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I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

So she wanted the baby and you wanted the Bleep. Man you are too dumb to be alive.

"I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months"

For writing this, you will sure die by this woman.

ebubeson:
One of the killers of marriage is dating different wrong people before meeting the right partner. At this point, such a person may be so broken to the point that when the right partner comes, the feeling may be "adulterated" or "polluted" because of past hurts or frustrations.
You were so loving, caring and faithful to the wrong partners while dating, now you have the right partner and you are probably rude, watchful and careless..
Lessons: It is better to wait and marry the right person without dating, than dating several people before marrying.

There is no right person and there is no wrong person. We all have intentions and hence that intention isn't meant you feel disappointed and then change from wha we are into what we aren't.

Nigerians have intentions and that's a killer to everything.

Love isn't intentional sure you know

Are you saying they shouldn't date but just carry the whole energy and put in marriage.


I don't get what Nigerians now encourage it's own persons to do

Any wife who attains the position of a pastors wife is a Chronic Thief

Curse777:



Arabs and Saudi Arabia league must be very jealous of MLS now


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They are not brother as Africans has paid off for its business strategy. Na market Messi Don become. If African for get sense dem sef for follow for the business strategy but no it can't have sense cause Na we must keep to dey pay handsomely and heavily

Watcharena:
you're talking about land,well RUSSIA is like a continent of its own, again they're the one of the highest exporters of fertilizer, Russia, India and Ukraine exports about 60% of world grain exports

Ok thats fine if you say India.

Fertilisers or anything can only be axhirvedwhete there is land. Africa has ;
Land
Manpower
Technical know how
Weather
Climate
Juju
And you

Sprints3:
Africa no get food oo get dat into your skull and agbari. We grow exports and commercial we cannot grow food to eat.

We grow is enough reason. Get that phrase into your skull and agbari too sir.

And sir I talked about land

Which land and mechanized farming Russia take use wan take give us grain. No be insult be that. You wan feed who get food

She's ASIAN to me

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this one's wey go see sun go sit for shade. Na them dey sing under rain... Kolo. Nigerians bred drama kings

Hollusilva28:
Omg this Rubbish program don start again. This is not a coincidence. They want you Nigerians to hold on to that program and forget this current predicament that is befalling Nigeria now.

Don’t be deceive, If Nigerians is wise enough they should boycott that program by not subscribing at all.

Hunger is full everywhere on the land. Real People are begging on daily basis.

We need to stand up for ourselves & I hoped the Ronu group that called me Omo Yoruba Vagabond can come together and let’s try to build our lives from scratch. I’m tired of seeing people begging me for money everyday.

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Thank you for telling them what they need to know

And we are the ones paying it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅

With all these trips, are they backing up their certificates for world presidency position, for crying out loud, an ex president who still breathes when the country is hapzard, shouldn't be called out for resolution to political instability, wtf... All these men bùrú gàán 😭

Jollof is a fool for not knowing that it's money that's ruling the world he belongs in, jollof will still switch if the pay is juciy from another alien sef

Jollof is a fool for not knowing that it's money that's ruling the world he belongs in

All your hailing Na for wetin. No go hail god one day ooh🤣🤣

They are ending education soon.

When they give Obi Hin own mandate, Hin go still sign up for Godfatherism.com 🤣🤣🤣🤣


Obi useless pass Tinubu


Their geometric progression is from useless to much most useless 🤣🤣🤣😅

If they were fucking her during those times she lies about their paternity row, then they should careless about It and fathers the girl.

Moreover, you being a father had been useless from time immemorial, cause I can't think a man of your age would be fucking a woman and you don't know who she is??

🤣🤣

Please don't call the woman names, call the men "too stupid" and a disgrace to manhood

Obi you are in everywhere, burial ceremony, birthday ceremony, Paralympics, welding and fabrication, implosion submarine, ECOWAS summit, Messi debut match, obituary, ritual killing, insurgency cookathon.

Man that's not being a presidency candidate.

You know the truth, if you want to prevail all these Mofos tagging themselves leaders, be in planning a coup too for all those leaders like you too

He who kills by the gun dies by the gun

Meaning they don't give two hoots about our feeling

Who are these dirty goat saying our leadership are the reflection of who we are??


Nigerians has nothing to offer as long as they believe in God and not woman.

Very much lie 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes he has the right to lie. He is telling the world his intention, so the world should be able to justify his intention. Thank you

In school I was taught stagnant water breeds mosquito eggs that spreads malaria and my kids die

In Bible it said cleanliness is next to godliness

In reality health is wealth

In science dirt is death

Why wont Nigeria miss when they can't do/fix ordinary coal tar road 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭😭

New AI model 😁😁😅🤣😂

PlayMaker14:
God did not come down from His throne to vote, leave God out of this.

It is the gross stupidity, bigotry and power hungry dimwits that kept us where we are today....

Channel this SOS prayers to the Judiciary.

I love you for life brother

They know what they are doing 😁😁😆😄😃😀
They will still siphon money
Na distraction, money dey take flight as them they tweet.

To make Nigeria great again no reach 2 pounds 1 Shilling 0kobo

If African countries never depended on these ones would they have chaired the BRICS group which is adding nothing to the economy of South Africa. Africans are bunch. Of idiots

TemplarLandry:
Go back to Nigeria then.

She can't fit with us because her mentality has drastically uplifted from where ours is.

It's their working system that causes it, but mind you Nigerians don't know that we can have the best working system and the best of emotions. Blacks are blessed and still stupid