₦airaland Forum

HARDDON:
What a dicey one!

If we send the younger one with her kids away like Abraham did( tru restitution), we might hv another form of ISIS n the likes. Even if we rent another apartment for them, care for them, how do we divorce her?
If we cant divorce her, how do we keep caring for all her needs (both emotionally n sexually?). We cant n unfortunately, another cant. What a limbo.


If we decide to maintain statues quo n just live like one big happy family, heaven might elude us.


Solution:

Explain to the younger one why u need to do this: dissolve the spiritually illegal marriage but make sure they lack nothing. Rent a nice apartment for them. That way, u wudnt owe her any sexual responsibility nor wud u bind her down from meeting n marrying another.
Even after that, care for ur kids

How did you know it's illegal marriage? Also, where should she go? To her parents house or search for a single guy or stay single for the rest of her life?

Eyekandi:
Wife no.1 is the original wife, you will have to let the second go.

Go to where ma? With or without the children?

bilulu:
I get u my sister but u no some maids can b terrible at times..... But she being in her child's house (son or daughter) n d maid with dem is better

Keep deceiving yourself.

chris2face:
Hahahaha why can't I stop laughing oh God





I guess is the best man lying on the ground




If that is what it takes to be a best man then


Am not interested

You just made me LOL.

If I hear say you no dey interested.

Just this small work you are running away.

misspatsy:
Your MIL na real witch oo,I pray God keeps my mother alive so I won't depend on someone's mother

Hmmmmnnnn!no be small thing o.

Sweetcypress:
I'm not, but does singlehood affect people's reasoning? It's just my point of view

Same way I use to think when I was single. Calling DIL bad and selfish people. I have been there and now I know a lot.

May God bless you with a good mother inlaw who will take you as her own daughter .

lollytk:
U won't know a woman's real characters until her son gets married, I used to think my mum was d best until my brother married and she went for omugwo,she complaints that d dil knows she eats breakfast by 6 am n she sleeps till 8-9( d dil just put to bed ooo n she breastfeeds d baby all through d night) my mum became another baby of d house, always looking for attention from d son, takes sides wt my bro whenever she sighted little argument btw d couple, after some time my bro asked her to go back, and my dad said he already bets with my uncle that my mum won't stay long because she used to have issues wt her own mil when we were younger, she painted our grandma black n later started acting d same way she said her mil acted,that law of karma will catch up wt her, na so dem take send mama back after 2 weeks of battle, I felt for d dil because she was always calling n crying, but she got her peace when mil left .most women are like that, they are each other's enemy,my father told my bro that keeping his wife n mother under same room is like marrying 2 new wives .women should learn to be patients with each other because u will surely reap what u sow to ur mil or dil.

May God bless you. My MIL came all the way from the village for omugwo. Hubby not around,he stays in another country. We retained the house I was living before I married. All through 9months, she no come check me and she knows it's just me at home and my mum is late. My father had to be moving from Lagos to Ibadan once in a week to check on me.

When I was due, hubby called that MIL said I should pack my things in preparation to come for naming in their place( Osun state). He said the woman said she will come and pick me and the baby a day to naming and we can leave for Lagos 2 days after naming because the house is not their house(because I rented the place). I sent him to tell them say make I born finish o and to also tell her who will stay with me immediately I give birth till the one day to naming she is talking of. Also, I told him I am not going anywhere for naming as I don't know why someone who refused to come see me for the whole 9 months will be fighting for naming location.

After I born finish, she came 2 days after and she stated her rules. She says the doctor ask her to eat breakfast by 6 am, she can't clean baby navel for the cord to disconnect because it scares her( she ha ha children o). She said she can't rock baby because she has bp and rocking is like jumping to her. She says she can't. Help me massage my body with hot water because leg is paining her. She will sleep all through the night and ignore me and baby till day break, my baby dey eat anything and the only thing that she do is to say won't you both allow her to sleep( she sleeps i? I asked her why she came to lagos if she can't do all she mentioned that she should have sent someone over and she was like in my sons house( now it's her so house o).

I had serious tear that I could barely walk. This woman no care o. We didn't cook in the house for days. She buys bread and make tea for herself. The woman in the middle flat had to be bringing me food while my landlady had to be coming to clean the baby navel, just imagine!

I heard when her daughter gave birth, she was there and left her husband at home saying she couldn't do anything because it's her first born. Now this is my own first born, she no wan hear.

The funniest thing is my hubby is still on her side that she is my MIL an can do whatever she wants. Then I know I don enter one chance.

