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adabeke12: i didnt get judged in any way. if u guyz will not change hopefully the women u guyz meet agrees with polygamy without ya'll having to tellhe or else... anything she do una na for una head. i don talk my own finish.

I am not a polygamist
However polygamy is an African thing so pseudo-modern African women if you cant live with a potential polygamist, marry a white man
Sunshine?

dbride: Hmmmmmm...this does not happen in marriage alone, it can happen in any relationship that involves deep emotions. Note, I am not for or against, people react differently when they are hurting, some would not mind because staying in marriage is like a gold card, some would walk away like you suggested, some too cannot stand being treated like a discarded old rag as that is exactly what bringing in a second wife means, and this latter group can kill....LOVE turns HATE. He that is down needs fear no fall. They lose confidence in themselves, no self worth. When you dont value yourself anymore, then the one who has reduced you to that low level is in danger because his life also becomes worthless to you. It is not right but that's life.

That man took that woman for granted. Love is sweet and it can be deadly too! He thought he could get away with it being the man, but he was wrong!. May his soul rest in peace. It is a case of DO NOT COMMIT ADULTERY and DO NOT KILL.

kulyie: this is the most sensible post i have read on this thread.by the way yorubas say if an excessively jealous woman does not kill herself,she will kill her husband so i wonder why all of you have turned to her judge overnight.a lot of men assume that they can do anything and treat their wives whichever way they please.some men get away with polygamy and some men pay with their lives as it is in this man's case.the moral of this story is that men should stop taking their wives for granted.a gently and quiet woman might become vicious when she realises her marriage is been threatened.moreso nigerian men should have realised that women take marriage as a do or die affair.i am not justifying the woman's murder but the bible that said hell hath no fury than a woman scorned knows what it is talking about in addition i will blame women to for the entrentchment of polygamy in african culture because it beats my imagination why you will see a married man with wives or a wife and still go ahead and marry him.this things are simple logic,a man brought insult to the marriage and reduced her pride and the best way in her own opinion that she could get back was murder.this shows that women react to heartbreak and despising in different ways.if it is not acid pouring,it will be sending hired assasins to rape the girl or phone threats or outright murder.bottomline is that most women will never walk away,it is either nobody has the man or they die fighting.if we respected our vows and our partners,all this will not have happened.oya,come and bash me because i know many people hate hearing hometruths!

adabeke12: r u okay... cuzz i don't think u know wht u r sayin

shymexx: We're the architect of our own reality - if you want to be happy, you don't need marriage for that... Just create your own reality... Marriage is more or less a partnership and if you feel cheated in the partnership, get out of it - you don't need to take the next person's life nor destroy him to achieve happiness... At the end of the day, we're all in pursuit of happiness and what makes me happy might not be what makes you happy - finding a balance is the most important thing...

Polygamy might be the man's source of happiness and if that's what he wants - let him have it... If you don't like it, leave him alone... We just can't keep destroying men to lift women up - that's a big NO NO... Polygamy is an African culture and any woman that doesn't like the culture should de-Africanise herself and go marry a white guy, period...

stillwater: Won't even waste a single brain cell for sentiments on this one. In his next life he will think with his head and not with the little nuisance in his pants. Nonsense.

shymexx: You didn't get underlying message behind the last paragraph of my post... I was alluding to the fakeness about most pseudo-modern black women who try too hard to be what they're not... They all want to be everything but African - and your culture is who you're and not the colour of your skin... If you pride yourself in being African, then you shouldn't have a problem with your culture... Polygamy is as African as the African languages - and I honestly don't see why people have a problem with it... It's a matter of choice, if you don't like it - get out of the marriage and leave the man alone... Taking an innocent man's life because he was just being himself is unacceptable...

I'm not a polygamist and I'll never be - but I'll never deny something that's quintessentially African... If anyone has enough strength to handle more than one black woman, let him be... I definitely don't want to live in a house with more than one black woman... One is hellish enough - having more than one is like signing your own death certificate..

muut2: May God almighty starve girls/ladies who are potential killers with husbands in Jesus name (Amen). You can start by marrying two husbands if you can, God had made MAN the head of a family and has given him the guts, moral justification of having more than one wife if he so wishes. We are not told that God punished David in the bible for marrying many wives but because he took someones wife. because I don't want to die, you killer girls/ladies I Ben Johnson for o..... what about you?

