I strongly believe that you already know the truth that your hubby is having an extra marital affair. Yes! that is just what is taking his attention away from you. However, accepting the truth now will enable you face the challenge squarely than living in denial.

Listen carefully, nagging or fighting him will make you either lose or fight for a longer time if you will think twice about what am about to say now. Get out of your frustration, pity party, complaining to friends and family and let God in to fight the battle for winning your hubby back to yourself. Pray like never before, fast and remind God that when He created Adam, He gave Him Eve only without adding Evelyn and others. Put confusion in that extra marital affairs in the spiritual realm and see the wonders of God make manifest in the physical.

Get on your knees in his absence, cry to God and stand on your feet while his at home to love him to submission. Remember, when God is involved everything must turn around. Sincerely this is my personal experience and today my testimonies are endless.

I have been on and off IUCD since 2008. This method to me has been working for me maybe because it's non hormonal. Each time we are ready for another child I remove it and fix it back 2months after delivery. With this method the woman need not to wait for her system to return to normal before conception happens because it's very possible for her the same month she removed t talking from my experience.

We have a son that is just 4 months.

My wife always take emergency pills e.g combination after intercourse.

I don't think that's how other couples go about it.

Experience couples in the house. Please share your wealth of experience on birth control and family planning and how to go about it and method.

How did you go about your birth control and how effective it has been.
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I ve been on and off IUCD since 2008, it's been very ok and effective for me maybe because it's non hormonal. Each time we are ready for another child I remove it and fix it back 2month s after delivery.

I fixed the current since 2012 til now no stress at all. In my opinion, non hormone is d best cos u don't need wait for Ur body to return to normal before conception happens, chances of pregnancy same month of removal is higher talking from my experience.

Only those that don't know the God / doesn't know the ability of Jesus Christ and the significant of the blood Jesus shed on the cross of calvary practice that nonsense safety pin

Commit everything concerning u in the hands of God and go freely for JESUS IS INCHARGE. nothing committed in His hand goes wrong.

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So deeply touched. Take heart the good Lord that has strengthened consoled and comforted u till this day wil never forsake u.

Many more will come to You and stay. You will no longer bury your young. I decree that henceforth you will see the beginning of your child (ren) but you will not see their end. they will be d ones to bury you in your Very VERY OLD AGE. You will see your children's children in Jesus Name.

It is well with you. May his soul rest in peace

Was about 6_7mths preggy for my 3rd baby and my 1st baby about 4-5yrs old raised my top in d church and say mummy your stomach is too big what did you eat. Guess what everywhere was calm when he said that so few people beside us heard him and started laughing.

Op I feel strongly u r very economical with the truth concerning the old man. I guess u hv lost ur moral compass that u don't mind going to fornication with a man old enough to be ur father. Hv it in mind that the cain he used for his ex is still remaining in the market. infact urs will be bigger cain because u deceived him with ur fake distraction in the name of love. Home breaker

It takes two to tango. Remember the two shall not walk/work together except they agree. It seems to you that intimacy start from outside to inside (ie. pre-intimacy to sex) no it should start from inside. Start from telling her things her ears needs to hear always, touching, showing her care and value always n reassuring her of her beauty always on bed hv sexual discussion n no critics no matter how naive she may sound but tell her how u wish it could be. If only you will be patient enough to groom her the result will be spendid for both of u.

Hv n mind that hooking up with a side chic to make up will only cos u unbearable pain at the long run. Be wise marriage is for men and not for boys.

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Our grandparents practised it. i think there no harm in it.

My opinion

bigtt76: The love for babies would make you go any length dear.

Our grandparents practised it. i think there no harm in it.

My opinion

snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice

Honestly op you sound selfish. You mean u have considered CHEATING on your wife because she decided to walk/work with God the way she perceived it to be. Try it, the plaque of Pharoh and the Egyptians will be far better for you alone than the nemesis of the wrath of God on you if you try cheat on ur wife because of her new find faith.

