If men are emotional with making money and having a fulfilled career the way they are with women....threads like this will never occur in the first place.

If you mean to place all your attention on something, just make sure it's worth it.

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

Please get a handle on your life. She is allegedly your girl not even a wife yet you have the audacit5y to public with the silly idea she cheats on you.

Lmaooooooooo!!! No girl wey no get secret. Better go and buy sexdoll if you can't cope. You think a millionaire, Chris Brown sang "these hòes ain't loyal", and it's now a hundrednaire like you that will succeed where he failed?

Two things are involved,

If you are a beta male, forgive and continue till the next INEVITABLE point of abeg again

If you are an alpha, kick the bìtch to the curb and start afresh with another bìtch who has learnt her lesson with a beta that gave her many chances till he wisened up or she got disgusted by his shameless lack of manly conviction and dumped the mumu for a fresh fish who will "trust" her #weallbeentherebro

it happens bro just use your head always.

Where is donstan18 when you need him the most? Come and drop lines concerning this issue.

dairykidd:


Guy if u can live with the fact that she's fvcking someone else & u don't have any problem with that then stay there but if i were u i would move the fvck on... Its that simple

youve been speaking my mind also, I have a problem with my girlfriend who cheated too, in my mind I've dumped her, she's just my fuccckk buddy, but I find it hard to tell her to leave because I can't stand d thought of her nakin anoda guy.

thorpido:
If you have the proof and you have shown her that and she couldn't refute it,there's only one decision for you to make.............move on.

She'll never change.

She will never change at all.....

lenghtinny:
Well Issa natural something for girls to keep To-do list of boyfriends these days....

You should have zero your mind before checking your so called girl online activities because there's a 99.99999999% probability that you will find what you seek.

Nowadays, the average Nigerian girl is a public property. She's only yours when she is with you

Bitter, bitter truth bro.

Fuckyoumod:
Oga... Your not coming out plain.

You never caught her cheating from your story.

Everything in your story is based on suspicions.

Go get your facts right.

sharap dia, read d story well and see d kind of slap u need... olodo pelsin

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

Very few guys get to date the real good gals.
Forget what every one here is saying because at one point in time or another every a guy have been a victim of such.

Just move on with your life and give her some breathing space.
If she wants to be with you, she'll come looking.

That's why I don't love no bitches ....money is so good that it can attract any bitches.....love my foot

Call her and talk to her

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

B4 i can judge dis accurately i need to ask how serious the relationship is and how long. Gals don't fully commit until they sure of where the relationship is going. Also Gals usually have lots of advances from guys, most end in mere flirting bt one or two may become more than just that. I wud ask to check how many she actually took serious if not much question her for the truth about it and ask why she did it then decide. If its not her pattern to be promiscuous and shes remorseful give her a chance to correct her mistakes she just might change bt if ure not satisfied u can quite the relationship. Bt like insaid it depends on the level of the relationship to me.

hkidola00:
youve been speaking my mind also, I have a problem with my girlfriend who cheated too, in my mind I've dumped her, she's just my fuccckk buddy, but I find it hard to tell her to leave because I can't stand d thought of her nakin anoda guy.

Lolzz.. whether u can stand the thought or not, she cheated & probably still cheating/ knacking some other guys ur being able to stand it wouldnt change anything bro... At some point u will realize the best option is to let her go.

It's her own utopia. You can't tame an adult without the intervention of the Holy Spirit she'd only get further into it when you confront her. Pray and get yourself involved with the ways of God to see her reaction towards you maybe she'd leave, maybe she'd catch a new way of life

It is well

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

It what you say is true and you have seen that she communicates in an affectionate manner
with other guys online and even takes it to the point of leading maybe to a sexual encounter with them then she is
not being sincere with herself and honest with you.....

If you are both finished school and working then i guess she should know whether she wants to marry you
but with her actions online i guess not.and her actions via socil media feeds shows her inner mental & emotional state.
if you are both still in the undegrad stage dont waste your time with her move on with you life....

