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Magnoliaa:
You don't have to say it.

Na the reality e dey tell you so be that; and it applies to your potential babe.

ok

Persephone1:
These people need to be shown that they are not as wise as they think they are

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Persephone1:
Kikikikikikiki

How do you see your lyrics up there

100 right?

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Persephone1:
Running to You - Bestdude FT ChurchGirl

Girls on Twitter no wan see me
Them no wan gimme face rara
They already know,
I no be who i talk i be
I be wan package but them pull me down
Like the wall of Jericho
They don't know, they don't know
They don't know what they really escape
E pain me so
E pain me so
E pain me , I fit Cry. Ooo
I go church and i sight you
Girl, i turn Usain for you
I'm gettin' better in meters race
You should know I got you
And you don't need to get me too
I'll be right beside you
In anythin' that you do
If your number ever goes missing,
I will be running to you
Running, running, running to you
I'll be running to you
Running, running, running to you
Anywhere that you go to
Running, running, running to you
I'll be running to you
Running, running, running to you
Anywhere to get your number.

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Magnoliaa:
cc: bestdudes

lol... I never said that.

Persephone1:
Well it does mean one thing you are not as important or firm or mighty or wanted as you project yourself on your initial thread. You don't have the world at the tip of your finger and all your redpill lessons ? All gone to the mud. A typical Alpha male won't race to collect a girl's number or search for her in such a huge gatherings . Dude you literally wandered around for God knows hours to find a girl and somehow you still want to maintain your 'i am a demigod" reputation . Kole werk! You are just an ordinary boy who got angry that 3 ladies didn't find him worth keeping. Nl is really a EGO booster, you come here to paint yourself as what you are not! i lost the count of time you mentioned "discarded" that alone speaks volume.

You and who are proposing? I read through your first thread but didn't comment. I knew it was only a matter before your true self and problem comes out. You are just a boy, one very good at RUNNING. .

k

advanceDNA:
i get ur style.....u went for the lady that also showed interest in you..which is good....not the one you will use plenty restaurant food, recharge card or flashy gifts to catch and maintain her attention...then when all her toasters are on holiday or when she needs money....she will give u green light

As in... imagine the silliness. And when the guy finally catch up with their game and walk away, they will come online to create that first thread that no guy with good intentions approached them. lmaoo

Ur last topic also reconfirmed the fact that women (also men), but mostly women throw opportunities away by not even getting to know guys that approach them...

EXACTLY... They don't even get to know you. They will just conclude in their mind and then do everything in their power to chase you away. Imagine the one where I said I gave little things who assumed I was doing that because of pussy... what she does not know is that I do that to people at will. In her mind, she thought it was because I want to buy her lol... Me wey buy laptop for my long time e-friend, a guy.

Since these ones don't even give you an opportunity to know you, why were those commenters saying I am impatient and that I didn't wait to know them blah blah

I understand that we all have standards...but the truth is many of those standards are superficial, media/hollywood driven..(the perfect, good looking man or woman in every way)

You have wisdom

Unlike men that adjust standards easily....women hold on to too many things they call standards like must have a car, no bald head, no beards, etc...

They set standards for men but expect men not to have standards.

and end up going for men that looks perfect and only waste their time because perfect looking boyz mostly belong to another babe..

lol..

The fact that women dont do the approaching but wait to be approached makes it a challenge for them in getring who they want.....they have to wait to be approached ......so getting to know someone, even though he doesnt check all the boxes at first meeting could increase their chances of finding a potential life partner...

They had better grow some senses and be considerate with their filtering.

H0didon:
I like your moniker, you're valid bro . Women don't settle for less so why should a guy also settle for less?? They'll just get close to you, use you, drain you till they're done and then they find the next higher bidder, that's how this generation of women do.

You're wise. No wonder your moniker says bestdude , So many weak and SIMPle men were just saying nonsense. If we have more of Zonefree in this world, it'll be a better place for us all... Not all these weaklings we have as men who takes bullshit from women because of pussy that's cheap these days. Perhaps its till they train a bastard or when they die under women's hand, they won't make such mistake in their next life .



As our Ancestors would say "Only a Simp and an !diot settles for less when there is more than enough BEST".

