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how many divorce case does Igando customary court hear in a year? we seriously need statistics of how many divorce, separation cases etc happens in Nigeria. Further more, researches on what led to divorce must be studied.

On a lighter note, Igando customary court is synonymous to divorce.

tearoses:
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My husband has just spent the better part of 2 days on international calls trying to unravel and work out the issue between some people.
Adults o!
Instead of them to just come clean and say what the issue is. They are bouncing here and there & not being outright with their real mind.

sex is the matter and they are ashamed of coming out clean with it.

laughing out loud @ "sex free courtship for 2yrs" no need deceiving yourself. How did he know about the gel they put inside anus in the first place if he has not tried it with someone else before? where did he buy it from? sorry to say this, your husband has been slaying orisirisi Kitty Kat and he has seen it all. He's tire of it.

He wants something new and anus is something new, something he can explore till he tires out. I pity your Anus sha, how much do they sell adult pampers now sef? that is what you'll start wearing if you oblige to his demands. Obliging to his demand for the first time was a grievous mistake.


That reminds me, when pastor ask both of you why you wanna divorce, I hope you don't keep mute as some others do. Well, experience PASTORs know when couple keep mute during counseling the cause of the problem between them is SEX

it is easy for men to cheat these days especially when women are now gbanjo who go buy, 3 for 50kobo. What a shame.

I wouldnt blame you @yomieluv, we all fall to rise. You have admitted that you have fallen, now you want to rise. Some men like you are not even thinking of rising from where they fell at.

No wo/man born of a man would hear your confession and not feel betrayed. Your wife is going to feel very betrayed when you confess your gross misconduct to her. It will only take the grace of God for her to forgive and forget. The only thing I will write to you now is, start showering her with gifts, praising her every minute, cuddling her, doing house chores before breaking the news to her, she has every right to know, it shouldn't come from a third party. God help you bro

SAMBARRY:
we dey and the thing needs to be lubricated this season.

kikikikikikikik my eyes are closed to this.



@op, managing a temperamental person starts with knowing what makes them angry in the first place. Your wife can't just wake up and be angry all of a sudden. You are definitely doing some things that are pissing her off. She is bottling them up. my advice to you, be more caring and understand. Start to pamper her.

@op, let me get this straight, your potential mother in-law is a witch. Is that the only problem? if yes then those Pastors that told your mum your to be MIL is a witch should do their job by casting out the witchcraft spirit in her. Thank God they did not say your to be wife is a witch. Me I wouldn't advice you to look for another wife cuz it sounds ridiculous to me when you have children from different women. It is a thing to be ashamed of.

if he has an addiction for hotels, he can purchase one. He should turn is addiction into something productive

I no get any advice

kikikikikiki @ "for this position a virgin will be more appropriate" you gat to be kidding right @op are you recruiting for the position of a wife or you are looking for a wife cuz it seems to me that you are recruiting. What about all the women in your church? if they do not meet up with this your requirements, you need not to be in that church.

some men Sha, all in a bid to punish a woman, they do the unthinkable. Since he has refused to cater for his children's school fees and their upkeep, his ex-wife should get a lawyer and drag him to court. It is a very simple matter. He would be made to provide for his children.

So the Sailor Boy starts he Master Course In the UK University and While there, starts Posting
Jesus Loves you and Scriptural Posts on his Facebook page etc which is a Sign that he is trying to
clean up his "Shady Sailor Image" AND Wants to Attract some Nigerian Girls to Believe he is
Now a God fearing Man, Born Again Christian

kikikikikikikikiki this part got me laughing @martinosi, that shhhhh happens everytime. You can never fully know the intention of a guy to a lady. Some guys are green snake but there is one thing I know, so far he promised the girl marriage and the girl gave him all her body, the guy will certainly pay in one way or the other. It might not be today sha.

Merryglad:
i tire ooo, d funniest part is i could have swore on her behalf, but what can i do now? She is my sister still

she is your sister o, the only thing you can do now is to love and support her. I know she might be stigmatized in the environment you stay in but at least she would have learnt her lesson after the whole isssshhhh.

Those who sow the wind will surely reap the whirlwind. The man as sown what he is now reaping. Instead of him to crawl back and start apologising for all the terrible things he's done in the past, he's busy forming nigga. By killing his wife, will his children still come back to him? the answer is no. He was a monster then, now he wants to turn himself into a demonic monster. Efemenaxy has said it all.

