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Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by KarmaMod(f): 4:17am On Dec 23, 2008 |
I mentioned sex the first time for a reason. Being right is a curse |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by blissfullynaughty: 4:17am On Dec 23, 2008 |
MSMAMASITA: You obviously do not have a clue. So you do not know that there are many men who have wives back home who they do not return to in years and years. Moreover, he may not have a wife yet but may have plans to "buy" one from back home. My former workmate who now lives in Canada had a live-in girlfriend while his people were carrying wine to his Nigerian wife's parents abode to ask for her hand in marriage. Anything is possible. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:18am On Dec 23, 2008 |
MSMAMASITA: Nwa mama . . . my suspicions are confirmed. Take it from a dude . . . the guy has no plans for you. Been there done that . . . after the sex you dont exist. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:21am On Dec 23, 2008 |
Moonstone: its not true. We are only more pragmatic. Why shld i buy you a gift when i dont see a future between us? Why take you out to dinner when the only thing i can seem to think of hrs after that is what important thing i could have used the money i wasted on you for? When a naija dude is down with you . . . you dont need to be told. Infact you will be the one embarrassed with too many gifts. Dude is only interested in the OPs body full stop. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by KarmaMod(f): 4:22am On Dec 23, 2008 |
I dont agree. Dudes buy stuff for "pretend gfs" most times. They just dont show them to friends or family |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Sauron1: 4:23am On Dec 23, 2008 |
MSMAMASITA: Kontinue to give. . . . . . . .God loves a cheerful giver. There's a reward somewhere for you ahead. Keep doing what u are doing. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by MSMAMASITA: 4:23am On Dec 23, 2008 |
to be fair i will say that we talk on the phone for hours about current events when i am not with him. so could it still be about the sex? we never go out on dates but we do talk for hours which is why he says he feels that connection with me. he gets upset when i go out with friends and questions me to death abou if any men has approched me. what kind of wife will allow this type of treatment about not seeing her husband for so long. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by JJYOU: 4:24am On Dec 23, 2008 |
my granny alway said a mothers greatest tragedy is giving birth to a fool. MSMAMASITA:you are still getting all these info via phone? blissfullynaughty:who asked you to tell that story now? please keep naija men secrets. it is our right to have 5 wives. don't you think? KarmaMod:you are an iwions as usual *Hauwa*:nawa o MSMAMASITA:that is why johnson aja said foolish man plants his mango on the main road |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:25am On Dec 23, 2008 |
KarmaMod: Maybe they have a tank full of cash. And who told you they dont show them to friends anymore? Levels don change o. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by MSMAMASITA: 4:25am On Dec 23, 2008 |
davidyn why r u changing on me now. you were supportive of him before. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by KarmaMod(f): 4:26am On Dec 23, 2008 |
JJYOU: You're not serious and yes o this is all still from the phone |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by MSMAMASITA: 4:28am On Dec 23, 2008 |
Yes still from the phone. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Sauron1: 4:28am On Dec 23, 2008 |
MSMAMASITA: What other conviction do u want?? This MAN loves you. Forget about his gifts. . . . . Stay with him, love him, tend to his needs and your dreams shall come true. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by johnnygan(m): 4:29am On Dec 23, 2008 |
this topic is rather cool, yet i fink its damn hot lol which naija guy fit go im babe place with roses early in mornings all in the name of Romanticism, if u bi naija guy and i catch u during the act, I'll whoop ya head for sure. Girls simply asks for too much quite frankly |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by blissfullynaughty: 4:29am On Dec 23, 2008 |
MSMAMASITA: I really do not know why you created this thread. It is apparent that all he cares about is the sex. And do not be fooled by declarations of love. Nigerian guys are notorious for saying "I love you" at the drop of a hat. It means nothing. You could meet a Nigerian guy today and he says "I love you" to you (and you may not be the only person he says it to either). It is a phrase that is often used when they want something as opposed to when they actually feel that emotion. I can bet a fiver that the first time to told you he loved you was not too long into your relationship. The fact that he even told you about how he spends (or spent) money on other women for gifts and socialising shows how little is the regard he has for you. He definitely does not want to waste his money on you. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:30am On Dec 23, 2008 |
@ topic Naija men stingyyyyy! Cheiiii! Na so una dey disgrace unaself?!!!! |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Moonstone(f): 4:30am On Dec 23, 2008 |