You get it now bro? men spoil women and still turn around to complain. Why should you be begging a girl? why? why should you be forcing someone to be with you? haba...

If women know that you will not tolerate their nuisance, they will behave. From what I am even getting, Nigerian women are the toughest to deal with because they have been spoilt by Nigerian men, which breeds that entitlement pride.

Persephone1:
I don't do babes/ladies. I do MEN, Mexican men to be precise
Your kindergarten rhymes no concern me neither will it change the amusing fact that you RAN back to go collect number

LMAOO...running back to get number does not mean I can't leave her alone if she begins to misbehave... To put it in context, I am just having fun knowing I can always move to the next girl if the current one does not favour me. I do not say this as a womanizer and I have hardly slept with up to 7 girls at my age when many men have lost count...

But the truth is, I cant do what most of you were proposing in that other thread, which is to be begging or fighting to convince another human lol...

Sweetplum:
From your explanations, I can see that you met ladies that gave you vibes you didn't liked. You continued searching till you got what you wanted.
So... Why did you create that unfortunate previous thread?
Why just come online to scream girls are bad when you mother, sisters and female family members are existing and among the total no of females in the world?
Maybe some of you are from damaged homes with condemned females or let me say condemned boys. That's why all these redpillers on nairaland roam night and day like Mad Men waiting to be taken to the asylum.
Only on this site are people who act like serial killers, rapists, jihadists, atheists, bigots etc. All abusing the system that they v benefitted from. You see boys complaining about girls as if they v met all females. Is it not men that's sleeping with those girls that you all call Oloshos? Are all Oloshos lesbians? So what do we call the men that sleeps with them? Brostititutes? Are men free from scrutiny when they erred?
Make I digress small:
You see atheists abusing the church as if the church is acting authoritatively over their lives. The church that gabevthem freedom of speech is now what they feel they can talk to anyhow. But the mofos dare not jihadists cos they fear for the swords that ll come for their necks. Bunch of lilly livered swines. You ll see people supporting the ills of Putin and abusing the west and if they are to chose BTW USA & Russian visa, they ll jump to America. Ori gbogbo yin buru. E o ni jeun to daa!
To all acting like I v mentioned above, may you all not derive happiness except you repent, AMEN, ASE EDUMARE!

Man, you belong to the group that lack comprehension. Sorry. Go and read the thread again, and check the one I referenced there.

The summary of that thread is that ladies have attitude that repel men and still claim that no guy with good intentions has approached them... REALLY? From age 18-30? lol

I also walked away from those ones because what people like you were suggesting was my past life, which never favored me... I mean, cajoling, being patient, convincing her, beg her... that is all bullshit. If she is not giving you the energy, leave her alone.

Nigerian men go on begging, pleading, and persuading and get disrespected even more.

Listen, a girl knows she wants you in the first 4 minutes of interacting with you... if she is not giving you that energy, dude BOUNCE!

Persephone1:
Finally! we will rest from epistles written by a guy whose ego is bigger than his future.

You for no give your phone to the lady or run back to collect her number again nah. After all you are a big boy who "discarded" ladies that weren't interested in you.

Truly, desperation knows no gender at appointed time.

If you like go dey beg babe make she gree for you AND cut ur head give am. I have past that stage. I am not going to beg any girl. If desperation is all you saw from what I have shared, then you probably do not the core message and will never get it. But go on if that makes you sleep well at night,

Dailyparrot:
I responded to your first post and I'm going to respond to this one too.

Thank you for commenting.

You only ended up confirming exactly what you were told on the previous thread.

But what they were saying was actually what I was after, which is why I left the others alone.

Firstly, The girl has to be into you. This is the first step towards dealing with a girl. It does not matter whether the girl is beautiful or not, or has a higher class or not, she just has to have some level of likeness for you.

This is what I was after. I was looking for someone who will return the energy and because I wasn't getting it from the others, I had to move on.

This is where girls get it better than guys. A girl will rather follow an Okada rider that likes her than a banker that tolerates her presence. Unfortunately, most girls' definition of likeness is someone that can spend on them or tolerate their bullshit which most classed men can't.

