Family › Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by BestDude: 6:52am On Jul 15, 2018 |
CrazeMan69: I agree that phrase “pack out of my house” should never be used but if not acted upon the case is different.
Oya now she has the house shey baba don dey plan move to another state without complaining? Is she not the one still pained now? Please don’t use your think through your anus, a broken home is very bad. You can try it if you want She did not ask him to leave. You reap what you sow. He used his own share to dash his people and she used her own to build a house. So what is her crime there? |
Family › Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by BestDude: 6:36am On Jul 15, 2018 |
CrazeMan69: Shut your mouth �, Did he throw her bags outside? Did he beat her? Do you know what really went down?
You heard a sob story and you are condemning the man  Your type will be jumping from one church to another because of broken homes when you are the cause of your misfortune  Oga shut up. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. You cant give what you don't have. Personally I have a strong hatred for people who use the word "pack out of my house" I don't forgive such people. |
Family › Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by BestDude: 6:34am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly You married a selfish and wicked man. If this will lead to the end of your marriage, let it be. For the sake of your kids, keep that house. Until Nigerian men decide to learn that their wives Te humans too and being draconian will not favour them, they are living in fools paradise. The man is an idiot and think you are one too. Stop begging him. What nonsense? Rubbish |
Family › Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by BestDude: 6:28am On Jul 15, 2018 |
dingbang: How did you manage to put your name as the owner or the house without letting him know? You are a snitch Oga she did right Abeg. Na God save her. |
Politics › Re: Ekiti 2018 Governorship Election Results: INEC Official Announcement Updates by BestDude: 6:25am On Jul 15, 2018 |
zinizta: sad... i wonder why that is... i grew up with some Igbo guys and they all seemed fine. ...Igbo guys who grew up in the North seemed fine too...Igbo guys who grew up in the south east have this Nnamdi Kanu like prejudice against the Yorubas which to me is shocking. ... my question is if they had issues against a person or group of persons of yoruba ancestry, why generalise and hate a whole race? it seems illogical and demented to me. .. I am igbo and I have to agree with you on this. The ones in the east are the ones carrying the hatred. |
Celebrities › Re: Ebube Nwagbo Reveals What Turns Her Off In Men by BestDude: 8:16am On Jul 14, 2018 |
“I can’t deal with a man that lies. It turns me off instantly. I love truth and honesty. Once you begin to lie, I’m off”. Believe this at your own peril as a man. |
Romance › Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by BestDude: 3:43am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Acidosis: You're certainly going to regret this union.
Better don't allow the poor-man-mentality comments on this thread confuse you. Being a reserved and conservative person has nothing to do with wealth.
His actions are a result of his personality (not his money). Take away that wealth today, he'll still borrow to impress people, na so extroverted money miss road people dey do.
Don't force it, no one should force you to do what you wouldn't do on your own discretion. Love with your head and be calculative. Love should not make you go to the extreme. Listen to the comments on this thread at your own peril. Best advice ever |
Sports › Re: "Don't Be A Nikola Kalinic" by BestDude: 1:40am On Jul 14, 2018 |
dominique: He must be wishing he can turn back time right now. I have a friend like that. I came up with a business idea and because of the love I have for him, I called to invest in the idea but he refused because he doesn't believe in me. I won't blame him because he knew about a similar one I was working on that I hadn't gotten reward for. Not that it is dead but because of the nature of the people we are dealing with, we have to wait so long. Now, this current idea has national potential, over 100 times bigger than the previous one I was working and pay day is not delayed BUT my friend didn't believe in what I shared with him but he has the money. He even told me I would be frustrated by those in the industry. I told him okay. So I went to my cousin and shared the idea with him and my cousin is interested. We are almost through with final phase. On the other hand, one of the men we are working with invited his colleague but that one kept us waiting for 3 hours, promising to show up with numerous calls, but never did. We had to leave displeased. I got home 12 am that day. He probably didn't believe too. I heard he was begging the man that invited him but the man refused and decided to work with someone else. So what am I saying? We are bound to miss opportunity. Some times it is not our fault but we are destined never to taste such success. We are almost through with necessary talks and work will likely start this month. I am just wondering what my friend will feel like when he sees the miracle. Doubt is a destiny killer! |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 9:45am On Jul 13, 2018 |
ImaIma1: I know right.
