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drcyber: Many years ago I had a lady who had a kid for me. We were in college together in Nigeria but I left for the U.S to study. Both families were at war but I always hated polygamy so I decided to stick with it. She got pregnant again & I thought the war would end but it got worse. Last year I sent her $70000 to give 20k to my mum but she never did. A few weeks ago she sent me a message that she does not want to have anything to do with my family. I am home now, one of the top doctors in my field, i don't want a scattered house but she won't return my calls or see me. She has moved away. My family thinks it is good riddance but I don't want to make mistakes...I counsel people for a living and want to get it right. Serious suggestions needed.

I BELIEVE SHE'S HURT THAT'S WHY SHE'S BEHAVING DIS WAY. PLS TRY TO HAVE A FACE TO FACE CONVERSATION WITH HER. D OUTCOME WLD DETERMINE WHERE UR HEADING. GOODLUCK!

[quote author=tobyeni-p]u nid not ask dis type of question if u indeed passed through a university except if u re not observant.
graduate assistant: graduates without MSc. cert
assistant lecturer MSc. holders.
lect II senior MSC holder/ fresh PHD holders. somtms it depends on d institution. do i answer ur question?l[/quote]U shld ve quietly passed and allow a more sensible person to comment.U are very stoopid to ve replied me with insults. anuofia!!!!!! atole oshi!!! FRUSTRATED FOOL!

Pls fellow nairalanders, is lecturer II,assistant lecturer and graduate assistant d same thing? Pls ℓ̊ wld like U̶̲̥̅̊ guys to enlighten me abt d lecturing career ranks! Thanks

MRbrownJAY: ^^^maybe he studied medicine but because he couldnt find a doctor position, he became a car salesman?

ROFLMAO!!! Mbj no go kill me o! No mind d liar!!

MRbrownJAY: bro Obi, from your various posts on NL, you seem more of a CAR SALESMAN than a doctor, but maybe its just what you do in your free time from the hospital, right?

Lol ......doctor selling cars hmmm!!!

Crown Prince: @Roki baby,
Op said a ''song'' that describe your life,you presented an ''album''.
Is that how life complicated for you?

smh!!!!

ayobase: I still keep pondering why will a 'mature' lady be involved in such an 'undefined' relationship with a guy.Be it fuc.king mates, mutual buddies, casual friends, fiances, and whatever case.
Was talking to a friend yesternight.I did ask abt her man, and she said ''he is fine''.One thing led to the other in our conversation,so I used 'ur fiance' instead of 'ur man',but her response was ''Ayo,when did I tell u he is my fiance?''.that flared me up by asking what she has been doing in an 'undefined' relationships.lets bone the rest of the story.

My piece of advice:
Ale obirin ko n pe su (literal meaning:woman's night is always at nigh)
Imagine dating series of 5 guys within 10yrs (meaning: spending like 2yrs with each guy)
Remember, nothing dey concern guy.he might just dump u for another gel as time goes on.he is gonna be making flimsy excuses when asked what the problem was.
Im very sure u have heard, read and seen issues like this in our society. So,no be today matter!
Back to my piece of advice: After like 3months of 'undefined' relationship; sit ur man down to get it defined. Believe me, u might be surprise of what dis guy might be telling u.
Ladies, the earlier, the better.
Guys could be inhuman, dont play into their hands.
If na fuc.king mate level, it should be defined!

Ok!!

claremont: Whenever I see threads like this, I always thank God/gods that I'm an Atheist!

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]Good! Now, to that effect, delete his number, his text messages, the texts you sent to him, delete him from facebook, untag him from your pics on Facebook, delete all his picture in your possession, Burn the physical ones. . . Unfriend his closest friends. The idea is for you to return yourself to how you were before he came into your life. . .

Omo mehn, NO TIME to sit and brood over something that can never be. . . something you have no power over. I'd rather you take control of your life, and be responsible for putting the pieces of your heart back. Let bygones be bygones! [/color][/quote]Killz U̶̲̥̅̊ just ministered to me!!!!! Thanks hon

Poster is 1000000% correct on dis one

Inn okun o, se alaafia ni mo ba gbo gbo yin o. Inu mi dun wipe iru tireedi bayi wa! Ese omo jeje o! E nle o

staaari: Here we go.... a bit gross.

u still wan try me out?

Eeeew!!!! Let's go see a doctor!!!

staaari: @Bisi,

Likely yes. looking but not desperate.
Have had my hands burnt. badly, I will say.

why not take it offline?

ok mail me and lets see ur burnt hands

2buff: Liking your mental wavelength. We think on the same plane.

staaari: @Bisi,
if I may ask, what are you looking for?
No offence but thats a way to start getting your message to those who really care and have same goals like you.

