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The thing is that people that are not in inter tribal marriages see it as one big deal. It is not biko. I am a full bred Igbo woman married to a full bred Yoruba man and honestly our tribal differences are the least of our problems. Maybe it's cos of our backgrounds, or we are just two kpomo hearted people that care less about what people say . When my husband is on the phone with my in-laws, he speaks Yoruba, when I am on the phone with my family, I speak Igbo. We tell each other what was said and convey regards. I honestly haven't had a hard time in my marriage cos of tribe. I dated Igbo men b4 marriage but we conversed in English. Marriage is so vast that tribal differences should hardly matter. That's how I see it anyway. I married my husband cos of his heart. It is not easy to see someone in this our time who is ready to come back from work and still cook for you, while u stretch ur tired feet with remote in ya hand . Someone that insists on ur input before decision making. These were the kind of qualities I was looking for and once I saw them in him, tribe was a non issue. Most of the men I dated from my tribe expected me to wait on them hand and foot. Kolewerk o.there were objections from some of his people and my people but we were footing our bills by ourselves, we couldn't be intimidated. Now everyone has come round especially his people after my dad collected 100 naira as my bride price. They Cldnt believe it as their main objection was that Igbo girls are too expensive to marry. The funny thing is that he had broken up with his Yoruba gf before we met, so between both of us I don't even know who is more detribalised. The only thing I miss is not traveling to my village every Christmas

Florena:
I like u! No time to dey do vigilante on top d matter, just "catch and kill"

yes mama , I no dey look no mean say my antennae no dey alert

limsycutey:
BellaElla, your post cracked me up. You are making sense Jor.

hahahaha, thanks mama. I am for anything that would make my life easier o

mama sugah you are absolutely right about the testing thing. the stories we hear these days are horrible
this weekend I will do that o, thanks for saying this.
mama twogreatnations , it is very easy for husbands to declare that there would be no live in HH cos they are not the ones that would pass through the stress.
are you ready to cook, wash plates, clothes, go to market, take care of your self, attend to two newborns at once? after all the vigilante you do for night? can you still kpekus at night, wont you resent your DH?
my sister it is not easy, agreed some househelps are a handful but they are necessary evils.
would we now say we would not drive because we know someone that died in an accident?
you can get someone that only does house work for you, while u focus on ur babies.
if you don't like her, fire her, hire another one.
find a way to convince you DH, if u go lie give am that doctor shouted at u for being too active, go ahead
a womans life is hard enough as it is biko, don't let work and babies wear you out so soon o, so you wont age 30 yrs over night
before I had a househelp, I would wake up by 5am, wash, then go to work by 8am, come back 5pm, straight to market.
DH didn't increase by monthly money o, na only try o, sorry o, weldone o, ur hard working o, next day the same thing.
as the househelp came, na still the same monthly money I dey get, plus the plenty rest I dey get, I will just come back and stretch my leg after a long day at work.
there is no reward here on earth for stressing urself to please man o, unless if the reward is in heaven

