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@Vixen good point

A lot of the so called fathers are not even responsible human beings and you are saying i should let them into my child;s life in the name of political correctness

abegi

I am not advocating marriage by force neither am i saying that fathers should not be involved
each person is unique
If it were me that did not marry my baby mama i will still be involved in child care costs, education etc
Why
that child can be the next Obama or Le Brawn

Go and get pregnant
That your free time will become NO Time

sobastical: So one can invest to yahoo yahoo abi? Smh

yahoo is an IT company that issues stock

Juveniles

jidegirl12: Mr Biola you're a character I tell ya... have you asked OP bout her parents status before your assumption?

Anyways we all have financially sunk one way or the other in our lives, of course my folks are there to help me but I don't go flexing my chest to him claiming entitlement over his hard earned money, as the matter of fact he gave me jobs to execute to relieve my financial struggle rather than a loan .

Like @Damiso said, There are some parents who live upon what their children give them.

Speaking of 401k, My friend ( older) took her 401k after her home was foreclosed , she asked me for a loan to supplement the money to purchase a house , I instead subcontracted her a state supply job ( in Nigeria) and it yielded almost triple dividend of the original 401k she took out. She bought her house outright cash and running her own business now , she's still thanking me till today for that huge favour, I could have said no, but she needed it most and she's a very good friend.

i never made any assumption ma
all i said was that i belive it is not fair for people to make her feel bad because she feels aggrieved
She has a real need whether she was a spendthrift or they fell on hard times

I appreciate your efforts on your friend but others did not have a 401k to run to because the execs gambled it on the stock market

OP
What have you decided to do

[quote author=baby_123]CC
I don't think the single mother's OP is talking about are divorced or separated women o .[/quote]So the people in this situation are not raising children alone

coogar: 90% of those who claim to be married here are single mothers

cotton101: most of the women that give bad advice tolerate 100 times more than the complaint u table to them.

I love this quote which is why i said some of the comments i read on this family section are not realistic
Some people tend to paint their relationships as perfeect while they may even be undergoing worse than some of the posters

For the Single Mothers, I have said it a man that looks back on his own seed is not fit to be a man and is scum
Why are you avocating for a relationship with the biological father

As a kid growing up and even now, I have several father figures who advise me on various issues
Why do u think the biological father is the be all and end all

@damiso

dear ma.. i really appreciate your experience and it was the almost the same for me but parents did their best for us kids
especially the girls who have to be specially catered for as a penniless girl can do and undo.Its even worse this days

The bank of mum and dad helps some people to get a leg up and one shd not take shame in that as long as it comes from humility and not like its my right

As for the poster
I hope she can take the good points and pull themselves out as life is transient
Tomorrow when all is well you would like back on this moment and even be more grateful. Amin

She is in a bad state right now, do we want her to say how bad a state she is before we pity her

baby123
her own parents may be late or not be as financially stable

Dear ma I am not a condemner o you are right but I know where she is coming from.
For myself What is the use of having money if I can't suse it as a leg up for my kids and grand kids

when you say you train children to do well in life. You also pray for favor and divine mercy that God keeps them

Have we not all heard of the thousnds of foreclosures in the US or those that lost their savings to enron, stock markets or evn their 401k.

The reality is that calamity can strike what makes a man is how you rise from it.

How will one feel if the kids had to drop out from school, you know how hard your man is working and next thing you hear his father spent 15000 dollars on a vacation.

I will feel bad
Sorry I'm not a neo modern man

Because some of us have done well for ourselves does not mean we look down on others

Dear OP

- discuss with your husband on how to go about your current predicament
- reduce all expenses to the barest minimum except necessities
- speak to the people in ur local church/community centre they may help with jobs, child care and stuff
- if you have to go to your parents be calm, lower your expectations sth or nothing may come out of it

- look unto the hills from where your help cometh

Man can disappoint


Also I agree parents once kids are grown up shd sit and put their leg up to say we have tried but globally now parents are finding out that more help is needed.
Some twenty sths are still in their parents home because they have no job

Yes not only naija but US and UK too

Thak you vanity
I tire for these condemnations on this thread.

I know how much I helped my dads buidling project and I know he much he helped me on mine

What's the use of going on vacattions when my son has no where no lay his head.

I have been shaking my head since this thread was opened
The same people that say you shd spurn potentially high earning opportunities to do ruth aboboku are now abusing you when money no reach

Na wa o

Sunday because monday is next day
Love Friday especially before easter monday

Yay
4 days of groove

Hurricane Jelita
Tropical storm caloti halotti

Mu che che mu che che

overrrr

puyol tripped at the vital moment

good call.. pique u dont do that

Roland17: Bad first touch from CR7, that was a very good pass

roland or ronald or wetin dey call u

cronaldo no fit do natin
i have his remote wit me

ref o.....

it seems d pin is not working or going to someone else

carmelion.. no response to my points?

forza barca

Jellitah: Abi na lie I tok? Abi na 'the OGBONI-H-ASSASSINATED' ghetto bunnies of CHICAGO-HOODS ON NL you wan me to discuss?

https://www.nairaland.com/855820/please-nairalander-perx-she-went

Please carry go
wetin H-APIN for perx thread

nbright: @bolded, don't be too sure...

believe it mehn... NL babes try