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Interesting read.
Hubby should have tried as much as possible to avoid interfering in how wifey spent her "inheritance" that she's entitled to. It's a different thing if it's money they both earned, otherwise comot eye for woman money.
If she needed advice on how to spend her inheritance, she would have sought his advice and I guess the reason is because she already had a good understanding of how hubby spends his own as evidenced in the things she owned in the house when she came packing despite hubyy earning better.
Bottomline, men should intense their hustle to not be interested in getting involved the finance of their wives. Imagine hubby asking wifey about her inheritance and after she spelt how she was going to spend it, he ends up adding extra 10m or 15m to fulfill her plans. He definitely would have earned her respect and allegiance more.

Makavelli001:
Wife Abandoned Husband After Cashing Out 35M



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While freedom is guaranteed under the constitution, freedom after speech is not.
Hence, you're warned not to make allegations or accusations you have no concrete proof, evidence or witnesses for.

CodeTemplar:
https://punchng.com/police-arrest-analyst-who-accused-katsina-govt-of-sponsoring-bandit/

Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/8697436/katsina-govt-paid-10m-each

Very unfortunate. Imagine if this factory was still in existence, I'm sure it would have expanded due to the "explosion" in the property development especially in Lagos and the southwest.
It seems the same fate with Oluwa Glass Company in Igbokoda in Ondo State.

SixSeven:
Exactly what came to my mind. I am just surprised by the OP saying the 1993 person is that old


Nigergrob Ceramics Limited was a notable ceramic manufacturing industry located in Abeokuta, Ogun State, Nigeria. Established in the 1980s, the company became the subject of major Nigerian corporate and legal cases, including a landmark receivership case (U.B.A. Trustees Ltd v. Nigergrob Ceramics Ltd) regarding the extent of receiver and director powers. Financial distress and that litigation eventually led to its closure, turning it into a textbook legal authority for Nigerian corporate insolvency frameworks under the Companies and Allied Matters Act (CAMA).



Story of their death:
In the early 1980s, Nigeria was trying hard to build up its local industries. A company called Nigergrob Ceramics built a big factory in Abeokuta, Ogun State. Their plan was to make floor tiles, wall tiles, and bathroom sinks locally because the construction business was booming. To buy all their heavy machinery and set up the factory, they borrowed a huge amount of money from United Bank for Africa. The bank managed this loan through U.B.A. Trustees Limited. As security for the loan, Nigergrob signed a contract that gave the bank the right to seize the factory and all its equipment if they failed to pay the money back.


Everything started well, but the late 1980s and 1990s brought tough economic times. The national power grid became very unreliable. Ceramic factories need their ovens to run constantly, so Nigergrob had to spend a lot of money on diesel generators. At the same time, the cost of raw materials went up, and they could not find local technicians to fix their complex machines. Production stopped, and the company completely ran out of money. Since Nigergrob could not pay back its debt, U.B.A. Trustees stepped in, locked the factory gates, and hired a legal manager called a receiver to take over everything and sell it off to get the bank's money back.


The original owners and directors of Nigergrob refused to leave quietly. They took the bank to court, arguing that the bank had no right to strip them of their authority. This became a famous legal battle called U.B.A. Trustees Ltd v. Nigergrob Ceramics Ltd. The case went all the way to the Court of Appeal. The judges finally ruled that when a bank takes over a broke company, the bank's manager gets full control of the business and the assets, but the original directors still keep a few basic rights, like the power to fight the takeover in court. Sadly, while the lawyers argued for years, the expensive factory equipment just sat there and rusted. Nigergrob never reopened, and the factory in Abeokuta remains abandoned to this day.
Nigergrob Ceramics died because the bank seized their factory over unpaid debts, while severe power outages and a crashing Naira made manufacturing too expensive to survive.

Be mindful and cautious of accusations like this (especially online) to avoid been sued for libel, slander and defamation if you don't have concrete proof, evidence or witnesses.

Eba50:
this man collect money from many people then for work for delta state arts council then as commissioner of culture and tourism, even backdated their employment to 2 years b4 and collected the salaries. mofe criminal

The last line of your third paragraph ("but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided") is a pointer you should examine thoroughly.

Chijeep:
To cut the long story short, I did my traditional marriage 3momths ago, though I met the girl online but before we even started talking about marriage, our chat always flow with fun and togetherness.

