₦airaland Forum

Juliusmalema:
Yoruba man abeg mind your business..and your place

Juliusmalema:
Remain with your epistle in your yorubaland.....

Lagos is heavily controlled by FG not u...stop making noise.

Mind your land

Juliusmalema:
Bigger clown learn to mind your business and face your region....mtchewww


Lol.....Yoruba man carry your gossip and remain in your region.

All these sermon who asked U....Yeye

Well.......I'm proudly a yoruban and with a girl from Igbo.......Enugu to be precise

just.......got marved at how u guys have so much effrontery to discriminate yo fellow tribemen......

How tribalistic could that be?

Only......if westerners/Lagosians had time doing that........most of yo so called proud anambrians will be back in there potopoto village farming.......

Y'all need to get educated!!!!

Juliusmalema:
Lol.....Yoruba man carry your gossip and remain in your region.

All these sermon who asked U....Yeye

Lol....
Clown

Slimslimqq:
remember I said I haven't gotten my offer letter, so there's no way I can start work. and i never fabricated any story, its really happened to me. I only needed motivation and advise from nairalanders and I have gotten it. thanks for ur observation.

I'm sorry if that is the case bro....

But.....still wouldn't understand why a woman will rather resort to insulting your rather dan getting been helped......

Are u really sure of that too

Ayrastarr:
Lol.

It is the truth.
And why is it that you people don't Date before getting married.

Why is that?

You marry because a girl was recommended by your parents.

Me ain't Igbo Oo.......but it baffles how a particular geographical region/state see themselves superior to other igbos........and would rather discriminate them.........AINT IGBO MEANT TO BE ONE

Slimslimqq:
This life get money oo, he get why...

Since there's no job yet and there are a lot of expenses and debts almost (200k) I pay 6k every Friday to lapo mfb which will end by march ending. the business I borrowed the money for burgled last year, everything inside was stolen, and also I have till February ending to pay another 45k to someone from nairaland I also borrowed from for my babymama school fees or else I don't know what will happen to me cus he's already threatening me, and next month ending another 80k must be paid to someone who borrowed my wife money for her business. so all together 200k must be paid by march ending.

From the look of things, I cant meet up because I don't have a job yet, so I had to man up and start doing a conductor, though once in a while that is whenever I am called by my oga(driver).

So yesterday I was called to work by d driver, from mushin to idumota. So we dropped our passengers @ idumota, meanwhile my oga bus has been showing some fault, he said he will manage to go another round back to mushin so that he can pay me off for today, before he calls on mechanic to check the problem. After calling passengers into the bus, after several hours of waiting, the bus refused to start. Then the driver had to tell everyone to enter the next bus, meanwhile the next bus was almost full. So there was this particular woman who boarded our bus, and I think she was in a hurry because her car also broke down, so she had to leave it behind for her driver.

So this woman got angry because the next bus was filled up and she will have to wait for another bus to full before she moves, so this woman started hurling abusive words at the driver(my oga) meanwhile this man is old enough to be her grandfather.

Then I couldn't be standing and watching her insult the old man, I begged her to calm down that I will make sure I get her a taxi just to compensate her for wasting her time (I spoke to her in English). I never knew I opened the door for insult into my life. I was embarrassed and ridiculed by this woman because I am looking for my daily bread. I cried sotay everybody passing by started filling pity for me and begging me. here are what she said below.

"See this foolish thing telling me that he will get me a taxi, he's even speaking English, where did u see money to go to school? so u want me to know that u are learned abi? your generation has failed and u are also failing and u are not ashamed. ur mates are in school studying, some have graduated, and some have traveled abroad for their masters and u are here doing conductor, u are telling me u will get a taxi. I will feed ur generation, a good looking mofo, even my dogs will feed u, a failed human, u can never succeed"..

She even said some in Yoruba, I can't type the Yoruba words so I won't mix things up. All those words she said are still singing in my brain, am not sure I can take it off my brain.
She said things in Yoruba that will forever haunt me, mentally I am not stable again.

I only offered to help her with a taxi since we delayed her, but I got the all these? I have been indoor since I got home yesterday. I am just ashamed of myself, I dunno why.

pls what wrong have I done here?

