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[quote author=tpia@]a lot of the people here are simply pretending to be in heterosexual relationships.

that's why any normal thing is so strange to them, and they view it as evil.

they simply cant relate to the average person, and are always anti-values and anti- whoever isnt one of them.[/quote]

Well good news to hear that 200 usd from three years ago or so has been paid

Lets hope this new leaf is genuine

Maya2pretty: @biolabee polygamy bawo? y wont monogamy work? pls its not an option and as 4 a rich guy, to me a rich guy is a successful guy (mainly in career, with good investments) that can take care of all his needs without breakin a sweat which extends into takin care of his wants without breakin a sweat, or maybe few drops lol

this defintion of rich in my opinion extends to politicians, government contractors and middle aged guys not always the young dudes
So are these kind of guys available to single ladies except divorcees or baby daddys

I suggested polygamy to know what this forum thought since economic empowerment is not really an issue for you guys
So all those olden days of jealousy and in fighting over property is a non-issue

So will empowered young women consider this

Calotti/Jelita

Can i ask a question
You made a reference to perx and TehN
Why so if i may ask

Sorry i joined late
I have some comments for the ladies on the thread as it seems you are all intelligent beautiful women who are trying to build successful careers for yourself

1. I agree that single ladies have challenges with trying to express themselves, any normal thing is seen as being ostentatious
If you are in ROme, live like Romans
How many guys will approach a lady who just bought a 7m cha cha RAV4


2. This your definition of a rich man sounds philospohical, can you break it down
A single friend of mine who has a house bought and fully paid for in Ajah still does not see himself as rich
He uses an SUV also (new)

Is he rich?

Or what is the same guy is renting only? is he rich

carmelion: I am speaking for myself.None of the above mentioned is my definition of a rich guy.A rich guy to me is someone who is always ahead of time,ready to move with changes that comes with the economy and the dynamic nature of life.If you re materially rich now,it is a bonus for me,but I hope you would be ready to keep it up? One phrase always goes for me

"life is a passing scene,it is not about now,it is about the future"

3. Do the ladies on this thread have anything against polygamy if monogamy does not work out

this pic is insenstive

Cant the departed even have peace

Vikin: Interesting! I see the reason why my Dad is very difficult to talk to allowing my mum for omugo!
Even when he permits her, 1 or 2 wks later, you hear him calling always complaining of hunger and sickness.
Stingy man!

When ur pikin grow and born pikin
Your hubby go gree make you comot?


Tony spike the point is that what assertion does this write up make
Sorry I can't see it anywhere

The article makes for a good read but what is the point

This is sth becoming rampant are you advocating for husbands not to leave their wives or children abroad or they shd follow their family abroad or they shd marry second wives to help with the loneliness

What's the point



Or is it front page u want

i dont believe all this tales of refund

Fhemmy and co can we have snapshots of such receipts

mhm: lolz! buzz u at end of season

no p we will see

mhm: red bull for top spot. don't give up on Lewis, his car will not disappoint like last season

keep dreaming bro

wetin dey

lewis for the love of money has lost it

ferrari v red bull again

vettel for no 4

ifyalways: @Topic,If you don't show off,live like you own the world,no one would beg-beg you unnecessarily. This is just for those saying their fbk,bbm,and all social sites friends bug them.Keyword is unnecessarily eg asking for BB,weave-on,etc.If you go on social networks to pose you are encouraging and attracting beggars.IMO

Kids would always be kids and won't stop wanting a piece of what their mates have even when they have something bigger and better.I don't know how anyone would talk about self-esteem for a lad of 3 years who just want a piece biscuit from his playmate

In one thread,we agreed its OK as mothers to go down the road to ask our neighbors for oil,salt,crayfish ati iru and today,we are all self sufficient islanders.Not surprised,na nld be dis .

I just give my boys what they need,tell them to ask me or their teacher/nanny if they want any other thing and to share with their mates.Shikena.I'll rather have kids that asked/begged than one who steal because he is too proud to ask

We should watch it,lest we raise non-compassionate kids all in the name of self esteem bla bla.Beggars have always been here and would always be here.

Oh a deborah is come to the thread
Dont worry when the food is well cooked the same children will tell their own parents they have no self esteem for them expecting their own kids to take care of them in their old age

pro01: Interesting topic. As usual, the females here avoided the most important issues raised in the frustrated man's email. The two points highlighted below are extremely important, and females that are able to provide honest and sensible answers to them would realise the futility of trying this 'no sex' nonsense with any normal man.

how can they answer bros...
the guy is a s.ex crazed maniac who has gotten what he derserves
More power to the women

looks wasted

Woged2005: Sir, if Nigeria is terribly poor what then will u say abt countries like Eritrea, Ethiopia, Uganda, Burkina Faso, Mali, Buruundi, etc but they don't behave like us? Nigerians are too very materialistic so people will rather spend on luxuries to impresse than on things that can yield money. Maybe you don't know how much a Brazilian weave costs (abt N30k or more) yet school girls in Nigeria change it like toothpick. How about Black Berries? does a very poor person who cant eat as u described need a N50k blackberry to communicate when N50k put in stock 2day may make her a millionaire at 40yrs? A 19 yrs old girl in USA is working at McDonald's, etc helping parents to pay rent. But send a 19yrs old girl in Nig goods to sell, she will embezzle ur moni and become ur enemy. It's our lifestyle that forces us into poverty. God gave Nigeria everything.

