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ileobatojo: Lol, who no like free show in stealth mode?!

Ok o.. Me I sign off
Please let's keep this thread clean for baba Alamala Adedibu Oyo

ileobatojo: Eh! Not my problem.



I don't really care about your feelings. I was just pointing it out in case you forgot.


Any one with eyeballs can clearly see that you are the type of person who will carry grudges for decades if possible. And case in point is this discussion ongoing right now.



Hey! We agree on something!!

DARN!!!!

Ivynwa: Viewing this topic: jidegirl12, ileobatojo, biolabee(m) and 1 guest(s)


Oh my gosh, they are all here. Ivynwa runs away

Who is?

I don't know much about the warring parties but I willl say one person should not respond and enage anyone for the time being.

That way there will be some semblance of peace and avoidance of escalation


As coogar noted, the oestrogen will take some time to disperse

Can Baba put some of his fabled posts so we can crack our ribs

Ivynwa: Oh gosh Biolabee please let's let up on this, I'm seeing another thread of some going ons at the same time as this and I don't want the lady Ileobatojo feeling terrible with one,two,three persons arguing with her over NL posts.

Please Nne make we no argue too much, I 've already decided not to comment anymore but my heart went out to you and I'm typing this.
I didn't mean to offend you even though I felt you went overboard. I'm sorry if I made you feel bad. I still consider you mature and still respects you okay Baby.

Ok I acknowlege your points

ileobatojo: I qualified my initial post with some too.



But I do agree that now that I read it again, what I meant did not quite come across. I can now see why people are upset by it. It seemed like I was generalizing and referring to all posters that felt they wanted space but I was actually in this post referring to those 2 posters I mentioned in particular. They are the two who said things that I saw as peculiar. I myself am not against separate rooms, it's some of the reasons and the extents some posters are taking it that I have picked issues with.

Fair enough.. No problem

Baba come o.. We need your stories quick quick before more volcanic eruptions!

coogar: the MIL is overbearing!
let's even agree she was really angry she wasn't told about the pregnancy, the joy of a newborn should override her grudges. if we are sworn enemies and you tell me you just had a newborn, i would bury the hatchet straight up. nothing else matters anymore.

This was never in doubt..
I'm saying the OP should sue for peace to ensure harmony

if he sends her packing, she can stay on her own abeg!
are you aware there are women with no mothers on this planet and they cope very well? if a mother does not want the happiness of her daughter then the daughter should cut her off.

True the solo moms do well, does not mean they don't or didn't nEed the help of a maternal figure

Enough said..
I guess we see it from different angles

ALL YOUR WORDS NOT MINE
Your initial post

ileobatojo: That's what I'm saying!

Thanks for bringing up the mental problem part too o. I read some posters saying they would do the exact same thing because they need space and I can't help wonder which mental issue they have. There's probably something at least mildly off mentally.


And I'm not trying to be rude or insulting o.

Second post though you qualified with 'some'..

ileobatojo: Ivy, I'm not sure if you were referring to me but I will respond because I had also mentioned mental issues.

Contrary to what you seem to have gotten from that post, I did not say that because of emotions.I am dead serious when I say I suspect Rooneyboy and possibly Van bonatel (the two posters I had in mind when I made that comment) of having some mild mental issues. Note, I never said all posters that want to have separate rooms have mental issues, I said I wonder if some do. That is because I have seen some red flags that piqued my psychiatric interests in their posts. For your information, extreme need for personal space can be a sign of aspergers disease, autism spectrum disease or some anxiety disorders. These are all mental problems but none cause stark raving madness if that's what you're thinking.

There is a vast difference between what you said here
and some comments Rooneyboy has made on this subject. Your statement is well within the boundaries of normal social behavior. Some of his comments are seriously stretching that boundary.

So my statement is not emotional but educated. And I stand by it.

Now I am not saying 100% that he has anything, but I'm saying it's possible. Does that mean he needs to be committed to a psych ward? No. He may not need to do anything at all about it. Doesn't mean he may not have 'something'.

You do have some sound medical knowledge but I doubt anyone can make a diagnosis based on reviews of posts of monikers online without proper 'couch' time

I ask again when did sleeping in seperate rooms correlate to mental syndromes

by this self same logic,It means the sheiks of abu dhabi, saudi etc
and our african ancestors were cuckoo

scratch that add king solomon also

Ish

coogar: i doubt my dad would have a say. the baby's name must be given immediately after birth to process the child's birth registration and certificate. my dad won't be there then so the names shall be the sole decision of myself and my wife.

