@ madlady, i hope i didnt offend u and ur female folks with what i said, im just trying to make spinderz understand how u ladise feel about waiting for ur man, or u could help me xplain more 2 him since u are a lady, ud be in a better position to make him understand, ?

@ james thanks
@ googles what potentials do u potray to ur girl?, i may have some that makes her love me, but honestly i dont know it my self

@ Dave, thanks for the  advise. really appreciate it.

@ sp1nerz dont take it too xreme dude, all i mean is that to my best of knowledge from xperience them chiks are always at the loosing end(i mean impatient) i appreciate ur advise also and will heed to it.
@ thanks for the advise.

@ mad lady, (username ignored) thanks for ur advise in as much as u see me with the traits i posses being whom i really am, i still want to know in ur capacity as a lady, would she be able to wait for that long? im talking about 5 or 6 years from now, wont she have cause to keep a back up boyfriend as some ladies behave in that manner this days, ? no offense to the female race pls.
@ sp1nerz im not afraid dude, im full of life and xperience so talking out of annalysis of what i think is to come,

Hi Nlandeders, its been a while ive posted a thread seeking for advise but i have a potentially future oriented problem and need ur candid opinions. im into a relationship in which i luv this girl and believe she does too. among the ladies ive gone out with ive never seen a lady as humble and submisive as she is, but my problem is this, we are of the same age(25) and she is in fact a month older than me. i know most ladies are scared of waiting for their man, and i fear she feels the same way cos i still have alot to accomplish before i settle down. both families are aware of our relationship in which her mother luvs me like her own as well as my mum luvs her, this is the xtent to which we are deep in this, but my heart is still heavy that she may change her mind someday cos she is XTREMELY Beautiful and alot of suitors far above my status are out for the hunt on her, some she has told me about and some, ? only God knows who they are and what they are doing 2 catch her attention, and 2 worsen things we arent always 2gether, im in bauchi schooling and she is in zaria also schooling. so pls can i get some tips from matured pple on Nland 2 give me some advise on how to go about this dilemma of mine not the ones that lay abuses on threads, thanks alot in advance,

@ cork, guess it works for u right? @ poster

my guy. if you really need to enter this jerusalem of yurs its simple, use a condom, that way everybody is happy. my friend once told me that girls use this xcuse these days to keep u off. but he usually insists on finding out for himself wether its true or not if u know what i mean, anyways goodluk with the struggle.

advises are useseless to u. u know why? because u are scared to be a man and take responsibility of things be it good or bad. personally i really think its up to u to deside ur fate with this girl. if u feel not doing it is the wise choice then dont do it. its all up to u.

yep its possible but give her some time. she isnt an adult yet exept your intentions are not genuine. if they are, then u will be patient enough to nuture her till when she is ready for a real relationship.

this guy is the type of person we certainly wouldnt want to run our country, as in PRESIDENT,

well i myn is with my ex gurl friend, while we still 2geda we did some crazy things, shagging her almost every were in the campus, the gym, the faculty, general garden, even in the rain, he he,

some of the ladies in this thread are acting foolish and supportive to this matter, lets be realistic and put this thing the other way round, wat if it was the guy that was stoped by a hot chick that just came in from florida?and then offers u a ride mysteriously, then ol of a sudden the guy starts falling 4 this gurl he just met on the high way, 4 wat, ?wat does it mean? that to u ladies its a crime, and simply because its a lady involved, some are being supportive instead of letting this gurl know how selfish she is and less 4giving this case issuch gurls should wake up oh>>>>>>>>

@ ujujoan, ROTFLMAO meaning?
@ Ben 20001, what does ur definition of going for a break actually mean? i actually dont get it,

@ IIce, i really meant by flirting in d sense that lack of attention n lack of trust could cause. I dnt knw if u undastand me?

Does ur boredom, ur being tired,and irritation makes u wanna end d relationship.? Is it d possible reasons y couples date each other and yet still flirt around?

