fammo:
true talk. We just have a way of messing up noble ideas in this country. You need to go to Ikeja understand bridge just by the General Hospital and see scammers in action begging with hospital cards. I used to fall for their tricks before until I noticed that it was the same people that where begging for 7500 naira to buy drugs everyday.

I think laws could be passed to cushion the effect of this Menace. if anyone is found guilty of misleading the public for financial gains, such person should be sent to jail of maybe 5yrs without option of fine. it will send a signal. People understand only laws

some men marry their enemies as wives. @op, it is a pity you are in such predicament. Thank God for the wisdom you applied by moving out. Just leave her with the child, keep praying and keep providing for your baby's upkeep through her mother.

this act will just open the eyes of some unscrupulous elements in Nigeria to copy this kind of thing lemme see any of them try this and I pass by I will so flog the demon out of them

this is how madness usually start. @op, take heed, bind and cast out those evil thoughts, don't allow the devil use you

like some people above me have said, ignore them. When the going was rough, why did they not add you? when they see you got married to another man, they think it's now rosy, they want to add you, how are you sure they are not about to spew trash to your new husband via facebook message? abeg ignore them and double block them. Selfish greedy people

xynerise:

No be them wan get deceived?

na true sha

xynerise:


That's the hypocrisy about the feminism wannabes. They might be polishing their boyfriend/husband's shoe while typing trash online.

typing trash to fool innocent young girls who know nothing.

na today most Nigerian women claim to be feminist online while offline, they are nothing close to it. They are submissive to a fault in fact they clean their bf/husband Anus with water when the latter goes to poopoo

spending such money on a woman only for her to abscond means the marriage was arranged. But why marry a 47yrs old woman? what does she have to offer? there is more to this matter

we are discouraging something but a demented fellow somewhere with access to internet is posting naanseense to encourage wife-beaters or groom wife-beaters. This is so ridiculous and I think the post should be reported to facebook and I also hope facebook delete it and if possible ban the account.

this story get k-leg @op, if your friend has not been doing illegal things to her, she would not dare mention his name. It means your friend has been visiting there and coming back but now Kasala don burst. I wish them luck especially the wife

@op, they felt you destroyed their daughter's life. Hence, the hatred. They think you stole from them which is obviously true. The only person I pity is your Girlfriend. The deed has been done already, God sees your heart. I believe if you talk to him in prayers, he can still do something. Meet your Pastor for prayers and counselling. Your daughter is your seed and you can't just throw away your seed like that. Forget the idea of going to court, by the time you keep on fasting and praying to God on your knees for mercy and for the family not to have rest until they allow You See your daughter, you will be surprised at what will happen. shalom

okay, you want to rediscover yourself? well you have to start from the things that interest you. What do you like?

Stark7:

How sure are you that I don't have him?

1. if you have Jesus. you will not think or worry. You will have that perfect peace of mind.

Matthew 6:25-34 New King James Version (NKJV)

“Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?


Matthew 11:28-29 King James Version (KJV)
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

2. If you have Jesus, you will not seek validation from Men.

New International Version (Galatians 1: 10)
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.


If you remove worry and stop looking for validation from Men, you will have that peace of mind. Your mind will not be troubled.

3. Your depression sets in once your expectations are cut short, so you need to stop expecting people to help you especially when you help them. If you have Jesus, you will know that all your help comes from above. In Psalm 121:1-2, the Bible says I will lift up my eyes unto the hills, from where comes my help, my help comes from the Lord.

4. If you have Jesus, your major concern will be how to make heaven. You will be after what you can do for the kingdom of God since you are saved.

The major bulk of your problem is listening to what people are saying not what God is saying, if you have Jesus and you have the Holy Spirit, you will never be sad. You will always be happy even in times of adversity. The certificate or education you are seeking to get, will it get you into the kingdom of God? is it your ticket to Heaven? the money you are chasing, the cars you hope to drive, the house you wish to buy, will it get you into the kingdom of Heaven? there are so many professors, so many professionals, Doctors, Musicians, actors with loads of earthly achievements yet today they are in the cemetery, which of their achievements have they taking to Heaven? That you are alive is a big testimony. That you are not sick is a testimony. Some people at your age are either in Prison or in the Hospital but you are free and not sick. You have every cause to thank God.

Having Jesus alone is not the final bus stop but winning souls for Christ is. You need to accept him, join a group in your church. it may be drama, music etc there must be something you are passionate about. there must be something you are talented in, you need to develop it and watch how you will soar high

@op, the best medicine you need right now is Jesus. You need Jesus in your life, you need to be baptized by the Holy Spirit. He is a comforter and a great companion. You need him right now. You need to start reading the Holy Bible and before your very own eyes, that's emptiness and void will disappear. You need to start listening to Christian worship and praise songs and before your very own eyes, your life will turn around.

since she is married and the husband paid her bride price, the rightful person to obey at that point is her husband. Man and woman shall leave their father and mother's house and become one flesh. They are one.

Vorpal:


A certain nairalander 'Redeboe' seemed to have answered that.

"pussy is pussy,but the relationship you eatablish with the owner of the pussy that counts".

what about those that sleep with prostitutes, you mean they establish emotional relationship with them?

