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Editor’s note:

The story we are about to share came to us about seven months ago. The owner of the story at the time requested that we do not share her story. But in light of present happenings,she has given us permission to share her story. We ask for understanding not judgement …we ask for prayers and sound advice as we treat this story together. God bless.

Jzhane.



Hello LS,

I am a troubled woman and I need your help and advice. I am 34 years old. I am married with two children. I carry a burden and a heavy secret for years. I have not been able to speak to anyone about it. I thought I could leave my past behind but that past just has refused to leave me be.

Many years ago,as a young teenager,I used to be very smart, bubbly and pretty. I was called the prettiest of my sisters. Everyone was really fond of me. I enjoyed the attention.Because of that,my step brother used to allow me come to his room to watch TV. He was the only sibling with personal TV in our house. He is the first son of our father from another woman who he divorced before he married my mother.

Ours was a big extended family. I had 5 half sibling and 3 siblings from my mother. There was no division in our house. My mother treated everyone of us like her children. Well,except me. I was everyone’s favorite. And my big step brother’s favorite too.

One of the days my big brother allowed me come to his room,he was.....����

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Good afternoon house,

Please share your views on this please as I am quite confused. I have known Bode for over two decades. When we first met,we were dating other people but we clicked very fast as friends in the industry. I am an actress,Bode is an excellent Actor very well known in the industry.

Apart five years ago,myself and Bode began a romantic relationship. Even with our clashing schedules,we tried to make our relationship work. Eventually,the pressure of craft got the better of us.There were rumors of Bode messing around on set. We broke up after. But last year,we re-connected and started afresh.

Bode promised to me and I said yes. I was in love with him. I was ready to tolerate all the shenanigans of the industry as long as I am the wife at home eventually. Our wedding was beautiful. God blessed us with a baby boy almost immediately. I was hearing of the set flirting and all but that did not bother me.

I was the wife at home. I was ok with that. Besides,Bode is a smashing handsome guy any woman will throw her undies for without thinking. We planned for our first real vacation as a family. With my five month old baby,we traveled to Dubai. It was a beautiful family get away time.

We met some of our friends in the industry during our trip. A few even lodged in same hotel as us. One night,we all partied together but I had to leave cos of my baby. I let Bode hang with the boys. I went to sleep but woke up a few hours later. Bode was still out. I noticed my baby was running a little temperature and I did not have any paracetamol with me.

I called Bode hoping he can go get me some but he didn’t pick up. So I went back to the party to look for Bode. I was told by some friends that he left with another guy.I was give the guy’s room number so I went up the elevator to this guy’s room. To be honest,I did expect to see Bode with a lady in this guy’s room.

For me,that didn’t bother me,I needed to get medicine for my child. When I got to the hotel room,the door was shut,I knocked,no one answered but I heard voices. I knocked and pulled the door handle and the door opened. I went in and sure,there were people there making out and even doing some crazy things,smoking,drinking,etc

I just looked around for my husband. I needed him urgently. And then,I spotted him!!!…It didn’t register at first but when it did,all I could say was......




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Learn to appreciate good thing, else nothing good ever will come your way. Whatever seed you're sowing today you will definitely reap in years to come. Am not coursing you but only letting you know, because man is a product of the way he thinks. Have a nice weekend

LuciferTasbih:
Knowing potopotor yam leg feminists, she probably ordered those children from a baby factory.



*spits

Hello Jzhane,

There is this girl I like alot. We have been dating on and off for almost two years. I fell in love with her for her beauty and good manners. However,it appears that we both have different views to social life. We differ on social issue but agree on other issues.

Of course,we are both Christians. Although of different parishes. I grew up in a pretty enlightened family and that means,we have a very robust social life. We like to go out and party. We socialize and have a great time.

My girlfriend grew up in very strict religious environment and this forms her perception to alot of things. She actually sees me as........


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June 8th,2019 couldn’t come fast enough for lovebirds:Kingsley and Uloma to walk down aisle to say ‘I DO’ in front of friends and family. The couple were joined in Holy Matrimony in Christ Embassy and they later treated their guests to a time of celebration at their wedding reception later that day.

To relief moments from the celebration,here are first pictures from the beautiful wedding. if you missed pre-wedding and bridal shower pictures,you can click here and here to see them.

Congratulations to the happy couple:


See more pics here

https://livelystones.com.ng/first-pictures-from-uloma-kingsley-fairy-tale-wedding-celebration/

true talk

captianfreeman:
It depends.

Hello Lively stones,

I want to remain anonymous. I am 39 years old. I have lived quite a rough life. Things were not so easy growing up. I had to survive since I could not depend on my parents. I got exposed to hard life early but I was determined to make it irrespective of my background.

