bakynes:

Less pressure on Ladies because the society believes women will get married and get taken care of by their husbands and society doesn't put pressure on a poor woman but puts pressure on a poor Man.

Last time I checked, every guy out there wants someone who is independent(financially)
Someone who can meet him halfway.

Moreover, there is a feeling of fulfilment and satisfaction that comes with being on top of your game...you'd be surprised to know thousands of ladies out there crave that feeling.

A great piece but I strongly disagree that this is peculiar to guys alone.

I think the best thing to do is to wait till both are calm then sit them down and settle whatever it is between them and should never ever forget to make it known that he's not pleased with his mother's action.

However, things like this don't just happen. There must have been signs of disagreement between them... An observant and wise husband would nip it in the bud before it matures into slapping. Where both are constantly at war, it would be unwise to leave them under the same roof alone.

Oh well! There is still hope for Nigeria.

Asking him to help out is not even close to expecting miracle, you are expecting a magic...abracadabra.

He was like that before you married him and you didn't for once voice your concern about it. You accepted to marry him like that and now you want him to change overnight?

It's going to take a lot of patience and effective communication from your end.

This is depressing

This is so disappointing

kcowen:

Lemme see the one you wore ?that is somebody means of livelihood...Learn to appreciate No matter how little

Where do I even start from?

Yes, the shirt is not fine and is not worth the unnecessary ado. The fact that it's someone means of livelihood does not mean I can't say what I feel. Matter of fact, it would be wicked not to point out the truth...how will she grow if no one told her what she needs to hear.

There is nothing innovative, creative or inspiring about it. You sew a normal everyday shirt with two or three different Ankara with the present trend of fashion and you are threatening and making so much noise about it?

The shirt self no kuku fine. E resemble wetin dem use leftovers of different customer sew.


But it's none of my business...lemme come and be going

...comprehension wahala sha. This is not written for the married, it's for the singles. And who says a spinster can't give advise to the married? Knowledge/wisdom can be found anywhere; where you least expect it. We've all seen and heard stories so I see no big deal if someone decides to share what she has learned or deduced from happenings around her with others.

Except you are directly from the pit of hell, what the OP has written is on point. If you've got issue with the messanger, Kuku say it out instead of hiding under she's not married and blah...blah...blah.

Calling her out because of her status is not only myopic, it reeks of lack of wisdom.

Can he make $1 equal to N1

I think the ancient/pre colonial women of both Igbo/Yoruba had the same experience.

The little difference I see is that I've never heard of a Yoruba woman marrying a wife for herself and some women were bold and daring enough to challenge the status quo...they made history.

Swaqwiz:
Iphone 6.... Expensive gift going out you just name it

Abort mission!

Not submissive in what way? You could be the one demanding for too much from a girlfriend.

Go on

Coraje:


I understand what the op is saying very well. I strongly affirm that nobody loves another person for no reason. A guy is able to look beyond his girl imperfections because there is something else he sees in her that is more valuable to him than all the imperfections. I hope you got my point

Somehow, you and I have a point of convergence in our views. And I don't think that's what the OP is saying. If you indeed read and understood my point, you wouldn't reply me with this.

Ofemini:


I quite figure your candid question about 'real love'. The OP may not give you a satisfactory response about this because his perspective of love is attraction based. I can submit that there is true love which is solely based on a decision to do so. Attraction to a lady base on features is temporal and unreliable but when a man decides to love a lady and backed upon by an unflinching commitment to make their union work over time. Then that can be said to be true love. This is a commitment independent of emotional/feeling flunctuations.

Ah! Thank you. God bless you for me.

HarveySpecter1:


Because they aren't the superior gender

The the Harvey Specter from suits knows better

carmag:


sexual appealing is the first consideration for men when proposing to a lady, love starts existing when you find both of you compatible


if you are a man can you propose to a lady who is not sexual appealing to you

How would you develop the feelings and love when she not sexually appealing

It is the first all right, but it can not hold a relationship.

2dice01:
now imagine mother inlaw saw this msg on her son's phone from the supposed wife to be
Bola what will be her fate

she'd be super excited
You got you a caring woman

My smiles...

It is well

2dice01:
lets wash it joor..
When last did you cook for me na so so noodles..
Infact we are latest divorced couple

Be jonzing
It is for better and for worst... You are going no where

Coman eat your noodles before it gets cold

Doctorfitz:






My sister u have said nothing and it's obvious u are sexist a. K. A feminist..... Relax and read the write up one more time to get a good understanding.