Loving and caring are in our nature yeah, he still send me gift to till this day. I was good to him too sha and he happens to be someone that never forget good done to him and always reward you for it. So when God lifted him up, he kept his promise. Talk about a Nigerian who keeps his words, he is my first experience! Some others would have promised and failed but not him. Though we haven't spoken since 2 months now due to his work but he is a great guy. I will postpone my wedding date cos of him if he is not available till the day he is available lol. Can't imagine that day without his presence. He like a father to me. |
Romance › Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by BestDude: 8:35am On Jul 13, 2018 |
mimimile93: She fed him, she stood by him, she gave him words of encouragement, she took insult from colleagues bla bla bla.
If she really did all these, why did they break up?
Rememba the guy who bought the Benz said he was the one that dumped the lady.
The lady was that good why did he dump her?
Y'all are just bloody leeches..
Women seem to have foresights. They easily detect guys who will hammer and they get stuck to such guys no matter how the condition is or how bad the guys treat them they get stuck cause they know in due time the guys would hammer..
I don't owe no b!tch any penny.
I don't bring any ho.e into my success story.
I hustle alone and make it alone..
I am going to prove whoever said "BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL MAN THERE A WOMAN" wrong..
I am making it without y'all prostitutes.. Bro, but we agreed you took things easy yesterday na |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 8:32am On Jul 13, 2018 |
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Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 8:31am On Jul 13, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Akwa ibom...yes. what hapun? okay. I love Akwa Ibom people. I have a very good brother from Ak and he was there for me during my trying times. |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 6:26am On Jul 13, 2018 |
pryme and ImaIma1 are you both from Akwa Ibom? |
Romance › Re: How Do You Deal With A Breakup? by BestDude: 3:59pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
RosaBerry: Good I guess. A lot changed about him. oh great. |
Travel › Re: Ilasamaja Bridge Is Dismantling (see PHOTO) by BestDude: 3:53pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
shinechinedu: 400 million naira? WTF is wrong with us? And to think that this whole 14,000 capacity stadium below built by the management of Delta state polytechnic ozoro was built from start to finish with just a little over 600 million naira... This country sha.. but wait o.. AutoJoshNG where did you get that figure from.. I need to verify it please good question. We need to ask where he got the figures from but knowing the amount of millions used to construct a website by same fash, we can't dispute that. |
Travel › Re: Ilasamaja Bridge Is Dismantling (see PHOTO) by BestDude: 3:41pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
justtoodark: the cost is not the problem....maintenance is the problem.....blacks alwas had this mentality..... how can you say the cost is not the problem? Do you know how much would be saved to maintain that bridge if it had transparency with lesser figure, cos u know it is not up to 100M, let alone 400M... When you condone such wastage, just know you are also a problem of Nigeria. |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 3:06pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
ImaIma1: It is better you keep quiet. You seem smarter that way.  |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 2:59pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
mimimile93: Unfortunately all Nigerian ladies are useless.
Telling him to attract a lady with brain, where are those ladies? Absolutely not in Nigeria.
There's no virtue woman in Nigeria..
Nigerian ladies are prostitutes.. None is useful.
My advice to young men is, avoid these animals like plagues.
Hustle real hard save money travel out and marry.
