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[quote author=purity22 post=45208880][/quote]You have done the right thing telling your husband. Now move on, don't push it further.

Bro, it doesn't necessarily have to be penetrative sex before its deemed rape. If your wife puts your johnny in her mouth without your consent, that's rape too

EfemenaXY:
Use the quote functionality. It's easier to do on a laptop as opposed to a mobile phone.

Thanks. I appreciate

EfemenaXY:
So married men don't self-service? Really??



He should go park his "high libido" to one corner. Has he ever given birth? Does he understand what she's going through and that sex is probably the last thing on her mind? How come a married man with 2 kids is insensitive to the fact that his woman who's just given birth to his baby needs time to recover both physically and emotionally?

High libido my foot.



Why should I support an insensitive man?

I've given birth and I know the rigors childbirth puts the body through, especially if wear and tear's been involved (i.e stitching). No two women are the same. Some are sexually responsive shortly after, others aren't. It's her man's job to understand his wife, and if he truly loves and cares for her, he'll control himself.



Your are insensitive.

This is May. Your wife gave birth in January. i.e: [size=18pt]4 months ago[/size] and yet you exercise patience for her, but claim not to understand why this woman, barely [size=18pt]3 weeks[/size] after giving birth isn't happy to get into sex so soon. And I bet even then, you aren't as inflexible as this lady's husband who insists on going raw with no protection.

Mr Bolade005, what gives?

I'm not a saint but personally I don't see why I'd wañk when I have a wife to satisfy my sexual desires. Well, if married folks do it, it's none of my business.

Ma'am, you only know I've gone 4months without sex but you don't know how long post partum we began exploring other ways na, do you?

Okay, I admit the man is insensitive and selfish but I just believe the woman can try to be a bit flexible and open to exploring other means.

EfemenaXY:
It's not about winning. We both have differing views and are simply airing our opinions. And while we're at it, I suggest you have a re-read of my post. I think you missed the additional bits in red which I'd like you to address.



Oh really?

So sex is meant to be one-sided? Or in your words to satisfy her man. So what about her own satisfaction / needs? And yet you claim this man isn't selfish?



Well, she never wanted it in the first place but only gave in, on the insensitive man's insistence. So it's hardly surprising that she won't be keen on going all the way in the first place, as her mind isn't in it. She said "no". He insists. She says "oya come". Yet he isn't happy with what he gets. And yet you blame her? Is she his sexual slave or what?




She's already mentioned that she isn't a fan of BJs, nor does she like it! Again:

Many men don't like anãl sex and aren't a fan of it. Now if the wife of such a man is into anãl sex, the man in order to please his wife may do it for her sake, but because he doesn't enjoy it, won't be able to get her to climãx.

Do you understand now?

Be honest, how would you feel under such situation? Coupled with the fact that the poor lady is still recovering from childbirth?




You've conveniently forgotten that she's stated that she doesn't like BJ's, nor the thought of him erupting in her mouth (perfectly understandable), and even when performing his BJ on him, she goes on and on and on but the man doesn't cumm. What more does he want? Is she a sex machine. I reiterate, he should go get a tub a vaseline and perform a vigorous self-service on himself.



Might be better if she bites him real hard.

You know what they say: once bitten twice shy...

All right.

Please do teach me how you were able to nitpick those points and reply to them.

Madam, if you're going to tell atall let it be to your husband and let him take it up anyhow he deem fit. If you go directly to the wife and it bounce back on you, you'll hate yourself for pokenosing. It's better and safer if it's your man that spill it to the wife.

Be wise.

EfemenaXY:
What don't you understand? It's quite simple.

Her not liking BJs doesn't mean she can't. She only does it because he insists (or coerces her into it). She doesn't derive pleasure from it because she isn't a fan of BJs, so it's understandable she can't get him to climãx.

Let me use a similar analogy: if I don't like a particular dish, it doesn't mean I can't cook it. I can, but the question is: can I prepare it well enough to the satisfaction of a family member who does?

I can't win with you shey?

Is she supposed to derive pleasure from BJ when she's not the recipient?. BJ is to satisfy her man. If she doesn't give BJ atall, i'd understand but she gives the man BJ and stop halfway and that's not being selfish to you?, if your man gets you in the mood and then leave u alone, that's not being selfish or if he gets you in the mood and he erupts after 2mins without your body being well sated, that's not selfishness?

Ma'am, we both know if she does it well, nigga will climax so what we arguing here for?