I slept with men to pay my way through school. I do not regret choosing that life cos there was no other way I could actualize my goal. There were days I went without food. No one wanted to help. They all wanted to take advantage of me. I decided to use what I had to get what I wanted. In the course of my hustle,I carried out a few abortions. unfortunately,I destroyed my womb in the process.

Initially I did not realize how bad I destroyed my life but when my boyfriends began to leave me when I told them I could not have my own children. That made me realize that maybe marriage was not for me. I have cried and regretted my life and my mistakes and accepted my fate.

However,my family and friends have no idea why I decided not to get married . Everyone had tried to hook me up with one guy or the other but I just bring up reasons for it not to work. I was hiding my secret so well so far.

Well until two years ago. I met this man who is 53 years old. He is a divorcee with three children. My people did not like the idea of me marrying such an older man but they were also happy that at least I found someone to marry me.

Well,in my mind,I felt since he ......



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Hello House,

I need your advice. This is really bothering me. So,it happened like this: Last year,My Auntie called me to help assist the daughter that has graduated for almost two years without a job. I was hesitant but she kept using my mother to taunt me. I am a business woman,into buying and selling and I have a big boutique as well.

So,I told my husband and because of the pressure,my husband got her a job in his office. As one of his PAs. He has a male PA. That has always been his style. Since there was really nothing else to offer this cousin of mine,he had to make her like an assistant to that his male PA.

Please note that this cousin of mine is way younger than I am. I am 41,she is 26. Young and attractive. Not too fine sha. I myself,I am cute,at least,I get comments that I am still hot but you get what I mean,she is like young blood.

Last month,God blessed us,we moved into our new home. And we had a house warming party. It was a big party. We had most of our friends and family around. There was a lot of drinking and merry making. Towards evening,most people had had enough alcohol to make them tipsy. I myself,had a few. Guests were already leaving.

I went to lie down a little bit. Hoping my husband would join me a few minutes later. I eventually fell asleep but woke up like an hour later. I think the alcohol was wearing me down.I checked and did not find my husband so I went looking for him. I checked around the house,I did not find him.

I went to the pent house and though it was dark,I noticed there was someone there. I walked in on my husband and my cousin locked in embrace. Kissing and smooching. I screamed and they fell apart. Immediately my husband started to beg me and this stupid girl ran away without even saying a word to me.

I was seriously hurt by my husband’s action. He swore that he had never done anything with her before now. He even asked me to ask his male PA. He swore that he did not know what got over him. He said it was the alcohol. I felt so betrayed.

But what surprised me was that,my cousin did not say a word to me. I had to call her mother my auntie. The woman just kept quiet. She only said,she will talk to her daughter. Since this incident,I have been trying to move on from the pain I feel but I cannot. This is because,my husband has ......




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Hello House,

I have been a silent member of this group for a while. I learn quite a lot from the discussions here. But it also makes me a little nervous because I been keeping a secret for sometime now. I kept this a secret for the good of everyone but I have a question for for everyone to help me answer:We All Make Mistakes But Is Love Ever Really A Mistake?

Here is my story (Do not use my real name please):

I am married,almost 8 years now. Back when I was dating my husband,we were having issues because it took him a while to let go completely of his ex. I think he loved her too much but the girl wanted a rich man. So even though they were broken up,he was hiding to see her. I did not know at first but when I found out,I wanted to leave.

But he would beg and beg me,and because I loved him,I went back to him.One time,he was sneaking to meet her in a hotel almost everyday,I had enough so I left. He didn’t come begging as he used to do. I was heartbroken. His younger brother then was in university used to come to our house cos we were all close that time.

His brother had issues in school and was afraid to tell anyone so he would come to my place and hide so his people wouldn’t know he was sent away from school. He stayed in my place for almost six months before he found a place.

We didnt plan it but we slept together. The first time we regretted it but we were both single and having issues that time. S*x was like an escape or comforting thing for us to engage in. Eventually he went back to school and as God we have it,His brother and I made up like 8 months after.

We got married not to long after. We agreed to keep our brief affair a secret. But after marriage,anytime his brother came to visit us.......


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Hmnnn

This week, Esther explains her definition of what exactly constitutes a s*xual fantasy.

“What is s*xual fantasy?” – Dylan, Columbus, OH

People sometimes confess to me that they don’t have s*xual fantasies. They assume they have no imagination. I want to tell you that everyone has the capacity for fantasy.

But what is fantasy? The idea of it has been coopted so that we view it through a narrow lens. It has come to mean costumes, porn-star poses, elaborate accouterments and role-play. You can certainly introduce role-play into your relationship and here’s how.