They only time a Nigerian lady is useful is during sexx.. Hey bro. Even though I have not had much good experience with them, this doesn't mean all of them are bad. women are also at the receiving end of bad relationship too, though it appear like we men are the most victimized may be it is because women handle heart break better than us. About a week ago, I watched a video how a man was beating his wife on the street. Broad daylight. After kicking her, with her face facing the ground while lying on the ground flat, the man jumped up and landed heavily with his two legs on her bag. Considering that the man is quite huge, he should way over 150kg from the look of things, she would be lucky not to have her spinal cord broken and I think that was the aim of her husband. My aunt died from domestic violence too. The husband, a retired naval officer, have been beating her but one day, he beat her and left her on the ground and not knowing she had past away. The children have all deserted him. And there are countless cases of these across the country. I know how you feel and threads like this will always remind you almost instantly about your ordeal, at least it once did for me too such that I was ranting like a dog all over nairaland, attacking women just like you are doing now, so much that people quickly noticed, just as they quickly noticed you have been hurt and they could almost always predicted rightly that I will be on similar threads bashing women like you are doing and yeah, I often showed up... Like they predicted. I was in that phase for 3 years plus ➕ . I was moved to think evil I could do to harm her too. Not joking. But yours is worse than mine and your thread revoked those sad dark days... I was moody for 2 days bro. But I will give you same advice a Nairaland gave me her when I was in those days "if you close your eyes because you do not want to see the devil, you won't know when an angel will pass" I don't know who said those words but it did come to pass and I missed it while busy bashing other girls... Don't want to go into details. Just try and calm down. If there is anything, you should see from that thread of yours that everybody cared to help you, including the women you are bashing  So that should tell you that people are not as bad as we assume generally. Knowing nairaland, if you were in Nigeria, I swear, people would have stormed your house. I was moved to tears after reading your story, though people blamed you but I think the problem is that you trust easily and a bit careless. I have that same character. I believe what people say... But I am quick to call their bullshit if notice any nonsense cos I always look out for those lapses. You will be fine if you open up a bit and just be careful. You can even become an outstanding relationship counsellor in the process too. Calm down bro... I know you hurt and it will take long before you will be healed but please gradually open the gate for recovery... If it took me 3 years to recover, I sure do know yours will take much longer. But all the same, it can be done! We all have been there before. One of my friend lost over 25M cos of a girl. Another one had similar experience too. It is an inevitable necessary evil for all boys to become men. Just keep in touch with those who want to teach out to you and help you heal. I saw a lady begging you to allow her reach out to you, same gender as the one you bash. My big bro and friend had a lady send money to him when he was in school. She supported him and they are married now. I also know a lady who lost everything including mouth watering oil company job cos of a man. Her first marriage failed, same goes for 2nd, but she never stopped trying and now she is married to an awesome husband who doesn't make a fuss over most things that an average Nigerian man would. please make way for healing. It is very important. Also, for that aspect of your friends being ahead of you, you can still surpass them if you work at it. Trying to acquire a skill that solves a major technical problem such that the least amount you can make from one job is 1million naira. It can be done. It might be marine or ship related since you have a background in that area or sector or something else... But I know it can be done. If there is anything I can take from you it is the fact that you are brave and fearless. I believe you can turn things around I just wished you were in Nigeria as that would have accelerated the process. Above all, your story will make a perfect movie shot by Hollywood! If was soulful and tense! |
Romance › Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 11:37am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Elliot2: yup! it gives u d confidence(ego) to tackle her excesses.a man who got d luv n d gud sex will not allow one bitch disrespect him,n treat him lyk she is managing him. lol... This guy. I know the kind of people you hang out with. One day you will learn a bitter lesson! |
Romance › Re: How Do You Deal With A Breakup? by BestDude: 9:44am On Jul 12, 2018 |
RosaBerry: Asking for a brother who has really tried all he could to get over a relationship of 4years. How is the best way to deal with a break up.
Lol I didn't even know that boys can cry. Chai hi.. So how did it go with the dude eventually? Please let me know. |
Romance › Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 9:16am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Skmoda360: You fit Bleep girl all day and every days in a week wih quadrillion orgasms she go still fume for you....do you think sex can turn an egomaniac woman to virtuous one.? the guy na Mumu but him no know. I know someone who bragged about being a porn star but got cheated on along with over 25m he spent on the who're |
Romance › Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 9:14am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Elliot2: r u a learner? respect is earned,not given!! so Na tru fucckk u go get the respect? |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 9:02am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Wilfredpat22: The truth remains when a man ignores a woman, it hurts us and we are kinda programmed to swallow the pill painfully I see. So what happens when I decide to reach out to her after ignoring her for a while in which she even made some snide status towards me? I got a cryptic message like that some time ago but ignored it. |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 8:56am On Jul 12, 2018 |
ninetiethcrown7: It also applies to we men. If you avoid or ignore us it hurts. Also ladies nowadays don't have any joy, they love toying with our emotions when they see we care. women don't really get it bro |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 8:55am On Jul 12, 2018 |
MariaLavina: I'm not asking you to change, I only offer salvation from damnation, something you have all right to reject.
