ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Sex isn't life bro. I'm a sex freaking addict but I happen to be married to a most loving lady whom doesn't share same enthusiasm when it comes to sex.

It doesn't bother me at all and I have since learnt to do stuffs to get off on my own. Divorcing your wife is the stupidest thing you could ever do. Jeez

TemplarLandry:
Here's how I captured him right behind Ovie Omo-Agege.
I'm starting to like the dude.

You should. You guys are one of a kind

raskymonojendor:
During OBJ's, Yar'Adua's and GEJ's eras, heaven did not fall...If dem like make dem ground West Africa economy join.

How do you live with yourself

taylor88:
Dangote is more evil than Buhari and Tinubu combined

This man’s greed of monopoly is out of this world

Dangote is the real problem of Nigeria

Hushpuppi no launder money pass Dangote

He’s worth $13billion but only his refinery is $19billion

Don’t come here to tell me about loan

80% of that refinery money doesn’t belong to dangote

Na all these evil politicians get am

He's the devil himself

wakaman:


Like play like play.
This people dey grow o.

I swear. E b like joke now

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Thief! Why u no do for your papa

mutantninja:
She married the midget cos of money , Ronaldo is the greatest footballer on earth.

Wow! Some of una na animals on this platform

Merch:
Just looking at kumuyi you would know he looks and talk like a slowpoke believe anything he says at your own peril

Wow! Just wow

This looks so pure and honest. You are good bro. #following

May God help us. This is tragic indeed

Holla911:


How could he have repaired the refineries while paying subsidy ?
One had to go for the other. We have no choice but to endure the difficult time while hoping and praying our leaders get it right.
The current hardship is a global pandemic.

Global what? You lots are the reason why we are here in the first place. Terrible

Winters23:


You were making point in your first paragraph but then derailed into a low thought process just like every other Nigerian.

You only identified a problem but your solution still rely heavily on parents to keep providing rather than looking beyond academic success and dig deeper into children's talent that can be harnessed for a brighter future.

There are footballers, wrestlers, programmers, musicians, actors, etc. Most of these careers are learnt outside the classroom.

Thank God I wasn't the only one that saw the errors in his submissions.

turmacs:
Honestly I hate seeing these Igbos among our Nigerian male and female football teams, they just take bad luck with them anywhere they go.We should have been winning this match my now.. igbos should be prohibited from representing Nigeria in any sporting event sef, not just football..

Rabid dog

Newness2019:


HAVE YOU NOTICED THAT YOUR BOY HAS WICKED TENDENCIES BY VOMOTING INTO HIS FOOD IN ORDER TO PREVENT SOMEONE ELSE.

MY SISTER, IF YOU DON'T DISCIPLINE HIM NOW, YOU WILL BE A VICTIM IN FUTURE.

CHILDREN ALWAYS TUTURE PARENTS WHO NEGLECT TO TRAIN THEM UP ACCORDING TO GOD'S COMMAND.

YOU CANNOT ESCAPE IT. DO THE RIGHT THING. TRIAN THE CHILD, DO NOT PAMPER.

Keep your advise for yourself & your children. Rubbish

Omo! My son is 2 and an only child. I'm just noticing that he doesn't like to share be it toys or food. Infact he once vomited on his meal rather than let his cousins have some.

The boy is really smart for his age but he acts like an old old man. For example, when he was just 6 months old he stopped weeing on the bed, like he'd cry to be put down and his pampers removed before he'd wee

Obinoscopy:
Phone: Samsung Galaxy S21
Network: at&t
Country: USA

Nawa Ooooooooooooo

Throwback:
Impose the sanctions fully and Niger will be crippled.

The illegitimate military dictatorship in Niger must be brought to its knees.

The President from the minority Arab tribe must be allowed to finish his 1st term and then "sacked" from office by denial of a 2nd term in a democratic election.

That is the constitution of Niger Republic.

