All these dysfunctional girls everywhere.

From your first narration, she needs time to heal from her former relationship and she should not make you suffer the flaws of her ex. If she washes her ex clothes and the relationship didn't lead to marriage, why should she transfer that mindset of not assisting you domestically.

That's a mindset of one that is still dragging her past with her, every new relationship deserves a new start with clean mind to make things work.

That being said, bro, marriage na life long event. From the way things are going, your marriage fit suffer. You are the man here and the head of the Home when you get married, so you have to learn to lead and if she doesn't want to be on the same page with you in actions, thought and reasonings, Please tell her to look else where.

There is no pity in this game, marriage is based on selection of the best partner for long term survival.


If you like waste your money and mumu yourself, last last na you go suffer. If you think life is tight when you are dating, just wait till you get married. Expenses will likely triple and you need your sanity to think and make money, plan for the family and think of investment.

Common dating you are already having headache, in marriage na die you go die

There is actually nothing serious wrong with you, it's basically human psychology.

It's not just possible to just forget someone you had memories with, you have had sex with your ex on several occasions with different styles and this pictures are still in your head. And I'm sure you had exciting memories with your ex and don't expect to forget all this in a hurry.

You just met your husband and memories fade with time and you also replace old memories with new memories. So concentrate your mind on creating memories with your husband.

The fact that you think of your ex doesn't mean you love him or he was a perfect partner for you, it's just human psychology playing out.

That's why it's advisable for ladies or men to try their best to have fewer partner before marriage because the more partners you have, the more memories you will have that will interfere with your love and acceptance of your husband.


Don't worry, time will heal you but don't make the mistake of going back to your ex for anything.

I pray God save your marriage

Let's look at this from the origin of life, humans just like other animals on earth has basic needs: procreation, company, family among other things.

Right from when humans hit puberty, there is a need for procreation. It's natural and there is nothing we can do to take that away.

In the age past, marriage was not as structured as it is now, a man that marry as many wives as he wants and have as many children he desires. But as the world began to change, cost of living gets high, the need for formal education and taking care of family becomes expensive, it becomes difficult for men to have large family uncared for or for sake of control, no man wants to be irresponsible to have children here and there from different women or men that you are unable to care for

In other to live up to the current life expectations of 21st century, a thinking human who wants to survive will have to look for a partner that both of them can survive together hence the end to look for a suitable partner.

Humans has evoled, if I want to have fewer children and all from one partner, then natural selection has to come to place. I have to select somebody that both of us can live together.

It's natural, it's animal instinct, the thing is humans are advanced animal.

If you decide to choose a partner for temporary gain outside of the need for long tern survival then you are on your own and most likely the union will break.

Beckysexy:
What!?
Just 3 months into the marriage he's already beating you?
Leave that marriage and run for your life.
A guy that beats you up is not worth it.
Even if you settle it, one day he's still gonna do it again or maybe worse

It's not difficult to know people that are not married, they give very awkward unsolicited and never fulfilling advise.

You think to just run away from marriage is easy like when you break up with your fu*k boy?

How can somebody actually get the mind to beat a little child like this? The level of her stupidity is well rooted in compound ignorance.

Some women are heartless and devilish.

Let her suffer for her foolishness, even if she gets bailed tomorrow, the stigma and Shane of a wicked woman will follow her for a long time.

Mine did not really come with any fear. The first test was during my medicals for my first job and second one was before i got married.

In as much as you can't be too careful, i don't joke with unsafe sex. I tried my best to play safe and I'm not into girls.

It's another win for the golden eaglets. Those guys don't disappoint.

If you believe golden eaglets will win click "like" and "share"for Australia.

bukatyne:


Congratulations, God give you both the wisdom to build your home.

The pictures are lovely and event colorful.

1. You did not invite us, not even to the engagement party.

2. Your username Bj4all should change To Bj4(insert your missus' name). You should not be a distributor

Proverbs 5:15-19
15 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. 16 Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? 17 Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love

Thank you

Blackmiserable:


As God Almighty take butter your bread, pray for me make I hammer even if na 500k, na marriage sure pass ooo and then my fiends can scrub and lick my ass.

Amen bro

pocohantas:
OP is funny. At first you said when you marry correct Igbo girl, you have to be ready to spend good money.

Now them done ginger you small, you have shifted ground to you would have preferred something small, but it wasn't what "we" wanted.

People will still question more of you guys decisions and you should be able to stand your ground. That is what men do. You owe no one unnecessary explanations...

Happy Sunday.

Go and sleep. Go and do your wedding the way you want it and leave me alone

ststyreal:
Congrats @ Op, but suffice me to say that this your wifey heh, overwise dey worry her ooooo..na real Igbo babe she be..... Congrats once again and may God bless your home, amen

Amen. Thank you

realtalk19:


Congrats bro, many more blessings and favour in your marriage.your occasions are on point and class. I tap from your annoiting for grace to locate me too. God bless ur home.