Your choice sweetie. The world won't change, but yours will definitely someday  I don't understand you here o  |
Romance › Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 8:53am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Elliot2: Truth is,u haven't bleeped dat biatch to a point her toto hurts. luk bro.,there is just one reason dat a girl wil brazenly disregard u despite dat she knws u luv her very much...dat is a mind blowin sexual prowess. dis can tame d most arogant of dem. u b Munu but u no know  |
Romance › Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by BestDude: 5:55am On Jul 12, 2018 |
stpat1: The tall and short of the story is that you are the one in Love. When a woman is in love, she practically becomes a vegetable. The ball is in your court. bros longest time o. Hoe u dey? It is ya boy 2xxxy |
Celebrities › Re: Top 10 'Small Girls With Big God' In The Nigerian Entertainment Industry by BestDude: 5:49am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Patrick33: I don't know if you are their "God" o...until you have good proof..you're just another hater trying to downgrade them..what you can't get,you tend to hate. Just because they are women doesn't mean they can't work hard to buy their stuff or build houses. Most of you will be the "big gods" if you had money to pick up this ladies.. stop being stupid hypocrites.. why aren't the men in the industry making same success aside a few? Keep deceiving yourself. |
Romance › Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by BestDude: 11:59pm On Jul 11, 2018 |
BlackAfrican: I'm drained emotionally... Of course I can't continue with such a person...
And to think that she's a girl I plan proposing to end of this year and get married before mid next year just breaks my heart... lol.. that is how someones wedding day just got postponed until further notice... life is indeed beautiful. |
Romance › Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by BestDude: 6:56pm On Jul 11, 2018 |
DavidTheGeek: That she said "let's just be friends" doesn't mean she will never change her mind.
If you have close female friends, you will know that girls are unstable when it comes to decisions, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
She will tell you she won't date this guy then few weeks later she will introduce him to you as her boyfriend, "the best thing that ever happened to her".
It's mostly all about feelings with them. If while being "just friends" she falls in love with you, she will be the one pushing for you guys to date even when she had earlier said "let's just be friends".
What to do in that situation is to act like she never said anything. Never pester her or try to convince her with words. Don't bring up the matter again.
There's no law that says you can't flirt with "a friend". Continue flirting with her. Use cocky and funny lines on her. Meet other girls and let her see how other girls love being around you. Use reverse psychology on her. Be sendless. etc.
Basically all you do is act like she never said anything and continue your thing. Bro and Harddon, thanks for your response. Well, things got pretty weird as she started acting funny towards me. I have no doubt that it isn't cos I asked her out. Just decided to stay away from her till she makes move to reach out to me.... Or what do you think? |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 4:50pm On Jul 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1: No. Not all pretty ones are bad. But you could overlook the bad character of the heartbreakers becaus her beauty is tickling your fancy lol |
Romance › Re: Women Don't Need Love Or Care But by BestDude(op): 12:13pm On Jul 11, 2018 |
MariaLavina: I know, I know! I'm quite too familiar with your story. Good gone bad because circumstances made them so. ***yawn***
But why lost your identity (who you are ) to something lower than you are (your situations) Shouldn't you be in control of your circumstances instead of it allowing them toss you around and become what you are not? Yes the world is revolving... It may seem the bad gets the lead but No.. being bad only eats up your soul. There comes a time when you get bored, tired and drained. Then your works becomes your solitude and company. Be careful what part you choose in your youthful days. 
You can't always eat your cake and have it. Sometimes you have to compromise.  Lol... No no I am not changing. I did that in the past and it wasn't profitable. God knows best. Will just push on with life and continue with my hustle. |