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coogar: so you basically want a husband to show off to your friends not necessarily because you are mentally ready to marry? good luck on that.......i have an albino dude in your country, holla at me if you are interested. he's 29 and an investment banker.

jeffizy: Where have thou been?

GraceBestowed: [color=#CD3700] I just threw up a little in my mouth!!!![/color]

jidegirl12: Biola actually that arrow wasn't meant for you.

@pineapple things .... and smells fruity too.. as per Khloe.K and hubby confirmed too

coogar: https://www.midwestsportsfans.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/mj-laughing.gif

jeffizy: we are so used to the old ways. Where it is the man's right to be worshiped. But we are getting to the new age gradually.

Angyee: I agree with a few points but I totally disagree with the bolded. Why do men always have to be the givers? It is 50-50. No 'giving especially from men'. Shey women we are the ones calling for equality? But you still want the man to give more. You can't have it both ways, you can't eat your cake and have it. It is either equality where both parts treat each other well and contribute equally or it is patriarchal where the guy has more responsibility and therefore is more demonstrative.

I'm all for equal treatment. He treats me like the queen I am and I move heaven and earth to treat him like the king he is. You see, when a guy treats you like a queen and you reciprocate, a real man out of appreciation will move heaven and earth for you and you will be only too willing to do the same for your man and that give and take continues. You can't expect him to give more than you at some point he will become empty. It's like pouring 3/4 cup of water into another cup but the receiving cup only returns half the water, at some point the receiver is full but the giver becomes empty and it should not be that way, both should be full. Nigerian women need to get out of the whole he must do it all and buy all for me, frankly it's irritating and annoying. Become independent, shower him with gifts too, buy him credit once in a while whether he needs it or not, call him up when he's down and talk to him. That way if he messes up you set him straight confidently (but with respect) because you are on equal footing not keeping quiet because he owns you. NO man will let a woman who is financially and emotionally secure go. When men see you do not need to depend on them but still choose to respect and defer to and occasionally depend on them they will respect you even more for that because they know that you are with them by choice, not because of whatever they have but because you want to be there.

I know, I speak from experience. I dated my ex while he was without a job and I had one, we broke up due to distance just after he got a job. He asked me back several times. Why? He always said to me that one thing he liked was the fact that when he corrected me on anything, I listened and where necessary I made adjustments. I could easily have called him names but I chose not to, I could have lorded it over him but I didn't, there's no point in any of that. He's got a very good job in aviation in an MNC and if I wanted to we'd be dating but I don't go after people for what they've got but who they are. He's truly a lovely friend but it didn't work out and we remain friends. The only reason I chose not to get back together was because distance was still a factor and I was not about to go through that again. I'm not bragging 'cos trust me I have my 'were' (madness.....who doesn't? ) but I hate it when I hear the guy should do all or most of the giving in a relationship, it Pi**es me the he*l off!

@OP as for the issue on ground: I think they need to just be friends. If she is like this now she will not change if they should get married and the worst mistake anyone can make is to get married hoping their partner changes.

One love!

Pataki: I am typing from mobile, hence my laziness to address your post in seriatim. Apologies pls.

The first thing a man should learn in a relationship is to drop his ego and pride. Yes I know it is very difficult to do esp. within the culture and background we come from. While it was easy for the older men generation to get away with their women adoring their ego and making them feel like kings, this next generation - unfortunately it is not so! The days of men sitting in the living room and expecting their sweaty womam to come out from the kitchen with their food - morning, afternoon and night are long gone!

I dare say, a man who knows how to treat woman in sound emotional stability automatically becomes a KING in the woman's eyes. When a woman feels a good vibe from a good man - there is nothing in this world she will not do to make him satisfied. Even to the point of sheer stupidity. A true relationship is about give and take. More importantly, emphasis should be on giving esp. from the man!

Gone are the days of threatening a woman that you will go out and find a better woman. It is only a man who feels insecured that does that. It is only an insecured man that demands for his woman to treat him like a king at home. Immediately he steps out of his home, such a man becomes a world wide wimp (www)!