NevetsIbot:


Now, I can drop my wallet anywhere, leave money anywhere. He steals no more and announces any lost money he finds. He knows where i keep money and not one dime has been lost for two yrs now.

this part got me laughing , that your beating really reset his brain. @op, take this advice. Spare the rod and spoil the child.

Vorpal:
I still dont get it tho,does the feel of one pussy differ from another?

Or does one woman warmth differ from another?

Same question I was asked few weeks back. Only a chronic womaniser will be able to answer this.

some girls actually like the idea of being a side chick cuz of financial gains, the only thing I have to say to them is your end is near. And for men cheating behind your wives saying after all she won't know, the torchlight of God is looking at you, you are a disaster waiting to happen

Jesus Christ of Nazareth

Biblically, all what is written by the OP is true. That's just the plain bitter truth. It is only the grace of God that can see divorcees through

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and the girl is now pregnant for him? @op, this are the reasons why we say people should do things right. If he had loved the girl so much, he should have planned marriage. In the process of taking the girl to his parents, they would have told him NO Son, you can't marry from Egede due to so so reasons but because of his selfishness and greed, see where it has landed him to. I have nothing to say, the milk as been spilled already and there is really no need crying. All he has to do is man up, meet his people, see how they sort it out.

Mindfulness:


Then your insults won't help either but if it makes you feel better, so be it.



What is constructive about it?



Same ol' story! On and on and on ...
Just because you keep repeating what you have been fed, doesn't make it any better.

you can keep encouraging her actions under the guise of constructive criticisms, I don't buy that. I have told her what I think, you have told her what you think. We don't have to cruise our Lambor on the same lane. We can cruise at opposite lanes which is quite fine. We beat her, you hug her. That's the balance

EfemenaXY:


The narrative isn't being changed.

You're uncomfortable with being forced to see your ideology isn't realistic.



What was fine about it?



How so? She got pregnant deliberately? Is that what you read? Despite everything she got going for her?

Why would you say she did it deliberately when she's been as clear as day about not wanting to tell the father so he doesn't assume she's trying to rope him into marriage??

Sorry I don't get what you're driving at here. If she did it deliberately, then she's got something to gain. So please, do tell us what she'll be gaining here as you seem to know so much about her.



What do you know about pregnancy and child rearing?? Have you ever been pregnant to assume labour was easy? Have you got any kids of your own??




Pls furnish us with the quotations of these many posters "encouraging her to keep getting pregnant and raising kids without a father figure"

And it's not your place to dictate whether or not she should have sex. How is that any concern of yours??

there is really no need going back and forth with you on this issue. Your position has been stated clearly for everyone to see so there is really no need replying your queries. Have a wonderful day

Mindfulness:


Nobody is encouraging her to keep getting pregnant out of wedlock. Nobody! It actually goes without saying. And she has admitted that she made mistakes. It's just that she has already punished herself enough so no need to keep punishing her more. Nobody feels the consequences of her actions more than she does.

I am simply of the opinion that constructive criticism (solution oriented) is way better than destructive criticism (putting somebody down who already is in a mess). She has a child to look after and is pregnant. Hurting her won't help anyone.

That's all.

it seems you don't know people like op, after they have passed through the mess phase, they simply don't give a damn again. My own criticism as been very constructive. We beat a child with the right hand and draw the child back closer with the left hand.

EfemenaXY:


Oh really??

Trying to kick a horse when it's down with vile, degrading words is meant to be corrective action??

Oya clap for yourself.



...Kudos for getting pregnant and to keep spreading your legs open he says.

Did you comprehend any part of her write-up at all? Did you or did you not understand she was in a relationship and had taken precautions??

Why do you think she took precautions?


Do you understand the difference between being in a relationship vs having a fling??

Do you?

I did not comprehend any part of her story at all. She took precautions in the first relationship and she got pregnant, she took in the second and still got pregnant. She should have raised her precautions a little higher by going for female surgical sterilization but she didn't. But let me ask you a simple question, if the op was your daughter, what will you do?

Mindfulness:


If your hard punishment theory was working, people would not go in and out and in and out of jail. And if the death penalty was effective, people would not commit murder in countries where the death penalty has not been abolished yet but it is not so.

I seriously don't know why you are changing the narrative. She got pregnant the first-time. Oh okay, its fine. it was a mistake but the second wasn't a mistake. she knows exactly what she is doing. The op had very easy labor and she had it easy when raising that one kid all by herself. So why not the second and why not the third? so many posters are encouraging her to keep on getting pregnant and raising children with no father figure, so @op, keep having sex, keep raising babies. it's the life you choose to live

EfemenaXY:



Abeg, chin up and kudos to you dear.

kudos for getting pregnant @op. At least you have so many people encouraging you to keep on spreading your legs and keep on getting pregnant. Kudos o @troubleheart

EfemenaXY:


Oh just be quiet will you!

How much more insensitive can you be? And more importantly, how is what you've typed going to help her situation?

People make mistakes. Notice the plural word "MISTAKES" not "mistake". Sometimes if you've got nothing productive to say, then say nothing at all.

Have you ever been pregnant??

I can be over insensitive to nonsensical issues especially to people who will always repeat the same mistake. All what i have typed will help her not to get the third pregnancy before marriage. Its a lesson. If people around her had come hard on her when she had the first, she probably wouldnt have had this.