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legionISproteus:
Now what about the situation in polyandrous homes?

Gloriagee:
As an elder, name one Nigerian man that has stayed peacefully with his wife's co-husband, lover in one room. Just one...Ndi elder

Mariangeles:
Maybe if the man prioritized his own children just like the woman, he wouldn't have time to seek attention, then the woman also will have time for him.
Don't you agree?

It is not only the woman's responsibility to care for the children. It's a lot to handle.

Also, why do most men seek the attention of side chicks instead of giving attention to their children and their wives - their family?
Are most men just attention seekers or they do it to spite their wives?
Most men are known to be jealous of their own children too.

Channah1:
I had no choice than to scatter the money I was trying to build to get a proper apartment since no one was willing to help and thank God, I don dey alright.

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Kaybae:
Some men just have the mind of polygamy even though having a good wife at home. I know countless numbers of men that their first wives are angel( behavior) but still want a second wife,to be honest....

Favfables1:
Seeing we're dealing with the issue of polygamy from the root, lemme ask a few questions ...

1. If the first wife was good enough, why would the man go out and marry another woman? I mean, would there be need to get something else, if the first was good enough?

2. If the first wife refuses to be part of a polygamous home, why doesn't she divorce the man?

3. Why would a woman marry a man who she knows already has another wife? And even if she was unaware of the other wife, why can't she move on when she discovers there's another woman in the picture?

4. Since the women have decided to be part of the polygamous home ((by staying)), why can't they live in peace with each other? Why do fight each other's kids and the likes?



Oya...
Let the awesomeness of fallacy ad hominem begin ....

bukatyne:
1 & 2. If the husband is a serious fellow and ready to be a husband and leader of his home, then he would speak up about the anomaly. After speaking up, he will address the issue fairly, sensibly & efficiently (RCCG peeps go code the last sentence ). Does the wife need help? Has she forgotten she is a wife before mother? Is it lack of prioritization? Is the father the absent one in the equation? Etc etc.

3. Not true. Many wives are the breadwinners and still taking shit in their marriages largely because they believe 'that's how it is'.

bukatyne:
1. I read the sentence again and I apologize as it was not my intention to claim that all black men frustrate their wives. A better way to convey my message is this: An average black/Nigerian/African man does not have the 'moral standing' to say 'what does women bring in marriage'? He doesn't. I have been opportuned to observe firsthand the marital beliefs/roles of different cultures in Nigeria and women do more in ALL of them.

Especially in cultures like Yoruba where stay at home moms are devalued.

It is only online you hear Nigerian men ask what women bring to the mystical table; only online.

Men offline admit that women do more however fall into different buckets of appreciating, not appreciating, feeling entitled etc.

When you know a husband who earns, does childcare, domestics, social engagement, in-law engagement, religious engagement, school run, medical care etc ALONE while married to fit wife, we will discuss.

Several women do the above while still earning & a man online opens his mouth to ask 'what is a woman doing'?

Saintmary:
Buhahahahahahahahhahahaha

Gloriagee:
And your point is.....

Wat does men divorcing cheating women have to do with polygamy?

Gloriagee:
The major problem in a polygamous home is the MAN who of his volition decides to complicate his life and mess with the feelings of women. Let's treat every issue from the root

Hathor5:
Such women don't exist according to this thread. It's not by force to be a husband.

Hathor5:
Thank you!

A woman is lucky to have a man who understands what she goes through to raise a family. Your appreciation goes a long way.

Hathor5:
I thought in a loving family both parents focus on their kids they consider a blessing. And while their marriage takes a back seat in the first years, they appreciate these years knowing how quickly kids grow and increasingly become independent which makes them have more time for each other very soon again to also take pride in how their kids thrive on the love and energy they both have invested in them.

I guess, you need to have them kids and a loving co-parent to know this.

Saintmary:
Everybody.



Homo Sapiens are still in the distant future.

bukatyne:
Same woman his father thought was useless while his mother is gold

Statistically, men abandon their wives than wives abandon their husbands.

bukatyne:
Same woman his father thought was useless while his mother is gold

Statistically, men abandon their wives than wives abandon their husbands.

bukatyne:
If someone's parents had a proper, healthy, loving marriage, he/she would know the valuable things both sexes bring to the table.

Secondly, the OP is western. It makes no sense that a black man who is the definition of frustration to his wife & family would try to even align.

I am sure that if Osinachi's death wasn't public, her husband would read the OP and nod on concurrence.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Never knew I was discussing with a low life man who doesn't have what it takes to settle down or sustain a family. Walahi. I don Bleep up.

Saintmary:
Marry plenty women and stop complaining naw.



Shebi you are polygamous in nature.






Neanderthals everywhere.

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Thank you Mr intelligent who is not intelligent enough to keep a marriage.

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Op.That marriage didn't favour you does not mean it won't favour another man.

I ve been married for years with kids and I'm not regretting it.

cococandy:
They are women too and are therefore useless by default.

bukatyne:
The same peeps who believe their mother 'ranks' higher than their wives?

Momma worship seems to be a staple of redpill

cococandy:
And y’all better respect it. Because talking as if it’s JUST pregnancy tries to minimize the fact that it’s life she’s giving to the world.

If all she did was get pregnant and have kids, she’s already done more than you have or can do. regardless of how much money you make. If you doubt it, use your money to mold a human being inside of you.

End of!

SarutobiEky:
I Hope yo get headbutted by him and thrown out of his room.

bukatyne:


If you read the OP, you would think all women do in marriages is have sex and get pregnant.

Maybe that's what their mothers did.

Because I don't know how someone grew in/saw a functional and loving home and still say women/men do nothing/contribute in marriages.

cococandy:
tell me hunie. How old am I?

cococandy:
which is?