And the änal thing u wrote up there I don't buy it. Here the man is the recipient and he likes BJ so if the woman does it well, no way in hell he won't climax. If the woman enjoys änal and the man ram her well even though he doesn't enjoy it, I see no reason why the recipient that likes it cannot climax.

Tell her to go chew that D1ck and make that man happy.

EfemenaXY:
If she's not in the mood, she's not in the mood, simple.

For sex to work, both parties must be willing and being coerced or guilt tripped into it. Let him go sort himself with a vigorous wänk and a tub of Vaseline.

Why would a married man go self-service?

Didn't she know the man has high libido before marriage? It's her cross and she should deal. The OP is even sexually boring and I'm deeply sorry for her man, there are other ways she could explore and they'd both be happy. Instead of you to educate her on other ways, you're here defending the indefensible.

And before you think I'm insensitive know this, my wife gave birth in January and ever since we've not had sex, she's not completely healed and I don't pressure her because we do explore other means and we are both happy. OP should explore too biko, she should learn to go nasty for her man.

EfemenaXY:
She already stated very clearly that she is NOT a fan of BJ. That is her preference and she's perfectly entitled to it.

She also mentioned that he doesn't climãx during BJs, nor with condoms. This man evidently wants raw sex with his still recovering wife, thereby risking another pregnancy. Now if that doesn't constitute as a selfish behaviour in your book, then I don't know what will.

He then ask for BJ, but I can not give him BJ till he comes. I am not a fan of BJ

Read the OP again, she didn't say the man doesn't climax during BJs, she said she couldn't give him the BJ to the point of eruption and I think that's because she find the thought of him erupting in her mouth repugnant. Why would a woman have a problem tasting her own man? I don't understand

Please, no one in this world should try to convince me that gays are normal people. They're abnormal and sick and the society should be purge of their existence. They're pollutants.

And now they want to start raising kid(s), oh just kill me already.

A40:
Guy to guy Bobo yen o try rara. Je ka soro nibi ti oro wa

Its one thing to be struggling with business and finances but at least show some responsibility. Si apa so that someone that wants to carry you would know they are not wasting their investment

Whether she embellished the interview is immaterial at this point. Chale brought their business to social media so the gloves were off

Truth be told, I'm really disappointed in the guy. I mean, he has everything at his disposal to become something but he messed it all up. 40% of every deal is enough to breakthrough if he saved and lived within his means but no, he lived recklessly, can't even find the adjective now and then he had the gut to spill all those stuffs on social media. God knows the guy is sick.

I like Tiwa for her mad talent and for her long, thick laps and her pretty face but she's not without fault. The signs were there from the onset, she knew who and what he was but still went ahead to marry him and she destroyed him when she fired him as her manager. She's partly responsible for turning the brother into a leech. How's he supposed to survive without a job?

Egbon, I no wan talk this matter again jare. You be Arsenal fan? Make I use you laugh small.

An0nimus:
You know him in real life? forget these people o. Everything he and Tiwa has said might be true. Onlookers like us can only speculate.

True

naijababe:
Jesus wept! In short, it is Tiwa's presence in his life that turned him to a coke snorting , theiving debtor.

Did he do anything for free ? Nigga was getting overly compensated for his work.

No proof of edible catering, but there is proof Tiwa's mother being a witch and straffing Jazzy, Dr Sid and Tuface ?

Maybe he smoke weed but I doubt he's into cocaine. Ma'am, both of them just dey add spice to the matter, lot of false accusations and counter-accusations flying by.

I'm done talking whose right or wrong, infact they're both mad.

What you doing supporting Arsenal? Ma'am, you need to stop hurting yourself by yourself. Change team biko

Make that call for this beauty

freecocoa:
We all know Tiwa is the victim here, albeit she is part of her own problem so just leave talk.

Teebillz has shown us how having a d1ck makes you a god, niggas be crying cos their woman refused to give them money for food/weed smoking.

TeeBillz is a victim too. He was doing fine before Tiwa came into his life. Brother even paid for her first video. He should have kept their relationship purely professional and he'd still be doing good for himself today.

I refuse to comment on your second paragraph.

freecocoa:
Which manhood are we talking about? A man that squanders money, is reckless with women and doesn't give a hoot about his child is the one whose manhood is being demeaned?

You people must think just having a d1ck makes you some sort of god.