mama olubankemi how old is your girl
I think small househelps are actually very troublesome to keep and can be mischievous too.
when I told my mom I needed a HH, she went to the village to find me one 9 yr old pikin.
I went to check cost of registration in school for her, 40,000. whaaaat!!!! I will still feed, cloth, take care of any sickness etc.
I told mumsi not to bother, I got an agent
the first girl he brought for me, I sent her back to him the next day
the babes breasts are as big as oranges , how did I know?
she left the door open when she was bathing, I called her and she came to answer me wearing only pant and tights, no bra or top o
I saw her bare boobs like 4 times within 2 hours, and she had her own room o.
she would come and join me and DH on the chair in the parlour as we were watching tv.
DH even shouted at her like 20 mins after she came because she was just eyeing me when I wasn't looking. 17 yr old pikin.
I told her she would go the next day, that I cant afford to pay her, she stole my new clothes as she was going.
agent brought another one.
I liked this one once I saw her
she has her issues though bit we work around it.
first thing I did was to get her towel, sponge and brush
also bought her deodorant, a roll of soap etc.
I went to the bank with her and opened an account for her (na me hold the atm sha) she cant runaway without me knowing
I have done small shopping for her ( cloths, bras, etc) and she has not stayed with me for more than two months
she says she doesn't want to touch her money so I pay her salary by transfer, she gets the alert, I give her small money for recharge card.
She is also 17 but far better and more respectful than the first one.
I treat her very well because I know how I treat her would be how she treats my pikin in my absence.
and I want her to derive pleasure in staying with me, not just cos of salary.
she does all the housework, irons, goes to market etc. she has started cooking noodles and the likes for me sef.
I give her money to cook her own soup, then give her provisions for tea once a month, if she like make she lick am finish
b/fast and dinner she eats what we eat.
that's the method I have been using and its working for me, though I came back unexpectedly one afternoon and caught her cooking rice
you cant win them all. personally, I think its better to go for more mature maids, than small children, their wahala is too much. their parents also expect too much from you. if you beat am now, people go dey shout child abuse
what people fear is that the mature house help will collect their husband but for me I cant be bothered biko
I cant think of my baby, work, food , and also think of how HH will seduce DH.
But anyday I catch them making goo-goo eyes at each other, then out of three of us, one person go die o

OP your situation isn't strange, but how u go about determines the result u will get
you have already made some mistakes like threatening to sleep outside.
the day my husband threatens me with infidelity, I doubt he would get the solution he desires.
the issue here is both of you are on different sexual wavelengths.
Some women are just not naturally adventurous in bed, some see things like giving head and talking dirty in bed a taboo
if she grew up like that, then there is nothing you can do, its already ingrained in her.
what you can however do is to try and increase the frequency of the action.
do you only hold her when you want some? do you flaunt her on social media? how often do you compliment her? do you cuddle her at night? are on chatting with other women in her presence?
have you bought her any intimate stuff, buy her sexy lingerie, turn her to your model, carry her on ur laps and tell her how beautiful and irresistible she is to you. that you are lucky to have her etc, etc.
some women need their inner sirens to be cajoled out, every woman loves to be wooed and sweet talked by her man. whether he means it or not . for instance even if her body changed after childbirth, tell her its more sexy now , if she believes in her sexuality, she would flaunt it for u. don't go and start complaining of fallen brezz and loose kini o. she would never recover from it
finally lose those your female friends numbers, it is highly disrespectful. you are married and as such the only females you should be interacting with those that benefit you financially, academically or business wise.
if your wives male friends before marriage should start calling her frequently, I guess you wont fancy it.
what would even give a single woman the morale to tell u to come and chop, that means your female friends are highly promiscuous and have no shame, you cant make progress in your home if you still keep those loose girls as your friends and confidants.

mama liftedhands that your sister is very rich o
Shuo! 25k for bath set for this Buhari economy?
hmmm, u know say some people dey buy things for boutiques, some dey buy for shop, some dey enter market
I kent imagine how much she go come buy cot

mama AlphaHandMaiden you are in the spirit
sometimes when these market people know u are a FTM they will bring out all the flashy and expensive things and try to swindle u.
my mom was even telling me that not all the things on the hospital list should be bought, that when baby come out, no nurse fit push am go inside . but me I no gree for that one sha, though some items on my hospital list dey make me raise eyebrow
1 packet of latex gloves ( that's 100 pcs o) dem go use am finish?
3 delivery mats
Dettol and Savlon (Why the two?)
24 nylon bags. etc etc.

Lbotusme:
Zaynie, am fine. Thanks for checking on us.
Plix can we borrow from the dues? I wanna buy snails

Congrats sugah and kotias003.
My honourable captain feddy27 and mamas, how are we doing?

