₦airaland Forum

mperoakeem:
Gbam!!!

yomanovic:
Bimbo, you are beautiful.

Sanchez01:
Well, I'm not Yoruba though but I was born in Lagos and it automatically makes me one. At a very tender age, my baby sis and I would trouble mum over whatever she eats. Then on this fateful day, we just wanted to have a taste of what she was eating and she asked me to go call 'abimo ma jeun' (she who gives birth and not eat) at a family friend's house about two streets away. The deal was once I find him I should just come home and share with her. My naive self dashed out and ran my life out, ignorant of what the word meant(we were raised strictly with 'Geesi' and I had no idea what the word meant). It was quite funny because when I got to mum's friend's house, she laughed for over 5 minutes and I stood there, clueless like Goodluck Jonathan. It was painful, by the time I returned home, mum was through and she had the effontery to ask me if I found him. It was annoying.

talktofemi:
You must be a naughty gal then.

Btw, nice pix. Tell ur mum to send you to me for arodan

Nicepoker:
that ur sec school story is a lie.

pickabeau1:
But you and I are the society

You are not a possession
I dont see my partner as a possession or puppet

What then is the issue

If you said this 20 years ago, you may have had more of a point
If you spoke about those who live in Northern Nigeria, I will agree


Why refer to society when a lot of people are not living according to the dictates of the same society or societal trends are changing

A few years ago, polygamy was acceptable, now its old fashioned
Women own property
They have careers

Why still refer to a generic "They are possessions, or puppets or fish brains" excuse

Timbuktou:
Other men thinking my wife is possession is absolutely irrelevant to me.

What do you mean by recklessness on the part of the masculine gender? Please, elaborate.

We can say the same for men, but we'd be wrong to blame society. Society tends to do what's best for it and so should humans.

pickabeau1:
Do you actually expect any drivel posted online and liked to be accepted by all and sundry

If you see yourself as a chattel, i am sure there are countless nigerian ladies who dont

I see them everyday on the boards of this forum, challenging notions from guys, questioning motives and telling ladies not to accept spousal abuse

if you do not see yourself as one and they dont ... who then is the possession

Timbuktou:
Ahem...
1. Women are seen as possession everywhere in the world, I assure. The difference exists in the prevalence of this opinion. My point is not everyone sees women as possession. You are either possession or not, if you are, don't blame it on society. I don't consider Mrs. Timbuktou possession, and I assure you she doesn't either.

2. You also fail to mention that society also demands that males get married too and, in fact, groom them to be husbands and fathers. Unless you're saying men are exempt from marriage and women marry only women? I don't know any culture/tribe in Nigeria who looks favourably on unmarried men. Enlighten me, please.

3. First of all, only a psycho husband would beat an unerring wife. This is not to say that wife-battery is acceptable, of course. But if a man is silly enough to resort to violence against his wife, the first thing the women, who aren't the law by the way, should do is find out why she was battered in the first place.


A pertinent question would be, why do women still get battered despite extreme legislation aimed at quelling the act?

pickabeau1:
let me ask u a q

so as educated and enlightened as i believe u are

1. you still see yourself as a possession of someone who has no mind of her own?

2. Is marriage the purpose of your existence

Yes or NO would suffice to each of the questions

Matican:
WAA GBAYI. oNE PURE WATER FOR U!

hunkydory:
I reserve my comment too.I will PM you

hunkydory:
A big boy is a real man.BIG BOY is just a phrase to describe a man who is rich.It does not mean he is immature cos of the "boy" in the phrase.

Ayo081:
hmmn just a fan butt. den ull b rank 5.

Ayo081:

funi monstar

hunkydory:
Lol...There are big boys on nairaland o.They are just hiding themselves.

hunkydory:
Nice comment.This can fetch you a husband here on nairaland o.Say amen.

Ayo081:
c dis one dey pretend.