Social media is a sort of flash-light that looks into the Heart (Instagram), Soul (Twitter) and Mind (Facebook) of People
these days as the True Nature, Character and Personality comes to the surface as people display their true inner-self
in the privacy of their own houses and personal time... is seen in people social media feeds...more often than not...

kingzjay:
Why would you even go through her accounts?

You want to die before your time

Stop all these "why would you even go through her accounts" story Bros!!. If I wanna go serious with a lady, that's very very compulsory. We must be free to go through our phones and share our passwords at any time....If you can have access to your bae's Facebook, whatsapp and call logs, and your mind is still very much at rest, be sure that bae is 98 percent sincere and honest with you. Baba, you cant be a player all the days of your life. You go still settle down with one bae/give one woman belle (if na only pikin you want). If you wan give woman belle, you no go use condom. So why shouldn't I know her health status and all and what she has been through as at the time I met her and know if she is the sincere type or not......I just hope you understand what I am saying. #My opinion though and that's how I live my life and it has worked well for me#

Dedetwo:


Please get a handle on your life. She is allegedly your girl not even a wife yet you have the audacit5y to public with the silly idea she cheats on you.

If they truly love each other they can sort it out

Bro if that girl loves you and she is decent can cook and respectful you see a long time or future wit her go ahead and marry her if you leave that girl you will only meet worst ones no girl is a saint any longer Dey all double date and they know who they love like you said it was her ex. And some few toasters just keep her on her toes and it shudnt repeat it self again

talking from experience,you will later cry and wish you never meet her if love makes you sweep this issue under the rug,...they dont change,i think some people are just naturally polygamous in nature...just play with her to your satisfaction when the time is right to really settle down or get more serious go for a new woman..i know this your gf will be the mark up on fleek,shapes on fleek kinda person..heed to this advice dont settle with her,she will never change #no miracle

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

What did u plan to do to her if u find evidence of cheating in her Facebook n what's app

Mark my words,....

SHE WILL NEVER CHANGE!!!!!!!





If she change ehn,.....mk Buhari win 2019 election

BlackAfrican:


I'm drained emotionally... Of course I can't continue with such a person...

And to think that she's a girl I plan proposing to end of this year and get married before mid next year just breaks my heart...

lol.. that is how someones wedding day just got postponed until further notice... life is indeed beautiful.

olac21:

Stop that nonsense you're thinking oo and get yourself a decent girl..what are you proposing to in this one?
You no get eyes ni?

U guys keep calling "decent girls" as if they are easy to get in Nigeria nowadays. Where will he get a decent girl. Most of the girls out there are olosho... 90% of them.
I'm very sure this particular girl is one of them... Op I'm sorry for calling her olosho but that's what she is. I come across a lot of them on social media. Hook up things.... If u know u know

Fuckyoumod:
Oga... Your not coming out plain.

You never caught her cheating from your story.

Everything in your story is based on suspicions.

Go get your facts right.

waiting to catch her in d act will be elusive after confronting her with all those evidences. She is a cheat and would act if given the chance. Bit now dat she is aware of her guys knowledge, she will be wary and careful...but only for a time. She is dangerous pls.

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has oreciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

run, run, run. Don't watch while Ur grave is dug.

Gbam......
Dem no dem sef

madridguy:
Hope you've browse her server very well?

If yes, dump her and get a good girl

If No, try and mark your own register and move on.

From your narration, your GF is a public toilet. Kiss the bitter truth.

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has oreciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

run, run, run. Don't watch while Ur grav' is dug.

I thought u guys are eWarrior, am surprised at Ur tears.
Anyway all said and done to move forward cut all forms of communication with her and get another babe, but no guarantee that your new babe doesn't have another type of stress o

BlackAfrican:
Anyone with useful tips on how to move on please share.... I'm so drained emotionally and can't stop the tears streaming down my face even as I type this....

You have all this evidence and you're still not sure what step to take?

You broke mens code, Never confront!!
Catch her red handed.