But the moment we return back to our base after the marriage this girl started behaving like introvert and a bit celibacy. Won't want to talk to me like in the aspect of gisting and barely share issues and decisions with me. Even the aspect of food she hardly find interest in eating what I'm able to provide.
I've confronted her more than 3 times and reminded her that I told you already before we go into this union that I'm not rich yet and I'm managing, and she assured me that she's also not from a rich home either and she'll be supportive. but now the girl will be acting as if I'm forcing her to eat the rubbish I provided.

I told her that she's free to quit the marriage if she's not that impressed and happy but she doesn't want to or maybe she's thinking of how people will see her.

PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS THIS IS AFFECTING MY EMOTIONS?, BECAUSE I'M A GUY THAT DECIDED TO LIVE AND DO MY THINGS ALONE, SO THAT I'LL BE ABLE TO HAVE MORE TIME WITH MY WIFE AND CHILDREN WHEN THE TIME COMES.

I will not be surprised if she's picked up by the authorities and prosecuted for her actions.

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Your son is definitely keeping you on your "toes" with his "restlessness" and does not want you to have a "dull moment". That's on a lighter note.
I don't think it's anything to worry about as it shows he's a healthy and active child seeking to explore his environment (people, places events etc). Some start as early as two years ("terrible two".
However, I suggest you:
1. "Audit" the content of his meal that has sugar and seek how to reduce (or (substitute) them. Start with his breakfast and lunch (pack). For example, swap bread and tea with a slice of yam and egg or vegetable sauce, biscuits and fizzy drinks with fruits (apple, banana, pear etc)
2. Limit his exposure to TV, phones and tabs and sensor the contents he watches.
3. Engage him in conversation by asking him how his day was at school with probing questions about his teacher(s), classmates and subjects then tell him to also ask you how your day was too (subtly teaching him how to care about others) before his homework.
4. Ensure he (and his sibling(s)) sleeps by 8pm no matter what. This might be difficult initially but if you stick to it, it'll become a routine they'll adjust to. Help him with his bath and ask him to scrub his body while you rinse his body. (You'll be teaching him how to take responsibility for himself in a subtle way and in no time, he'll want to do it himself).
5. Pray with him when its bedtime and gradually ask him to pray. Usually, they tend to take after your format.
6. Give him small tasks/chores around the house with some "incentives" tied to it.
7. Speak to the "adult" in him by letting him know he's unique with special qualities and how much he's loved by Daddy and Mummy and you're both proud of him.
In all this, involve his Dad and let him play an active role no matter his "busyness".
Welcome to parenthood. Enjoy the "ride" while it lasts and make the best use of the time with them.
Wish you the very best.

pattybf:
it has come to the point I have to voice out. my 4yrs old son has become so sturbbon I find it difficult to handle him.

this boy doesn't listen to any scolding or threatening. I have used every way possible to talk to him to no avail. before I used to pet him, but I saw he wasn't responding well to dat. now I have to shout, threaten n beat him but d case is still the same.

u can't see him sit at a place for a moment, he is either climbing, destroying or pulling down something. I have even stopped helping him wt his homework as he will never pay attention, I have told his teacher to let him do them in class.

eating time is d same, he takes a spoon n run around n will never eat half of his food.

I am now almost d enemy of almost every mother in d compound bc of him, each time he's out playing wt other kids, it must result to fight n I have to defend him! even his younger bother is not safe around him.

I must always let him have his way, otherwise he will cry and scream all day until I get tired n let it go.

he leaves n comes back from school by school bus by 6am n comes back 6to 7pm, I was thinking of changing his school next session, since all my complains to d school hasn't changed anything, cos I think d time is too long for him. but the truth is that those hrs r my only peaceful times.

I love him a lot but the tot of his behaviour makes me very angry.

pls mothers n counsellors, who can advice me on how to tame this boy!

I'm with No. 4.

luminouz:
1.That a man who puts any woman on a pedestal, all in the name of relationship or love, while neglecting his own growth is a perpetual loser.
Even women hate such men.

2. All women are like that. Yes, including your precious mother and sisters. That they are not extorting you like your gf does not make them immune to AWALT. Infact, many simps who grew up like that were indoctrinated by their women and sisters by playing the long game of financial benefits and attention till old age. Don't get me started on the girlfriends. This thread go long.

3. YAAYG!!! It sounds like YAAAY and G right!!! But it means You Are All You Got!!! As a man, no one is coming to save you. Your worth comes from your usefulness or ability to provide a particular thing the society wants. You are not only on the lowest rung of the pecking order but also highly expendable. Your resources and time must be guarded jealousy in this regard so you can retire early and live a good life. Don't fall for the 'REAL' man scam perpetrated by women. That's a con technique to swindle you of your resources. There is nothing like a real man. You are either a man or you are a woman.