What other jobs can i do to atleast save and pay my debts? especially this one I will pay in February ending?

Depression is taking a toll.. the embarrassment was a mad one.

yankison:
Ode Go and fine me Any US state SSN and phone number make u get money for hand ..

g4gerald:
Yahoo boy spotted

Lol....
No joor.....
A devoted deeper life boy

Angelfrost:
Big thief, small thief.... All na thief!

They all cause hardworking and legit people sorrow!

Let them all be caught and punished. The ones that escape EFCC won't escape Karma.

Then.........they sud start from our politicians if they wanna purge the country of evil/scam/corruption.........

Even.......bible says judgement will start from his own very house.........

So we r saying

Mind u know Nigeria politician is good/saint.....

Zzor:
I shall be going for big brothers next year but I don't think my dad will approve of it but I'll try to convince him

Clown.....

I don't even know where to start from.... I'm so very sad right now I feel like dying. I think I made a wrong choice or I'm the one with the problem.

Please read till the end. I'll try to be as truthful as possible and I will deactivate after writing.

I'm a writer and I work from home. I've worked in several places before now without any success. My husband always insist that I get a full-time job even when I make 80-100k working from home. I've never made that much since I was leaving home to work for people. I've always contributed my quota to the home.

I don't want to work for anyone because of the kids. I want to save and get a side business. Hubby keeps relegating what I do like it's not a job.

I don't know why, but his mum just doesn't see anything good in me. She's said it on many occasions that no matter your level of education as a woman, it will all end in the kitchen. She always want to know everything about me from hubby and he never disappoints.

He once told her when I started writing that i wasn't earning much (which was true) and I was mad at him because she started making snide remarks about what I do whenever she has the opportunity. Hubby would even support what she says and they'd sometimes laugh together. He never tells them something good about me.

Hubby has once told me that my certificate is useless. He's also once mentioned that after building his house and anything happens to him, he'll be happy that his family (he always refers to his parents and 7 siblings as his family) will have something to share. He used his younger brother as next of kin, so I'm not surprised.

I forced him to buy the property whereas his mum says he's still young and doesn't really have need for property (he's in his mid thirties).

Before we got married....

My family betrayed me when I ought to get married to him because the first born of our home said she will have to get married first and our wedding couldn't hold as a result ( I was already pregnant). I wasn't happy about this and I told my husband how disappointed I was with what my sisters and mum did.

I thought he had my back. I thought he'd always have my back. But I was wrong. He and his mum ended up saying I must have been a terrible person for my sisters to stop me from getting married.

I have a younger sister in school. She usually comes to spend the holidays with me and take care of the kids. Last year, hubby's 4th younger brother came to live with us because hubby wants to help him with his job. He works with hubby and they come home together.

I noticed some changes when he arrived:

Hubby will be with him and they'll discuss until 11 or 12 midnight before coming to the room to meet me.

He doesn't clear his plates after eating ( when I complained, hubby would rather pack the plates himself than tell him)

He would watch whatever station his brother wants to watch and even stop my kids from watching cartoons. (Hubby didn't see anything wrong in this still)

Hubby starts putting on the gen earlier than before and put it off when the light is back. He doesn't do this before. He'd always give us time and off it without considering my little children. If I buy fuel, he'll start saying I'm becoming proud.

He always satisfies his brother and we never eat without meat (before his brother arrived, we use to eat without meat on many occasions)

I'm a very emotional person and I dislike cheating. I called my husband's attention to these things but he always replies "you nag too much. You're a very troublesome person". He says he never nags about my sister, so why should I disturb his brother?

I decided to keep quiet at this point but I wasn't happy that he was treating his brother better than I and his kids.

I spoke to him harshly one of the days his brother wasn't around after exhausting all manners of communication. I said he doesn't have sense and doesn't know how to balance things in his home. The next thing he did was to hit me and beat me up.

He called his mum and dad after this and I heard them laughing on the phone. It was a very terrible day for me. I packed a few things the next day and left the home. My mum, uncle and everyone started telling me to go back to him (after warning him against doing such next time).