I think approaching her in a crowd of hundreds of people, plus in the presence of her sister was a major booster. She said that her sister was surprised at how I pulled such a bold move. Also when I went back, they became 3 and I still reached out again to be sure I got that number. You know girls always gist and I am suspecting that the elder sister may have made some positive comment about me in my absence, which is a reason why she initiated the chat FIRST. Many girls will not do that.

You met her in church. This is the catch. I told you on the other thread to always define what you want whenever you get connected with a girl. That girl may be loyal and communicative simply because she's looking for a husband. A 25 years old university graduate is more likely to be open in conversation with you than a 21-year-old 200-level undergraduate.

Yes, you are right. She has just graduated and doing a bit for her own things.

She wants something which she cannot make open to you now, but her actions and body language should be able to tell you that if you are smart.

Of course. Even when I told my cousin how our interactions went, he said it might be that the girl is single and wanting to more.

It is now left for you to know exactly what you want and determine the level of commitment you put in the situationship. I ghost a lot of girls that I know that are desperate for marriage when I know I have zero interest to marry them. They want the relationship to follow the prolonged process of dating, courting, and all which I'm not game for since I know it would be wasting my resources for nothing.

Well, unlike what some people were saying in the other thread, which is that how I am I sure I have good intentions for those girls that I discarded. To be frank you with, I would have moved with any of them if they had not displayed those repulsive attitudes. And yes, I am looking for a much more committed relationship and will define it with this one I stuck with.

I can pay for transport for a girl that I want to marry to come from Anambra to Lagos to see me since it would entail us studying each other for future purposes, but I can't try that for a girl I have the intention to sex only.

Absolutely.

So, define your intention within you and that will guide your commitment level. When purpose is not defined, abuse is inevitable

Sure, I would do that.

And if you must know, the more good-looking you are, the less serious ladies take you. I'm a victim.

lmao.. I am aware of that. They also do not like fair skin guys.

The street is truly brutal and this is a game. You have to understand it and play it well. Some ladies can take you unserious simply because they feel your class is higher than theirs and you can't want something serious from them other than their pussy

This is just the inferiority complex you talked about below.

So, you should also look at the class of girls you follow if they match your class. Ladies suffer from inferiority complex as much as guys. If you truly like a girl and want to prove to her that irrespective of her class, body type, etc., you still want her, then you will have to be patient to prove that to her and not just act so hastily in discarding her.

Man, contrary to what many said in the other thread, I have an over-flowing level of patience. As in, I have tolerated a girls bullshit for more than 7 months, I have done 1 YEAR sef.. But here is the thing, It is only wise to be patient with someone you were once cool with than someone you are just getting to know. I mean if your relationship has passed the intro stage and extended a bit, then it is wise to be patient.

Why should I be patient with someone that I just met 1 week ago and already showing signs of lack of decency? Is she better than me in anyway?

Being patient and trying to persuade or cajole when someone is already showing that you are not welcome will only lead to depreciating disrespect.

Then again, it depends on what you want from the girls. Are you looking for a wife, a girlfriend, a sexmate, a chatbuddy, a friend with benefits, etc. Define what exactly you are looking for and express that when interacting with the ladies so your message will be well received and they will act accordingly if they feel they are in for whatever you want.

Yes, I get it. I could have done that with the previous ones if they were receptive.

You'd be surprised that a girl who would accept to fu^k you will never accept to marry you. So if you approach such girl with a marriage vibe, she will ghost you.

Yes, this happens but it also depends on what she wants at that phase of her life. If you bring a marriage to a girl who still wants to flex and have fun, she will run away. It depends on what she wants with you and you can know this from her actions.

I pray this one ends well. Hopefully, you don't get surprised when you finally find out the reason for this uncanny friendliness unusual of a typical Nigerian girl.

Well, the friendliness, to much of my understanding is due to the bold move. Ladies love it when a guy is confident and the fact that I did this in a gathering of hundreds of people. But I also understand what you are saying lol.

DaddyFreeze2020:
If Nigerians Decide Next Year February That It Is Peter Obi They Want, So Be It –

Femi Adesina, Special Adviser to the President

wow,are you serious? Can you show where you saw this news?

Hi, Happy Sunday Evening To Everyone.

A few days ago, I created a thread Titled "Why I Walked Away From 3 Ladies I Had Interest In."