4. Women are Adult babies. Treat them as such. Don't trust what they SAY, only what they DO.

5. Repeat Points 1-4 and carve them in your heart.

HUBBY.

It's a lifetime experience you won't forget.

Fiscus105:
Who among these people is best to be with woman in delivery room?

HUBBY.

HER MOTHER.

HER MOTHER-IN-LAW.

HER BESTIE.

HER PASTOR.

Will first ask the little man what happened and who did it (as you're most likely going to get the truth) then proceed to call or ask his class teacher before proceeding to meet with the proprietor/proprietress. I may get the relevant authorities/agency(ies) involved if I'm not satisfied with the outcome or explanations of the school.

englishmart:
Your child who went to school looking great, returns home with part of his head shaved. What's your first reaction?

Take the offer and reschedule your "family time". You're only as relevant as long as you can provide for your family.
Discuss with your spouse and I'm sure she'll understand. Besides, you need the job experience for experience and future negotiations as you would have gained more exposure. You don't want to know how it feels like to be "handicapped" and fed by your wife.
Wish you the best.

IyaTola:
From DM

Those two have been "communicating" well since the days of Eden.

It's just a simple "meet and greet".

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Be thankful for your "deliverance". It was never meant to be. If you could survive this, it shows you are strong.
I pray and wish you find your "true love" and live happily ever after.

AdisGlobal01:
SHE_NEEDS_YOUR_ADVICE

My wedding was scheduled for March this year, but everything changed after my fiancé's father passed away unexpectedly in November.

His funeral was held just three weeks later, in December. I genuinely wanted to attend, but there was one major problem: my employer had a strict policy against granting leave during the December holiday period. When I accepted the job, this condition was clearly stated. Despite explaining my situation and pleading for an exception, my request was denied.

I informed my fiancé immediately. At first, he appeared understanding. I even contributed financially to support the funeral arrangements.

Then his mother called.

She told me that if I truly wanted to become part of their family, I had to be physically present at her husband's funeral. I tried explaining my circumstances, but she ended the call before I could finish.

When I called my fiancé afterward, I expected him to stand by me. Instead, he asked:

"If it were your own father, wouldn't you find a way to attend?"

I explained that the situations were different because my employer might make an exception if it were my immediate family member.

That was when he dropped the bombshell:

"No presence. No wedding."

I thought grief was speaking. I thought time would calm him down.

I was wrong.

The wedding was officially cancelled.

My family tried everything to reconcile the situation, but his family refused every attempt. Eventually, my father advised me to accept the loss and move forward with my life.

It broke me, but I did.

Months passed.

Then, on May 20th, my ex-fiancé called me.

What he said left me speechless.

According to him, I had failed the test of being a good wife because I stopped trying to convince his family after the wedding was cancelled. He said a "real wife" would have kept begging until she was accepted.

Then he announced that he had "forgiven" me.

Not only that, he had already chosen a new wedding date in August and expected me to start preparing immediately.

As if the breakup had never happened.

As if my feelings didn't matter.

As if he alone had the authority to decide when a relationship ends—and when it resumes.

Without hesitation, I told him I was no longer interested.

His response shocked me even more.

He said:

"I'm not done. You don't have the right to be done."

I blocked his number immediately.

But that wasn't the end.

A few days later, he appeared at my father's house carrying the bride price and all the marriage items he had previously rejected.

My father told him clearly:

"My daughter has moved on. As far as this family is concerned, she is no longer available."

Still, he refused to accept it.

Since then, he and his mother have continued calling, visiting, and pressuring both me and my family despite my repeated refusal.

Now I'm beginning to wonder:

Is this really about love, or is there something deeper behind their sudden determination?

What troubles me most is the mindset that someone can cancel a wedding, disappear for months, return when it suits them, and expect another person to simply obey.

I am now considering legal action because the constant calls, visits, and refusal to respect my decision are becoming disturbing.

My question is:

If someone ends a relationship, then later decides to "forgive" you and resume the wedding without your consent, would you see that as love... or as a dangerous sense of entitlement?

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

The same criminals did not wait for FGs approval before invading lands and committing heinous crimes. While wait for any approval?
If you're sure of yourself, do what's good for the people and the nation at large.

Fareke:
https://punchng.com/im-still-awaiting-fgs-approval-to-dislodge-criminals-from-swest-forests-says-igboho/

Allow him to have his wish as long as he'll foot the travel bills.
Perhaps when he sees how it goes, he'll know if he made a wise decision or not.

escortafrik:
There is an issue causing tension in my home and I need your input please

So I just had a baby here in the UK and it hasn’t been easy for me, while my husband has been very supportive, it has been limited because he goes to work and is usually exhausted when he comes back.

