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Bergovic's new position

Hahahahah... Costa's reaction to the sun is hilarious. Mourinho abeg give am umbrella

Falcao on

naijadeyhia:
I heard such shouts of goal for Arsenal last aeason but at the end of the match it was sadness for their fans as they failed to keep the lead. My predictions still stand.

I'm not a fan and win or loose I'm still a United-The devil wears addidas.

rozayx5:
lol
same psg suarez used for training. chelsea cud not beat

10 years 4 champions league
2 treble
4ballon d or

barca no be ur mate. so face Arsenal

Lol. But don't forget Chelsea is the only team Barca still haven't won with a straight margin. They could only knock them out with a draw.

Met don old ooo. Why e nr take dat shot

The Ox in the box!!!! Goal!!!! Arsenal 1-0 Chelsea

Nice header walcott

Both keeper haven't been tested

2-1 or dis match goes to PK

gatiano:
NO! Your prayer went by unanswered.

I don't get u

Their efforts to provide aid to africa irrespective of the nation's political stands on sexual orientation is commendable. Whereas others choose to restrict their aids because of that. As if we need em. But God bless Bill and Miranda Gates.

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Came across it yesterday and this morning. I can't stop laughing. Even in church I'm laughing so hard, thank God it's during testimony time and people are laughing hard. Here's the screen grab

GHoJes:
Sure you are same temperaments? that may explain why you fight too much and are here.
Same personalities likely make good friends but bad lovers. They have similar strengths which can make none want to step down for the other thereby encouraging subtle competition on who can do it better; personality is infectious, when one is weak it can bring about the weakness of the other so that thesame weakness is attracted, further causing irritations on both sides and compounding their weaknesses. But for opposite, its quite better. For instance, a naturally negative partner is pushed up by a naturally positive one depending on the fiercer one. You can tell what will happen if both are naturally negative.

Most of the time, compatible opposite rules. You might want to let her go!

Thanks for the great piece of advice

This is why Nigeria will continue to be a country where rape victims are made responsible for the crime against them, where the haves oppress the have not and where the populace is populated by sick and mentally ill ppl. They ve succeeded in twisting the whole thing against her. If Bill Cosby was Nigerian he would be given a medal of honor and would still be touring round the country and the Bill Cosby show will be on air. Comments here just makes me sick. Obviously Timaya is the victim here right? Do u expect her to start crying or maybe not speak about it? That's a civilized country, where crime against women are punished. I'm sure the lot of u will ask a bruised woman who was beaten by her husband what did she do and that's how women react. This country is sick

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toksbisola:
@Op; to love some one is a beautiful thing. When one is in a relationship that they think would lead to marriage, there are certain factors you need to consider before taking the “I DO” step as MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES.

The factors are; Love, Compatibility, Respect and Friendship.

As a man who would be a head and in charge of his home, you need to learn to let things be and not take offence in everything that your GF/fiancée does. Women need to be treated tenderly and of course their attitude should also warrant that tenderly treatment from their man.

The few questions mentioned below, can you in your heart answer yes to all regarding your GF/fiancée?

Is she caring?
Is she decent?
Is she hardworking?
Is she supportive?
Is she respectful?
Is she a homely person whom you know can comfortably look after you and your home?
Does she love you?
Do you see her as a lady who wouldn't nag?

Now let me address some of the issues in your write-up. It seems to me that both of you have the same kind of temperament i.e you’re both hot headed (No offence; hope none taken). I’m of the school of thought that RESPECT IS VERY IMPORTANT in a relationship. When either party don’t show respect in the relationship, it can be a recipe for disaster. The incessant fights you have tells me that either of you don’t show respect to each other nor your boundaries. YOU BOTH LET ANGER ALL OUT; rather than controlling your tempers.

Having anger management issues/problems doesn't help anyone, as every one of us has something to work on in our personality. It’s only a proud person that would deny they have a problem. At this moment in time, both of you need to work on your temper as it has now become a glaring issue in your relationship.

If you fight every week, certainly something isn’t going right between the pair of you and that’s what is called not being compatible. It's always a good advice for intending couples to MARRY SOMEONE THEY ARE ON THE SAME PAGE WITH. In your case, this doesn't seem to be the case.

Needless to say, when you love someone dearly then you would be in a better position to accept/put up with their shortcomings. Having said that, if the shortcomings are irritating you; then there is nothing stopping an adjustment/change to be made/done on the shortcomings by either party. If everything she does now starts irritating you, then take note; IT’S GONNA GET WORSE AFTER MARRIAGE; I don't mean to scare you.

It would be in your best interest to DECIDE IF YOU CAN PUT UP WITH HER BEHAVIOR/FLAWS. She is a woman who’s biological clock is thinking and if you honestly wouldn't be able to look beyond her behavior/flaws; PLEASE FREE HER AND FREE YOURSELF. Don’t have a selfish attitude (No offence hope none taken) where you want to have your cake and eat it by keeping her and STILL HAVING DOUBTS.

