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How enforceable is child support in Nigeria?

Can a woman really be happy with another womans husband? The first wife is Temi Lewis gentry. She wears her wedding ring and has instagram pic of her and Lanre gentry as display pic. She still wears her ring. This means tht she is still with Lanre. Mercy snatched him somehow. Men wld lie tht they are divorced. Women shd investigate if it is true and if so, find out how and why.

Ur sisters and their husbands are freeloaders. No need to travel nywhere. Tell them it is not proper and u are no longer comfortable. You hav tried. They wld be bitter for a while but serves them right.

selfish fools. what is wrong is wrong. if one loses a spouse, u shd not hav an elaborate wedding after. a new spouse tht caant understand that is not A real partner.

It's usually a trick by d man. The suggestion always comes from certain kind of men. If the family is involved in d wedding, it is always a scam by d man. If the family is not involved, then it is allowed. For instance, if d couple wild be d ones to pay for the venue, musician, invitation...etc then they hav to save together. Saving together for ring or clothes or bride price or cake is a strategy for men to share their responsibility. U wild end up saving together for rent and sch fees. I suggest each partner to pick what aspect they want to handle according to each' budget.

Are u a male or female?

E dey ur body before jare! If u hav been a good person, polite, honest, hardworking, prayerful... It can not be so bad tht u wld not hav soap to bath. U hav not eaten for just one day and u are already considering carrying a gun? Big fool!

First impressions can be so far from the truth but then we shd keep in mind that first impressions last long. Nice post.

Since sshe refused getting a maid/help just ignore her. She wants to force u to allow her niece. With what u are going thru, u dnt need a 3rd party relative living with u. Dnt assume she acts rudely because her mom didn't live with her dad. Also don't assume tht becos ur mom is a marriage counsellor, her methods wld work for her own family. Also, remember tht u can't change someone else, u can only change urself. Having twins is not an excuse to be disorganized. Focus on the reasons why u love her. Don't be too nagging. Try to ignore some things and move on without keeping grudges. From time to time, let her knw how u want ur house to be run. Correct her with love but dnt report her to anyone for now.

I am sure you are not a marriable man yourself. You hav big issues to even be considering any of them. Bloody gold digger. Obviously, you don't hav loving relatives or sensible friends. What's d catch? Later, u wld come back to nairaland to complain abOut ur marriage.

Thanks for the education. If I am seperated from my first husband because of physical and emotional abuse that I can prove, does he hav a right to remarry after 3yrs? He made me leave but I don't want him to remarry.

I witnessed something that seemed wrong to me but the person involved didn't mind. Is it normal for in-laws to ask for money from their wife? They said their son is too stingy and have given up so when they need money, they come to the wife. The MIL wld ask her DIL to help her complete Ajor money, the brother in law wld ask for JAMB form money, the Step dad would ask for transport money. Just for me to hear the wife abroad has also been asked for hospital bill money. Poverty can make people do things but who buys the idea that this is closeness?

What u wanted to post is that u hav not caught ur husband cheating but becos they say it is inevitable, u want to stop it from happening by making/keeping him poor.

From my own experience, I believe this story 100% . The one i know personally, the guy's wife wasn't working so when things got tough, he resorted to duping babes. He wld even bring home girlfriends cars, collect loans frm banks and d lady's family wld stand in for him since his family are all poor. The wife had an accident, d guy wld hav dumped her but kept her as a nanny.

Very necessary. The truth is that, we are in denial. When I remarried my 2nd husband, the opportunity to find out the truth of his previous marriage was there but what I dnt knw can't harm me. He is caring to me and my kids but now tht I knw what he did to his 1st wife, I am ashamed as a woman.

if a man seeks a virgin, he is allowed. tell him the truth. i had sex 6yrs interval after first time and i bled the 3 times. if u are really a virgin even d tightness wld prove it. we cant console u for ur lies. u did it in ur adulthood but thot it has gummed back b4 marriage.