But here is the radical but simple definition of fantasy: s*xual fantasy is simply anything that enhances excitement or pleasure. Whether it’s the time of day, the way the breeze drifts across a field or a story you create about the way someone looks at you. Let’s continue to unpack the idea of fantasy........



https://livelystones.com.ng/what-you-dont-understand-about-sxual-fantasies-by-esther-perel/

Editor’s Note:

This story is as shared by the author with her permission. This is the final part of the story. If you missed part 1,2 and 3,please click here,here and here to read. We hope you all can draw strength and courage from her story. Stay tuned.

Jzhane

The Next Level –

Hustling continued. Home front fantastic. My children’s academic performance became very excellent, to the amazement of all. I tried my possible best to provide all their needs, and give them a comfortable life. I must confess I sometimes got weighed down, and for countless times, I would break down and cry at the thoughts of all I was passing through. But then, I have always masked it all with good smile, behaving as if everything was ok.

Being a big dreamer that I am, I have always ...........



https://livelystones.com.ng/a-woman-shares-her-story-of-pain-strugglecourage-victory-pt-4/

Editor’s Note:

This story is as shared by the author with her permission. This is the third part of the story. If you missed part 1 and 2,please click here and here to read. We hope you all can draw strength and courage from her story. Stay tuned.

Jzhane

The Birth of Nosking Global Resources Ltd

I needed a serene environment to heal and restart my life, Festac was far from it, Satellite was not an option, Okoko area doesn’t in anyway offer the kind of peace and tranquillity I needed to rebuild my life.

Meanwhile, when he was alerted that I had “absconded”with the kids, he quickly rushed home from the market and made a report at the police station that I carted away his properties. He told his friends that “umuazi gbajibe m aka mkpolatalu ya ha”, that when I was tired, I would send back his kids and that he would never give me any assistance . Little did he know that he would wait forever.

I remembered visiting Agbara Estate one time while I was on a school hunt for my kids and fell in love with the estate. I began a search for a two rooms BQ on Agbara estate while I perched in pastor Ovo’s house. A special thanks to his lovely wife pastor Omo for sheltering the kids and I for days while I searched for a place.

I found...............


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Editor’s Note:

This story is as shared by the author with her permission. This is the second part of the story. If you missed part 1,please click here to read. We hope you all can draw strength and courage from her story. Stay tuned.

Jzhane

The Troubled Days

His mum had asked me to try one more time. But I retorted, ‘what if it comes out as another female child?”

I took my time to enlighten her that the main determinant of the sex of a child is the man. But that didn’t stop her. She was now living with us, and that was when things started getting worse.

Space would not permit to paint the pictures of all I went through in her hands. The peak of it all was her connivance with her daughters to paint me black before their brother. And that was how it all snowballed into me being turned a .....



https://livelystones.com.ng/a-woman-shares-her-story-of-pain-strugglecourage-victory-pt-2/

Hmmmm

Editor’s Note:

This story is as shared by the author with her permission. We hope you all can draw strength and courage from her story. Stay tuned.

Jzhane


My Early Days.

I had just finished WAEC in June 1996 and turned seventeen with very high hopes . I headed to my brother’s house in Alaba area, Sabo Ajangbadi to be precise. I couldn’t wait to get into the university and come out the best Lawyer. I wrote jamb and got admission into UniIlorin.

Before the holiday ended, I met my Ex who happens to be in the same Alaba international market from the same town; Nanka. Well he toasted me and being a naive young girl, I told my sister in-law about it and she advised me to give him a chance seeing as I was already of age.

That was the beginning of.......




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lovely!

Few days ago,we brought you lovely pre-wedding photos of friend to Lively Stones,Uloma’s pre-wedding photos. If you missed the heart warming photos,please click here to see them.

On Saturday the 1st of June,2019 was a day for friends of the stunning brie to be to come together for a bridal shower in honor of their friend,Uloma. See lovely pictures from the bridal shower below:


Cc: lalasticlala


More pics

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Friends of Livelystones ,Uloma and Kingsley shared lovely pre-wedding photos for her upcoming wedding with LS. The beautiful duo had different outfits for the pre-wedding photo shoot to spice up the count down to their wedding.

The couple #uk2019 looked stunning at their pre-wedding photo shoot

See photos from their pre-wedding photo shoot:


https://livelystones.com.ng/exclusive-uloma-kingsley-beautiful-pre-wedding-photos/

Good morning,

Please I really need counseling my heart is bleeding, can I talk to you ma?

I feel this guilt in me that is cutting my heart off, I felt that am a bad person or am wicked ,I fell in love with this guy. Our relationship was flowing very well we love each other that we can’t stay without hearing each other voice..

But ours was a distance relationship so we tried to be truthful to each other, whenever we talk he also talk about sx and I will rebuke him, and tell him if he did stop I will stop talking to him, he will apologize, because I told him I don’t give sx in relationship.

So with time,our relationship was growing strong then one day I received a message through his.....



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couldn't agree less

lilianofentse:
When you Stop calling him the love of your life. You'll move on easily.