As for her and your sister not getting along again; I’ll say you don’t have to get involved in their squabbles. You sister in theory SHOULD NOT influence your choice in the woman you intend settling down with. You are the one that would live with your fiancée when you marry her and not your sister nor any of your family members. LET YOUR SISTER FACE HER OWN RELATIONSHIP (IF SHE HAS ONE) AND STAY CLEAR OF YOURS. Although, I’ll just reiterate the fact that it is important for both of you to be at ease with either your/her family members to avoid stories that touch/hurt. It’s a good thing your GF is cool with your mum at least that’s a starting point.

One more thing, you don’t have to get upset because someone gave you an advice that you think is not correct or that you don’t like and this is in reference to the response you gave @Gaborone which was not very cool. You created this thread for advice remember, hence, look through all the advice provided with an open mind; and then decide which one you think would help you in fixing the problem at hand. All the best.

I rest my case

Thanks. No offence taken @ HOT HEAD! I apologise for my the way I reacted towards Gaborne.

Chillis:
Nairaland... the demons in here plenty. And you need violence to take it out.

I have come to understand those ones that loves insulting people love their parents esp mama very much.

When you receive any insult, direct the thing to their mama o. You go see them take off sharply and give you peace.


Me I go even curse your grand mama and ascestors join sef . Mtcheww.

Back to topic,
Rent
transport
always paying bills for girlfriends, ashawo, etc
Alcohol
night party.

Razzling up to 5 girls at once. Etc

That's why you need one woman at a time..when you dey play away match, you no no say bills dey mount?

The pic on ur profile is funny I swear.... ... true talk

GHoJes:
What is your and her temperament?
Your personalities are seriously clashing. From the glimpse of you i'm seeing, you have not made up your mind to bend or adjust to accomodate hers perhaps because you dont know how.
You might not be the hot anger type but it is easy for you to flare at her because she is more likely to take it than friends.
I would have loved to say end it because your too frequent fights will surely seperate both of you in future unless you work it out now but you may also find yourself in same shait again as you are a big part of the problem.
I can almost see her irritate you every time she does stuff unlike you. Anyways, if you wish to talk this out, start with my first question.

I don't have temper issues. I overlook things most time and have found myself in situations in d past that others couldn't endure. We're alike when it comes to temper and d way we react with ppl. I sometimes have temper issues but I'll say it's 50-50. What I can't understand and why I brought it here is why I always loose my temper when she offend me. Moana gave me a nice piece of advice and I also acknowledge yours. Thanks.

Timbuktu14:

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obiksam:
Well, your post has nothing to contribute in this topic. So just passby.

Thanks

Moana:
you cant let things go and move on. You hold on the every little irrelevant thing, what will you do if you face a real big problem?

I do let things go. I have been on nairaland for over 8 years now(with a different username tho, lost it wen nairaland had a problem sometime ago), I've never been here for advice but I just can't understand why I act like that. By God I love her and the major reason I brought it here is cos I don't want to hurt her. I won't forgive myself if I do but why do I get angry easily with her. And even when I do my best to stay happy, that's when she get temper issues. So I just don't know what or how to prevent all this. Like I said, I don't want to get married tomorrow with an unhappy home and be feared rather than loved and respected. We've talked about it several time and deep down in me, I feel maybe, I fear for the future with her. But I want to build a home with her.

Femsyn:
Read your mind? I think its because I've been in a similar situation in the past. Her nature/personality doesn't make her a bad person, its just that your requirements in a woman CANNOT be provided by her.

Suggestion: Let her go. She'll find someone who doesn't have any issue with her personality.

What I did in my case: I let her go. Now, i'm married to someone who is more down-to-earth (homely), traditional (awesome cook), handle my briefs perfectly in my absence (and vice versa), takes the initiative(enterprising), intelligent, receptive and averagely outgoing. I'm the "sharp sharp" kinda guy, hence a "sluggish" woman will infuriate me.

She's equally HAPPILY married.

I see u ve had ur own experience. it went well @ d end. Congrats

Gaborone:
Please, end the relationship, so you can have enough time to take care of your venom.

You and your sister should not go and kill the poor girl for her parents.

Seems u don't really understand what was written. Please understand before u jump to conclusion madam Gaborone ... just jump to conclusion without even fully understanding. Things like this makes me wonder whether ppl think. Nobody made dis kind of irrelevant comment.

GHoJes:
Was it your sis you were encouraging her to call after their fall out?
was it after their fall out your temper started flaring?

Before the fall out. I can't make or force someone I'm dating to call my sis. I noticed they don't talk much and both hardly spoke or inquired about the other. But she's cool wif my mum.

EggovinMma:
Mtccchhhhhhhhewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!
Even when you decide to be 'respectful some demons will always be there to put you on the line.Ekwensu!

I saw nothing wrong in what u posted. It was an honest opinion. Even without partying, babe's and sex bachelors find it difficult to save. We spend our money on somethings we don't need @ all. Dunno wat offended him or irked him. You should know u meet ppl lyk dat always online. U don't know who is bhind d keyboard. Could be a mentally ill person, or someone who blew cash on someone dat pissed him off. Anyway ignore wat he said. You're stronger dan dis. Have a nice day