Fair enough, some names have been give already to the parent or immediately the child comes, the dad calls his dad to relay the good news and get blessing;At times a name can be given then
but that is irrelevant here as the issue is about the guy and his MIL

I understand your point but I feel he should work it out with her to ensure peace reigns

For byvan saying google n anybodi can help, if the man chases her out today where will she go

Ish

Truckpusher: You must be very old or sick and dying for you to go for medical checks every three months..... some heavy duty machines that runs every day don't even undergo that kind of preventive maintenance....make i hear word joor

Dude That is quite a presumptious statement
Some jobs require constant fitness to work certifications that you have to check and recheck the health of personnel

He may also be a hypochondriac and that is his prerogative not yours

@Packaging
@ferdimako

Good men ** thumbs up**

ileobatojo: I never said it did.

Hmmm....

coogar: you are a joker.....
so if you marry, your dad would name your child? hahahahaha. this is so hilarious. would you have your father-in-law in the labour room?

Dude, why is it hilarious or a joke?
Paternal grandfather means the father of the father

A child here typically has two names: first and middle

The childs father gives one and the grandpa gives another

Are you saying in the west, grandparents have never named children??

I never mentioned fatherinlaw

ileobatojo: Ivy, I'm not sure if you were referring to me but I will respond because I had also mentioned mental issues.

Contrary to what you seem to have gotten from that post, I did not say that because of emotions. I am dead serious when I say I suspect Rooneyboy and possibly Van bonatel (the two posters I had in mind when I made that comment) of having some mild mental issues. Note, I never said all posters that want to have separate rooms have mental issues, I said I wonder if some do. That is because I have seen some red flags that piqued my psychiatric interests in their posts. For your information, extreme need for personal space can be a sign of aspergers disease, autism spectrum disease or some anxiety disorders. These are all mental problems but none cause stark raving madness if that's what you're thinking.

There is a vast difference between what you said here
and some comments Rooneyboy has made on this subject. Your statement is well within the boundaries of normal social behavior. Some of his comments are seriously stretching that boundary.

So my statement is not emotional but educated. And I stand by it.

Now I am not saying 100% that he has anything, but I'm saying it's possible. Does that mean he needs to be committed to a psych ward? No. He may not need to do anything at all about it. Doesn't mean he may not have 'something'.

I don't get your post, having the need to sleep in private rooms without a spouse should not correlate to any mental syndrome or am I missing something here



@Ivynwa

I agree also, his demands after chasing her out of his bed smacks of insensitivity

byvan: He will always need people,it doesn't necessarily have to be his MIL.

Ok o.. Ish

coogar: i will - my family comes first!
she has lived her life, she should let me live mine. nigerian parents are too self-centred and they would take the piss if you don't draw the boundaries. a friend of mine was tellif me his father in law insisted he must be the one to name his newborn. i was like what the fück? did his own father in law name his child?

In my family, the paternal grandfather names a child and
the father gives the second name

Ipako O gbo shuti , Ori elegan ti Fo danu , O baje patapata!

Ma wo Ariwo Oja oh...

Baba whats does this mean

Na wa una bring e fight to Baba thread
Una wan make hin curse una

Baba just give the e-agberos leila alis gbolohun kan

Ipako O gbo shuti , Ori elegan ti Fo danu , O baje patapata!

Ma wo Ariwo Oja oh...

Baba whats does this mean

Na wa una bring e fight to Baba thread
Una wan make hin curse una

Baba just give the leila alis gbolohun kan

obowunmi: wait until you're in your 50s/60s and you have to do a colonoscopy

Hin never start? What of checking for prostate? The guy no where prostate dey?

speedyboi: See all of them. 'I don't go to hospital'. When someone now dies from an avoidable illness, they'll begin to abuse poor medical structure and blaming government (for not dragging them for check ups, i guess ).
So you think if that's how citizens of those countries y'all call 'heaven' behave, they won't also have high death rate?

Nigerians will always be their own problems
And na dem sabi, they should continue to wallow in their backwardness and blame government; the cycle continues till Jesus comes

In addtion, they will bring up exotic names like DVT or say oh, he/she was young, death is cruel,he/she started treatment just too late bla bla bla when this could have nipped in the bud and managed adequately.

