So, i've spent the last 4 months or so grooming myself in JSE and now i'm thinking of delving further into J2EE. I've heard lots of discouraging comments about how cumbersome and complex and sanity threatening J2EE can be so I thought I'd post this topic to ask anyone who has a fair experience in J2EE to shed some light on the complexity. Do you think its too soon for me to start that, if not what online resources would you recommend for a J2EE beginner.

Thanks

@OP

I think the strongest part of any building is the foundation hence if the foundation is weak, the house is bound to collapse sooner or later. The only truth I can deduce from your predicament is that the man never loved you to start with. He only married you to get his legal rights to stay in your country and avoid deportation (this might sound outlandish to you but i'm sure the vast majority of posters on this forum are familiar with this concepts).

When you said, initially you had no problem with him, its probably because the ball was still in your court in that you guys were married but his legal paper work had not been finalized. hence that would prompt him to dance to your every tune and act responsible.

So, how does a man who never loved you in the first place change to become a man that loves you. That is more difficult to achieve than for a camel to pass through the eye of the needle. I can't advise you to leave your husband. What i'll advise you to do is give some serious thoughts to the facts on ground. Consider 5 years down the line living with a man who behaves this way, the type of influence that will have on your little boy. I'm sure you dont want your son to grow up to become a man who has no regards for women's emotions.

thats just my 2 cents. Many people have begun saying that sometimes its better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. and if you've ever been in any type of abusive relationship, whether it be physical or emotional, the reason is not too far fetched.

tboy81:

Let me see if i can reply to some of the earlier questions, i have actually been offline for over a week preparing for GRE/TOEFL.

1) With respect to the CGPA conversion thing, i actually mailed some schools to see if they can convert it for me before i apply but they said i would need to apply first before they can convert it. i have searched and searched the internet for over 4 months to get a standard CGPA conversion but all av been getting are conflicting views. But since i asked this question some months ago and sayhi2ay said my 3.27/5.0 might be 3.0/4.0 , i applied to 5 schools, 2 had 2.75 as minimum CGPA while 2 had 3.0 as minimum CGPA while the 5th scholl didn't have minimum CGPA for international students.

2) GRE/TOEFL Test Center : I actually registered for my TOEFL and GRE at FirstLogic too like sayhi2ay mentioned. GRE cost 30k and TOEFL was 26k. I actually wrote my GRE this week (1310/1600) & wrote my TOEFL last week (FirstLogic already had filled up spaces for the Nov.14th exam so they registered me but i wrote the test at a TOEFL center at GRA,Ikeja.

3) [b]GRE/TOEFL expiration: Based on the browsing av done in the past months, i think GRE expires after 5 years while TOEFL is for 2 years.[/b]

That is correct.

arianne:

because when reality meets fantasy, theres going to be a blackout!

there's not much difference between the way people look and what they say. ur words are u! so u really don't need to see face, just look @ the words n u'll get a clear picture

Very false and baseless assumption.

what is the point NOT putting it there

Why is everyone replying this Madingo dude, His points are totally baseless. Come on nairalanders, It shouldnt take this many posts to identify a room temperature IQ.

smurf:

Iwo ni olowo ori me ni sin, so what ever you say goes, darling

what would it take to change your mind? just say it and it's done.

tope2000:


Why can't i look at other men? i mean look at stephen, he can make a nun commit a sin

And thats why i'm glad you are not a nun. at least you have better taste.

sillyboy:


@Bigbollo.

I hope you know what's good for you sha . . . I don't joke with my woman oooo. I go just se pe ijesa fun e ni!

Whether you know say me self i be omo ijesa. bring it on cuz. mo wa n le fun e baje baje.

myndofgold:

GET A ROOM GUYS, WILL YA??[color=#990000][/color]

You make it sound like we're making out or something.

tope2000:

Darling you know i don't mind o , we are in an open relationship afterall
SO GET GET GREEDY ALL U WANT, I GIVE U PERMISSION

see, thats why you are my number one hun. let me use this opportunity to remind you again that the openness in our relationship is one sided. Just because I can get greedy doesnt mean you are allowed to get greedy too. This is not an equal opportunity type thingy.

tope2000:

Hehehehehehe . . . . u berra don't let sillyboy see this

Who is sillyboy when bigboy is talking. abegiiii. Tope you used to be my one and only but smurf is making me get greedy.

@ smurf.

you are smoking hot. gurl did you just step out of a volcano?

~Sauron~:

Unfortunately, short men are better lovers than tall men.
They are not in the market like the tall dudes so there is a level of security your man ain't going to be snatched.

yea right

@ sillyboy

awon emi kemi wo lo n dari e. se ki n gbadura fun e ki awon ogun orun sokale?

Its always a problem for a guy dating someone who he has to literally look up to when it should be the other way round. In the worst case scenario, a man would rather date someone he can see eye to eye with than someone that will literally look down on him.

Okija_juju:

Bottom 5

Convenant University
Babcock University
Madonna University
Redeemed University
Benson Idahosa University.

you have mental problem. Did they say bottom 5 or top 5. abi you can not read. Hater

It's called a break because both parties still have it at the back of their minds that there is a possiblity of getting back together after the break is over. Sleeping around during the break ultimately compromises the essence of the break. The break is supposed to help view your relationship from an outsider's perspective. A period of deep reflection to help you determine what went wrong and things you feel you can do to make it right. Sleeping around during that time will definitely cause more harm than good and so it should not be done.

Just approach her and tell her, you scratch my back, i'll scratch yours. She'll understand perfectly that what happened at the hotel stays in the hotel.

Good in-laws dont kiss and tell.

@ OP

Just say hi. and tell her she seems like a nice person and you'll like to know more about her. I'm not really good at approaching women either but like other posters have advised you, you got to do what you got to do. The worst thing you'll get is a rejection and the good thing about that is you can always learn something from the rejection that'll help you perform better in your next encounter.

good luck.

This is wrong. why should the guy be arrested? Since when did it become a criminal offense to jilt a lover and go with another. The guy's actions were not directly responsible for the girl's death.

For real man. Some white folks on my street have already started beefing me. May God help us survive the aftermath of this victory o

yes ooooooooooooooooooo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Engagement ceremony -
Venue - bride's house - should be arranged by the bride.
Food - bride's family - groom's family can optionally bring additional food and drink to support.

Wedding reception -
Venue - to be decided by both bride and groom and mutual agreement reached on how to split the bill or how a single party will foot the bill depending on fiancial standing
Food - groom's family - supported by bride's family (typically both parties provide food to ensure that their guests do not go home hungry)

Anything after wedding reception.
Groom's family.

This is my understanding of the yoruba tradition.

wot it do shawty

Another stalker. this one cannot even spell the name right.

Another stalker. this one cannot even spell the name right.

ibkaye:

@topic
hello cheyi, what can I do for you?

You guys mehn! Am not 16!

We know. but still, we must screen all potential applicants. You know u are our little cutie pie

@ cheyi

Omo, no show for you o. a word is enough for the wise. You fit try your luck with Gamine or KarmaMod

Please, do not interrupt my monologue.

LOL,


Hater

Moyola:

9ze pikz

Thanks Moyo.