Sophyrocks:


And this is supposed to comfort a human who is hurt?

if it does not comfort her, what will? crying? or pampering? cajoling? begging? I only said the bitter truth and she needs to suck it up. Period. Some Men cheat, live with it deal with it.

eeehyyyaaa! well I can only tell you sorry for the hurt, pick yourself up and get over it. Forgive and forget if he's a first time offender, it's allowed (men make that mistakes once in a while, only for them to find out their wife is better) or forgive and do your own if he's a serial offender.

Note: Eating EBA everyday can be very boring, same old taste, trying Semi once in a while isn't a bad idea but all men/women should have the fear of God by respecting the vow they made at his altar

@op, I think you've learnt your lesson. Not so many people can stomach lies especially when they get to know the truth. To them, you have broken the trust they have in you. Some men don't take matters of virginity likely especially when they plan for marriage. If they have resolved to marry a virgin and the woman in question have been deceiving them and they later find out, it might be disastrous. The man will be wondering the other lies the woman have up her sleeves and she's covering. Some men have standards they set for themselves and if you do not match up with it, they discard you except if only God intervenes.


well its not too late to move on, maybe he is the right man for you, maybe not, only God knows. Next relationship, don't live a lie

5minsmadness:

You havent met my girlfriend then

change her, you are not married yet. It's allowed

5minsmadness:


So are you saying it is a "normal" thing for wives to rant?
And it is not a normal thing for a guy to strike?

Why accept an abnormality of misbehaviour in one sex and deprive reprisal from another sex? Isnt that hypocrisy?

wives/women do have mood swings especially when it is their time of the month or when pregnant etc so as a man at times you just have to be patient or if you cannot, you are free to torture her emotionally. Trust me, no woman can stand emotional torture.

in as much as I don't support beating or caining a woman, I think everyone knows the fact that some women have caustic mouth. Just like someone suggested a little slap will do the magic by resetting their mendula oblangata. I think you can only try that in Africa especially Nigeria, do not try outside the shores of Africa. I wish men that beat their wives good luck until the day you kill her which I pray you do not. Repent fast fast. Overall, put yourself in the woman's shoe, how would you feel if it was you that was beaten? I agree that some men beat their wives mistakenly out of anger but I feel you can always overcome your anger by taking a stroll when you wife begins to misbehave/rant. How would you feel if another man was beating your sister?

I'm sure wise women have taken notes and the unwise ones or hypocrites are looking for a way to counter the thread. Nice one Op, all men out there shall take their God given position in their family in Jesus name. Amin

cococandy:




Yay way to go. Nice example for other guys and bennyrazz to follow

its a man's world so get use to it

nairalife2013, that's the way to go bro. I think loads of Guys shud take one or two cues from you.

na wa oooooo in a private university again

congrats to them

yawns*

I really don't know why some Nigerian graduates can't dive into business or set up a company be it in servicing/manufacturing/production etc sector. We have so many first class candidates these days and yet they roam the streets looking for jobs. Well, graduating with first class does not mean you will succeed in business though Sterling bank and other banks/businesses/companies in Nigeria was someone's initiative. Stop blaming employers of labour, start blaming yourself, that's the way to move forward. If companies are treating graduates with so much disdain, that alone should be your motivation to start something small and grow it till it becomes big. That is my own 2cents o

Kids only practice what they see and I would like to blame the parents of the 5yrs old girl @1dafullymade mentioned. It is clear her parents were having sex in front of her with so much excitement. So she too wanted to have that feeling thus, she's abusing /corrupting other younger kids. Parents should beware of what they do in front of their children because they are stylishly copying you


@rhajan well to you own story, they learnt the act from their elder sister or aunty and I'm very sure one of either the 10yrs old or 7yrs old started practicing the act on one party before it became a mutual thing. Now this 10yrs old & 7yrs old will start initiating under young girls wherever they go to if care is not taking. It might have a multiplier effect.
Solution, I think the parents of all of these kids needs to get to the root cause of all these by beating & questioning the kids to show them who introduce them to the ungodly act and after that, they under psychological therapy.


Lastly, with what is going on now, it shows kids can be initiated/exposed into all this sexual jargons going on now. They might be initiated/abused from their school by their class mates or teacher or by a next door neighbor. Bottomline is, everyone should start teaching his or her child sexual education in a coded way right from when they start to talk.