Nice to knw that u love ur country. The best option is to come and go from time to time b4 u make ur final decision.

A neighbourhood sister of mine has been dating a guy for 3 months and the guy is really serious with her. He took her to meet his senior brother and on getting there, the brother and his wife got into an argument. He beat the wife in the presence of his junior brother and this lady. My sis has ended the relationship now. She said his family must be very bad for his brother to do that in her presence meeting her for the first time. But it is not her own man that beat someone na.

When your marriage doesn't work out, people tell u to move on with the hope that u find someone else who would accept you. I left my husband who abused me physically and emotionally. I met my old sch mate who said his wife left him cos he was broke. We got married in d traditional way, just for me to find out later tht he abused his wife physically and emotionally and finacially. Now, I feel ackward. He loves me so much and was living with me b4 we married. It looked wrong then because I hav 2 sons. Now, he shuttles my house and his house. I can't move to his house cos he built it with his wife and she has his children. Neither of us is legally divorced. Since he married me, he has fought with friends and relatives who are not in support. I live in fear that my situation is complicated. What if d wife comes back? She still bears his name and wears her ring. My friends said I shd hav married a widower. His friends said he shd hav married a young lady. Is 2 divorcees a bad choice? Please I need ur comments.

do u want to be with a woman that is not dependable? why did she agree to marry her fiance if not love? she cant be a good wife.

just remarried my old sch mate. i told him how badly my ex treated me. he has been so loving to me and my sons. my worries are that he said his first wife was bad but is it normal to abuse mother of 3 kids on facebook, including her parents? he is always talking bad about her even to strangers. he doesnt send any upkeep to his kids. i pay my own bills but my fear is tht 'can a good man behave like this? we went to his kids school to visit and he was shouting and embarassing his kids cursing their mom. is he pretending to me or did the wife hurt him badly?

He abuses her parents on facebk not mine. He writes loving messages about me on facebook. Even b4 we started dating, he never put his wife or kids picture. He is very loving to me and my sons. I don't mean money wise. I hav a good job but he is there for us morally and socially.

he should make sure it never happens again. the truth wld still come out. it is better to confess. shameful guy! seduce or not!

i just remarried my old sch mate. i told him how badly my ex treated me. he has been so loving to me and my sons. my worries are that he said his first wife was bad but is it normal to abuse mother of 3 kids on facebook, including her parents? he is always talking bad about her even to strangers. he doesnt send any upkeep to his kids. i pay my own bills but my fear is tht can a good man behave like this? we went to his kids school to visit and he was shouting and embarassing his kids cursing their mom. is he pretending to me or did the wife hurt him badly?

i just remarried my old sch mate. i told him how badly my ex treated me. he has been so loving to me and my sons. my worries are that he said his first wife was bad but is it normal to abuse mother of 3 kids on facebook, including her parents? he is always talking bad about her even to strangers. he doesnt send any upkeep to his kids. i pay my own bills but my fear is tht can a good man behave like this? we went to his kids school to visit and he was shouting and embarassing his kids cursing their mom. is he pretending to me or did the wife hurt him badly?

If I did not marry him, people wld talk because he was already living with me. As I said, it is not easy to be lonely. My own husband b4, abused me emotionally and physically. My new husband was also lonely cos his wife has left with the kids.

I found out from the former neighbors when they were married. In fact, they said he is the one that complained his wife was not making enough money. I hav been too lonely and he was my childhood friend. I hav very good job and got him contracts also. He is aggressive to some people but gentle with me. If I assume he is with me for the money, was he stay if I submit freely? His mother likes me. She didn't like previous.

I left my abusive marriage 3yrs ago. I live with my 2 sons. I hav a good job. My boyfriend has moved in with me and finally married me. He is so loving even before I got him contracts. He has built his own house b4 but it is far from my office. He said his wife left him when he was poor. I found out he lied but he used to beat her and bring women to his house and not pay his childrens sch fees. It is too late to leave him cos we are now married nd he is very kind to me. I hope it wld last. Pls advise.