugly girls also bringing their opinion, most of the girls here are ugly, We need instagram girls please

Define Ugly please.