You should follow your own advise. Relax and read what I've written while at it, remember to shut that tiny devil screaming sexist up... Maybe then, you'd understand my point.

Doctorfitz:




Ur arguments are biased and myopic, do u know how many men get battered by their wives and their children have to grow up watching that?...... When you were growing up was it ur dad that was breastfeeding u? Do men naturally produce milk during and after delivery?... Nature made it a woman's job.



Soon y'all will want pregnancy transferred to men that naturally don't have a uterus...... Where the heck are you getting ur 85percent statistics and other values from?...



U have no arguments.... The write up is to enlighten folks like u and several other over demanding women with the wrong and common perception.

I can't remember denying that men get maltreated by their wives as well.

And about those who made rules, pls tell me, are women responsible for that? Did they dictate how you men should be treated? They came up with the idea of men taking 100% responsibility? Did they impose emotional rigidity on men? I can go on an on... members of your specie are responsible for whatever the so called society is expecting from them today.

Look, you tagged me a sexist already and used it to downplay all I wrote as 'nothing'...i was right after all.

tosyne2much:
My dear, no matter how much of your time you devote in advocating gender equality, men will always be above women for as long as the earth exists and no one can change that

Very well then.
No use taking this any further

tosyne2much:
Sometimes, I ask myself what do women really want? So you still have problem with men not being always available to babysit their children as their wives do? The same you will complain that you can't marry a man that can't provide all your needs yet you want that same man to tale the responsibility of a woman's work

You know you are going off point, right?

tosyne2much:
You're spotted Bro

Anyone that advocates gender equality is just plain silly in my own opinion.... I think women are demanding too much even after several laws have been made to favour women and protect them from harm and dangers in the spciety, yet they still want to attain positions they don't merit just because they have v-jays

The idea of feminism is not really to be given equal opportunities to match up with men but to rub shoulders, cheat on them and perhaps, fight for positions they don't merit

Tell me which positiond they don't merit.
Examples of their outrageous demands that make their demands too much would be appreciated.
Which law biko? The one that says married women should be left alone to serve close to their family so they can take care of their husbands and kids? When will married men be asked to sever close to their wives and kids? Or the wife is a robot that needs no one to care for her and help with the kids?

Which law? Laws that are made to protect the interest of men in disguise abi?

2dice01:
oya come back here
The ring i gave you with my deacon mind something tells me you have use it for MMM

Let's not wash our dirty linen outside.

Doctorfitz:



Exactly my point.... The society has been unjust to men buh we don't cry about it cos crying about it makes u less a man.... Daddy freeze came out the other time complaining about domestic violence what happened? He was mocked and ridiculed Buh so many men go through that and cant talk cos of ego and societal pressure.

Yes, men undergo pressure, no doubt.

We all point our fingers at the society. The society is 85% what members of your specie make of it. The pressure on men was not introduced by women, you men put it on yourselves. Women are still fighting for their voices to be heard and it's a man's world out there, isn't it? You make rules that are now biting you hard and you can't fight it cos you would be fighting yourselves. You all keep mute about your pains because accepting it would expose your vulnerability thus, putting a dent on your claim of masculinity and authority. Remember how the Catholic Church held on to the earth being flat?

Feminism wouldn't have existed in the first place if women were not being oppressed... Feminism is thriving because women are not their own undoing. How would you convince a child who grew up to see his or her father treating the mother like a slave that feminism is evil? Yes, men also get such treatment but the women learnt from somewhere, a good number of then are reacting to smth and there are few plain devils. Up-to 6 in every 10 wives are being maltreated by the husband while for the men, at most 2:10.

The thread you wrote this to counter have got nothing to do with feminism. It's just that whenever someone stands up to demand that the society be fair to women, she's automatically becomes a feminist and should be hushed. Another reason why feminism will continue to thrive.

When you constantly maltreat a sheep it would one day turn to fight for its freedom. That's what is happening today. A good number of you don't even understand what feminism is all about and the few who understands just don't see any reason why they should let go of the leash. Very few men really grasp the concept.

The more you fight and ridicule the movement, the stronger it becomes... Why do even feel threatened because women are asking for equality?

redbeans:
switcakes! Beamborla!

Okay! Lemme come and be going.

Try not to wait too much sha. Another sharp dude can just go and mention marriage to her and she wee just start doing like PHCN...if you like it, put a ring on it, baby.

Lemme be going