Hope we've packed our bags?
#teamoctforsupernatural delivery

Errr teamie izzit nor too early to pack awa bags?
I haff been restraining my sef since from packing bag o. I hide from DH to scatter the baby bags and arrange them back. He is laughing at my over excitement.
So u mean I can now legally start packing the bag . Can't wait mehn!

Mamas abeg anybody don hear of this MMM stuff? My colleagues and neighbours no gree me hear word. E com be like say na only me never sign. Abeg any mama with views on the MMM biz. Becos the way my eye dey chook for money these days. Anything wey go double my money sharp sharp am in.

mamas liftedhands, enkaydewdrop, fortuis, zaynie, Sisinini, tipsyjules, SerendipityF. thanks for the sharp answers.
you all are too much.

Mamas I greet you all
Special hailing to October mamas, chai in just two months.....
Yoruba mamas abeg is Omotayo a male or female name?
my husband gave me an assignment to find male Yoruba names and submit to him, he will now choose the one he likes
abeg how will an Igbo geah start searching for Yoruba names na?
I just love the name Tayo, but I no wan give my son name wey him go dey shame to answer.
make una hepp me abeg.

as for shopping mata, hmmmm...
I was thinking that 100k will buy everything. lie lie!
I even bought from Ariaria sef,
e no still do
Mamas please is baby wardrobe necessary biko? cant I use like 2 baskets instead.
mamas that have bought are u people using it?
what of baby cot?
I bought the small bed that has net but when people come to see the baby where will I keep him?
I have even started using the baby things sef.
my face wipes finished and I opened one Angels baby wipes to be cleaning make up. the scent is bae
when is the ideal time to start washing babys clothes. is 31 weeks too early?
thanks mamas.

crackhaus:
Well, people are still getting married regardless...but I must say that you left out one very important thing - character/attitude.


So I was in church this morning and sat next to one gorgeously-dressed unmarried lady (I only assumed she was unmarried going by the vibe she was giving off...didn't bother checking her fingers), then the pastor made a comment about how a lot of single ladies these days always seem to have a long list of things they desire in a man:

- he must be this ......
- he must be that .....
- he must have this .....
- he must have that ..... and so on and so forth,

Now according to him (which is actually the truth and I agree), not one of these ladies usually adds things like these to their lists:

- I will always honour the man God sends my way
- I will totally respect and be a blessing to the family of the man God sends me no matter what
- I will place my future husband's authority above mine in the home as the Lord designs... etc etc.


Back to the lady I sat next to..
While the pastor was talking about how ladies always have long lists and going on to give examples, she kept interjecting with the usual 'yes oo', 'ride on Sir, 'that's it'...
But for some reason, immediately the man went into the second half listing things which they usually fail to include in these lists, you wouldn't believe how mute this young lady became - she didn't make a single sound, it was almost as if she had been caught unaware and off-guard on realizing she was indeed one of those people.

She had obviously become more relaxed now and was probably thinking deep, because that wasn't the narrative she was expecting at the end.



I hope this was practical enough?

Do you worship with The Kings Assembly Sir?

Mztyqal your experience broke my heart. It is horrible. I can't imagine how you feel right now. May God replace your son with multiple births. Take heart.

Oga morning o. In my opinion I believe you are too involved in their marriage. Firstly it is only an irresponsible wife that visits neighbours everyday without reason. You and ur wife shouldn't have let it get that frequent. Its not a behaviour to encouraged and breeds over familiarity and disrespect. Another thing is when she started complaining about her marriage to u people, you should have known the kind of woman she was. That woman can set u up, she can cause issues between u and ur wife . She is not a wise person to associate with. However its not late to disassociate urself. Distance urself from their issues. Stop calling the woman. E no concern u. Let the man and his family sort it out. It would surprise u that when they are talking about their wahala or name would be mentioned. Over familiarity between neighbours dey always bring insult.

Liftedhands:
Bellaella we still dey the journey but the rate this boy dey suck and pull am ehn? E be like say Na ancient of days go be my song o but then push up bra can give me back my confidence

Mama liftedhands I wonder how our parents take born 7. Make my boy take am easy remain for him papa abeg.

