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Humans created and decides who wears skirts and not skirts deciding who wears it.
Men wearing skirts is not the problem. The problem is the people running their mouths.

A lot of dumb posters here.
How can a man get an erection in such a situation? Its very difficult.
Sometimes trousers do fold outwards when it leaves the belt area giving the false impression that theres an erection. Male posters should know this.
Dumb thread.

You can walk around with a normal "ABA-made" loose boxers even to a shop outside. But try it with these types na

I think the best way to solve this kidnapping wahala is to seriously declare NO MORE PAYMENT OF RANSOMS.
After one or two kidnappings and no ransoms paid, it would be a thing of the past.

*Kails*:


thanks for the compliment guys.

Why didn't you take part in the Miss Nairaland contest? In fact why haven't I heard your name mentioned among the queens of Nairaland? What went wrong? Do they hate you?
Am not regular here so I don't know your history with the folks at the romance section.

*Kails*:
MsDarkSkin.

lol. Are you really Msdarkskin? Is this your latest ID? You came up with; Msd@rksin, Mzdarkskin, Jamo whatever and now *kails*. What happened to all those IDs?

Anyway you are not qualified to be the most well -behaved cos I still clearly remember all your brawl with ragdollz.
I recommend you join the beauty contests in the romance section. Thats where you might win a trophy cos you are beautiful. You are in the wrong contest.

But it is normal for humans to take cow breast milk Abi?
Selfish stewpid humans.

GPRS speed in Nigeria = 7 kb/s.

EDGE speed in Nigeria = 25 kb/s.

3.5G speed in Nigeria = 400 kb/s.

LTE speed in Nigeria = 2 mb/s.




GPRS speed outside Nigeria = 50 kb/s.

EDGE speed outside Nigeria = 250 kb/s.

3.5G speed outside Nigeria = 5 mb/s.

LTE speed outside Nigeria = 35 mb/s.

Flytefalls: *Sigh*, ok ok.

Quick reply:
I was saying that partial dependency on your man is fine, it's actually healthy :|. The original post was about parents so I was explaining that in the scenarios you gave, she seemed to be somewhat vulnerable because she seemed dependent. She needed to grow a little more before escaping into some Bridget Jones fantasy about men imo. Of course some friends stab you in the back, but are all men heros at the end of the day? NO! NO! NO!

I'll just conclude that happiness today can easily become sorrow tomorrow as you know. And some of us have such amazing friends that we have planned to meet them for a Turkish meal later on, then "cotching" at my place ... and somewhere across London my beautiful Fiance still exists .

"She needed to grow a little more. . ."

Who is talking about growth here?

Who is saying that all men are heroes?

Flytefalls: Oh but can't you see, a woman who is vulnerable opens herself up to future emotional damage if she loves too freely and openly. Ideally, she should strengthen and protect her heart before she engages herself in a relationship with even the best of men. Then when she is sure he is right, she can drown herself into him . A dear friend is a peer that can walk through life with you and support you without the complications that romance presents.

Hey, partial dependency is what relationships are defined by! But the reality is that few women meet their partners under such heroic/generous/self-medicating circumstances as the ones you mentioned in your original post. So a parent is out to protect until they can trust.

What exactly do you mean by "love too freely and openly"? Such thing doesn't exist cos it's only when a lady meets a guy she admires and the conditions are right that any loving begins. Isn't it?

Every lady strengthens herself and protects her heart before engaging in any relationship, so all you wrote above is nothing new.

I asked you previously, haven't you heard of instances where these so-called dear friends stab you at back? Do you think that they are always the ones who make the best of companions?

I never said relationships are defined by partial dependencies. You earlier complained that I transferred parental responsibilies to a man and am only saying it wasn't totally done but partially.

This has nothing to do with being intelligent, whom you like or whatever. By "well-behaved" I mean which poster on Nairaland has most of his/her posts filled with words of politeness, non-abusive, humble, peaceful and kind.

I think that poster needs to be recognized so that others can see and have something to emulate. Maybe it can cure some of the insanities on this forum.

Seun should not be qualified to be nominated because he may be artificial considering the fact that as chairman of Nairaland, he has to lead by example.

So who should this poster be?