Advise : Try fall in love with Jesus Christ for real and maybe také ur wife to churches where there are real Women that preaches with good makeups and good dress sense (eg ) House on the Rock, TŘEM, David Christian Centre, DayStar, and my church Harvester International Church (HICC) She will encouraged to look real cute.

Dont be doomed for these girls that open breast and panties walking along all angles looking for lifes to destroy. u will not appreciate what u hv now until u loss it.

Cheating is an extremely bad omen that must be discouraged. whether from the man or owman the effect of it to the cheated can never be overemphasized. it breaks trust, loyalty, confidence , love etc. the disgusting part of it is that the cheating partner pretends not to be aware before going into it. this is quite traumatic that one will betray the peace, happiness health and sincere love of his/her partner without a rethink.

Op just try as much as possible to put urself 2gether though not easy but i assure you time will heal your pain if only she is honestly willing to turn a new leave. and keep to the marriage vows

joeydozzy: What's with people and that kind of schoolbag

Isn't it too much for kids

pls for once learn to appreciate good things and goodies flows to you.
if you thinks yours is the best pls flaunt it sharp sharp we want to see.

I will advise you focus your love imterest in someone that is not a liability - has a handwork or working n earning money so the financial burden wont rest on you alone. secondly u should know that all fingers are not equal so if u can foot the bill of elaborate wedding without borrowing why dont u consider meeting ur pastor for a very simple wedding which am sure all pastors use to advise members than going into debt.
Dont forget MARRIAGE is much deeper than wedding itself. u should direct ur effort in how u can make a good marriage with ur spouse amd not wasting energy on how to have elaborate wedding like ur friends.

So glad to see you really understood what my points and advise were. there is nothing any living creature can do to deter a serial cheat to stop. only GOD can change him. remember saul the tormentor whom no one believed anything good to come out from God arrested him and changed him to Paul he never go back to his old ways.

Am surprise many women dont know you can change situation in your home with ur two knees and the words of ur mouth. praying for a change does not mean you are weak but ask youself if you kill your husband or divorce him or worst still decide to sleep with different men have you achieved the best result to set as a legacy for your children or younger ones to emulate? are you sure you are satisfied?

Marriage is meant for two different individuals who are strong in different areas and weak in different areas. one should be able to help each other in their weakness so he/she will become strong.

hunterfit: I am a bit surprised by the comments on here. I noticed the OP attempted to explain the context in which the sermon was preached and I think it is reasonable enough. He advised the lady in question to be patient and prayerful but the lady took matters into her hand and ended up in jail, is a cheating man worth all that trouble? If you do not accept cheating as a weakness on the part of a man, if you do not pray for your cheating husband as advised, so how do you intend to deal with a cheating husband without destroying your home? Divorce him? Fight him? Go and pour acid on the alleged girlfriend? The funny thing is , this is how some women put up with stuffs in their own home in order to keep it and advise others otherwise. Cheating is wrong, but when you are married to a cheating husband, you are going to need more than fighting and staying in shape to keep the man and your home. It is better to treat the man like the sick person that he is and take him to God in prayers while you calmly and wisely protect yourself from the stings of his malady and look for a remedy. Fighting and confrontations can't do it, trust me, when a man who is fully aware of consequences of his action goes ahead to do it to his detriment, that is more than selfishness, it has got to be some kinda demonic possession, cheating destroys the man too, he loves his children and he does want to make his marriage work.

So glad to see you really understood what my points and advise were. there is nothing any living creature can do to deter a serial cheat to stop. only GOD can change him. remember saul the tormentor whom no one believed anything good to come out from God arrested him and changed him to Paul he never go back to his old ways.

Am surprise many women dont know you can change situation in your home with ur two knees and the words of ur mouth. praying for a change does not mean you are weak but ask youself if you kill your husband or divorce him or worst still decide to sleep with different men have you achieved the best result to set as a legacy for your children or younger ones to emulate? are you sure you are satisfied?