davidylan:Pragmatic you call it? Why should you not buy a gift for a girl you're dating? Every girl you're dating has the impression that you see some kind of future with her. When SOME naija dudes are down with you, they will embarrass you with gifts but when a guy thinks that giving gifts should yield some kind of harvest, why not? I disagree with you that the dude is on only interested in the OP's body. We can't be sure in his case. All those senators and big men giving money to young girls are doing that for what? Surprising women with trips to places for shopping? Those are gifts now and they are only interested in the girls' bodies. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:30am On Dec 23, 2008 |
MSMAMASITA: Because i like to be frank with you . . . as soon as you made this comment - he does give me a lot of time, but it seems to be only about sex when we are together . . . it changed the whole dynamic. I cant speak for all naija men but when a dude loves you he wants to do stuff with you not just sex. He is willing to sacrifice for you, he is sensitive to ur needs and wants to make sure u're taken care of in the best way he can. Talking for long hrs, sex . . . anyone can do that with just about any chic. Time to ask him what he really wants you for . . . if he hesitates, tries to change the subject or is not too forthcoming then its time for a honest assessment. For example you really dont know who he sends money to back home . . . for all you know it could be his naija gf. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by johnnygan(m): 4:31am On Dec 23, 2008 |
All these na grammar so |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:33am On Dec 23, 2008 |
Moonstone: True . . . and i hope the guy is for real. But i have my doubts. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by NaJaHaJe(f): 4:34am On Dec 23, 2008 |
davidylan: and it took this long for this point to be made? @ poster Booty call? johnnygan: Stereotypical Naija man! Not all men think like you. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by johnnygan(m): 4:35am On Dec 23, 2008 |
really? |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Moonstone(f): 4:36am On Dec 23, 2008 |
davidylan:I think he MIGHT be real. I just think she's reading too much into this whole thing. The dude is happy with her. She should not let little things like this cause a problem. All she needs to do is talk to him about it. Let her know why she does not get gifts. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by JJYOU: 4:36am On Dec 23, 2008 |
KarmaMod:karma is 5 too small? we can make it minimum of 7 if you dont mind. with people like this girl about you wonder why some jerks masquerading as men wont continue to play home and away MSMAMASITA:you are begining to believe your "truth"? congrats |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:37am On Dec 23, 2008 |
@ topic The guy na family mugu. That kind guy go get wifey and kids for house but he go dey pack him money go meet his parents. Nor be husband material because despite being a mugu, he isn't YOUR mugu. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by MSMAMASITA: 4:37am On Dec 23, 2008 |
i appreciate your honesty. i figured if it was only about sex there would be no long talks. im wondering how i should approach the christmas thing, should i just buy a gift and see if he gives me one and then if he does not have the conversation or tell him its overr? what are my next steps? |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by johnnygan(m): 4:38am On Dec 23, 2008 |
i think you should take a look at it this way, i spent more than 15hrs of my time thinking bout my ex. at home, at work , practically everywhere. all ladies are the same. you don't deserve the roses. My ex ended up in the arms of another man. what do u have to say bout that babe? you ladies simply asks for too much. all i did back then was more than roses. back to the drawing board. This is notta western world perhaps |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by KarmaMod(f): 4:40am On Dec 23, 2008 |
For example you really don't know who he sends money to back home . . . for all you know it could be his naija girlfriend. This is true |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by MSMAMASITA: 4:40am On Dec 23, 2008 |
what is an op?? |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by johnnygan(m): 4:40am On Dec 23, 2008 |
i no go even give gifts when i know say i need am self |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by Nobody: 4:41am On Dec 23, 2008 |
Go ahead and buy him the gift . . . all these petty "he didnt get me one so me too i wont get him one" isnt doing anyone any good. If he doesnt get you one then quietly ask him if he forgot or just didnt think it was necessary. Its important that he understands the reason you want the gift is because it symbolises how much you mean to him and not just because you are greedy for something. Tell him your gift is because you care so much about him and want your gifts to be a way he can always remember you by. If he doesnt get you anything after this . . . only the rock of gibraltar can change him. Heart to heart talk woman . . . if you're dating a guy it shldnt be difficult getting to express your innermost feelings to him. I mean you already talk long hrs . . . dont let it be current events alone. Talk about you too. |
Re: He Does Not Give Me Gifts? by NaJaHaJe(f): 4:42am On Dec 23, 2008 |
MSMAMASITA: That's called Booty call with special needs MSMAMASITA: next steps . . . AWAY FROM HIM!!! walk in a different direction, use the money to buy yourself some handkerchiefs and perfume. |
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