For Those who may have missed it, here is a link: https://www.nairaland.com/7437137/why-walked-away-3-ladies

Most people who commented on that thread were attacking me: some blamed me, some said I am impatient, others said I lack game and so many other things and a bunch of others said the girls are not into me (meaning they do not find me attractive lol). Summarily, it was my fault.

However, I left out a piece of information in all of these and that is the fact that there is one girl whom I stuck with. What this means is that I approached 4 girls, discarded 3, and stuck with 1. 2 ONLINE, and 2 OFFLINE! Please take note.

Background: I saw this girl in church as she sat behind me, like Lady 3 in the other thread, in the company of her sister. We had just closed and it was crowded. I approached her with a compliment on her outfit and told her my purpose which is to exchange contact. I gave her my iPhone to type her number. She did but not without having mine.

As I was leaving, I dialed the number so that I can have it saved later when I get home. I curiously check my call log and didn't see the number... wow...It didn't store the dialed number because there is no sim inside. It is a new phone and I only use it to browse with a router.

I quickly ran back to find her and gave her my android to type the number again. She did, I saved it there and left.

On getting home, I ate and slept off. I didn't call her either and I didn't intend to call immediately.

As soon as I woke, did a few stuff... I opened my WhatsApp. There were a few messages waiting for me and to my surprise, hers was among those. In fact, I never thought that would happen but it did.

I replied to other messages first and hers last and when I engaged her, she couldn't contain the excitement. She told me what her sister thought about me and what I did, plus expressed shock that I came back to find her again, like how did I know they were there (a different location from where we stood previously) as it is one of the biggest churches in Nigeria.

Now, here is where it got even more interesting: She was communicative, outspoken, direct, responsive, and receptive.

Thankfully, she is from my mum's state, so that helped boost the influence and reception some more.

She was just asking me questions, wanting to know a lot about me. You could really feel the desire, energy, vibes, and interest.

At some point, she asked me to send my picture... For those who thought I was some not-good-looking dude, hence the reason those ladies were probably acting that way lol.

She is pretty, much taller than our Lady 3 who was replying with one-liners, with a nice shape than lady 3 as well.

And like they say, the rest is history.

The reason why I am sharing this is that a lot of Nigerian men have been conditioned to settle for anything. Listen up, the moment you know that there are many women out there, you will never settle for anything that does not give your what you want. Having an abundance mentality (something women do not want you to have so that they can mess you up) will save you from girls with repulsive attitudes.

I am a guy who is big on communication, be free, talk to me... once it looks like I am the only one doing the work, I will pull out. I don't ever want to feel like I am forcing myself on someone because, from experience, it never ends well.

See, at no point must you be found trying to manage a relationship with any girl you just met.

Some people feel you must FIGHT to win a woman, fight to convince her, Fight to coerce her... I have done that before and it didn't end well.

Instead of trying to fight as if you are at war with yourself, why not find that one person that matches your energy and returns the vibe? Why not find that girl who is interested in you? Why not find that girl who is willing?

If a girl is not matching your energy, move on to the next one. There are too many women out there than you can handle.

Like I said in that thread, I will keep discarding these girls until I get someone who is interested in me, one who is responsive, one who is polite, friendly, receptive, communicative, and willing. And just because my relationship with this current girl started on a good note does not mean it will end well. It could go North or South, but my point is that I would only go for someone that is friendlier, polite, and open.

Now look at the stat: I approach 4, I discarded 3 for a reason, and I stuck with one. Women are quick to discard a guy, why shouldn't I be allowed to do that?

Women are always keeping their options open, even while in a relationship... so why should you be sticking to just one girl?

I am not saying that you should be sleeping with many girls. I don't do that either but my point is to have as many options as possible. It helps and once a girl knows there are other girls fighting for your attention, your value in her eyes will increase but the opposite is the case if you stick to just one or making look like she is the only one in your life. When you do that, you are likely to get dumped.

The street is brutal, stay vigilant.

Ogaonos:
lol 100percent��

Then you shouldn't be worrying your head over anything... just talk to her like you would to a male friend.

Jpblessed:
What happened to AJ?

do you know whether it is AJ that linked them? Besides, AJ has a son.