Someone I haven't seen in th last 1yr 8 months, we went to visit them when hubby came around, we got to their place around 1pm. and we were served food almost immediately. After eating as I stood up to wash my hand, she followed me that I should come and wash some clothes, I was like we just came in now, let me rest or tomorrow morning I will wash it and she said that's the bed sheet you will use to sleep. What if my hubby came alone? Would she have done that?

Some women can be devils. This woman can pretend for Africa too. Out of her 5sons, 3 are very close to her and two out of the 3 have already divorced their wives. My hubby is the third one. The remaining 2 doesn't even let her come near their house. They stylishly push her away. I know I'm the next because the drama has also begun.

Let me just stop here! If I start to talk, I no go fit finish am.

Let God judge me if I have ever done anything bad to deserve this from this woman.

Sorry to bore you with this long epistle but I just decided to write it for those comparing all MIL to angels. And to those who never marry, watch his mum well well o. They don't change.

kingphilip:
are you married??

Let me answer on her behalf. NO

Cc Sweetcypress, I know I'm right!

HBIAFRA1:
If you reject your mother inlaw, one day ur son will get married and his wife will reject u also,, then u will be old mother inlaw too, if ur hands and heart is clean then commit ur case to God, mama inlaw will come and no evil will happen !

You don carry karma enter the matter? Maybe the MIL rejected her MIL too and that's why same is happening to her now ( think of it that way)

The thing is why do the MIL want to move into their house? Why?

Leave God out of this matter jooor! Make the lady turn to prayer warrior because of what nah.

bilulu:
1. Don't forget one day u will become a mother in law too n u would want to move into ur son's house...... Expect same treatment
2. If she didn't took care of him he wouldn't be become d responsible gentleman u met n admired.
3. If she didn't pay ur bride price mind u, u won't call dat house ur home.......
I logged on Jux to respond to ur comment

1) Must she move into their house permanently? A place can be rented/built for her and get someone to stay with her while they visit her and she visits them too. Haba!

2) if the wife's mother didn't take care of her to become the responsible gentle lady he met and admired nko? Meaning should her mother too move in because she trained her daughter?

3) it's the husband duty to pay bride price and that's why he paid it. Don't make it look like the husband did the wife a favour by marrying her as if they won't both get another person if they refuse to marry each other.

I had to log on to respond to your comment too

sexymoma:
if she goes out in the morning and comes back in the night... she doesn't and wouldn't have a problem with her..
shebi na person wey she see she go dey act for..

You never jam some MIL. Mine stays miles away and she dey control things. And think of a situation where you are avoiding your home and have to come home late in the night? Would there be happiness? Weekends nko?

That PERMANENT RELOCATION thing no fit work, walahi!

buccee:
@favouredmom, present and pushing it.

Biko mamas in da house should help me answer ds kwension

1. My last ANC shows I lost 2kg. Is this normal? cos I have been feeding well.
2. in my glucose test, blood was just drawn once and doctor said I am fine I asked about the sugary drink he said he has already seen what he was looking for and there is no nid fo it.is this normal?
3. What is the consequence of scorpion venom on pregnancy. Cos 3 nights ago scorpion stung my dh the same bed Wesley. The pain was much for him. I just de use style thank God say no be me. I can't imagine it. . Now he wan kpekus I say mak e no transfer venom to me an . He say he read am that shop scorpion pain is more than labor pain. Can it b tru?

Don't mind my many concerns Biko no jump and pass.

This got me laughing out loud "Now he wan kpekus I say make e no transfer venom to me "

Doctors in the house, over to you o.

Abeg make una no use laugh drag wound person jare.

Happy bumping mamalettes!

omololu2020:
Have never been to this Yoruba tennis club....abeg shey any of their member Wey fit carry me enter they nairaland

It's not hard nah. I'm not a member but I know a lot about them. You will surely enjoy their company.

Kimoni:
Going!!! Wish Beedam and Modath were here already...will post more on Thursday

Present ma. I was busy with sallah meat ni o....what did I miss?

udysweet:
Yeah sure, water reduced and rain just drizzling. I watch on AIT every Sunday by 7.30pm. Light been on since yesterday 5pm.
Good morning, lovely day ahead

Good morning to you too.

GuyFawkes:
Adekunle Kuye just off Agboyin.

Ok

GuyFawkes:
That's why he is the MD , Nuru Oniwo wow! we are neighbours.
We've had light all day.

Where is you place? Same here,light has been on for over 22hrs now.

udysweet:

Me that my light has been restored since 5pm

Good to hear this and rain has also stopped and by now the water level in some areas would have reduced..