Thanks all of u who contributed, i appreciate u advises n will take due actions necessary

@ Airmarshal.Thanks for d advise. Believe me i've tried my best n still tryn to be true to her. My only fear is this, how im i not sure she wont end up lyk d former.? Im tryn not to be too protective but i cant just help it. Its lyk its become part of me nw.i wish there was a way i could act or do to knw if she is prentending. Who knws may be she is seeing some 1 behind my back.? U can never say cos my ex was doing that too and pretending to be gud.

My ex relationship was a vry strng one,n i devoted my all to it, but at d end of it i almost ran mad. I loved dis girl so much n she turned her back on me. I eventually managed to start anoda relationship to help me 4get abt her. This girl is so caring lyk the former if not more. I lyk her but find it difficult giving her d attention i gave my ex. 2 days bak she complained to me of my attittude n also didnt sound happy at all. I believe she wants it 100%, but how do i knw she will nt end up lyk d rest. Honesly i dnt believe d wrd love exists to me anymore ever since my last relationship.wat do i do? I need alternatives to do this descision n thats y ask dudes n sisters in d house, how will u knw wether ur guy or spouse really loves u, wat are the things he or she does that convinces u they really care and want to be with u? I dnt want my last relationship to affect my present relationship or them ending alike, pls wat do u think.

O.k, I agree with u there, but i think majorly its dishonesty that flows in a relationship.

Majority of relationships get hooked up with quarrells n misundastandings, which kind of quarrels do u have n how do u resolve it?

Thanks alot ladies 4 ur advises, will stick to them real close. I think im ova showing her i luv her and thats what is making me feel this way.

At first u meet each other, and its as if u both are in anoda world. Cherishing n luving each other immensely,, and then ol of sudden there is a change of heart, u then begin to feel u want to be free as if u were forced to start it in d first instance. I love my girl,yet i get tired of her at tyms. Wat could possibly d cause of this pls i need some opinions how do i get rid of this feeling?. No insultive words pls.

My dear if u are really ready about this,, i mean if u are a christian and need deliverance, and u have faith, u will be healed. The name of d man of God is prophet T.B joshua of The synagouge church of all nations, lagos ,Nigeria, im a witness to his deliverance sessions. U can enquire wit this number. 07038616677, If u meet him, believe me u will never be d same again. May God be with u in ur hours of tribulation,

You are into a relationship and what is on ur mind and intentions 4 that moment is not focused on ur future marriage dreams,but ur partner lyks talking much abt how ur marriage home will be, d kind kind of baby she will give birth 4 u, etc, I mean, Some relationships lead to that(marriage), but with some of these fantasies, what if u dnt end up together as couples? Pls how would u feel house if ur partner always fantasises abt both of u? What runs thru ur mynd?

This thing happened last nyt in d quartes were i live, there is a couple close to our house who took in relatives to suport dem in skool. 4rm d dads side,he brot his younger broda,i tink in his early 2o,s and two younger girls 4rm d wifes side, Nw d story goes, its been long dis boy has been lusting afta these girls n wnted to have sex wit them.wen they are taking their bath, he wil enter the bath room n wil want to force himself on them.wen they shout he wil nw bak out, last nyt he crept into d house while there was no electricity(because d parents travelled) and stabed one of d girls in d stomach,while shouting d oda girl came to see what happened and he cut her arms flesh in two places and her bone became visible.while that was happening, d other girl struggled and went out of d house n went to find help,while d oda 1 that was cut in d arm bled to death because b4 neighbous became alert, it was a little to lng, (2 hrs later) this incedent happened btwn 11 and 12 at nyt, d girl stabed was rushed to d hospital n merely survived a surgery, which kind of life is this, Are some people that heartless to go this far to killing inocent souls because of his wicked intensions? He ran away and he hasnt been found yet,, but sooner or later he wont be able to go far because God is not at sleep,