Marriage is meant for two different individuals who are strong in different areas and weak in different areas. one should be able to help each other in their weakness so he/she will become strong.

jennykadry: Reminds me of one who told me that a woman whose husband has cheated needs to go on her knees before herhusband and ask him if she offended him........wait ooo, not before calling him all the sweet ames on earth. What a load of thrash

In as much as i dont support cheating at all no matter the excuse cos to me is a sign of lack of respect to ur wife, selfish, immature, inconsiderate to the health of the entire family, breach of trust and being irresponsible.

however, the cheated wife should not forget that u dont fight fire with fire. Yes, you will definitely loose your cool when u find out at the initial time but never throw away the bath with the baby cos theres poo in the water. He has betray ur trust, set aside sentiment and look into his eyes and tell him how bitter u feel about it, dont grovel on the ground with tears but rather stand tall and let him know his wrong.

Still, find it necessary to take it up in PRAYER cos without God you can achieve nothing. pray ur husband out of cheating unless u dont want your home anymore. Remember a wise woman gathers her home but the foolish tears it apart with her own hand. Apologise to ur hubby if he feels bad abt how u speak to him while within u, u know the message has been passed already, be patient with him while u keep praying him out of that cheating life hopefully u will bring him back to ur life am sure of that.

Be wise.

Dreams gives u lead or clue to what is about to happen or happening. but it takes only the pepole that has the gift of REVEALATION from God to interprete it correctly. again u need to use the weapon of your tongue to either claim or reject it depending. I ve heard a woman gave out her wedding ring in a dream only to lose her husband to another woman in the physical just because she didnt take the dream up in prayee cos its "just" a dream.

i think u should not relent your effort in letting him/her to really know that one is not getting it right. if it means crossing the line go ahead if u really LOVE dt person because d price will be quite too hard to bear if it turns out negative. Believe me they will be grateful to you atlast.

jeffizy: Madam ....."onikaluku pelu iwa ti e".
Do you know there are some spouses who are so arllegic to corrections?
They misinterpret correction as criticism.

Marriage is definitely an institution without expected date of convocation/graduation as u keep living 2gether many different hidden characters keeps showing up. Pls sister never go grovel urself on the ground crying out your eyes out or blaming urself. marriage is meant for two different pple of different weakness and strenght and as such they are expected to compliment each others weakness. u r not a spirit to know what went wrong with his emotions that the marriage of JUST 2yrs is no longer interesting. Anyway try to open up a communication with him to find out his problem but if he refuses to communicate dont bother rather think of what will engage ur mind or time to avoid u being stressed up with negative thoughts, pray fervently for Gods intervention n ur marriage and believe oneday he will retrace his step and know dt ur weight gain not a nig deal as u can loss d weight if u wish to. but ask urself dis question if u sieze to be beautiful to him just because u added a little weight what will be of his action if (God forbid) any terminal or accident shows up on you.

Thanks alot for this kind of post. it is very disheartening that alot of marriages always loose its fun and taste as if they are now small scale business dt doesnt exist for too long. unless spouses "men mostly" begins to appreciate what they have with time marriage will more or less become a contract. For the fact dt women bears children and as such attimes loose the figure she was before pregnancy should not be use against her for the man to start cheating or making her feel less beautiful. if the woman has been left in her world alone by that particularly person she trust so much to tell her what pleases her ear what do u expect her to do? die in self pity? Of course she will definitely look for option

Pls in my opinion i will advise u face ur challenges now else u will live to fight this problem eternally. go 2 ur parents if they are still alive cos no matter what happens they still remains ur no1 fans. tell them exactly what happens hv d baby and live d baby with them wherever they stay n surely baby will survive. Go on with ur life n always remember to send them stuffs as u make some money. all of u will remain grateful to each other in future and d thought of this babys future if given up for adoption wont hunt u. its ur mess. take care of it with pain but u will be happy u did at last.