Nigeria must stand its ground that no illegitimate or military rule will be further entertained in any West African state.

The majority Hausa that are rejoicing and their cousins in Nigeria who are also supporting, would not have done so if it was a minority Arab military leader that toppled the democratic regime of any of the past Hausa Presidents of Niger.

For the 1st time, the minority Niger Arab who are better known for street begging with their children in Nigerian cities, have managed to build a political coalition that allowed them get to national power, then suddenly the Hausa/Fulani/Djerma gang up to quickly push them out of power with the illegitimate military coup that we all know would later handover power back to a civilian government that is certainly going to be Hausa.

Is it that they cannot stomach being out of power for just 5yrs that a presidential term allows?

Or the Niger people only started suffering now that an Arab is in power for barely 2yrs, but did not suffer for the previous 20yrs of Hausa and Fulani rule?

Omo! The way you analysed it is so eye opening. This is really unfair. Haba

Freeko4:
It's important for NLC to consider their options and consult with the different unions they represent before proceeding with the protest. Taking the time to reach a consensus on the next course of action can lead to a more effective and unified approach.

NLC while they strategies, they should also understand that this protest is needed to put government in check, if they can achieve their goals without a protest it is also welcomed..

Hustle your 30k well. Daft

budaatum:
I'd go seek a doctor's help, and if that don't work, I'll discuss with my husband if he'd agree we adopt or we find a sperm donor for me to sleep with to provide him with children that he can not have.

For you to "sleep with"? Mk e no b say Ashawo dey your eyes o

Truthday:
Jesus is a murderer

Lol! Mohammed is a rapist paedo

All these northern Muslims don start again

talented321:

FACT''''
'''85% of nigerians are thieves' just that the ones who are successful now don't want the young ones to chase them''''.

Your papa join abi

Kukuma say no sex

Curse777:





The influx of Economic migrants from South East and North East into Lagos and SouthWest is alarming

Go to Ojota park, Goto Iwo Road, Oke Ilewo parks see them loaded in Ifesinachi night busses like Sardines




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Odeee

VenExchangee:
Rubbish

How much was paid to push this to front page immediately it was posted?

Because I see no how this is a news or anything.

These fuckinng clowns will never get their priorities straight. Shame

Wow! Evidently Someone is silencing his competition

joyH:
Please guys I need your help.
@mod pls help me move to appropriate section.

I am confuse, needs advice on what step to take next.

The whole thing begins on 25th July when i had unprotected sex with my bf. before then my last period came on the 17th of July. so i had sex just about a week after.

Since then uptil now i have not seen my period. Initially I worried i may be pregnant but after several urine and blood test it all turns out negetive. what could be wrong here? This is the first time i am experiencing this.

I have done 4 test myself using pt test strips. but all came negative. Yesterday I went to a private lab an de used my blood and urine sample for pregnancy test, it still came out negative.

Abeg any medical expert or any one with past experience should assist with advice on next step please.

Note, my boyfriend is aware of the whole situation. he himself is confused. plus I am 23 yrs old just incase my age will aid in the diagnosis.

Get Rida Restore from any pharmacy close to you & thank me later

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Why are the Christians so scared and make enemy where there is none?
When you folks released your Christian movies no one is gonna attack you for threat or something..what kinda delusion is this!

Why do you Dumbos want to control every aspect of life?
Fear and threats are the only things any religion has to combat...In two thousand years you folks have been unable to come up with a single unrefuted argument to support their extraordinary god-claims (which are then rejected).

That is why it is so difficult to engage any theist in a rational discussion of the issues...They must refuse to acknowledge rationality or they know they will lose...
The God of the bible is the most evil entity ever described in literature...He is more evil than Satan...He is more evil than Hitler...He not only drowned the whole world (imagine all the unborn babies slowly dying in the bodies of their drowned mother!) ..he commanded that all the amalekites be killed… except for the virgins of course...They were allowed to keep those (hmmm… I wonder what for?)