Ogaonos:
yeah but chatting can be dry after two first chatup session ( despite nt chatting often).due to same pattern of chatup.nd u knw our sistas dnt bring up gist.u can help with some tips ( help me to be spanteous in each chattibg seasion)

lmao Bros, are you sure it’s just platonic relationship you want?

Ogaonos:
thanks. but does it apply to platonic friendship ( ie ladies u only want friendship nt more than dt)

oh no. That one is easy. just go with the flow. in a platonic relationship, there are no expectations.... and there are fewer pressures too.

Ogaonos:
love to ask which social topic ladies love to engage( chat about) e.g we guys na fpotball be pur favourite social topic

if you are dealing with a girl, don’t try to be to serious…. Just have fun and enjoy the time.

Girls say they would love to marry and build career but na lamba… no even try to bring up such topic. Don’t try to be serious.

Topic could be anything around her, from her hair, her nails, looks, etc anything you know women love generally but never try to be too serious.

Also learn to deflect some things that can trigger you cos women love to test men and see how they react. They love to know whether he is emotional or stoic. In whatever you do, never show your emotion to a woman.

BloomingDale:
Oga, I have my own money. Moreover I have never asked any guy for money.

u don get it… what you Nigerian women enjoy from Nigerian men can hardly be gotten once you leave Nigeria. You don’t know what you have here and that is why many of Nigerian women are spoilt.

Great0ne1:
Wow! But why do women like you, always exist online, but not offline ?

lmao they will it’s the kind of women I attract..

Evolutionlove:
Cc: Bestdudes come and see your sisters..

shebi I talk am say most foreigners no send Nigeria women. Na we Dey carry them like egg here baby why dem Dey over raise shoulders . Just look at that my thread and the men say it’s my fault for discarding the girls.

Pinkdimples:
Like seriously. You already have the mindset and conclusion,that every woman has the trait to disrespect a man. Then why do you still want a friendship or communicate with them? Or intend getting married to one? Just asking cos its surprising.

Good morning

Good morning.

NO... I mean if the man gives ground for it, a woman will do that. This is why men who know how women operate always say leave a girl alone when she is not interested. When she says no, move on. IF she is not returning your energy , have some self-respect and leave her alone.

If a guy does not walk away and leave her alone, two things are likely to happen:

1. She will see him as a man that she can exploit and take advantage of, even when he is genuinely being a good person who loves to show care through his actions.

2. She will see him as a weak man, an id!ot, a mumu that is worth nothing, and ultimately disrespect him because the man didn't respect himself by leaving her alone.

Again, the keyword is "if a man gives room for that, a woman will disrespect him" There are no two ways about that. Women don't respect men who don't respect themselves

Why did you think I chose to walk away from those 3 girls? A top reason is to avoid disrespect.

You see, I have been through this thing before. It is not new to me. Do you doubt me? WALK with me.

I shared this story in this thread but you may have missed it so let me repeat it again.

There is this Anambra babe I wanted to have something with. She is educated and a tech enthusiast. I made moves and she said no, I persisted like some guys were proposing up there lol... I am a natural giver and love to share. So it was not a big deal for me to even gift her little things.

Now, because I persisted and because I had spent small money, do you know what this babe said in one of her replies to me? She said and I quote "If I want to bill you, I will bill you"

Why did she say that? She automatically assumed that I am doing all those things to win her. What she does not know is that I give to people at will. She thought I was doing that cos of pussy.

A little background that she does not know. I have 2 persons living in my house for more than 2 years now. They are not paying rent.

This year alone, I have given nothing less than 500k to different people for different issues... just doing my best to put smiles on people's faces.

Now because I extended this gesture to this same girl, she automatically assumes I am a moronnn. This is the disrespect I was talking about and all women have that trait. They do, especially when you persist.

See when I talk, I am not just talking for likes or shares. I don't have that time.

Let's move on...

Eventually, I let her be but linked up to check up on her once in a while. Guess what she did recently... Her birthday had passed by 1 day. She buzzed me to remind me that I didn't wish her happy birthday.

Why would a person care to remind me of an event that passed? Because of my past history. She did that because she expected that I would send her something. Do you see the problem? She is a decent girl, educated and this is what she could think of me... she sees me as a slowpoke, and id!ot. Because I persisted. She sees me as someone she could exploit.

