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OH chei smh for you bro..... you got it all WRONG FROM THE START

do you know what a REBOUND is?
A rebound is the guy ladies date immediately after a break with the one they were dating/married to.... you were the rebound

You have put the CART before the HORSE.... see bro the first things to have done was to CLEAR HER HEAD from the HURT and REMINISCENCE OF THE PAST RELATIONSHIP...

She clearly isn't over it, so she sees you through the eyes of her EX HUSBAND and clearly she would say all men are the same because she gave that marriage her ALL.... and she only has SOME left for you.

She is PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGED.... you could have taken simple steps for FIX her before ENGAGING HER.

She may also Feel you are not going to be FINANCIALLY ABLE TO MEET UP TO HER NEEDS unlike her hubby and you may soon change too.

So LOVE is NEVER the first thing but usually the third or last thing when considering Dating or Marrying someone especially one who had a BAD RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE in the recent past....


SOLUTION.... Meet a counselor and take her there... FIGHT to stay together. Delay the Marriage Plan and focus on her kids and on her MIND... COMMUNICATE WITH HER ALOT.... and not LOVEY LOVEY chats... but CORE discussions that will clear her Mind.

Fmartin:
Hello! nairalenders, a friend of mine needs your advice.

'' I am in a relationship with a lady who is in her mid 30s. We have been together since we were teenagers.

Along the line, we got separated from eachother in search for a better livelihood.

After years of being away from eachother, with the help of mobile phones, we re-united.

To my surprise, yet not disappointed, Jane (not real name) told me she is married with two kids; a boy and a girl. That she had also had a divorced in the wake of various misunderstanding with her husband.

I felt we were destined to be together not minding the kids she already had, i went ahead to and asked her to marry me. Jane agreed.

Our distance relationship kept going well. I kept hustling for money to execute our marriage.

I terminated every relationship i had.

I will call Jane over the phone and we will talk for hours. Bombarding her with love. Jane also visits me, but not frequent.

We kept rolling until one day she told me that she don't want to marry. That all men are the same, recounting her failed marriage as an example.

I am really depressed knowing all my efforts and plans have been truncated by the woman of my dream.

Starting over again isn't the big deal, the problem is the time i had wasted and my undying love for Jane.

Jane keeps insisting that if she is to marry me, i won't get along with her kids, even though i had assured her severally that there won't be problems, yet to no avail. All she keeps bringing up is that , 'men are all the same'. ''

Pls nairalanders , a friend needs your advice.

I MEAN IT LIKE for real o

Shugavee:
hmmmm really?? U dont mean it??

an ORGANISM? Lolzzzz like AMOEBA?

There is no such thing as "CHRISTIAN by birth".

Pls confess Jesus as your Lord and Savior NOW.

Hyinkar97:
I am a Christian by virtue of birth but I can’t remember the last time I went to church and even when I do, I go just because I play the piano and not to listen to the sermon. So I had a very scary dream over night and I woke up singing “Oh when the saints are marching in...” . This is no joke. I’m totally serious about it

Repent from your evil ways! The end is near! ���

WOW This is shocking.... you didnt even post the link... well HERE IS THE STORY THAT YOU WANT US ALL TO CLICK YOUR SITE TO READ

Pastor says I should leave my wife & go back to my ex

I need your advice on what to do.

Dear Bukky,

I’m reaching out from Aba, Abia state. I got married four years ago and I and my wife got separated after seven months of marriage.

To be sincere, most of the fault came from me. She was pregnant at the time of our separation and that baby girl is now three years old.

I later got married to another woman last year December and she already has a son for me, too.

Early this year, I started having serious unrest in my spirit telling me that I am going against God’s plan for my life.

I met several pastors and they advised me to quit my second marriage and go back to my first wife.

The last pastor I met told me that if I continue with my second wife, things will not go well with me. He said that the devil will have free access to my life.

Now I’m about to end my second marriage but my first wife is not willing to come back to me.

I’m still begging her because she has not remarried but she has a serious date.

I need your advice on what to do.
_________________

AND THE PERSON WAS ANSWERED BELOW

Dear reader,

I find this a little confusing. So you are going to dump your wife for no reason just to go back to your ex-wife who you wrongly left few years back.

By your own admission, you messed up your first marriage with the things you did wrong and this appears to me as a repetition of your previous mistake. If your second wife has done you no wrong, why are you even thinking of leaving her?

Secondly, your ex already has something great going for her. Why are you trying to ruin it?

My man, this is a woman you left four years ago. If she has finally found the courage to move on and someone who will take her as a single mum, please don’t stand in her way.

You asked for my advice. I say leave that woman alone and face your new marriage.

I would recommend you ask your first wife for forgiveness. Apologise sincerely for all the things you know you did wrong. And move on with your life.