Fortius:
just woke up

hmm..na so dem dey gv ampiclox wt abidec,dunno y too.

feddy27 ..tnx for sharin ma.

BellaElla...mine na ancient of days o nd i get banana shaped breast b4 childbearin so law of gravity no work so i cnt say na breastfeedin dey cause am cuz i av a friend dat her breast remain firm even afta breastfeedin bt it helps to wear bra wen u deliva to mAintain d firmness,all d best mam.

welcum suzy,happybumping.

Loool. Fortuis u won't kee me . I just dey set my mind for any thing. Worst case I go dey roll am inside bra with groundnut on top .

Senior mamas abeg make una confirm . What is una brezz like after BF. Is it singing "I have confidence in you" or is it singing "ancient of days" . Make una tell us o, make we dey prepare our mind.

feddy27:
Time to rant

So i went for lunch break and decided to buy one yam pottage I've been eyeing for a lon time. only to get to the office after entering rain o, i couldn't eat again! one spoon I took and feels like i want to throw up and o was really hungry o...only my sprite seems to go down with me. I'm beginnig to have headache, runny nose, cold !!!!!

For some days now, I've been feelin so much pressure and my waist kinda hurts, if i stand up after sitting, i will start to leap! so i went to do scan yesterday and my baby was in cephalic presentation with face down! We could not see her face. So i was thinking, at 28wks; she's already in the birthing position? is it not too early? I feel like my waist wants to pull out, i practically have to support my bump these days! O Lord, counting down seriously to when I will stop work #6weekstogo# I can't wait honestly! I go to work really late these days; getting out of bed is a real struggle. everyone is tired of me, no one complains of my late coming again

Dear Lord, help me!

#RantOver#

chai! cappo sorry o! for our able captain to complain like this na him be say e don hook you well well.
In Feddy27's voice "Sorry dearie, it will be over soon!!

feddy27:
Team October!!!!!!! Long time we had our roll call.

Roll call time

1. feddy27 - Orange / Team PINK
2. SerendipityF – Purple / Team BLUE
3. Gandyluv - Purple / Team BLUE
4. BellaElla - Purple / Team BLUE
5. Onyinyechika08 - Purple/Team BLUE
6. Sugarcanebaby - Purple/ Team BLUE
7. Kunmimum - Purple / Team PINK

8. Lbotusme - Violet
9. Luscioustrish - Purple
10. nwapastor - Purple
11. Babylove01 - Purple
12. Moyingirl - Orange
13. Teegali - Orange
14. Teeteek - Purple
15. tejirikennedy - Violet
16. Emerald22 - Orange
17. Lilybestie - Purple
19. Quin9 - Purple

19. Mamajesu
20. Ojac1
21. Kwentjules
22. Marcjane
23. Chicmoniq
24. blessedchick
25. Ugochiada
26. Veleta

Hello lovely teamies, how are we doing? Please kindly update our list and answer our roll call so we know everyone is doing well.

Hope we have started shopping? Don't forget to group your items so you don't miss out anything. Example:
1. Diapering - Diapers(disposable or reusable), wipes, diaper cream (vaseline, sudocream, desitin)
2. Bath time essentials - wash cloths, body wash, lotion, baby oil, hair oil, towels, bath set, alcohol i.e. methylated spirit(for umblical cord cleaning)
3. Feeding - breast feeding essentials (breast pump, breast pads, nursing bra, milk storage bottles), baby formula, bibs, bottle feeding essentials (bottles, sterilizer-microwave or electric; hot water flask)
4. Clothing - onesies (bodysuits and sleepsuits), nice clothes, hair accessories for baby girls, socks, mittens, blanket, flannels
5. Gears - Car seat, swings
6. Furniture - baby cot, beddings

I'm sure we are preparing for the third trimester!!!!!!!! Yipppee.... we shall soon get to our promised land with our bundles of joy in our arms.