Everyone were concerned about the kids. My mum told me to go back but ensure that I keep quiet and respect him and that I shouldn't cause problems between him and his siblings since he appears to love them more.

I am not happy right now. I'm very very sad. He doesn't appear to be remorseful about the whole thing even though he begged me to return. In fact, I had to tell my people that I wasn't going back until he begs me to return before he apologized. He was even laughing at me when I was leaving. Then when I got back, he said:

"I don't know what happened now that you're packing your load. I don't know who will marry someone with kids". He's always saying nobody will marry someone with kids.

My heart sank when I heard these words. He laughed as he said this. Now, I don't understand what's going on because this was a man that paid my school fees in 400 level, he was my first love, I loved him like life itself, I helped him secure his present job and he never appreciates me for that.

I always speak highly of him before my family. I respect him a lot before now but I don't even understand him anymore. He doesn't seem to care about my happiness.

Or am I being selfish? I only wanted him to do things the right way. Is it a crime to love your wife and children like you love your siblings?

His brother left after the fight and my sister never returned too (I told her not to). I don't know what he told his brother.

After the fight, his mother lied against me but I was lucky to put the call on record since it's not her first time of doing it. She said I abused her and threatened over the phone (which was all lies). She also reported me to the head of their family and my mum.

I later played the recorded call to hubby and his dad, but they still blamed me. Hubby didn't even admit that his mum was wrong. I have always known his mum doesn't like me but I never knew she could lie against me.

Now, mum is telling me to be patient and stay for my children. I have saved up over half a million and I'm starting to think of leaving to a very far place where he can not reach me and my children. He doesn't seem to bother or care about us when we left when he beat me and I'm beginning to think he doesn't value us. Although, he promised not to repeat it again.

I'm dying inside and I don't think I can take this anymore. Hubby puts me down in front of everyone like I'm a nobody. I'm an introvert. I don't talk too much but hubby is am extrovert. He keeps making me feel less of a human and I'm losing it.

He keeps blaming me for making his brother leave and he doesn't seem to understand my points at all. I believe no one is perfect but is it okay for a man to support his siblings and mum without mentioning their faults, while mentioning his wife's faults to everyone that cares to listen?

Please let me know if there's any better ways I would have handled these issues. Can I survive in this marriage? My love for him seems to be reducing by the day and I'm not emotionally balanced. I'm not happy at all and he doesn't even seem to care.

He goes about his daily business as if we don't have issues. Is it because I've never denied him sex? Is he taking me for granted? He will only apologise when he needs sex and go back to status quo. He even forces me sometimes.

I don't even know who I am anymore. Am I a bad person? I've always been the up and doing wife of the family. I'm the first wife and his mum maltreat me unlike other wives because their husbands shouts at the mum not to kill their wives. My husband doesn't care if I'm overworked, as long as it's his mum. I think I've been used and I don't worth a thing anymore. I'm dying emotionally.

Zzor:
Awesome God,I want this too when I'm ready

Fine...
Can we meet then??

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Quick recovery son

Hey!!!quick question...
R u the the same old slowmir
Or the wannabe

greggng:
Can't you see that is very sensitive matter? How can you term a whole ethnic group as kidnappers ? We are in a federation in which we operate laws ...the best that can happen is for government to fish out the criminal element amongst them instead of seeing everyone of them as criminal ...unfortunately for some of you ,our law says every nigeria has right to reside in every part of Nigeria ....I am against any form of criminal activities but I have equally heard incidence where non fulani are the kidnappers and criminals ....in that case should we now stigmatise the entire tribe. Having said all this, I am of the opinion that in this jet age , castles shouldn't be allowed to be destroying people's farm. They should be caged .

Oga!!!!
U not making sense......
Since......when they had been waiting on the president to according to the constitution.......and fish out the Fulani criminals......what exactly has been the outcome Oo

Has yo stupid constitution ever punished any Fulani caught??

or did Fulani wait on the foolish constitution before carrying out helm on the their innocent host

greggng:
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What truth are you talking about ? The ooni is very mature ...he understands the politics of Nigeria ....he has never supported anything criminal ...all I see him talk about is how Nigerian youths should be empowered .