Flytefalls: 190 will always be my anti-hero

Re your post from my own perspective, if this young lady is as vulnerable as you point her out to be (in many different scenarios), then perhaps a man is not what she should be placing her fragile self with. You're just displacing her dependency from her parents to her man. I don't like that. Her best friend could be substituted here and do just as much if not more for her self-esteem.

Are you saying that her best friend who probably is female is the one whom she should trust her fragile self with? What do you have to say about people who get hurt by their best friends? Besides, I never TOTALLY displaced her dependency from her parents to the man. It was only partial. So what's wrong with partial dependency on a man?
A best friend can be substituted, but I think a boyfriend will do more. How strong is the relationship with a best friend compared with a relationship with a boyfriend? Do people really keep best friends these days.

Flytefalls: 190hhhhhh you're too cruel (hilarious!). The way I'm laughing at this .....

Am as young as he is. But one needs to evolve and grow up with time. There's is no sign of growing up with that dude ever since I knew him on this forum 5 years ago.
He never draws a line between seriousness and being playful.

nnenna.1:
How will they exceed the bad eggs when the bad eggs are calling the shots and are regulating the inflow of new faces in the scene?

To a large extent the ruling class today is comprised of corrupt individuals of long ago
and their offshoots.

Revolution is what we need. But who wants to die and fight for Nigeria?

We don't normally know the true intentions of these politicians till the grab power, therefore I think the question of the bad folks filtering out people and deciding who gets in or out based on their ideology cannot be a way to stop the good guys from taking control.
Besides revolution is not the answer. What if a group of the same bad folks leads the revolt for their own selfish interest only for the nation to return to square onel?

nnenna.1:
But I am digressing.

The problem isn't even that of perception. The main problem in going into politics is that the political industry (yes, it is an industry) is managed and ran by bonafide thieves who have an interest in keeping Nigeria the way it is for personal gain.

A good man in politics is a sheep among wolves and eventually even he becomes a wolf.

Sorry for the pessimism here, but the only way to make a significant difference is by operating in a completely replaced political class.

Or going grassroots.

We don't need just a good man going into politics to be a lone sheep among a pack of wolfs. We need good MEN in numbers to equate or exceed the number of bad eggs in charge of governance. That would make a difference. Dont you think so?

nnenna.1:
We have to define what "politcal aspirations" means in this context. If you are talking about merely advancing or moving up the ranks as an office title holder, then you are right. Being a politician by name will happen for you in Nigeria regardless of whether you are crook by perception or in reality.


If you are a well-meaning person labeled guilty by association, your aspirations for public good HOWEVER will likely be sabotaged by the jaded masses who will distrust your every move, alongside political rivalries who will milk
that distrust for every bit of juice that it can leak.

Even if you are successful in implementing the policies you hold dear your reputation will only be ambiguous or murky at best. Even the effectiveness of your policies will suffer.

All you stated above is only a temporary problem. With good performance over time people will realize you mean well and give you all the trust.

Gbawe: @OP.

We need to set emotions aside and understand that, for now, we must simply support the lesser devils till the beautiful ones are born. We must learn to move from A to B. pointless being stuck at point A and insisting you belong at Z. 'Saints' cannot thrive in politics because it has been bastardized to be a get-rich-quick scheme for a few. Naturally, that sort of environment will attract crooks, layabouts and desperado while repelling decent men and women.

Given the reality of our politics that you highlight, it is futile to rant and curse all day like mad creatures. What each and everyone of us should do is to first pragmatically accept what Nigerian politics is about currently i.e a congregation of corrupt folks, gangsters, jobbers and opportunists.

The next thing to then identify, among those 'undesirables', are the leaders still delivering or able to deliver progress and development. If we do this then evolution and improving political sophistication will do the rest and we will ultimately begin to see the good guys becoming the mainstay in our politics.

Did you see the part in bold? What makes you think that the beautiful ones are not yet born? In my opinion they were born since Nigeria was born. They simply refrained from politics because in your own words; "it is has been bastardized to be a get-rich-quick scheme for a few". If the good folks sit back and watch devils run governance then where would change come from? The good guys need to participate to neutralize the high concentration devils in the political affairs of the country before we start seeing any signs of progress. If you keep adding fresh water to a cup of poison we should expect that eventually the cup would contain fresh water and not the poison anymore.

nnenna.1:
if you are labeled guilty by the people you are as good as dead in your political aspirations.