Thanks 4 ur advises, i wouldnt mynd dating someone much younger. But nature is just in a way that u may not necessarily fall inluv wit someone younger. It doesn show on d face u knw, it just happens, I just dnt want to hurt her by cos i wouldnt want d same. Its really a serious matter oh n.landers

yea, I feel u there, u've made a point, i hope i wont live wit a vry horrible mistake 4 d rest of my life. Cos even though we are age mates,im so into her, and her d same wit me, i wnder hw lyf will look lyk wit her in d nearest future,

i agree with joseph6 about d aids letter forge, but lets be realistic here, sooner or later she may come to realise that its a lie. U work in d same place remember! And an alternative is to bluntly deny any aligations of that and use her weakness against her. For instance she is blackmailing u becos she wants money 4rm u. Bt u hv to reduce d rate at which people see u two 2geda or it my not be a rigid excuse.

Related to wilson 007's story,abt his g.friend being desperate 4 marriage, i was once into that kind of situation, i luvd my last g.friend so much n was willing to do anything 4 hr.we were so close and we were d envy of d campus and i felt i was d luckiest man on earth.(a.b.u zaria) that was last year. Guys hv tried to get her by framing me up just to break us up,to cut d whole thing shrt abt dis girl, she felt she was so beautifull, because she had alot of toasters,rich guys with flashy cars coming around and believed she had beta opportunites,(probably because i was reading a 5 yr course,, Electrical engineering,) and didnt have a car, being an average guy, she felt i had a lng way to go,to make her comfortable. especially d vry guy that brk us up by pressurising her abt wanting to marry her,eventually they saw secretely behind my back n he has made luv to her, i couldnt stnd d confession,yet i 4gave her and was willing to contiue d relationship because my family knew her and luvd her especially my mum,even afta what she did, but she couldnt stand d shame of seeing me evry day after what happened n b4 i knew it, d best thing she felt has to be done is to start anoda relationship wit a new guy wich she did. Im saying ol these cos it made me learn d hard way, at d moment im into another relationship, i luv her,but based on my last xperience, i've lrnt nt to trust a lady anymore so basically im into a relationship not based on trust. Now what disturbs me is that this vry girl is a month older than me, basically she is my age mate. Im scared of giving dis girl more of me,cos she could disapoint me lyk my ex girlfriend. She is 24 and i also, but girls(no offence ladies) have dis obssession of wanting to marry early. No matter how much luv they have 4 their man, if he isnt ready yet or settled,it becomes a parade of argument until she dcides to leave him 4 some 1 else she feels is gudenof 4 hr to settlewit, ive discussed this issue with her, and she keeps telling me that this issue wont be a barier btwn us, as lng as i luv hr and im there 4 her, that she wont leave me, but i find it difficult to accept those wrds 4rm her. Im on alert, but 4 hw lng will i stand this issues abt being desperate to marry that comes in between me and my g.friends? I'd appreciate ur suggestions n oppinions house pls.

based on the previous story thing about this desperate girl in my life to have a baby for me, i read all the comments and advises and i couldnt think of any thing rather than to stop seeing this babe and even calling her, believe me i have had a peace of mind since then but how can i deny the fact that i still love her ? it still gets me thinking once in a while wether what i did is the right thing to do, she cant predict the future and who knows if we may not end being together why cant she just face the facts of life and lets deal in the present rather than speaking of a future we don`t know of yet? Guys and ladies on N land, the truth is that im not ready for a baby right now and it cant be a liability to my studies.

ive tried not to act stupid or unreasonable by being polite to her and belive me ive tried ironing things up with her but she is like a stuborn goat who isnt willing to reason with me. her own opinion about this is that if im afraid of the child thing, that she is going to take care of everything and i need not to worry, wich kind of thing is this? and yet some n landers are being irational about this, pls try and put ur self in my shoes loving a girl that is pushing u this hard, what will u do about this?