@merryglad Kai, 18yrs old girl is pregnant? the deed has been done, no need crying over spilt milk. Breaking the news to your mother will surely be devastating because she will feel she has not done her job very well as a single parent. I really feel pity for your mum but the man that got your sister pregnant must accept the responsibilities of the baby, his family must be involved and they should be ready to take care of both your sister and the baby.

EfemenaXY:
I know everyone's entitled to their opinions but why, just why do you always give high BP inducing advice??

so my advice of prayer and fasting for her home now induces BP? you know some things does not come to be without prayer and fasting? it shouldn't be an uphill task. Missing breakfast and lunch shouldn't be something difficult. While also studying the word of God (Bible) to know what it says.

1. What a Friend we have in Jesus,
All our sins and griefs to bear!
What a privilege to carry
Everything to God in prayer!
O what peace we often forfeit,
O what needless pain we bear,
All because we do not carry
Everything to God in prayer!

2 Have we trials and temptations?
Is there trouble anywhere?
We should never be discouraged,
Take it to the Lord in prayer.
Can we find a friend so faithful
Who will all our sorrows share?
Jesus knows our every weakness,
Take it to the Lord in prayer

3. Are we weak and heavy-laden,
Cumbered with a load of care?
Precious Savior, still our refuge—
Take it to the Lord in prayer;
Do thy friends despise, forsake thee?
Take it to the Lord in prayer;
In His arms He’ll take and shield thee,
Thou wilt find a solace there.

when we say wives should be prayerful about their homes, they think we don't know what we say. If the shepherd (Your husband) is being attacked, the flocks will scatter. I love the hymn I quoted above, you can also start singing it. Now is a time for prayer, I mean serious prayer. His heart is no longer in you, he doesn't find you attractive again in fact very soon he would want out of the marriage. Things at times may go from sweet to sour in marriages especially when expectations are cut short. From your point of view, you are doing everything right but your husband is soliciting for sex from strange women (repercussions are attached though but I don't want to mention )

Just start fasting, praying and doing night vigils for your marriage. When I mean prayers, serious prayers. Let's see where that leads to in a month's time. If you don't know how to go about the prayers, I could recommend some prayer books. Be strong, cheers

TV01:
I hear you sir. Just letting their poison spread and their lies take hold is dangerous. I will lay this to rest soon and resume my main ministry .


TV

I do read most of your post sir and they are quite informative and valid. Of course they would be contrary opinion from those who will stop at nothing to see that the person behind that moniker is maligned, pushed and forced out. Abeg resume your main ministry and simply ignore their distractions.

TV01, when a man goes to the river to bathe and in the process of bathing inside the water a mad man comes out from nowhere and pick the clothes of the bathing man on the floor, will the man bathing in the river run after the mad man that picked his clothes? the obvious answer should be yes because if the man runs after the mad man, when people see them, they will call them two mad people because one person is naked.

You should already know the antics of some women in this section.

Some of them are suffering from perimenopause, that's why they act the way they do. It is for you to discern and know who to reply and who not to reply. Cheers

RiloKiley:
Laughed so hard now i've got the hiccups Men have suffered.

in the hands of some selfish women

3sexy:
I am a married woman with a lovely kid , I love my husband but he is too selfish in bed , to him, lovemaking means" penetration" , no romance no fore play , all he is interested in is just to penetrate me ! he doent even care if I,m wet or not .this is really getting frustrating because it is painful and sometimes I end up having blisters.
Most tines I try to initiate pre-intimacy and make him slow down a bit he gets impatient and angry ,and I just let him have his way , and the worst part of it is that when he is done he will fall asleep immediately !

Pls matured minds how do I make him change without hurting his feelings , for over 5 years now i have not had a pinch of climax, I love him dearly but I also want a normal sex life in my marriage .

apologies for laughing o @bolded LMAO the part impatient and angry got me laughing. How konji makes some men silly at times, I wonder. A friend told me a story one time like that about how one of his neighbor use to cry for sex like a baby, when he cries, mucus used to come out from his nose. That day, I laughed to the extent that my ribs began to pain me. I also heard of a story of a Reverend father that warned women not to come and confess their sins of fornication and adultery to him again. When they come to confess their sins, they describe how the whole thing happen, how they slept with the man, how the man touched them, remove their clothes etc the Reverend father while preaching and warning them said he is also human that anytime they commit such sins, they should confess it to God. I laughed also.