The third trimester of pregnancy generally starts around 27-28 weeks. Basically, it is the last three months of your pregnancy, give or take a few days or weeks

WHAT TO EXPECT IN THE THIRD TRIMESTER
Transitioning from the second trimester to the third trimester can be rough, especially when some of the old first trimester symptoms begin to reappear and stay until you give birth to your baby.

Here are some of the things you may experience in the third trimester:
•the return of fatigue
•backaches
•trouble sleeping
•fetal development
•frequent urination
•Braxton Hicks contractions
•weight gain
•gestational diabetes testing
•kick counts
•onset of labor


Ok darlings! Enjoy the rest of your week and have a great day ahead

Present mama. Lucioustrish I see ya teamie. I was complaining to my mum today that I am not finding the way I feel funny and she laughed at me and said that the real work has not even started. Like joke like joke this spitting wan last for 9months. I haven't kissed my DH for six months. I drool on the pillows when I am asleep. I can't even cuddle anymore make I no use spit scatter the man body. . Most importantly I can't even remember what my VJ looks like . These days I have to feel it with my hands to make sure say e still dey . Oh well, I believe it's all gonna be worth it. First thing I am going to do when I give birth is to take a good long look at my VJ and apologize to her for underappreciating her when I could still see her

feddy27:
Awww...Pele dear.. check kilimanjaro at Woji jxn, I've seen something like that before

mama feddy27 u too much, all the way from CFC to Woji . I commot cap for you. na you be original google for this thread . But PH is very dry in terms of food cravings for pregnant women. na only bole and fish dem sabi .

Errm, where are those mamas that said 2nd trimester na honeymoon trimester ?. You people should come and show me the honeymoon inside this heartburn and heaviness that i am feeling o. Mamas please is dizziness part of the package? I nearly fainted on the road yesterday morning. I had to sit on the ground by the roadside to regain strenght. Has anyone experienced this biko? went to scan and was told i have type 1 Placenta Praevia, i don go google and the stories i dey see there put fear for my body. I have put myself in Gods hands, na there me and my LO dey chill for now . October mamas how una dey? Few weeks to 3rd trimester. Baba God Noni. We were once the lastborns on this thread, now we don senior from nov- March team . Before we know , na we go dey drop BS! # dancing owigiri #dancing atilogu#

happy Bornday PrincessKF
the way wey u dey shine ehn! make ur DH no give u another belle on top the one wey u carry
have a blast!

coldharmattan:
Good day fruitful mamas.

Please I don't mean to cause trouble but I have come here to warn one of you to please and please release my husband.
I registered on nairaland a long time ago. Dh is also on NL, 2 weeks ago, I traced his girlfriend here. They met on NL and have met to an extent that she is even pregnant. He rented her an apartment and hardly ever comes home to me and the 3 kids.

You are here forming married woman on top another person husband! God is watching you.
Please release my husband before I carry your matter to Facebook and people that will deal with you mercilessly.

You have been warned.
I will pity you and not mention your moniker but if you refuse to do as I have said, I will disgrace you from this forum.


Ashaaaawo 10kobo.

Mama I am sorry for the troubles you are facing right now, I cant imagine how you feel.
please I hope you are 100% certain about the identity of the lady in question because some words once said cant be forgotten
have you talked to your DH about this? what is he saying. calling out the lady on this forum or SM will not remove the baby she is already carrying. you have to think beyond disgracing her and figure out a lasting solution to this problem cos its a big one as a child is involved.
also you know she can delete her moniker once you mention her name. I pray God gives you great wisdom to handle this matter.
As for the mama that went to get pregnant for another womans hubby, I don't know if you are trying to lay ur hands on his money or his love, but one thinh I have witnessed in this life is that the is path you are walking never ends well. Leave another womans hubby, find your own. you don't want to deal with the drama that is involved in scattering a home o.
Coldharmattan may God fight for you.