Lest I forget, where do you watch jenifa's diary? Station and time pls! I hope there is still light oo?

GuyFawkes:
Which part of Aguda do u reside? Ijesha also runs across a canal hence the flooding.
Lol so if today is a Monday the rains will keep u from working.

Nuru Oniwo.

Why won't I go? Because of rain? That is automatic sack. I will surely go but my MD will come late

udysweet:
Chai, diaris God o
Me wey fall inside canal as I dey Come your place. The one wey pain me pass na my hard earned 32" TV and phones wey drink dirty water.
Abeg I don do u turn back to my house, make I go chop my hot fufu and afang soup wey I cook, that one go chase away the cold of the weather. Keep ya light or Bluetooth am come my side

E don do. I don laugh tire. Put on your hot spot make I send the light. You have tried.

udysweet:




Not me o mbok. When I've already unhooked my TV from the wall, unplugged my decoder and packed my phones and I've started wading through the murky waters to come to your place, so I can charge my phones and watch my Jenifas diary? #bringbackourlight o

My sister, tell me where you don reach make I come carry you with my motor. Light don come ooooo

And the Lord said let there be light and there was light.

They just brought it back so I'm praying for my remaining Agudaites + extentions. They will soon bring una own too

@Laredojohn, back2sender, udysweet...you have all succeeded in making EKEDC take our light abi?

No wahala, God dey

GuyFawkes:
OK I saw ur other posts, true Sanya has always being prone to flooding. The roads and drainages at my end ( off Agbonyin) are quite OK, the rain ain't stopped yet o! It's l it just getting started.

The drainages in my area too are fair maybe that's why we are not experiencing it and it's still raining till now. I heard all the area close to Ijesha side are always like that during raining season.

I would have loved today to be Monday. I have to type the minute of our last BOT meeting and my body no feel like working at all.

Laredojohn:
Aguda, Adetola, irone Avenue, sanya, pix as at 8am

Na wa o. Nuru Oniwo isn't flooded at all at all and there has been light since yesterday.

udysweet:

Chai we don suffer o,na we be aguda extention?hahahaha,lobatan!
Funny enof the light we've been bragging abt ,went off odis morning before 6 oor sso and hasn't come up again since then. I've resorted to power bank. I pray it comes on before jenifa's diary as dat d only fav tv prog for now,odawise I turn on my"I beta pass my neighbor" with the hope it will work as we hvnt used it in weeks,lol!

Bring your phone + your decoder + television so that you can charge and watch Jenifa's diary. Light still dey here o.

Happy to see a Nairalander so close to where I live.

udysweet:
I'm off sanya road
@beedam,no na d aguda for kebbi state,lol! Jus kidding. Its off Sanya. You guys know its clse t the canal and s its overflowed at bth ends,yu have to wde thru to were you're going. I gues tht answers yur quetsion. Abi Sanya,no dey inside aguda again?ll

You should have said Aguda extention nah **just joking**

So it's that serious over there? Na wa o. Just stay indoor, please. thank God there has been light since yesterday till now so just enjoy your favorite TV station.

udysweet:
Honestly thi weather mean am,lol! Since yesterday o and all thru the night till now! We're trapped in now sef as all roads in and out of my area in Aguda is flooded.
Its also the kind of weather that starts giving you naughty thoughts especially when you shouldn't ,since its a sunday. God forgive me,one:I ddnt go to church and two,this yeye thoughts,lol!
But I did church online o,before I'm bashed,lol

Aguda? Flooded? Where exactly in Aguda, madam? I live in Aguda too but no water for our road o. I cum dey wonder if na still the one in lagos you are referring to.

EgunMogaji:
I was banned by the antispam bot and I repeatedly reached out to the supermod and mod with no action taken.

EgunMogaji is now back with his atori

Atori ke? Carry your cane go front o.

But to be honest with you, the speed at which you reached that stage on the main house is wonderful. Just like yesterday when you started the garage Apartment and now this is up too.

Hope madam is warming up for the interior as you mentioned earlier. Ise ti fe kan won o!


More dollars in your pocket. Olorun a yori e si ibi rere o. Amin

EgunAnigilaje:
Please, someone explain to me how this constitutes spam

We have no leadership in this section.

So has "Egunmogaji" been banned. No wonder I'm seeing EgunAnigilaje.

EgunMogaji:
Thank you Ma.

You can blame it on Hajj. He keeps motivating me with his kobokobo scheme

Hajj is a great motivator. Weldone.

Water thief? Iyen tun ga ju.