But then again, it is a spiritual thing and I won’t be the one to deviate you from your faith and what you believe in.

The ball is now squarely in your court, sir.

linda190:
Is this a true man of God or he is obeying the scripture...what is this? Came across this article on www.evrytin.com

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Thanks

this is a 2017 story... so let us forget about it... she must either be married now or dead.

Pls post things that are 2018 relevant

you didnt put your location... if u are in lagos, its at OSHODI

you cant... even the LANDLORD collecting rent from another side from her o... one corner rent. so she is actually the one who can send u away o....
MIND YA BUSINESS BRO

nfour4:
Good day nairalanders. I have a serious problem, going on in my compound, last month one of my neighbour been a student graduated from school, Brought an opening and the landlord been a lover of money was willing to bring in anybody into the house, but a friend alerted me of her cousin, that is in need of a room so I told the landlord about it and he accepted her in. My compound is a very simple and small compound with 2rooms to the left and 3 single room to the right. A family man is occupying the 2 bedroom with his wife and children. My friends cousin has been a problem to the house. the number of men that visits her are uncountable per day, she keeps on making noise in the house, as if she is the only one paying rent. and comes back late at night by 12am, 1am or 2am and hoping to find the main gate open. She takes her bath inside the open space in the compound, payment of nepa bill is optional to her, just as many other things. And we have spoken to the landlord about it and he is doing nothing about it. The married man wants to pack out because of her. His children are young, and still growing he is not comfortable with the whole thing going on. this man is not financially strong, his looking for money like mad to pack out. And I think am the cause of all these things. please how can i evict this lady before month end
I need help

I can create o. bring your destiny let me make it

fresherdanU:
and you that cannot create a mice, what are you.
bitter leaf cynthia.

apostle must hear of this

Euouae:
But she get good fat laps.

You just need to use pillow or towel to cover her head and finish her from the back.

Processor speed, hard disk size, virus, malware, non-genuine windows

lordcyno:
I installed Photoshop cs4 on my pc but whenever I launch it it will not respond.


note: the pc have 4gb ram and it's 64bits

she is UGLY o... YOUgly.

make up enhanced her.

IT IS NEVER WISE TO SPEND A MONEY YOU DO NOT HAVE AND YOU DIDNT ENTER BBNAIJA TO WIN.

Sit your ass down and clap for the winner and plan for your own money

read it twice.... no biggie

Pentecostal is an error.... no church is pentecostal unless they have been over 50years and above... the day the HOLYGHOST CAME in the book of ACTS has nothing to do with his arrival... it just happened to be on that day... if you notice.... THOSE WHO WERE CELEBRATING PENTECOST...ACTUALLY DID NOT RECEIVE HIM... THEY WERE NOT EVEN AWARE HE CAME... BECAUSE HE DIDNT COME FOR THEM.

now to your question....

A PASTOR IS ONE APPOINTED BY GOD TO SERVE THE PEOPLE AND NOT TO LORD IT OVER THEM BUT TO SERVE WITH THE SPIRITUAL GIFTS AND THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT HE HAS BEEN GIVEN FOR THE BODY OF CHRIST, TO NUTURE THEM AND RAISE THEM AS DISCIPLES FOR HIS SECOND COMING. HE IS TO BE ACCOUNTABLE AS A BISHOP OVER THE PEOPLE OVER HIM HE IS TO SHEPHERD AND NOT GIVEN TO WINE OR WOMEN OR MONEY This is a Lay man's definition

but here is what the bible says....

[b]1 Timothy 3:2-13 TMT

Pastoral Leadership in the Church
If anyone wants to provide leadership in the church, its good! But there are preconditions: A leader must be well-thought-of, committed to his wife, cool and collected, accessible, and hospitable. He must know what he’s talking about, not be overfond of wine, not pushy but gentle, not thin-skinned, not money-hungry. He must handle his own affairs well, attentive to his own children and having their respect. For if someone is unable to handle his own affairs, how can he take care of God’s church? He must not be a new believer, lest the position go to his head and the Devil trip him up. Outsiders must think well of him, or else the Devil will figure out a way to lure him into his trap.

The same goes for those who want to be servants in the church: serious, not deceitful, not too free with the bottle, not in it for what they can get out of it. They must be reverent before the mystery of the faith, not using their position to try to run things. Let them prove themselves first. If they show they can do it, take them on. No exceptions are to be made for women—same qualifications: serious, dependable, not sharp-tongued, not overfond of wine. Servants in the church are to be committed to their spouses, attentive to their own children, and diligent in looking after their own affairs. Those who do this servant work will come to be highly respected, a real credit to this Jesus-faith.[/b]

if these do not answer your question then you really are not looking for answers but argument

Omooba77:
These days anyone that does one thing or the other in Church; most especially Pentecostal, is referred to as a Pastor.
Please, what is your Definition of a Pastor?