congrats to all mamas that have delivered
enkaydewdrop- God be praised for his hand in your life
mitchy hope the pain has reduced greatly?
creamchiccb
esof1
melly245
brownsmoothie

we thank God almighty for bringing you all to the promised land
Captain Feddy27 how far na, hows your boy and bump
October mamas I dey hail o

heartbroken:
Thanks alot sir. funny enough, I've always had access to his phone dats y i could even easily look through that night. I just never saw any suspicious stuff all dis while neither had he given me reason to doubt him. we talked last night & he said i wasnt sexxually welcomin like I used to b in d early months of marriage, dat i complain when he asks me to take a particular position or do his 'fetish', dat am always on my phone (browsing/chatting) even in d middle of d night, dat i got slack in d way i appear at home when hes back from work & i got used to stayin nuude indoors wich he doesnt like. He also said he felt inadequate at not bein able to make me cuum after lots of forreplay etc & he duznt evn no wen I actually com. ( i guess I need help in dis area, I enjoy sexx but I find it hard to climmax truly) & i was like.. why didnt u say anytin! Is marriage not for communication? He reiterated his promise not to do it again to wich i told him im not sure he wont yet he kept at it but am stil so broken.. i told him i was givin him a last chance, dat if he does it again, i'm leaving him. He's such a good man in all respects dat i just wonder how dis loop hole came by

First of all I have to commend you for having the mind to share this, I am so sorry for what you feel
Secondly and most importantly, you have to understand that cheating is a choice, he chose to do it. please don't feel like any of it was your fault. IT IS NOT. whether you added weight, or were not as sexy as you were before, do not let him talk you into feeling that your looks or behaviour justifies his actions. REFUSE TO TAKE BLAME. if you start accepting that you had a part to play in his indiscretions, you will never be able to stop blaming your self. Forgive him if you can, but please do not take part in the blame game. men have cheated on their wives with married women, girls with body odour, house helps, prostitutes, does it mean that they were better than their wives? what of those that sleep with their friends wives that have had 4 children, is their v.j tighter than their wives own? One thing men do is to try and make you take part of the blame for their bad actions. don't fall for it. you can apply discreetly corrections as per their complaints but don't go and turn into who you are not.

Tallgirlslim:
I'm trying not to be sad. But I work in a brutal industry. I know I'm not entitled to maternity leave, but who plans to get pregnant while you have a baby.

I just don't know what to do. Will I need to resign? I can't leave a month old baby for house help.. I'm so scared. Cos I'm only entitled to my annual leave. Which is one month.

Won't people abuse me for leaving my baby at such a tender age..... how will I cope returning to work in that state, cos I'm already burned out on the job.

I just need encouragement I guess or maybe I need to face the reality of resignation. Please advice in love....what do you mama's think..

my dear you are not alone in this, I am in the same situation too, what I intend to do is to take my one month annual leave and resume after one month. I will take the baby and house help to work with me, they would sit somewhere conducive where I can easily check on them every 1 or 2 hours or house help would flash me if baby starts crying. I know it isn't easy but I MUST MAKE IT WORK. I cant resign right now, me and DH are on a project so every penny counts. the baby will be fine. the reality is if you resign you will regret it oooo. you will remember all the ways you could have made it work. I Know God will make it easy for us in Jesus Name. Amen.

Iyabetajos I know at this moment words may hold little comfort to you, I know your heart and lips would be full of questions and thoughts on what you could have done differently, but free your mind from all that, express your pain, shout, scream, tear a wall if you have to, don't hold back, you would come out victorious. I am so sorry. may heaven give you the strength you need to come over this pain.

zemaye:
Madam bella this your advice na sarcastic one o
abeg no put Sisi for trouble.

luscioustrish
Do all the above only if thats how you are!
BE YOURSELF!!!
Dont go and start what you cannot finish
If you know you can be kneeling down to greet your in-laws all
your married life then go ahead if not , you dont need that to
appear respectful.
The most important thing is Be Yourself
I cannot emphasize it enough, if you pretend
na' you go regret am!!!
And yes I married Yoruba and am not Yoruba
No Issues