adabeke12: shorry, white women and other women from all over the world wear fake hair, makeup etc ur last comment to me holdz no weight bcuz most women do just that. Letz not go into the fakenezz of the african now ohh, heh! i never agreed on any body killing any one.... but i would say this ppl should'nt start wht they cannot finish. abt ratchetness shoooo one should be able to express themselves the way they want. everything u stated abt afican should be held on the neck of the african man. there is alwayz a cause and an effect... that u should know. if u want to be polygamos let the chick know from the onset... whts so hard abt dat? The way trifling men make their bed the same way they should lie on it; and by the way not all africans believe in polygamy or practice it... so i'm guessing ur speaking for those who do.

coogar: hmmmm, debosky the agony uncle.
why do i have a sneaky feeling this was what you did to snatch ennyluv from the jaws of her igbo fiancé.

debosky: @ OP

I think you have a much bigger problem with your Yoruba man than his family can pose. In general (i.e. not all the time, but predominantly) if a Yoruba man is interested in keeping a child/marrying you, he will come out and say it immediately. He won't typically say something as opaque as he will 'support you regardless of your decision'.

If the guy himself isn't sending clear signals then I think you need to settle that bit first before even talking about family. Being 'supportive' sounds like he is still waiting for you to make a decision as to whether you are keeping the child or not, OR saying that he isn't interested in marrying you but will support the child if required. Again, in my view that's not the type of message someone actively seeking a deeper/longer term relationship would use.

As for the family? He's in his mid 30's and financially independent - it's unlikely they'll put up much of a fuss if he wants to marry you, unless of course he sends them signals that he isn't really interested in you long term or doesn't really want the baby.

In terms of cultural norms, it would be relatively more acceptable if the pregnancy was announced to the family as simply something that has happened to hasten plans for marriage that were already in progress. Some families are definitely disapproving of pregnancy before marriage, but most will generally overcome any such resistance if marriage is already planned.

That's why I feel it's really dependent on the guy - the way he frames the pregnancy/his relationship with you will be the biggest influence on how you are received. If he acts like you're the one he wants to marry, then it's likely to be smooth sailing. If he comes off as you trying to trap him or he not really being interested, then you could face significant opposition.

ichidodo: Either way she has got to be strapped properly, t[b]here are also dangers at the back seat most people are not aware of.[/b] U think if u tuck ure kid at the back that all will be well?

adabeke12: amenn.chukwu gozie gi

devour129: umu nne m na chineke

texazzpete: You do realize there are dead Uchiha and senju in that picture you posted?

As with all clans, there are strong and average fighters. Even the strong die too. Hashirama and Madara 's father's had to have died in the war for them to become clan leaders... And they both were strong!

texazzpete: Nobody has ever said the Uchiha were 'weak'. The Uchiha clan was just about as powerful as the Senju... Or nearly so. The tipping point perhaps came from the fact that the Senju leaders were stronger the their Uchiha counterparts ... And the Uchiha had grown weaker over the years after so many losses.

coogar: i can see with my third eye that adabeke would deliver twins for biolabee by christmas!

IIIIxRoyalxIIII: A Woman Killing a Child Isn't Natural

I don't give a damn how competitive she is

Hell, Many Female Mammals in the Kingdom aren't even that Ruthless.

2buff: Play aside though...
Infidelity is not good.

There is really nothing new you will get from that new pewssy that you won't get from the one at home.
If things got slack (most likely from her giving birht to your children), things can be done, worked out, etc.

There has to be a point where you focus your romance on one person, otherwise it becomes cheap to even you.
Also, if people found purpose in life, they would have more important things to do than looking for brand new genitals to infiltrate/envelope.
I mean, do you know how little time we actually have to do all the things we are meant to do on this life?

shymexx: Nah, bro..

Judging them means dealing with them... It's high time men took a stand and start dealing with some of these women... We're smarter than them and we need to start dealing with them in a more subtle way just to make them come back to their sense..

It's a man's world...

devour129: sorry about the cap ,knowing my husband,both our names are on the title.i said i wont kill but will make sure he lives a long life full of regrets and teeth gnashing.whats the fun if i kill ?

shymexx: At the end of the day, polygamy is an African culture - hence why it's legal in that part of the world... If you don't like the concept, go question your ancestors in their graves... I doubt there's any African out there who doesn't have polygamy in his/her family tree... My own parents are from polygamous families and their dads had many wives... Heck, I don't even know all my Uncles and Aunts - and I probably know 1/100th of my cousins...

This scandalous women should've left the man in peace if she couldn't deal with the tradition(which is AFrican, by the way)... However, she had to kill the innocent man for doing what's right in his culture... I just can't stand heartless people and she and her ilk deserve to be JUDGED!!