ABSTINENCE

Because ONCE YOU POP/POKE you can not STOP

lol girls can have the guy on d side but will stay married to the never ending flow of cash... IF SHE RUNS WITH SOME CASH N SPENDS ON THE GUY... wont it finish? LOL... u really do not understand the practicality of what i am saying

purem:
@blackpanthar if you fly her to Dubai and spend lavishly on her, do you know that the love between both of you is temporary if she later finds out what you are?

She could aswell make her way back to the poor guy that is good in bed and also feeds him with your money

There is alots of sense in the OPs

MINISTRY HAS CLOSED.....

oh sister, you can inbox me to be a witness o of the gospel of my performance but am never gonna BRAG by saying I can satisfy u beyond your wildest dreams... on a normal day.. my penetration can be 30mins-45mins and pre-intimacy for me takes over 2hrs. so am just a regular guy... but I have seen that MONEY has gotten me more ladies than SEX.

I have also seen women who are married for over 12years reminiscing on how foooolishly they almost chose sexual performance over wealth when they were youths

Shugavee:
lol don't tell me u r lame on bed

bro maybe u really do not know what i posted.... the OP made sense that is too temporary... she may LOVE him for his sex but in future will be UNHAPPY COS HE IS BROKE...

meanwhile.. with me SHE MAY NOT LOVE for sex BUT when kids come, family needs occur... etc... her definition of LOVE will upgrade.... LOVE IS NOT MEASURED IN SEX but in PROVISION and SECURITY.

kimbraa:
On the contrary, she could go on an expensive vacation to Dubai with you 'cause you've got the cash but a one minute man and end up being deeply in love with the one who can't afford a vacation but knows how to sexually gratify her. So you see, there's sense in the op's nonsense.

pls stop posting thread on NL if you are still HIGH from whatever you smoking..

Its so funny that u think its PERFORMANCE that keeps Ladies... unfortunately for you... SATISFY YOUR GIRL SEXUALLY WITH 20000% PERFORMANCE and let me buy her a one way ticket to DUBAI.... she will break up with you with the FAMOUS LINE... :"ITS NOT YOU, ITS ME" and she will dump u.

Sex is OVERATED... its something that only jobless people or those who have spare time RANT about.... when u make hardcore cash.... she will moan like a poorrnstar for you even if na 5minutes you can perform, and she will be loyal to you because.... SEXUAL PERFORMANCE pays no one's bills but MONEY DOES.

Bro, get wealthy and see the difference because one day you may LIVE to see age 70 and more beautiful girls will be around but you won't have the same strength anymore.

HARDLABOR:
I have come across numerous threads on this forum about guys crying that they have low erection and not staying long during sex

If you don't have the ability to fvck your girl to the edge of satisfaction, my brother she will look for another guy to do the job while turning you to her ATM since you're not useful sexually

What a girl really need is a good sex and you have to believe me that only 20% of Nigeria guys can deliver it to them

If you know that you don't have the ability to fvck, please don't even bother yourself to have a girlfriend coz she will using has her ATM

Note; if you fvck a girl like 3 or 4 times and you're not good at it she will disrespect you and never give you her body again

Goan hustle, don't have a girlfriend if you can't fvck very well .

he is not on Nairaland

pls what drug do you take to get these depths of insanityyy

you just vomiting empty conclusions based on only your own point of view. na wa o

i actually did but if you didnt get my points then u may never understand it even if i listed it

funmisticqueen:
you just beat around the bush without answering the question

I could help but i suspect you do not even know how to program so u would need someone to DO EVERY DAMN THING for you... bro that is not cool... if you could do the interface then I code the rest. its a cumbersome job to create an ANTI-MALWARE program or antivirus

emmy4lov:
hi,

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kindly reach me on whatsapp 07065173203 if you can help me out

always STATE YOUR PRICE.

oh so you know your Parents did the same too.....

people like u feel comfortable when others are in your category of failure.

people like u can never accept those with higher moral discipline than themselves....

what a shame

iamsirmichael1:
Story.... Na your type dey kill themselves with porn and masturbation

stories that your parents acted abi? or their parents acted......
see don't full yourself and think everyone is a perv or is into what your moral standards permit.


there are still those of us who observe the OLD WAYS and live in discipline.... we will rule the future and save youths from bringing more RUIN to themselves.

dont come here asking silly questions is you already have a template of answers u want to hear... the decadence amongst youths is too much but there are youths that have not been seen in BBN or on tweets that still uphold moral standards o.