Mama that being yourself something depends on the kind of family you marry into
it costs nothing to go on your knees and greet your inlaws
the first day I met my MIL she had just alighted from the car, by a major road
I went on my knees, she placed her hand on my head and started praying for me.
I had never done it before, but had to stoop to conquer,
it is their culture, you have to respect and adopt it cos its now your culture whether you like am or not
I hate amala, I hate ewedu, I hate goat meat, but I had to eat them all with feigned relish in their presence.
I see them at most twice a year, so I am ready to please them those few times to avoid wahala. before the go call meeting for my head

Mamas we were robbed o! I am just getting over the shock sef, we woke up to see all our windows open. they used long sticks & parker to scoop up our phones and laptops from outside , they even stole my hubbys wallet from his trousers.
please if you live downstairs or in a bungalow, do not keep your valuables or handbags close to the windows, keep them in your wardrobes instead.
To think that me and dh sleep stark naked, who knows if these thieves live around us. I dunno if they used jazz cos my phone was just beside dh and they scooped it without us waking up. God protect your children o.
I am grateful to God I didn't see them, cos I wake up a lot at night to pee, who know? I might have fainted at the sight of them in action, or they might have harmed us. help us thank God o, that they didn't break in and attack us physically, or demand for more items.
I know that God would divinely replace all we lost in Jesus name. Amen.

Happy belated birthday captain Feddy27!!!!happy anniversary too!!!! more grace and happiness to your life and home. celebration continua!!!

luscioustrish:
Whew!....finally finished reading over 10+ pages..una well done oh.

Learnt a lot too..from the breathing technique to shopping list,it is well.

I'm having pains in my wrists started with the right one n now the left one has joined in the pain,having trouble lifting things even to turn eba na war...help me oh!

Need advice on how to relate with prospective in-laws for the first time...they are Yoruba n I'm ibo.


Happy birthday to my captain..many more years ahead

#teamoctober.

Nwanne m nwanyi welcome o, I be Igbo married to Yoruba too, so I can give you few tips.

1. Make sure you kneel down with both legs touching the floor when you meet your MIL/FIL: for the first time. even if una dey for middle of road, . that is the first test, you know say dem they always talk say we no get respect. prove them wrong o.
2. offer to carry any load they have, if they come around. relieve your MIL of her handbag with face full of smiles o.
3. DO NOT REJECT ANY FOOD! make sure you chop finish lick plate, don't wait for MIL for serve you, do like say u dey follow am enter kitchen, if she allows you fine, if not insist on packing on washing plates.
4. make sure you call all your SIL/BIL Anti mi /Boda mi. whether them senior you or not.
5. don't go and be doing touching body with their son in their presence o . pretend you have not kissed, even with your protruding belle.)
6. don't be pressing phone when you people are talking, always keep a smile on your face, curtsy whenever you are thanking your MIL/FIL
7. don't be deceived by the plenty Iyawo wa they are calling you o, until una marry, you are not the wife yet o, stay humble.
8.Tell ur fiancé to tell you about them, what they like, dislike, learn how to greet them in their language, they value it a lot.
9.Commit every thing to Gods hands.
10. Go bearing gifts o ;. Jewellery and Lace for Mama Wa, Expensive stationary for Baba Wa

Chineke leeee!!!!!!! E be like say as may babies hear say recharge card dey for them na him dem decide to buss out . Four Thaaasaannd, Five Hundreeeed naira recharge cards these pikins dem dey hear word from belle o, congrats to the latest may mama. abeg if any mama remain to announce in him birth for 31st may make she announce today ooo, make I kuku buy am at once. . [s]the way wey I dey see am, e be like say my salary go finish for recharge cards [/s] #teamoctober#sexyborning#teamblue#. Class captain I hail ya, welcome back, we missed you.