Well, I wished her happy birthday, and told her I had just returned from the orphanage home where I went to drop off some items as gifts for them. AND 1 KOBO, I didn't send to her, neither did I ask for her bank account. I am sure she was disappointed cos she didn't even reply my last message to her which was "hope you had a blast"? I had to delete that chat and never bothered to contact her again.

If I didn't give room for what she did, if I had self-respect and not persisted like some persons were suggesting I should persist, would she have had the mind to see me as a moroon? Remember, nobody can disrespect you without your permission.

Do you now understand why I chose to walk away from those 3 girls?

When I say it is not possible that a girl will live from age 18-30 and not have men with good intentions come their way, I know what I am saying and this is just one story out of some other experiences I have had. If I begin to say some things or what I think about women, it won't be long before you say I hate women or call me misogynist.

And lastly, IF I chose to walk away, it is for my own safety because I know myself. I also chose to do this because I have also come to realize that it is not easy to find my kind in today's Nigeria. As much as I have decided not to change because of girls like this, I will no longer allow any girl easy access to me. They can go and deal with remnants out there and come online to say "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's"

Magnoliaa:
Imagine saying that we should go and report the excesses of Facebook users to Mark Zuckerberg, who is on TikTok, and he will do justice to it. Kai.

he spend more time on twitter than here lol. It’s not every time issues like this come up an but when they do , report to the owner.

Jeff Bezos before he left Amazon, a company he founded, he left his email for people to contact him. E get why.

Eketem:
The ones they are doing here was it reported to Seun on Twitter?

The aim of having a moderator is to have a balanced unbiased party to moderate discussions not this one.

If Seun can't handle the obvious bias of his moderators without people leaving Nairaland to report to him on Twitter then he should declare he has ceded the forum to Tinubu.

Even Seun has complained about the excesses of his mods. He knows many of them are idiot. I am not capping

TheGoodJoe:
It is so clear. Peter Obi was referencing politicians having history and explained that of Odili who went to his school and was a star footballer for his school team.

It is a shame what Mynd44 and his team are doing on nairaland. I hope the money is what their conscience.

report it to Seun on Twitter. He will do justice to it.

Eketem:
You refuse to take threads where actual evidence exists on a candidates fake history to the front page but dance around this one.

If you have such a thread and you want it on the front page, just send it to Seun Osewa on Twitter, and he will do justice to it.

hifocus:
Now you’ve added “disrespectful” to the mix…smh. You’re too finicky. Anyway, if you’re as serious as you claim, go back to the first girl and consider her initial silence as a plus. I know why I said that.

I hear ya.

underpinna:
Baba please, can you help in teaching me Digital Marketing? If you have materials, I equally need them.
Thank you

digital marketing is wide. There are different areas to it.


Google digital marketing and read up about the industry and then find a section that interest you.

Let's you read about digital marketing and your interest is how to do social media marketing. Next is go to Skillshare.com, pay their annual $24 and watch videos on social media marketing.

If it is blogging you want, watch that too. If it is how to set up wordpress sites, watch that too. If it is how to build landing pages or squeeze pages, watch that too. You will find as many videos as you want on Skillshare.com and Youtube.

Pinkdimples:
Actually it is not hard. Be a principle man,make it clear from the very first day what you want and expect. If she bills you unnecessarily,and you are willing not to give,cos you feel she is inconsiderate, entitled or something,tell her straight forward you don't have. If she result to acting funny, disrespectful etc. Forget her and move on.

Those men that put their girlfriends on monthly pay are so annoying. Yes I said that. Give her money willingly once in a while, whenever you feel like (that's if you wish to) not her asking for it every now and then. Don't make it compulsory or mandatory to give her monthly pay as if na job.

Most of such men are ridiculed by the women in question. I was on TikTok some weeks ago when a girl uploaded a video her ex who placed on monthly allowance of 50K. What I saw in that video was a woman making a mockery of the ex, nothing more.

hifocus:
Nope you don’t have to. Infact you shouldn’t.

I am glad it is a lady that told him this and not a man. Nigerian men have been conditioned to think they should always spend money. You can give money to your babe but not because she is your girlfriend. Only do it because you are being supportive.

The mentality of the guy is why many Nigerian girls have become entitled.