Ish

jhydebaba: Black man na cockroach, he no dey die quick

I no say you go talk that one, all the otumokpo you don swallow for your job, all the badt tinz you don do for your hotel..

Nothing do you

Pro01, carry go

Sacluxpaint: You die when you wanna die, our forefathers that lived up to a 100 years, how many of them went tp hospital? It is when you worry too much that you invite complications. As for me I live a healthy lifestyle, I rarely drink don't smoke and watch my sugar intake. I have a serious phobia for hospitals even when given a clean bill of health. As for me 2007.Nothing dey happen, Jesus is my doctor.shikena dats all.

Where they exposed to the level of pollution we see now
The amount of free radicals in the air or the porocessed food wey you dey take chop.

If you no wan go hosipito, talk so no use old days logic justify wetin no be?

mysticgal: i dont remember when last i visited the hospital,with prayer sickness is on the run.

Hmm... Na so other people talk before the thing jam them

@op two years ago

Ivynwa: Rooney boy, you opened a thread to get advice from people and you turned around to agree with the person that declared that Nairalanders are breaking marriages, na waa for you -o-o. What advice do you want from people that are breaking marriages again? There are some that get good pieces of advice from the forum so you guys shouldn't be using that line, nobody sets out to break homes even if they think that a woman shouldn't be getting certain treatments as being complained most times in NL.

Some of us get too caught up with threads and begin to quarrel with others that don't agree with our point of view. I just got disappointed to hear a person (I thought is mature) get so emotional as to accuse others that see nothing wrong with living in separate rooms of having mental issues. The same persons that call others immature and deem themselves mature. Jeez! Is there a need to abuse others or even fight because he/she is not viewing something from your own point of view. Somebody like me will love very much to have my feminine things, clothings and stuffs in my own room even while sharing a special room with the husband man but if he chooses otherwise we can find a way round it. Another cousin of mine has her own room with her stuffs in it but still shares her husband's room with him.

I was searching online last night to see what other countries of the world think about this issue, I read of couples doing it for "snoring" sake, "getting good rest" sake, privacy sake etc. A couple even added that having to tip toe to each other's room in the night added some degree of "naughtiness" to their marriage that kept things young and spicy. We can't all view this from the same angle as we are different beings. If you think that husband and wife should not live in separate rooms, that should not have you abusing others that see no problem with it and go quarrelling with some too. Na wa o.

Please note some guys have said no to the joint account suggestion at least for the time being

Also if it's important for the man to sleep alone, he should have engaged his wife adequately.
These have been said in as many words by both male and female commentators

Seems you've put up some more pertinent info.
Well that's your family decision.
If it warrants cutting her off then so be it

Comtinue to pray for upliftment and long life but you will always need people.. Thats all

biolabee: Dude you have won and God has given you the victory
Don't use hot head to spoil your joy with unnecessary ego

Calm down and go to entreat her
Na she go teach hin pikin different things - how to baff the bornpikin, tie wrapper for the tummy, help with hot water for lochia removal etc bla bla bla

If anything happen to una, who go take care of that pikin

Step down even though it seems the most stewpid thing to do

Ish

ferdimako: They can return or visit whenever they want to. The problem is u don't stay away for so long in order to keep ur residency. But whenever u have turned to a citizen u can leave the US for good and return whenever u want or never.I think that is another advantage over remaining a permanent resident.

Thanks for the response but my q is still not clear
If i win say but cant leave my job for more than 2 months at a time but i want my family to go
How do i go about this

[quote author=baby_123]Next time, don't put the cart before the horse and believe promises that can only lead to one destination :your punny. This guy has done you jibiti. Plain and simple.[/quote]More importantly use protection

OP So how far gone are you
If he does not marry you, do you have the wherewithal to raise a child on your own

byvan: Bros I go read later,no strength now lol.

no kain

Ipako O gbo shuti , Ori elegan ti Fo danu , O baje patapata!

Ma wo Ariwo Oja oh...

Baba whats does this mean

byvan: Not true,internet is there for her.I know how efficiently I handled mine,so she can do that too.Situation will give her strength she never knew she possess.I simply watched the nurse do it a day after my delivery,that was all I needed.Google did the rest!!

Ok... ish

coogar: what's this one? cöck or hen?

This is a BIG C.OCK c.ock

Saw this specimen bomb the blakburn - burmley game

i think its a hen though.. c.ocks have longer necks and have a longer comb