The problem with marriage as an institution has nothing to do with Nigerian/African men but more to do with the ratchet pseudo-feminist women destroying everyone with their nonsense... It's high time black men put their feet down and stop this nonsense, to be honest... All these fake fvcks who're trying too hard to be Western are the biggest problem in Africa...

African women today are just fake as fvck - fake brains, fake hair, fake face(make-up), fake accent etc... what the heck happened to the highly educated, traditional, family-oriented, calm, and cultured black women? - are they extinct?? I'd rather marry a REAL westerner with her real colour(white), real hair, real accent, real face etc. than mess around with these fake fvcks parading themselves as black women... and if I want a fake woman, I'll go to the home of fakes in China and get a bootleg one... I can't deal with today's ratchet and trifling black women - some of you need to be JUDGED!!

tayoccu: Please show us where the senjus died like fowls, and it was stated that the uchiha were sole responsible

devour129: LETS ALL PRAY TEMPTATION COS NOBODY KNOWS HOW FAR WE CAN BE PUSHED,NOT SUPPORTING KILLING BUT READ THIS SCENARIO-I AM IN MY TWENTIES,AV GOT TWO BOYS AND A GIRL.MI HUBBY AND I CAME FROM WELL TO DO FAMILIES BUT WE BOTH WANT TO MAKE OUR OWN SO WE BOTH HUSTLE.I HAVE A BUSINESS,MI HUBBY HAS HIS OWN BUSINESS TOO.WE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN EACH OTHERS BACKBONE,WE GOT A LAND SOMEWHERE AT JABI ,MY HUBBY WANTED TO BUILD A MASSIVE HOUSE BUT I CONVINCED HIM LETS BUILD A TWIN DUPLEX THAT WAY WE CAN STILL COLLECT RENT AND NO THAT OUR KIDS SCHOOL FEES ARE SETTLED SO WE CAN FACE OTHER THINGS,SO TIMES MY HUBBY IS OUT OF TOWN SO I BUY THE BUILDING MATERIALS AND I DO THAT WITH LOVE,AS AM TYPING THIS AV GOT NO SAVINGS ANYMORE COS EVERY PENNY I GET I MAKE SURE I PUT IT INTO THE BUILDING SO THAT IT WONT BE TOO MUCH ON MY HUSBAND(FOR SOME OF YO0U THAT WILL CALL ME FOOLISH PLEASE THAT'S HOW MI PARENTS TREATED EACH OTHER AND IT WORKED FOR THEM SO I PRAY IT WORKS FOR ME}. I WANT A HAPPY HOME WITH ALL MY HEART AND I MUST MAKE A HAPPY HOME,I DESERVE IT.I CUT THE WHOLE THING SHORT BUT TELL ME,IF MY HUBBY WORKS IN ONE DAY WITH A PREGNANT WOMAN WHAT WILL I DO ? I CAN BOLDLY SAY AM A GOOD WIFE AND I CANT HURT A FLY BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WILL DO AFTER DENYING MYSELF AND CHILDREN SO WE CAN PROGRESS SOMEONE COMES IN TO REAP WHAT SHE DID NOT SOW ! BUT BELIEVE ME I WONT KILL HIM,BUT HE WILL LIVE LIFE OF ODI NDU MA NA ONWU KA MMA !!!! I KNOW I WASN'T FORCED TO HELP OUT MY FAMILY BUT TO ME WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BUILD EACH OTHER AND WHEN YOU BRING IN ANOTHER WOMAN BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU CAN,I WILL REALLY BE MAD AND MI FAVORITE CHANNEL IS CRIME AND DISD CHANNELS ON DSTV

slimyem:
just like that?

How did he go from "you MUST abort the pregnacy" to accepting it and marriage?

adabeke12: ya'll men think women are some kind on and off switch. when a woman delivers she needz time to heal, physically, emotionally ,psychologically etc

men are suppose to help their wivez after they have given them a child. write love letters to her be fricking romantic. she aint no doll baby

byvan: I still feel nothing for whoever that cheats,I don't care who.

tintingz: hehehehe 5 men on you? Jeeez...i will first of all quite the marriage and watch how the 5 men screw you...oh how ya punny gonna be after the turns of sexx while yo kids will scratch their head... which one is ma dadda and and people will ask which one of them is your papa

2buff: So you're saying if your guy...as in me...cheated on you, like I am planning to do tonight when Sheniqua comes over...that I will wish I never knew you?

You're just a very evil person.

adabeke12: some men love to chase married women... ever heard of that? expecially when she looks good azz mess, they don't care