TheUpsetGirl1:
stories

Lol
society painted relationship as FREE PASS to sex... so LADIES and GUYS go into it for such reasons even if they claim TEAMVIRGIN

but the issue is WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP are you talking about....

SOME RELATIONSHIPS have NOTHING profitable, like the guy CHOSE THE GIRL only for PHYSICAL REASONS, and the Lady chose the guy for MONETARY REASONs- so in such relationships SEX IS THE PAYMENT FOR SERVICES DELIVERED.

But in other relationships, the guy loves communicating with the gurl cos of her intelligence, humility, godliness and more..... and the Girl chose the guy because he is serious with Life, hardworking, funny, god fearing and a good listener with great communication skills..... YOU CAN NOT TELL ME THAT THEY WILL BE DOING SEX like the ones I mentioned above... INFACT they have more Marriage prospects compared to the ones I earlier mentioned.....

SO THIS IS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION... and BTW the stats is not 90% but 70% because there are some of us who VALUE the future more than the present and are so focused and preparing for it that we do not have time for Ladies and flings.
Jah bless

TheUpsetGirl1:
Apart/other than sex what else do Nigerian guys value in a relationship?

Nigerian guys are fond of saying "sex is the only thing Nigerian ladies got to offer",,,now other than sex what else do you guys value in a relationship??

Nigerian guys can't do without sex.
What you value is what you shall be given -Abraham Lincoln.

We ladies value money, that's why you guys give us the money.

90% of Nigerian guys don't go into relationship because of true love, all they want is "sex".

or are you guys going to tell me that you people now value money and your girlfriends should start giving you guys money


Nigerian guys value sex more than their own parents.


They're all going to avoid this question now..


what do you people value other than sex??

if ladies say they want rich guys, some guys will start saying "what are you going to offer him in return? "

he'll be offered the only thing Nigerian guys value.....

Lord Bless my hustle o

wow... truly an an unexamined life is not worth living... ANYWAY...
you made too many mistakes against yourself more than against HER. See, if you took those three years to IMPROVE YOUR LIFE AND DISCIPLINE YOUR ERECTION and to control your sexual appetites till u become RESPONSIBLE... by now u would be the guy she would have married.

Marriage is not the end of the world and neither is it UNIVERSITY ADMISSION or GREEN CARD to a better country IT IS ACTUALLY EMPLOYMENT to a COMPANY you may only be able to retire from when either of YOU DIES.

SO YOU SHOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT IT WOULD TAKE CORE PREPARATION... in nigeria we celebrate ENTRY too much more than WELFARE or BALANCE.

You should have read books, attended relationship seminars and met counselors in order to UNDERSTAND the female folk and how to really manage them... and such level of UNDERSTANDING would give u untold PEACE by now and a great marriage with her...

LADIES just like GUYS like you also expect that their partners would WAIT or be UNDERSTANDING with them forever... but it never happens... even if the person were an ANGEL that forgives CHEATING... do not let one small demon sit on ya shoulder to make u creative to TEST their limits BECAUSE when true love is taken for granted... it will be lost and never recovered... I have learned this the had way.

So bro, clean yourself up, control your URGES and be a man and MARRY.. The biggest room in life is the room for improvement.. shiit happens bro even to the best of us.

ONLY make sure this time, the CHANGE is really genuine.. even if you have to go for deliverance or cleansing.. u must else u will never have peace n may even sleep with your daughter's school friends o.

I feel your pain bro.... take heart and move on to become better

goodmike7:
Please guys I really need your help and best advise on how to move on.... I believe this is a very good Sive to vent my fear,anger and regrets.

I was in a relationship for about 3 years. We were madly in love with each other. I dis some silly things which I regret and pray everyday it does not happen in my marriage. I have this very bad and disgusting habit of sleeping with either my girlfriends sister or friend. I do not know how it always happen but it must happen and this has been going Since I started dating.

Back to the main issue. I cheated countless times and she forgave me and when she did I almost died because it hurt me so much hence I understood what she must have felt when I slept with her friends. Fast forward to last year. She was done with her school and we were supposed to live together and start a promising relationship. She took in and I was so scared and convinced her I wasn’t ready to be a father and she aborted it ☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️ She broke up with me but I begged and begged and she accepted me again.

It’s worthy of more that my biggest fear was her anger and she likes to party too much and her friends were too slay queenish. I loved her but was scared because of her past ooo. She kept telling me I will value her more when we finally broke up one day because I wasnt putting enough effort it seriousnss. She left and got married with a child and ever since then for over a year I have not gotten over her and cry everyday. To love another is a very big issue and have been single ever since. We still chat sometimes but I know deep within me I am still
madly in love with her. Please no insults just advise how best can I move on. I miss and still love her. What do I do ☹️☹️