A MAN DAT COMPLEMENTS ME. THAT'S ALL
ABI ARE U D ONE?

Idowuogbo: Bisi y u dey vex na lolZzzz!!!

Emmmmh babe mi abeg bone 2buff o,dat guy go crush ur heart.

Imagine,D guy dump me bcus I refuse to do pick d coin position

LOL
HE SURE LOOKS LIKE A HEART BREAKER

GBAM!!

bigboy20: Goodmorning pals,I want to say i am happy with the way some people respond to some confessions.

I want to know if this is possible from mainly girls in the room,I have a girl i love so much and have introduced her to my family.
I also have been to their family and made my intentions known but i was surprised the day i went to their house when her own mum said to me(is she ready).

My girl told me that she is having 3 to 4 men as suitors and she dont know who to marry,her mum even said dat she dont know if her daughter is possessed or what.she talks with these men,visits them and SPENDS THE NIGHT WITH THEM and claims dat she is not doing anything with them.

Sometimes her mood will change and she is always confused.
She is a good girl i must confess but i want to know if it is possible to have many men bt cant chose one to settle down with.

Remember i have tried to advice her on several occasions.

What is ur advice to me?I do not want to force her or persuade her to marry me because i never can tell tomorrow but i am not happy about her keeping al of us at the same time.
I am even thinking dat she can not stay in marriage if she cant make strong decisions nw,She is 22yrs and already told me that she is ready for marriage.

I am thinking of staying away from her.I need advices pls
She *****s her text,she put her phone in silent or off when with any of the men or she picks up and became hash always defending and talking about trust.

I need strong advice bc i want to back off.

Why are pple this stoopid? Single gals don finish? Keep waiting for her and grow white hair! She's a G̶̲̥̅ud gal my foot( good gal kpin 4 suitors and sleeping with them). Hw many guys bad gals for pick? Nonsense!!!

Lilshaddy: Any hot and sexy girl in here,i am really good at what i do,i will be the best thing you ever had when it comes to sex,i can make you reach orgasm as many times as possible and can make u squirt,even locate ur G spot.Call or text me 08099743987

Hey!!! Mr hot sex open ur own thread!!!

Lilshaddy: Any hot and sexy girl in here,i am really good at what i do,i will be the best thing you ever had when it comes to sex,i can make you reach orgasm as many times as possible and can make u squirt,even locate ur G spot.Call or text me 08099743987

Hey!!! Mr hot sex open ur on thread!!!

2buff: you've got mail

ℓ̊ know

staaari: @Bisjosh,
wish you luck.
in life.. we dont always get what we want but make best use of what we have.

Thanks!!!

mcchegzy: Guess u are not just ready for any responsibility, not that you enjoy being single

GBAM!!!!!

2buff: lol awww. oya come take a hug

2buff: lol awww. oya come take a hug

swtchicgurl: maybe the OP isn't so handsome and she's not proud of it

§o? Why then did she agree to b in a relationship with him? Smh!!! She wants to eat her cake and have it!

@poster U̶̲̥̅̊ beta start looking for someone else

obowunmi: communication is key.

He has bn communicating bt she has bn stubborn and turning deaf ears! Later they start crying up and down d streets dat their husbands are cheating on dem.....smh!!!
Eni to lori ko ni fila and vice versa

[b][/b][quote author=d_surrogat]my woman always uses guys on her dp and a particular guy has been frequent...i complained but stopped cos i am scared of being called immature...yet i dont know if other guys experiencing this and how they handle it...im just pissed and keeping it inside....please what is the most justified action i can take....i asked her and she keeps talking and making fell like a kid that is complaining...she says they are just friends...me am confused...please help[/quote


ℓ̊ understand wat U̶̲̥̅̊ going thru, ve bn thru it b4! When U̶̲̥̅̊ kp talking, it makes U̶̲̥̅̊ feel as if ur insecured or making unnecessary noise........d bottom line is she does nt RESPECT U̶̲̥̅̊ cos if she does,she wldnt ve put up d pic in d first place not to talk of U̶̲̥̅̊ complaining! Wat U̶̲̥̅̊ shld do? Do as if U̶̲̥̅̊ dnt see it (ignore)and start uploading pretty gals pic too.......it wld surely get at her! ℓ̊ wonder wat happened to putting up ur pic as her ₯! Na wa o

Yada yada yada RUBBISH!!!

[quote author=Inked_Nerd]Simple explanation sista onila. If Nigerian women are gold diggers, then Nigerian men are visa and toto chasers. [/quote]

onila: NIGERIAN MEN AND WOMEN ARE PRODUCTS OF THE SAME SOCIETY. .a materialistic society. .blaming nigerian girls for their problems does not make sense

GBAM!!!!