₦airaland Forum

NoBetterNigeria:
Today's people are getting worse. I was in a church yesterday, when I saw a guy lighting a cigarette from the candle. I was so shocked, that I dropped my beer bottle.

NNVanguard:
If only we could be more determined, innovative and corruption free, we will soon weather the storm of this recession.

makapella:
Lemme guess wot hpnd....d stake holders(G.o's,senior pastors,founders) had a very serious emergency meeting and the stake holdee's(forgive me for dt English) dnt want their leaders 2 retire not becos dey love dem so much but becos d cost of sending forth a man of God will be so highhhhhhhhh...imagine a very big "owambe" for d afonjas since na dem get G.o pass n ppl in naija in dz recession dnt hv money 2 contribute for private jet(e must follow as send forth gift)opening of bnk acct n holy ghost transport fare to transport him 2 U.K 2 rest well....i rest ma case n pls dnt gv a fucck or ul be fucccked

idupaul:
He paid them their salary late when all the value had been eroded by inflation and yet you have kind words for him ..we are clearly not ready for excellence in Nigeria I see

JideJamez:
abeg if the rice is cheaper....they shld allow us to eat it....since buhari don fail us....Nigeria has become dumping ground.

yedidiah:
But why are Lagos presenters; particularly those that work in Radio stations heavily accented? It is so annoying you cant hear what they are saying because everybody is forming jand. From station to station, everyone trying to outdo the other. You cant help but imagine when you were teleported to the UK.

Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...

Oildichotomy:
People should just soft pedal on heaping praises on Lagos governors and have some deep retrospection on what they are supposedly touted as doing. Like this is just a roundabout for petes sake

It is pretty easy to get any Lagos governor to seem like he/she is working because of the way Lagos is strategically positioned within the media, intellectual, creative and economic sphere.

During Fashola time, it was as if BRF was the best thing in Lagos since ewa agoyin and bread but immediately the chips are down the reality of the hype and incompetence came bare.

Abegii!

IVORY2009:
The billionaire who sleeps inside coffin

Amelian:
Yes it's dangote presence.. He's a billionaire and possibly number one richest male in Africa, if am right?
When faced with a humble man that wields great power, great wealth and great ideas it humbles one unintentionally.

Jaydotcom:
This thing has me thinking. What is Religion? – Not fornicating? Not worshipping juju?? Fam, did Jesus die for you to attend church where you do nothing but beg him for more favors

No.



So touched with this piece.

May God reward you and help us all to love ourselves.

Femiwilli:
Good One OP.

One of the reason's I knew that Adeboye is not of God.
His pastors divorce and remarries.

the bible is clear that if you marry a divorcee, you are committing a adultery.
Not committed but committing so it's a continuous process .

Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication,
and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

1wolex85:
You also need to learn how to spell. You did it twice so I don't think it's a typo, it's debt not dept

lolaluv1:
What is this?
See the men looking like hungry gigolos on a dating site. With their thin, grasshopper legs and flat chests. Even the swimming trunk part that should be bulging is flat.


I expected that the ladies would be better but then seeing the first lady with her camel toe and the last one with her legs spread wide apart is just
I thought beauty pageant poses are supposed to be gracious and demure?

Only the katsina guy cuts it.

EHMIR:
Reporting live for NCA,middle east zonal office,jordan.



The ever hard working ugwu exporters are good at other things apart frm smuggling drugs

Aringarosa:
Amid all these crises rocking the west Africa nations, one country is still defying the odds and making good stride in its economic indices -Cote D'Ivoire. Does anyone knows why?

Chukazu:
don't mind him.
he won't buy but he will use his brothers and business agents to buy by proxy.

how does it make sense to sell something that generates 1.5billion dollars yearly for a paltry some of 12billion?

youngPA:
“But the issue is, why did I suggest that we should sell some of the assets? I know the touchy one is the NLNG. I want to make it categorically clear that even if the government is selling NLNG on credit, I am not interested in buying.

“I don’t have any interest in NLNG and I will not buy it. It is not a business that I want to invest in. It is a mature business; that is what people don’t understand."

Oga Dangote, you must buy You suggested so that we can sell to you sir. Let us kuku know that Nigeria is now Dangote and Dangote is Nigeria. If Dangote (as a company) is really paying tax as it is supposed to be, you will not be talking of buying Nigeria.

janellemonae:
@op truth is from everything u explained: I believe ur wife is very depressed. Impulsively moving to osogbo shows this. U just weren't paying enough attention to her state of mind. Maybe she thought ur cost of living d Lagos life would reduce in osogbo. The money situation is a major part of it. Money is d no1 cause of divorce in d world. I know some men think women are gold diggers but truth is every woman wants security. The sad part of ur situation is dt ur also trying ur best but maybe there's a reason she's not seeing dt. One of d reasons is this ur family jnterference. It's too much. Please I know u sugar coated parts of this story, yet it still seems like ur a mummy's boy.

The fact is she can't see a way out, she's not working - and clearly wishes she had a business to help u instead of begging for everything, she has 2 babies to think about, & ur marriage also seems to be delving into anger & violence. No comfort or joy at all apart from d hardship. She might even have had a bout of postnatal depression after her last baby considering d way u said she was treating her children (one of d signs of postnatal depression). I might be wrong but But these are all stressors. I understand ur also stressed but marriages go thru hard times. Both of u seem to be in d dark, seeing only ur own individual difficulties & not seeing what d other is going through. Someone needs to step forward into d light & bring ur marriage from d brink. It's still very salvageable.

PS - Please leave ur families out of all this & talk to each other alone. Take d advise of a neutral therapist or pastor. Leave emotionàl, biased parents/siblings out of it. Dts if u want ur family back.