Reckless with women? There was just one woman, edible and there's no solid proof to support her claim, that was just a ranting of a scorned woman. Okay he spends a little above his means. Pls nowhere did Tiwa say he didn't give a hoot about the son. Not financially bouyant to take care of the son is different from him having the means but choosing not to, don't mix them together.


And yes freecocoa, having a d1ck makes us some sort of a god

freecocoa:
Ha! So she shouldn't remind him of his responsibility because he is broke? Especially when his recklessness brought about the 'brokeness'.

This kind of man is not one you play loving wife to, he isn't deserving of that.

He doesn't need to be constantly reminded, I'm sure he knows he has responsibilities to take care of. How much do baby foods and all go for? I'm sure it will not shake her account balance a bit so why take such a responsibility to him if not to demean his manhood. Smh

tearoses:


She made one mistake.....Marrying him!

........He continues to make mistakes
Thats the difference

He also started all this social media wash all linen in public ish

She made a mistake firing her husband when she knows she's the only good thing he's got and she also made a huge mistake shoving it in his face that's he's broke, come on, what's she doing asking the broke brother for baby food for?

tearoses:
If he wasnt busy showing off a fake lifestyle and trying to keep up with the joneses
He could have used his 40% earnings to invest into a profitable business and with hard work and dedication could have made something worthwhile with his life
Instead He was smoking weed, popping champagne and snorting coke
Silly man
Feel like giving him a slap.

And when you're done slapping him, pls do give Tiwa two slaps to reset her brain settings.

Rukkydelta:
The man

I think you missed the last paragraph. Read it again and modify appropriately.

pickabeau1:
Lol
Freecocoa will.never accept

How can she claim all those habits are new to her

Crocodiles will be shocked at how good tiwa is

Don't mind Tiwa, she can't fool us. The only innocent person in all of this is her son, Jamil and I feel sorry for the little boy.

Still available

soonest:
It's the man that needs wisdom pls. Gosh! How selfish can people be. Just 3 wks after birth. Nawa o

I accept the man is selfish but the woman too should try and be flexible. Let's not pretend the woman doesn't know about her man's libido and I know there are other ways they can explore and they'd both be happy so she should explore and stop being selfish too.

freecocoa:
I don't know how you think she can tell the future.

Let's assume Billz was all bad when she met him and with the heart being the way it can be in matters relating to love(sometimes, it just want what it wants, it's left for you as a person to apply head too)Tiwa took a chance with him.


How do you know that Billz didn't put up an act, claiming he is a changed man, leading her to believe in him, only to prove he is nothing but a liar later on? After all, everyone deserves a chance at happiness, are you now blaming Tiwa for giving a bro benefit of the doubt?

Oh then if Tiwa gave him a chance thinking he is a changed man despite knowing all those things about him then she is indeed what everyone has been calling her, STUP*D. She thinks a junkie, an alcoholic and a womaniser can change for love? Smh, it was all about the money for TB.

Free, stop trying to defend the indefensible. Really, Tiwa is an idiot. And yh that tears she was shedding in that video is indeed crocodile tears. Twas just for the camera.

EfemenaXY:
Why?

If you feel the wife whose just given birth barley 3 weeks should have no qualms having her hubby ejaculatte in her mouth, then such a man should have no issues whatsoever going down on his wife and giving her mouth action immediately after birth.

Getting nasty works both ways, mate.

It wasn't written in the OP that the husband had a problem going down on her and if she needed her man to eat her vagina immediately after childbirth then that's her problem.

What two grown-ups do in their bedroom is none of my business but OP made it known she's open to BJ but she's not open to her man erupting in her mouth and I think that's completely selfish of her especially if her man do go down on her. Moreover, you and I both know she could get her husband to a point of climax and remove his device out of her mouth at the point of eruption and I'm sure he'd still be well sated and he wouldn't be complaining.

And Ma'am, yh I do know getting nasty works both ways. Thanks.

Morning.

Still available

Going

aameyah:
How dare you blame her, calling her selfish. Is it too much for the man to exercise a little self control?

I'm not blaming her for not wanting sex yet. I understand she needs time to heal so I'm with her on that. I called her selfish for the half BJ she gives her man. I mean what the hell is a BJ good for when the man doesn't erupt?

TheArchangel:
You must be Zeus and Artemis.

Naah, I'm Archeron.

radicalove:
Humble people do not brag about their humility, only proud people do. I do not think that you are good in bed, because people who are good in bed do not boast about it.

Okay

TheArchangel:
Got ya!!!

No you dont.