He also had 2 bears tear to shreds 42 children for the simple crime of teasing a bald man!
God supposedly had the time to say don't eat shellfish yet couldn't be bothered to say “don't own other people as property!” He even lays down rules for how you are to beat your slaves...

These are just some of the evil attributed to him. The list goes on and on.
The god of the bible is a true monster...

I think you are mad and you don't even know it

tomtomastom4:
I created this thread in response to the post on front page about ladies that date men who earn less than 100k. Below is the link.

https://www.nairaland.com/7292274/ladies-relationship-men-earns-100k

Of a truth, its not easy to manage such amount, but when one is already in such situation, you just have to manage and improvise.
Now like the OP of the above thread requested, here is the break down of how we make our expenses.

To start with, I was earning about 130k previously before we got married by March this year, but I changed job and the pay of the new job is 95k. STarted the new job around Feb this year, even though there was a loan I was paying off.. Need I add that my wife was working in a firm where shes paid 45K, but two months after our married, she quit the job due to pregnancy stress. Am sure ladies will understand.

This is our break down.
Monthly salary 95k
I remove 40k first from the salary and transfer it to 3 different acct.
The first acct receives 20k. This acct is not touchable except on extreme emergency. Its our main savings acct.
The second acct gets 10k and its for our rent, also non touchable. Rent is 150k per year. Before u say my rent is high compared to my salary, I like my privacy very well. and the cost of rent isnt friendly in my state.
The third acct also gets 10k. This one is for semi savings. This acct is touchable when cash at hand have been exhausted before the next month salary.

From the remaining 50k,
I send 10k to my family acct. I and my brothers do contribute 10k+ every month and its been used to run expenses WRT our parents and last born.
I gv my wife 10k for her monthly up keep. Its small. But its the sacrifice we all have to make for the good of the family.
I hold 10k myself for logistics and transport. I must confess, is not enough. But One have to strive. My wrk place isnt far. SO transport is N100 to and fro, thats approximately 3k per month. The remaining money i use it for other logistics. 4k out of this money goes for gas wch last for abt 2 weeks. And when we want to refill and there is no other money left, we fall back to the 3rd acct.
The remaining 20k is strictly for food ( On this food issue is where I "duff my hart" cos shes really managing things well and trying.
Sometimes, I really feel for her, cos this her pregnancy makes her to crave for things that is not on our food menu, but then when the money is not there, she just surpress the cravings. At times I feel bad.

The remaining 5k, for now is used to pay back a tailor who sewed multiple pregnancy gowns for my wife.

Its good to add that any small money I make like 1k or 2k on side hustle, I directly buy mudu of rice, beans or flour for swallow.

Its not easy at all. But there are families with kids leaving below that.

My wife is abt 5mnths pregnant, we plan to divert the 20k savings to buying baby things in preparation for child birth.


The truth is that the economic situation in this country is bad and so cost of leaving is very high. But then one have to survive.
But then in Nigeria now, how many percentage of the population earn above 100k. In fact how many jobs out there pays such as amount.

The only advice I have for ladies is that if you are not working and you parent family is the type need financial help from your husband after marriage, or you are the type of lady that is high class and wont settle for less or manage with your man. Plz kindly wait and take your time to look for a man that is RICH or financially capable of taken care of you and maybe your family. Please dont hide under the cover of you want to marry quick and then accept a struggling man only to start putting pressure on his head. Plz wait and marry a rich man.

Most responsible men wont really appreciate it if you are always demanding for things you knw fully well that he can not afford.


It is also good to note that no condition is permanent, things will definitely get better. A better job might come or my wife might get a job after her maternity which will increase our income.

The bottom line is, as a couple, but of you will have to work things out to improve your finances.

Pardon me for quoting everything but as a fellow married man I totally understand you bro. Your wife is an Angel Bruv!