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If you need my honest opinion, let her be. She wants to rush you and it would cause problems later. If God says she is the is the one, she would still be available even one year from now.

You would get what is coming to you. How can a man not be buoyant? Start with one room at worst.

When you hear such of a father, there must be a stepmother somewhere.

You would deliberately start problem. There are several working class who are near you and ages above 28. You want to go for 22, student who lives far away. You might be lucky but you want to go the hard way. Study her family background. You can tell a lot about how she would turn out from her family background. People like you like to deliberately make your life difficult. many people have been successful where the odds were against them. [color=#000099][/color]

You would deliberately start problem. There are several working class who are near you and ages above 28. You want to go for 22, student who lives far away. You might be lucky but you want to go the hard way. Study her family background. You can tell a lot about how she would turn out from her family background. People like you like to deliberately make your life difficult. many people have been successful where the odds were against them.

Didn't their teachers notice in school? Since it has been going on for long. What about the neigbhours? Fake neighbours that mind their biz when they should intervene.

The question alone is wicked. The daughter in law was rude but it was called for. The mom could have asked more matured. Please what time would breakfast be ready? I am getting hungry. Some mother in laws would know their sons are irresponsible and still come visiting. Visiting to eat free food because she can blame the wife. Why did the husband not drop money? Even if the wife cooks with her money, it would backfire. The husband absconded from home because he has idiots like OP that would blackmail the rude wife.

What if they did not have a son? There is no big deal living in their compound. Even those that are not the only son do it conveniently but not always. The in laws would forget it is a sacrifice on the part of the couple and they would start picking on the wife. The Bible knows why it is stated to leave the parents. The parents should not be selfish. The guy should hire a help and just visit occasionally. It is selfishness. Even the wires parents may also be aged. So would they say their daughter should not get married. Wickedness to even ask such of their son.

Give what you can afford. You have to change your ways and put your doot down. Don't let her bully you into spending more than your pocket just because you are responsible. Many women are vreadwinners and still humble and obedient wives.

If you leave her, she would show remorse but it is not permanent. She can never change. Bad people don't deserve good people. Let her be angry in her skin. We can't all be the same. Some people are genuinely happier being alone. She won't even cheat on you. She just wants to be alone. Grumpy soul wife! but forgive me for i have not heard her side of the story.

There are many reasons why a woman would remarry. I know of many people that say nice things about their stepmothers even though their mothers are alive. Is there anyone who has a stepfather and sees him as a blessing in their life and mothers life? Or the stepfathers end up not being worth the remarriage? My husband's step father squandered his mom's property and finances despite being much lower in status than his late dad. What's your take on stepdads?

I am happily married now but I would like your candid opinion about an issue that raised eyebrows and is still raising eyebrows. I hav two sons from my previous marriage. Lasy year, my current husband moved into my flat with us. I was sure that he loved me so I didn't mind but people made comments saying that only an irresponsible man does that. He has built his own house but his wife left him. Is it practical for a 43 year old man to live alone? His previous girlfriend was telling people how he lived with her for 2 and half years before moving in with me. Would it not be irresponsible of me to be the one to move in with him since I have 2 sons already? I believe the dynamics is different for people with broken marriages and it is not so bad for the man to move in.

Forget about thiS man! U wld not get ur life in order with him around. He is not the type to change. Forgetting him would be as hard as keeping him but forgetting him is the better option.

There is nothing like nagging someone to death. He was ready to die. Also, how is it relevant to mention FiN? Fake gist trying to tarnish image of FiN.

2 kids and no job yet? The bitter truth is u wld always be miserable with him. It is too late to put ur foot down. When u start work, he wld lure u to spend ur money in his own way and still not appreciate u. Don't be deceived that he can change. Chose one, live in misery but appear happy outside or appear sad but live in happiness all by urself. Only an independent woman can have a say.

The woman disvirgined u? She is much wiser than u! If she has one kid while unmarried it might not be her fault but having 2 while unmarried shows her state of mind and discipline. How do u tell ur mom that a young homely guy wants to marry a Bleep master babe with emotional instability? An older guy with same problem wld hav been better for her. She wants to use ur destiny!

That's what u get when u pick beauty over brains. To even call her deficient shows that u hav a problem urself. Can't you find a less derogatory adjective? Did u not meet more homely girls when u were younger? Are u not cheating on her? Go and sit down joor!

Op has a point but I think he genuinely doesn't knw muach about the men that beat their wives regularly. The typ that wld say the food is tasteless and throw the soup and glass plate at you. The real bullies that beat for the slightest reasons. It is hard for a woman to bully a man who she courted b4 marrying except the guy is a real fool. For women, it is different. After marriage, he starts having unreasonable expectations.

The headline should be: some children beat up the woman trying to tear their family apart or some children beat up the woman who has cheated them and their mother.

The first wife of Lanre must be feeling so content by now.

The people that cause trouble in marriage are the inlaws, the side chicks and the fake pastors/prophets. Why did u distract us? Ur aunt is causing trouble for herself by replying that way. Why do u trust this obvious trouble aunt? Can ur hubby tell a woman he loves her on phone? And u wld say he is causing trouble for the woman? Or he is seeking an occupation for himself?

If I may ask, why did u insist on only traditional wedding? Do u hav a hidden agenda? Court wedding is cheaper. Give them whatever they ask. As soon as u are married, stand ur ground and don't let her family manipulate u.

I believe it wld last. They wld hav challenges but it appears they are more sincere than many older couples.

If u condemn urself to this extent, why should ur husband not condemn u? You both have the same mind set. As a woman, u knw what it is to carry a baby for 9 months and both mother and child survive. Still, u are disatisfied cos u love a useless man more than ur offspring. Take ur time b4 the people praying for just one would come after u!

From my point as a woman married twice. We are all diff. It is easy to say u wld not let marriage define u. Sometimes, we settle for less not because we want to but we have to. No matter how u front it, it is always ackward to not be married at a certain age. U may not mind but ur mom's happiness may be at stake. U worked hard all ur life, had good grades and got a good job. Why wld u be lonely? Even bad people are getting married. When u are happy alone, people wld still believe u cry urself to sleep. If u opt for kids without marriage, it is also ackward. It is frustrating both ways so I picked d one that makes me comfortable. Good men are few and that is a reality! My current husband is with me for material gains but at least I hav it to share with him. People are envying me that I got a 2nd chance and he adores me as long as d money is there.

Since u caught him cheating, u no longer live in denial. Telling d lad)'s husband is supposed to be enough revenge. Next time ur husband wld not use whatsapp to cheat but he wld still attempt it much later. Just move on and forgive him. If tht is the worst thing in ur marriage, u hav tried.

You should not go thru with the family planning without his consent. Period!

It takes a lot for a woman to cheat on her man. It takes an idiot to marry a woman with the tendency. He probably left a good woman for the tendency woman.

na wa for ur wife. u hav spoiled her. i cant try half of this with my first husba.d nor the second. lets be real. it is too early i. d marriage for a wife to be so stubborn.

From experience, emotional abuse is worse than physical. The people that die from beating yearly is not high compared to death by other causes. Emotional abuse makes u a living corpse. Beating can be due to hot temper so one keeps quiet. Emotional abuse is when u feel trapped and constantly worried. Beating is once in a while. Emotional is daily.

The bitter truth is that marriage is not for everyone. Another truth is that the good men would never go round. You settle for soinglehood or settle for a bad marriage. Not everyone can find happiness in marriage. Only the blessed few.