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Doctorfitz:
Exactly my point.... The society has been unjust to men buh we don't cry about it cos crying about it makes u less a man.... Daddy freeze came out the other time complaining about domestic violence what happened? He was mocked and ridiculed Buh so many men go through that and cant talk cos of ego and societal pressure.

Yes, men undergo pressure, no doubt.

We all point our fingers at the society. The society is 85% what members of your specie make of it. The pressure on men was not introduced by women, you men put it on yourselves. Women are still fighting for their voices to be heard and it's a man's world out there, isn't it? You make rules that are now biting you hard and you can't fight it cos you would be fighting yourselves. You all keep mute about your pains because accepting it would expose your vulnerability thus, putting a dent on your claim of masculinity and authority. Remember how the Catholic Church held on to the earth being flat?

Feminism wouldn't have existed in the first place if women were not being oppressed... Feminism is thriving because women are not their own undoing. How would you convince a child who grew up to see his or her father treating the mother like a slave that feminism is evil? Yes, men also get such treatment but the women learnt from somewhere, a good number of then are reacting to smth and there are few plain devils. Up-to 6 in every 10 wives are being maltreated by the husband while for the men, at most 2:10.

The thread you wrote this to counter have got nothing to do with feminism. It's just that whenever someone stands up to demand that the society be fair to women, she's automatically becomes a feminist and should be hushed. Another reason why feminism will continue to thrive.

When you constantly maltreat a sheep it would one day turn to fight for its freedom. That's what is happening today. A good number of you don't even understand what feminism is all about and the few who understands just don't see any reason why they should let go of the leash. Very few men really grasp the concept.

The more you fight and ridicule the movement, the stronger it becomes... Why do even feel threatened because women are asking for equality?

redbeans:
switcakes! Beamborla!

Okay! Lemme come and be going.

Try not to wait too much sha. Another sharp dude can just go and mention marriage to her and she wee just start doing like PHCN...if you like it, put a ring on it, baby.

Lemme be going

But why are people so concerned about what the other person is doing, want to do, have chosen to do to his ass hole or what a lady wants to insert in her vagina What's the government wahala in it self?


Mtcheeeew...
So long they don't trample on another person's right, the law should stay out of it and face real problems. Gays and lesbians are the least of our worries.

richommie:
A picture won't be bad


#YOLO

It's a shame we can't edit our profile. Woulda dropped it there

Chopped off my hair on Monday

Fresh air...very sweet

ashewoboy:
i know you are not among them.

I appreciate your vote of confidence. Welcome back

dingbang:
lol I didn't expect dis short comment from u

That's the best I can do. It would be futile to engage in an argument... Moreover, he's somewhat right, he is just gender biased. Both sexes have refused to get themselves informed.

Okay.

thesuave10:
Yes it has . So attraction is not a choice huh? .

It's not.

thesuave10:
"Attraction" that beautiful word. Define it in your words

Shebi it haff quickly turned to question and answer session...ko si wahala

Attraction to me is the interest or pull your have towards and an object or individual

dingbang:
easy na.. if u continue like this, I won't have friends

If you are a smooth talker and good at studying people before approaching them, you are good to go.

thesuave10:
What kinda shoes should we put in, heels?? I'll pass bro

I don't get it

thesuave10:
Actually the guy wants to take you out. Chris Rock will explain the "I want your number line" better for you

I'm not the lady in question, bro.
One thing is clear, you are in your 'happy hour' tonight.

thesuave10:
Why you gotta slam in his face like that

If there was a way I could employ euphemism, I'm not sure I would. When the truth is garnished, it sometimes loses its flavour.

Well, she not being attracted to him does not mean he is not attractive to someone else.

dingbang:
See as beamborla and colik and yuneehk don finish d op

This is far from finishing, it's the bitter truth.

I personally have a line i just give out(i don't pick calls on this line except for numbers I've saved on the line) so I don't appear 'rude' and to avoid conversations like why don't you want to give me your number... I'm always tempted to say 'I owe you no explanation'

Guys need to understand that one can't give attention to every Tom Dick and Harry we come across. There are even days you just want to go unnoticed and not in the mood to entertain any pleasantry.

And yes, no one should hit me with the 'it's does not necessarily mean he wants to ask you out or 'you don't know who is who' song. It's not everyone you let in and sometimes, your spirit and everything in you can just disagree completely with the other person.

She's obviously not attracted to you and does not see the possibility of a future attraction.

Toks2008:
That is why I wrote about maintaining the condition.

