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Adam Brody:
@blissnaughty

Yes i am a quivering dog and you doff your hat to my ex, but as i continue to restate, thats in the past. Now you should be mre worried about the innocent girls that would fall victim of my trade.

Hope you will be there to console them too and offer them these same words of comfort when they end up hating the opposite sex like me, lol

Why should I be worried about anyone? You are the one with the problem and I have no doubt that unlike you the girls you dump will bounce back so no problem. Abi has anyone brought obituary to you that any of them commited suicide when you dumped them? What you do not seem to know is that girls usually heal pretty fast and bounce back equally fast too. But be that as it may, I have stated that I actually doubt that you are a force to be reckoned with on any level irrespective of all your words. Like I said before I am willing to wager that you are the type of guy that the better girls hardly give a second look at and that will be more cause for you to be bitter. And even if I am wrong, who the heck gives a Bleep? Certainly not I. You are the one who finds it necessary to talk about how you do not care about women. If you didn't really care, you would not even give them a second thought, talk much less of expending a fraction of the time and energy you continually waste trying to convince people who do not know you that you are a hot catch which any self respecting woman would want to be with (and that you use and dump them). Men have used and dumped women long before you were born and will do so long after you are dead (and ditto for women) so there is nothing new and it is certainly no big deal.

As the saying goes, why the hell will the guy want to buy the whole cow when he is getting the milk for free. The girl knows what she is supposed to do but she is still clinging on in denial. Leave her to her dreams o. Me I know that the average Naija babe no be suegbe wey go let one yeye man chop free yam without even dropping the palm oil wey go make am pass throat well well. Nonsense and ingredient. . . LOL

davidylan:
Adam . . . if you're half as good as you bleat . . . you wont be talking about your "conquests". Actions speak louder than words.

I noticed one thing as i grew older, the real bad boys tend to be on the quiet side.

You're not a bad boy, you're just another drenched weasel.

Exactly. The boys may not even be on the quiet side, but when the girls don't matter to them, they do not give them another thought talk much less of going on and on and on.

Tallulah Bankhead once famously said "It's the good girls who keep diaries; the bad girls never have the time.” The same applies to boys (and forums like these are kinds of diaries). I have never seen a boy waste so much energy trying to convince the world that he does not care about something the way Adam has on Nairaland. I don't care for and cannot be bothered with lots of things and people (and I am sure there are scores like me on Nairaland), yet you do not see me or them write epistles about these things/people. That is because we really do not give a shit.

The sad irony is that if there was a girl who dumped him and turned him into whatever he is now, the girl in all probability would not remember who the heck he is. If she does, he would be reduced to nothing but an insignificant footnote on one of several pages that makes up her life. LOL

The funny thing is I won't be surprised if it is confirmed that the Adam guy is just another of those people who talk talk talk and spin some fabricated tales. If I had to wager, I'd wager that it is even unlikely that he has done half of what he claims. Who knows, maybe he just is another bitter soul frustrated that the fairer sex do not pay him any heed. Be that as it may, whether true or not, I say kudos to the girl who is alleged to have dumped him because as it currently stands from what he has stated, she is his god.

MSMAMASITA:
thank you blisfullynaught and davidyln - i think i will take your advice and have a serious talk with him.

he does give me a lot of time, but it seems to be only about sex when we are together. I love him and he says he loves me more than anyone hes ever been with but i justt don't understand what the probelm is.

I really do not know why you created this thread. It is apparent that all he cares about is the sex. And do not be fooled by declarations of love. Nigerian guys are notorious for saying "I love you" at the drop of a hat. It means nothing. You could meet a Nigerian guy today and he says "I love you" to you (and you may not be the only person he says it to either). It is a phrase that is often used when they want something as opposed to when they actually feel that emotion. I can bet a fiver that the first time to told you he loved you was not too long into your relationship.

The fact that he even told you about how he spends (or spent) money on other women for gifts and socialising shows how little is the regard he has for you. He definitely does not want to waste his money on you.

MSMAMASITA:
wife back home? he only goes home once a year.

You obviously do not have a clue. So you do not know that there are many men who have wives back home who they do not return to in years and years. Moreover, he may not have a wife yet but may have plans to "buy" one from back home. My former workmate who now lives in Canada had a live-in girlfriend while his people were carrying wine to his Nigerian wife's parents abode to ask for her hand in marriage. Anything is possible.

davidylan:
@ blissfullynaughty (this ur name sef dey call me) . . . giving her attention is no guarantee of anything. Men can do anything to create an illusion that all is well when deep down they are busy planning how to catch the next fish.