Let me tell you something about your husband case, it is a very simple one that can be solved.

Jimi23:
Of course every1 is entitled to their own opinion.

"Every marriage has it own red sea".

U said it all. EVERY marriage. Thank goodness u didnt say SOCIAL MEDIA marriage.

Where u met ur spouse is irrelevant. Its ur outlook towards ur marital success that matters. I'm not an advocate of Social Media Marriage, i advocate for making every marriage work. Social media and otherwise.

kikikikkkikikikiki A man met his wife at the entrance into a babalawos house, they fell in love got married. Later, after many years the man gave his life to Christ. He started having issues in his marriages, ran to meet PASTOR to complain his wife is a witch. Pastor asked him just one simple question "where did you meet your wife? " (thank God for the Holy Spirit) the man replied "at the entrance of babalawos house" Pastor now asked him "what do you expect? " to you where you met your spouse doesn't matter but to me and people I talk to "where you meet your spouse is important"

parents are the root cause of what their children experience later in future. Teach a child in the way he should grow, when he grows, s/he would not depart from it

Jimi23:
Of course i am. I also hv a younger sister who met her hubby via social media. They hv been happily married for six years. That is why i know ur assertions about meeting on social media are untrue. People meet anywhere. Where u meet is not relevant to the success of ur marriage. Its about being determined to make it work. Simple.

no wonder you are a social media marriage advocate. You are entitled to your opinion but as for me, I don't advice any unmarried person to marry via social media. Every marriage has it own red sea, some end up drowning in it and others use the rod in their hands to part it. Only time will tell when it comes

kids are God's own heritage. They look upon us for direction. They do things that irks you at times but they are very innocent of those crimes cuz they know not what they do. Your story @op is very funny

Jimi23:
Ur advice on marriage is not relevant. As long as the parties involved understand what they are into. Even siblings have nasty fights so i still insist that the cause of marital crises is not where the couple met. Its about how they choose to live their marital lives.

are you married?

@op, you just kept on repeating a boy slit your net, a boy slit your net to hide stolen stuffs just because you help him in terms of giving him food, giving him drugs, money and all that. Your company secretary stole your memory card, you help people and they don't feel grateful, is that all? anymore? let me ask you this, what have you done that no man has done before? do you think you are doing it for them? (giving people money, meeting their needs) whatever you do for someone, you are simply doing it for yourself and you are simply giving God a reason why he should bless you more. The God that gave you everything, the God that gave you good parents, good job, the God that saw you through school, he gave you every. ingredient to succeed in life. how have you paid him back?

Jimi23:
Even those who met as next door neighbours divorce so its not about meeting on social media.its about the sincerity of both parties in marriage.

I will never advice anyone to get married via social media.

If you as a man is cheating and you start to suffer the consequences of cheating, never you dare raise up your hands to beat your wife or curse her when things are not working. Just know you are the one who broke the covenant that brought you two together

@uniqueB so you met your husband on facebook and you dated for 3yrs without seeing each other (how do people get to do that long distance relationship stuff) and after 2yrs of seeing each other you got married. Very interesting episodes.

The bottom line is the way he got and bed you via social media is also the same way he gets other women. Now for starters, he is bed-wetting because he has been afflicted by one of the women he sleeps around with. It is like a curse and I don't think he can stop cheating with just your pleading and understanding. How does he get money to give this women in the first place if he has no money? What is the background of his family? is your husband's father polygamous? I'm sorry to say this but nothing good comes the way of a man who causes his wife pains. Even if you don't curse him, your pains will. And that is one of the reasons why marriages suffer fimancial poverty.

marriage is an institution and it is union between two persons. Setting the boundaries before entering into marriage is a good idea. Since you have told her she must not disrespect your mum or you divorce her, it should also apply to you too. You have no right whatsoever to disrespect her own mother. What is candy for Peter, should also be candy for paul

. They never take any time to do any self-examination or make any efforts to change their lives. They’re still looking for some Rich Incredibly
Handsome Man™ to put on a cape and play Captain Save-A-Hoe™

that part got me rflmao very hilarious write up. The truth about single mothers is simply, their market value is down. Seriously, I detest guys that hit on single mothers except if they are widows. And they must be on the same pedestal. You can't be a single mother and you start to look for one fresh looking guy to destroy his destiny.


@mrrights this thread should dissuade aspiring single mothers