Do you really know how they behave in those countries

However we have all agreed contentment is KEY and also learning to say NO in a respectful rather than condescending manner

I respect the whites for that.
I once went to watch a movie with my 2 nieces and my wife(Tangled) It came to like 84 gbp with pop corn and see the girl dey calculate
Uncle dont bother that we can buy it on dvd and watch it at home
Unlike her 12 year old counterpart who does not even give a hoot on the cost of the movie not to talk of being concerned


I digress.. Contentment and Discipline ... ish

davidylan: hmmm what if he truly needs help? He should die in pride?

good one davidy which is why i said i dont see a correlation betwwen self esteem and begging

What is being described so far is more of taking advantage of anothers kindness
Some people do need this thing

damiso: True that sha. Some people beg cos they just think they can.As you said too that is the one that annoys me the MOST.And then in the same begging sentence say stuff like"UK sha,God forbid i can never live here with you people you are trying.God forbid.Naija is the place to make money"Shoooo After you just said can i have your bag?

ROTFLMAO
As if Dave Cameron and Osborne are sharin the money on the streets

meanwhile are you guys prepared for the onslaught from the Heather Frost-types and the Romanians coming to hook up on welfare?

damiso: No offence taken ,i just wanted to point out that the major culprit is lack of contentment.I might have to disagree abit though,there is a slight case for self esteem here.The main reason i wont beg for what i dont need is cos i am comfortable in who i am.So i dont need to be begging for stuff i cant afford cos that 'stuff' does not make me who i am.

no problem MA we just look at things from different angle
Just note that some of these "beggars" have comfortable jobs and are smooth talkers
so it may not necessarily be self esteem sha

damiso: Unc biola you sha see in my post where i said we all need help in one form or the other at some point in our lives.No matter how self sufficient you are you do need help.When i had my daughter me and hubby were alone with no immediate family around us, church members had to rally round.So help does not have to be money.

I think what people take an exception to is people begging just cos they can.For a WANT and not a NEED.You do know that oftentimes SOME people beg cos they feel you can afford it and they really do not NEED what they are begging for.

As a christian when you notice someone in NEED you dont even have to wait to be asked so as not let the person who is down already feel worse than they do.

Sorry ma no offence meant
dear ma thanks for clarifying your point and this I totally agree with

let me even tell you something funnier

If you are complaining of people who are begging, what will you now say when they even speak behind you and say
is that all you could do

Contentment is the key to me

I stated that the annoying thing is people who can afford this and still ask up and down
Imagine someone coming to do a vacation in my place and telling me to pay for the flight ticket

I just feel that saying NO is not an agressive rather an ASSERTIVE behavior
if you cant help, say NO but there is a way you can say NO and the person wil not feel bad about it

In his mind he will say "well you tried your best"

Woged2005: Please fellow Nigerians how can one raise her kids to avoid this annoying needy, begging culture in Nigeria?

Why do our people appear too needy and want to be taken care of? I really want to know how to raise kids who don't beg but are self-reliant. The needy culture is very unhealthy.

To the OP and raising kids who dont beg according to you
It is pertinent to state that the people actually taking advantage of this charity actually are of moderate means and have a sort of entitlement mentslity

You csnt raise any others kids but only yours
Be disciplined and be content to live within your means
But still your small contribution (10k here, 5K there or etc) can really go a long way for others

self esteem n begging as u people call it (or specifically with the kids) i dont see d correlation
Where is the place of caring and sharing

It is your prerogative to say NO just as it is the others to ask if they need help

If you cant help say NO but lets not turn it to self esteem


Some people fall on hard things and need help
It hurts their pride to actually ask

Instead of kicking a man who is down, just say NO or lie you dont have

Suddenly its about the parents not training their kids .. smh

self esteem n begging as u people call it (or specifically with the kids) i dont see d correlation
Where is the place of caring and sharing

It is your prerogative to say NO just as it is the others to ask if they need help

If you cant help say NO but lets not turn it to self esteem


Some people fall on hard things and need help
It hurts their pride to actually ask

Instead of kicking a man who is down, just say NO or lie you dont have

i wish you all the best

GraceBestowed: Not at all, I did nothing out of the ordinary, it literally just happened out of the blue; doctors were mystified as it, usually, is a result of *something*, but in my case, no. :-)

WOW..thank Baba

acmillan: Tnx for your input but[b] I am not letting her go[/b]. I know God will see me through this. Am not someone that believe letting her go cos I will get another one later. She is what I want so I will do all I can to have her. Thank you all thesame bro

ok sir then please start DOING ALL so we do not see threads like

'MY WIFE DOES NOT APPRECIATE MY SACRIFICES FOR HER" or
"HEARTLESSNESS OF MODERN DAY WIVES"