Politics is all about perception.

Why would my political aspirations be dead if am labelled guilty? ( without proof). What about the current political office holders? Where they not labelled guilty when they enrolled? But they still succeeded in their aspirations.

nnenna.1:
Even the good ones who align with politics are labeled guilty by association.

Nigerian politics is an automatic ticket to being labeled as corrupt.

As it is, to effect change (or attempt to anyway) while protecting your image it's just best to go grassroots.

You only rephrased the whole point I made that makes the good ones stay away from politics.
If more worthy people care less about the labelling as being guilty by association and take part in politics, they can eventually rebrand the game with time for good.

It appears the Nigerian leadership is full of bad guys because the good guys stay away from politics with the notion that politics in Nigeria is a dirty game not fit for the upright people. They prefer to sit back and watch the bad guys run the nation to destruction, and only run their mouths criticizing the bad guys like what we have on this forum.
If you know you are honest and have what it takes to provide good leadership are you doing any good to this nation if you stay away from Nigerian politics because it's a "dirty game" for the bad guys? Why should you complain of bad leadership if you left politics for the bad guys? Politics is a dirty game in Nigeria simply because the good guys left it for the bad guys to run. If the entire association of the good people of Nigeria throw their hats into the ring of Nigerian politics won't they succeed in making politics a clean game and changing the situation of country?

190-the-clown:
I always knew this Obasanjo looking old cargo called blackteeth was a peodophile

hes probably been chased off some girl's houze by her parents and came here to spew rash

wen u get daughter for future invite the whole Jerusalem to come see her cos u want her to be better

olodo

Is this necessary? I would ignore you cos I have long realized you are a mad man. It doesn't make sense beating up the mentally ret@rded.

cantell: ^^bad parent in the making, No offense.

So what do you suggest?

Nigerian parents seem to be uncomfortable when they find out their daughters are dating cos of the scary thought of having a baby out of wedlock. No male visitors allowed. If one is found, the father confronts with a gun or dog or mum comes out with a kitchen knife or with the company of the chested sons. Parents seem to forget that anything can happen when their daughters are away from home. Therefore all they have to do is educate their daughters properly and leave the rest for God. Driving away male visitors is not the answer to guarantee the safety of their daughters from having a foetus, and maybe they are driving away some little benefits too.
Before parents drive away male visitors did they get the true details from their daughter that fully explained how she managed to escaped from danger the previous time she nearly got hurt? The daughter never mentioned the superman boyfriend who helped to rescued her cos of the fear of letting her parents know she is keeping a boyfriend.
Some parents may have noticed a reduced rate at which their daughters demand for money and some stuffs in addition to looking more gorgeous. They get happy thinking she has finally learnt to be responsible with money or probably the pocket-money she was giving 7 months ago still sustains her. Big thanks to the boyfriend playing a parental role.
Some parents may have noticed their daughters looking dull, depressed and lonely. They came to her with some panadol and a glass of water. Some days later she meets a nice guy and she became full of life like never before. Of course the parents would marvel at the wonders of Panadol.
Why can't parents appreciate the beautiful thing of having an additional person who loves and takes care of their daughters?

The advanced countries of this world have gone through alot of hell to get to where they are tody. They have invented and experimented with different approaches and technologies for dealing with the issues that humans face. Some strategy failed and some succeeded. But finally they got a winning formula that made them progress.
Here in Nigeria, we dont need to start inventing a winning strategy from scratch. We can look at what our foreign counterparts have done and simply COPY AND PASTE.
I think it's quite a big shame on us that despite the information and technologies that the advanced countries have made available for us, we still can't use them to enhance our rapid development. When these advanced countries were developing, they never had the kind of information and technologies that are available to us Africans today. It is very much easier to copy someone's answers during an exam than to write yours fresh from your head. The answers are already there for us, and we still we can't copy and paste.
Who placed a curse on Africans? Please lets start asking for forgiveness from whatever it is.

Is this the new kind of trash thread to be seen on the Frontpage daily?

Anyone who says that Mohamed Jamal is not white should follow him to a 1950's restaurant in America and see whether he gets served or not. That's the true test of whiteness.