@ David, I did not say it is a guarantee. What I meant was that at least her story is not that he is too busy with other matters to deal with her. Nothing is a guarantee. And certainly gifts are not, nor is even marriage. We just have to learn to deal with situations as they arise and take the actions we believe best suit us. Personally, I believe that from what Mama-wetin-call posted, the writing is on the wall but her love tainted glasses will not let her see straight.

MSMAMASITA:
he is so demanding of my time. I feel like i am being used.

If you feel used, then dump him. It seems like you like feeling used. Life is not hard and you should be prepared to move on or be prepared to deal with this through out your relationship with this guy. Like I said earlier, the average nigerian guy is not so stingy as to be unable and unwilling to buy you something a couple of times a year.

How are you sure he does not have a wife (and maybe even children) back home in Nigeria? Don't let anyone use you anyhow mate.

Well if he gives you attention, then I guess that that is the most important thing. However, most Nigerian guys do actually buy presents on important occasions like birthdays etc (they may not be expensive, but they tend to, or even give cash for you to buy what you like). However, if you say that he sends money home, it means that he has an additional burden which you yourself do not have, so shouldn't it be you helping him out financially?

I however do think that a little present once or twice a year is not too much to expect, though I do not think you should expect him to dole out his money to assist you even if you are struggling (I am working on the premise that his salary is not like triple yours nor is he a millionaire). You should learn to live within your means. Talk to him about the gift issue and for goodness sake stop buying him gifts/things.

Adam Brody:
@naja haje

Let me break the chain down for you: Follow the blue pill and see through the maze if you can:

Guy is a Lover of women>>> Guy Appreciates Women>>>Guy Loves Girlfriend>>>>Guy  Hopes to Fall madly in Love with Girlfriend>>>Guy Plans to marry Girlfriend>>>Guy thanks god for making him happy with girlfriend >>>>> Girlfriend gives Guy the middle finger>>>>Girlfriend Dumps Guy>>>>>Girlfriend makes Guy lose interest in Love>>>>>Girlfriend makes Guy really hate love and what it stands for>>>>>>>>>>>>>Guy is pissed with Women>>>>>>>>>>>>Guy plans to vent his anger on any chick>>>>>>>>>>>Guy derives pleasure in making a chick suffer like him>>>>>>>>>>>Guy is intoxicated with the joy derived from dumping chicks>>>>>>>>>Guy is happy whenever he dumps chicks>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Guy sees Women as objects of sex alone and nothing more>>>>>>>>>>>Guy doesnt respect any chick except during sex>>>>>>>>>Guy in short doesnt give 2 fu***cks about women anymore! >>>>>>Guy doesnt give a f***k about god anymore 

Get the message?

I doff my cap to that girl who dumped you. She must be something special. The ability to turn a lion into a quivering insecure dog is not a skill that many possess. No matter how you may not give a toss about the female species, posterity will always record that you once did and you were and will always be a victim who was bleeped over by someone better. She probably could see that you were not in her league plus not worth the effort and by jove was she right.

@ Original poster,

You are psychologically damaged by your experience with the girl that hurt you. And no matter how many times you dump and hurt other people, you will never be able to redeem yourself inside because no matter how powerful your being callous makes you feel, the desolation, despair and feeling of worthlessness that your original girlfriend elicited in you will always be with you and will always be a higher and bigger humiliation than that you may ever dish to anyone. To be honest, the girls you dumped should thank their lucky stars cos with your psychological issues, you would never have made them a good partner.

weedinLA:
I know lots of them and they are all big turn-offs! It seems Nigerian girls were brought up with bitchy tendencies.

LMAO. . . Do I detect the bitter tones of a man spurned? Pele o. LOL

LoveAlways:
@Karmamod

Really, I did when he and I first met because I had never heard of a visa lottery.  He was also able to vote this past election. 

Then that means that he must be an American citizen. Unless the laws changed in the last few months (which I truly doubt), I believe that only US citizens can vote. Not even green card holders are accorded this voting right (or should we say privilege). Make sure the guy is not conning you. Ask him again if he is a green card holder and not a citizen. If he says yes (i.e. that he is not a citizen, yet he voted), then he is lying in some way or the other.

Moreover, you guys have been together for less than a year, what the heck is the hurry all about? Surely he can wait much longer and probably with time, you might change your mind and warm to the idea of being his wife. Whatever happens, my advice to you will be to be careful and vigilant. You'd be shocked at the number of people who believed they had a strong relationship with a guy they thought loved them only for it to be a farce. I am not in any way suggesting that that is the case here, but a little caution never hurt anyone.