You meet a sex dynamo and he makes your head spin in the bedroom and you say you just love him for real...he is broke,jobless and very arrogant but you say you just love him but in essence it is his koboko that you love then something happens and the koboko stops working and the other crazy stuffs become an issue and you are left with two options...TOLERATE OR LEAVE

Many marriages turn from real desire to tolerance in a short while and when you ask the couple,they call it love.

Can a man still love a lady who does not respect him, cook for him or allow him sx? I guess if there is anything like loving for real then no circumstance ought to tilt the emotional balance.

My advice for you..when a guy says I love you please ask him what he sees in you that makes him "love" u and once he tells you, try to maintain that condition or you stand the risk of being dumped...FACT!

You only keep scratching the surface and going off... Perhaps, you don't understand me.

Have a nice evening

Toks2008:
All these theory is the reason why many marriages will crash and why many ladies will keep running from pillar to post looking for a man to love them for real.

I insist that there is nothing like loving anyone for real.

Talking about imperfections I guess there is also a limit to that...I can't love a sexually loosed lady in the name of loving for real neither can you love a man who is totally off from the qualities you want.

When you meet someone new just identify why you love that person and hope that reason is maintained else there will always be a break in the affair.

Moral decadence and imperfection especially in the context I used it are two different things.

You didn't answer my question. You maintained there is nothing like loving someone for real, in your opinion, it's about identifying the reasons for loving the person and hope it's maintained. The possibility that life can happen and some of the reasons for loving the person disappears can not be overulled. Another is that it's possible to come across another person with the 'reasons' and even more. How do you deal with such situation if the love is not for real.

Toks2008:
No man really loves you for real but there must be something he sees in you,about you,around you that makes him want you.

If I see a lady who is sexually pleasing to my eyes I simply go for her but will I say I love her for real?

Are there Noth several other ladies out there with no good curves and not too presentable?

If you ask me, going after a lady because you find her sexually appealing is not even love in the first place. That's lust.

When people talk about being loved for real, they are referring to the ability of the person to see all their imperfections and accept it. They are referring to the ability of the person to see beyond their physical appearance and be aware of other treasures embedded in them.

Truth is, you'd always come across people who posses that which you find attractive in your partner and even more. You'd meet people better than your partner, people who meet your standards, who have qualites you never knew you'd find attractive. If it's all about your submission, what should one do when that happens?

This issue has been discussed in different forms/ways/format... It's fast becoming a cliché, and is already beginning to lose its value.


However, that of 'a man loving me for real', I don't get how that is out of place. Can you, please, explain further.

Why is the pressure to compromise always on ladies?

Sweet boy

She's right...

Stop sniffing ass holes... It's called ass hole for a reason.

Abi you want it to be smelling jellof rice ni

She should break up with him for her own good.

it's normal for people to get attached to those who treat then well and listen to them. You both can't be sure just yet that what you have for each other is indeed love.

After her break up, you two should give it time. Allow her heal, spend time away from each other so you can sort out your feelings. If the fire is still there, go for it.


Things will never be the same between you and your friend.

Lemme come and be going.

fabrista:
which degree?? A degree in mass communication, marketing, sociology, edu economics. etc you call that degree?

I'm not understanding....

A degree in mass communication is not a degree

Truckpusher:
Another of my loff

Howdy ?

Very fine. Compliments of the season

Truckpusher:
My loff

Ayaf missed you oh

Welcome back

Jayson1:
Sometimes I do see him as someone with mental disorder marked by memory failures but there's nothing i can do to help his condition.


*I wonder how he's girlfriend feel at this.

If she's aware of how he feels, then no use wondering. She's either strong enough or stupid enough.

Jayson1:
But my friend with an extreme self-confidience will disagree with you on that @the bolded. He finds trust as a weak emotion.

BTW, you're welcome.

Then how does he live? In constant paranoia? That's unhealthy.

TheCOB:
My question was unrelated to the earlier discussion which you quoted. It was in no way to discredit your comment.

I only asked to get you into the conversation by sharing your thoughts and so since you had mentioned effective communication, I asked that you expatiate on it.

I don't know how to reply this.

But I just answered your question.

TheCOB:
Thanks for dropping by dear.
Welcome to The COB!

Please share, what would you term effective communication in a relationship?

Communication is not effective when the sender and the receiver do not have a shared meaning. There are lots of things involved in communication from tone of voice to body language to body posture to eye contact down to choice of words. Even the environment and mood have roles to play. All of these can either enhance or distort the decoding of a message by the receiver.

You have not communicated effectively if the receiver is unable to decode the message you are sending better than you meant it or just as you meant it.

I'm trying to explain this without going into mass communication jargons. Simply put, if the receiver is not on the same page with you the sender, then effective communication is yet to talk place