EfemenaXY:




You aren't serious!

ouch . . lol

BoboYekini:
If I pm you now, you go dey blush.
Benny na tunnel, You have the groove I crave Make we no loud am...

lol lol lol lol, dancing skelewu plus azonto plus every every bobo, if you can get EfemenaXY off my backs, I will be very very very grateful her wahala too much.

shericoco:

that's so true, I really don't want him to influence my hubby again cos I did a lot of work to make sure I have a faithful hubby. I have invited them for several church programs but dey wldnt come, d wife says the hubby doesn't believe in miracles and instant healing.

then you have to pray deep prayers. I wish you luck

@op, once a soldier is always a soldier. Once a striker is always a striker show me your friends and I can tell you who you are. Your husband's friend might lead your husband astray. So you need to increase the volume of your prayers.

if the man that impregnated his daughter is south African, there is no cause for alarm. We Nigerians should mind our business

Gboliwe:


She's tested and trusted? Wow! Firsthand knowledge or hearsay?

hearsay of course

Gboliwe:



you want to "overwhelm" tpia?

she is very capable of swimming against the tides

what of we in the category of 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60? do you guys remember the civil war

dsquare33:
This is very deep and it is only the discerning mind that can fathom it.This is what the Yorubas call oro sunuku ti a fi oju sunuku wo pardon my Yoruba adage.Do you know if only most ladies can wait on the lord to know God's will for them in marriage the number of single ladies or men will be reduced even the rate of divorce will drop.

some of them understand this but the brickwall they meet or what they don't understand is how to know the "will of God?" the only way to know the will of God is through constant fasting and prayer. Not from a third party eg Pastor, Prophet etc that is where a lot of women get it wrong. No one told Adam that Eve was his wife, he knew the instant he saw her. A woman's mind should be open to proposals, when a man proposes, do not mind his looks etc Just pray and fast about it to know if the man is the will of God, if no you will know.

WenysAD:


My mother and others became his enemies wen he was told 2 stop smoking. What he rily wants He wants my mum dead so he can lay claim 2d only tin my mum has suffered working 4 in lagos 4 over 20yrs-her house wich we're stayin in. My mum has rily suffered training us even while my dad was alive. My stupid broda forgets he's not d only child dat tinks he has d monopoly of everytin.

the weed he's taking has eating deep into his brain. It is obvious. To him, he feels he is an adult and he can do and undo. There is always a black sheep in every family and he is the black sheep in your family, except God intervenes, there is nothing any man can do. If he goes to jail, he will only become harder when he associates with harden criminals. So the point here is how to manage him. When managing people like this, there should always be a huge catch. You guys should pray to God for direction on this. Definitely there should be something he wants to do. That should be the catch or The whole family sits him down and you guys tell him you want to send him to Europe to further his education but he must meet certain conditions like attending church with you guys etc you make a move by getting him an international passport etc or if you guyz are little bit buoyant, just ship him off overseas so as to have peace of mind.

WenysAD:


I said I was gonna kip unfolding tins by answering u guys questions.
My stupid broda refused 2go 2 school ooo. My uncle even got a form 4 him @ yaba tech and he refused 2go. Even his frnd is an SSCE drop out. Dey refused 2 work even after my uncle's wife gave him a job, he said he's not jobless. I got 2 find out last month dat Pple in d estate have offered dem jobs dey refused.

he refused to go to school, friend did not finish ssce, even at that they gave him a job and he refused to work ? what does he really want? what are his demands? have you people made him realise that there are so many people out there seeking for the kind of opportunities he is throwing away? to be frank with you, he is a security threat to the estate as a whole if he decides to take all his activities to the next level. Does he smoke? drink?

WenysAD:


D mother of d boy he's living with left d boy and his little sister and remarried even b4 d demise of d boy's father. Although his mother is d 2nd wife and I think his ist wife may b late.

really all these things is getting complicated. He is not working, he is frustrated and he is taking it out on you guys. Is he in school? what about the management of the estate? are they aware of all this atrocities?

WenysAD:



D guy is 25yrs by december. D guy he's living wit is a boy of his age and both of dem don't work. D house is d father's house who is now late. The houses in d estate were staff quarters dat were later sold 2d staff of which my mum used 2b a staff b4 d company finally folded. His unruly behaviour didn't start now but it wasn't worse wen it started becos we saw it as being childish and he was stayin 4rm one uncle's house 2 another but he was full of pride and culdnt stay with dem.

ok, what about the mother of the boy he is living with?

the major problem here is family setting unreasonable standards for the man their daughter wants to marry. Though I am not against setting standards but there should be a limit to the standards family set and there should be limits to the type of man a woman dreams to marry.


Some women have what we call checklist for the type of man they want to marry but they are so quick to forget that God also has a checklist for the type of husband he has destine for them to marry. In God's plan, your husband is short, in the woman's plan, her husband is tall. In God's plan, your husband is a farmer, in the woman's plan, her husband is an Engineer. So when your plan doesn't meet with God's plan for the kind of man they want to marry, how will the marriage be possible?

There is nothing God cannot do for you so far you stick to his plans for you, no father or mother can stop you from getting married so far the man/woman is God's choice.

Lastly, some women are the architect of their own marital woes. They are too high to maintain, nothing pleases them, it is never enough for them, they have this proud look, their taste is too high, they are very wasteful, they cannot endure circumstances, they complain & nag at the same time, they are very disrespectful, they dress like harlots etc

@,op, how old is that your brother? the guy he is living with in the estate, does he work? how does he pay for his apartment? Lastly, when did all this unruly behavior start?

EfemenaXY:


Oh, Benny! My suave juju priest!!

for your mind abi

lying is a special talent in some women they lie about everything.