Amen. Thank you

Iogobenz:
Do you really want to go there?
I'm ready if you are

I no get your energy abeg. I have more important things to do with my time.

Thank you. Just wish me well and click the next topic

Iogobenz:
These were simple,very clear observations I was cocksure of.
Not like there is anything personal or any of it is important.
Its not a bad thing to marry a richer woman anywhere in the world.Be proud of it.

Well, no be every young guy poor like you.

You use yourself to judge others but not everyone is like you.

You are one of those vanity crew on nairaland.

Anyway, i pray God bless and prosper you to finance your wedding to the extent others will think what you are currently thinking now.

malikah09:
Is she not your work colleague? Or at least your former one ? I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of and I’m not even using it against you.

Guy please do and sleep.

Who needs your opinion?

Iogobenz:
Very obvious for those who know money lol.
Well,love indeed covers all
Good luck to them.

Hahahahaha. Laugh you guys in pidgin.

Keep saying what you don't know

malikah09:
He married his work colleague. So I think they’re on the same level or she probably earns more. Doesn’t matter though, love is love.

Keep thinking what you don't know oooo

Iogobenz:
I did not say support,I said bankrolled!
Anyways,was just a speculation and I am very good when it comes to assessing money.
HML to you all...

Check your dictionary, bankroll means to support financially. If what you meant is sponsor, then you are very wrong.

Thank you for the wishes

Hotworta1:



Hian, how's that your business. Did he complain to you bikonu?

Thank you jare. All men according to their strength.

Iogobenz:
Something tells me the lady bankrolled the whole thing.
But anyway,I might be wrong!
Not like it matters anyway.
And I love the w212 Merc that was used as bride's carrier.

If the bankroll you meant is "support" then you are right. Nobody marries a liability. Family is built by both and not one.

Acidosis:


I tire! More than half of the 8 complicated processes are mere jamboree and products of alien, foreign and imported cultures.

When it's your time, do it the way you want it.

The so called jamborees as you claimed are what we wanted

Blackmiserable:
Congrats man!!!! I could not be happier for you.

That white wedding pics wey your wife just stick out her tongue like say she wan lick you on top stage lmao!!!

Soffrey oo!!!! She like you die.

Thank you. � � � � �

sassysure:
Congrats

But let me correct one statement u made.

When u marry correct igbo lady,U gotta spend the money.
This is a very big fallacy.

I don't know The state u marry into but in my state,
Introduction is a borrowed culture.
Bridal shower is a borrowed culture,pre wedding pictures, etc.


These days u can narrow your marriage ceremony from a to z into 2 days.

Ist day is knocking and paying dowry. Or u can pay dowry early in the morning the next day.
Traditional marriage and church is usually done on the next day.

People will go to church for wedding while the caterers will be busy cooking while music is blasting.
After church, u will do marriage for umunna and everybody will jolly and that's the end.

It has nothing to do with money.

Some people will do traditional and head straight to court and it has nothing to do with money either.
Pls don't use that language as others reading will assume that's how it is.

Once again, may your marriage be fruitful

That could be true for some persons but not for everyone.

It's always as you want it. This was how we wanted it and I'm soo happy it went according to plan

Acidosis:
People like you make wedding so expensive and complicated!

1. Introduction
2. Reception for introduction and white wedding
3. Traditional wedding
4. Court wedding (registry)
5. White wedding
6. Bridal shower
7. Engagement party
8. After-party
9. Thanksgiving

You go still born pikin and call on same people to come rejoice with you both on- and off-line!

Haba!
Una dey try well well.


Anyway, congrats to you and your wife.

Life is as you want it. I could have just done trad and court but that wasn't what we wanted.

Thank you for the wishes

LilMissFavvy:
Woow......nice couple with charming smiles. May this lovely smiles last on their faces a life time!

Thank you

sisisioge:


Congratulations... I like the photo stories. May God bless your home.

Amen. Thank you

Pavore9:
Congratulations.

Thank you

madridguy:
Congratulations bro. May God bless your home.

If your wife get sister let me know

Hahahahha, thank you jor.

She has a wonderful sister

janedearie:
lovely pictures.
congratulations, may God bless your home.

Amen. Thank you

Few pictures from bridal shower

desiregold:
Congrats op. You and your wife are cute.

I pray for God's blessings and favor in your home.


But, wait ooo, for this Bubu regime una get mind host people for different occasions? Trad? White wedding? And even on engagement party too?

If I try do trad wedding with a budget of 100/150 people, next na to drag hubby for court wedding involving only 4 people, Wedding done finish for me be dat.

It was as God would have it, everything was easy and beautiful.

This is not even all, 1st & second introduction with bridal shower are not even here. When you marry a correct Igbo babe, you have got to spend the money.