The most sexxy attribute in a lady is confidence. However, she equally needs a man to boost her confidence the more. If a woman feels that good vibe of confidence boosting from you in all areas, she automatically confides all her emotional insecurities in you. Nothing makes a man more important and 'kingly' other than knowing that your woman cherishes you more than anything because you make her emotionally balanced.

coogar: reasons why it's dangerous to marry a brain-dead bimbo because of her curves or the size of her mammary glands. you are right - some women have nothing in their cranium intellectually. all they want to talk about is aso-ebi, latest cosmetics and vanity stuff that won't sit well with most men who are critical thinkers.....

Mr Tumble: Just wondering why people are bashing the OP without condemning the threat from the wife because she has RP. Disgusting as it may be, if the OP was jobless, I guess she would threaten him with food and housing too. Lets assume he cuts ties with his friend completely to please her, then tomorrow another issue comes up...since her weapon is RP threat and divorce, then she issues another one and he has no choice again than to obey threat orders. Utter rubbish. Most ladies comments and some lady-like men supporting the wife are people with similar tendency of issuing threats to their partner because of what they have or providing. I bet if the OP was their brother they will say all sorts. If it were not about RP guess Op wont be on this thread and guess wife won't have any meaningful threat. What nonsense. Terrible. @OP you either reach a compromise with her or you totally obey her threat orders. When you get your RP and the game is balance, then when any misunderstanding in your marriage comes up which is certain. Kindly come back here to tell us if she has any threat to make and what the threat is. I bet it would be weightless. Except she is feeding and housing you and probably controlling the blood supply to you heart and brain. Absolute Bullocks......

steph7: Her threatening him with divorce was wrong there is no disputing that,from his post this morning I won't be surprised if she has been having hellish morning sickness and the OP was too busy with his friend to give her the attention she wanted.

seyi42k: With all due respect, are you the standard by which the whole world should measure? Are there not worse crime against marriage than talking to a friend?

The internet has granted a lot of us anonymity, therefore if he has sort advise on the internet, you should not be harassing him. Kindly listen to "sharing life issues with Charles B" on inspiration FM everyday to hear worse expo-see.

If a lady has decide to threaten her husband with divorce just to press home a demand, then she will likely use that same weapon again like ladies are capable of doing. The OP has probably now understood that his close relationship with his friend is threatening his marriage but he is also afraid of losing such friendship and his wife seems possessive of their relationship.

Well, God will grant him the wisdom and understanding to solve his problem but please stop berating people for such post. A lot of other people,, who might not have courage to post on the internet, learn lessons from them.

peruso: TRUTH BE TOLD ABT THIS THREAD........ 90%-98% LADIES WILL TILT TOWARDS THE WOMAN, 70-79% 0F GUYS WILL TILT TOWARDS THE MAN.

WE CAN ONLY GIVE OUR OWN PIECES AS TO WHAT WE THINK, SOME OF US WILL ADVISE BASED ON- OUR RELIGION - OUR CULTURE - OUR TRIBE - OUR UPBRINGING- OUR BIAS- OR EVEN WHAT WE READ.

BUT I WONT ADVISE!!!! NO I WONT
I WILL ONLY MAKE A CANDID OBSERVATION; DID I HEAR DIVORCE DIVORCE AS IN DIVORCE,..

A HOLY INSTITUTION IS THREATEN WITH THAT WORD[b] DIVORCE[/b] BECAUSE OF WHAT!!!!!! HMMMMMMMMM

NOT BECAUSE OF CHEATING, NOT BACAUSE OF KILLING, NOT BECAUSE OF CHILDLESNESS, NOT BECAUSE OF THE BILLIONS OF REASONS WE ASSUME EVEN REASONABLE(OF WHICH THERES ALWAYS ROOM FOR FORGIVENESS).


NO COUPLE SHOULD THREATEN THE OTHER WITH DIVORCE.

BUT FOR WHAT? I ASK AGAIN

Kaxmytex: C'mmon baggies,
u can do diz..

torres2: How this one take affect top four race?

omodapson: Guys can you please hold on?