Because childcare is very expensive, I suggested inviting my mum to stay with us for support during this early stage.

But my husband disagreed and suggested his mum should come instead.

Now the issue is that his mum is much older and recently had a stroke. She is still recovering and not very strong, so I’m worried she may not be able to cope with the demands of caring for a newborn. I pointed all these to him and he took offence immediately!

He said I’m talking down on his mom and sincerely that hurt because I love her like my own mom but I don’t just want the purpose of her coming to be for nothing and not only that come and add to my own burden

Now we have not been able to agree on a solution.

I don’t want this to cause problems in our marriage, but I also want what’s best for my baby and the situation we are in right now.

Please what would you do if you were in my position




https://community.escortafrik.com/d/209-baby-care-drama-my-mum-vs-his-mum-and-its-causing-tension-at-home

LIRS and NRS (formerly FIRS) will soon come "visiting" to collect their own.

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Having someone else that has a stronghold on a partner other than you, is a recipe for a troubled marriage. You're not a consideration except for your economic value.
Bro, quietly move on, though might be painful but you'll get over it with time and find who's really meant for you.
All the best.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone.

So recently I've been thinking about marriage. Tho I'm in a relationship but the woman I've been dating doesn't really seem to have the same serious interest and intentions like me. I've talked to her severally but it seems she isn't ready to settle down yet. Imagine this is someone whom I've gone to see her people and they know me well. My own people know her too. I've equally talked to her mom since she's the one parent she has . And had also talked to her best friend about it too.

But one thing I've noticed about her is that she's over religious and seems to be too close to her pastor. The last time I talked to her about the marriage stuff,she directed me to go and talk to her pastor. Tho I was initially furious about it but I just had to man up,kill my pride and decided to pay her pastor a visit.

From the conversation I had with her pastor,it seems he's one of the major stumbling blocks. Because he was only curious about my financial status he was even asking me what was my source of livelihood,and of which I told him. Afterwards,he then asked me what was my monthly salary. Saying if I'm sure I can take care of my fiancee with that amount,or if I'm planning to have a side hustle. That he doesn't want a case where any of her spiritual daughter will go into a marriage where she'll be suffering. I told her categorically clear that I'm not a lazy man and I don't intend to put anyone's daughter into suffering in the name of marriage.

It's been over a week since I left the pastor's office, and since then,my fiancee has been behaving so cold towards me.

So I don't know whether to continue with my proposal or I should just kindly look for another lady to marry.

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@OP, some people discover too late they ended with the wrong person in a relationship. You are blessed and fortunate to see the "revelation" unfolding before your very eyes and you're still contemplating? Bro, walk away and never look back. If it hurts, it's only going to be for a short while rather than a lifetime. She has proven to you she's not for you.
All the best.

Fuckyoumod:
How men, SIMPle men lost everything to women I just shake my head and laugh.

Leave all this meaningless things you provided here as answer and pray you find the right woman for you.

A woman who can not share her earnings once in a while or help/support her family (husband and children) should remain in her father's house, because she is a selfish person. Selfish women usually are not recommended for marriage.

Because, even if you have all the money, do you think life can't happen to you? What about your health? What about you get involved in a health challenge that incapacitates you?

Does it mean since you can't provide the marriage is over because she can't help or support with her earnings?

I want to advice young men with good mental standing, If you have a woman that is selfish and can't help you once in a while, can't buy you things, can't go to the market but stuff and cook for you as a man she claims to love and you know she has the capacity to do so, bro. You are with a selfish woman, leave her.

But if you think she is beautiful and you can't leave her and find a woman who meets the condition or reason God in heaven created a woman in the first place to be a help mate or support you in this short life of yours on Earth then remain with her and don't complain later.


Gen 2:18

"The LORD God also said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him a suitable helper.”

This is the reason God created a woman, I pity men who don't realize this and think they should carry all the borden and suffer alone on this earth without the support of their woman or wife.

Any woman who fails to help her man or husband has failed her number one assignment from God and the reason God created her and should remain with her father in her father's house. test their love, not by sex and love making, but by understanding her and her mental and family orientation.

A woman who spent time with her father and love her father will naturally see the need to support her dearly beloved husband if she has the means and capacity to help him.

Because her father is her role model and she saw what her father went through to sustain the home.

Get close to God and see that God has solutions and answers to all your questions and confusions

So bro. Stop teaching or giving wrong advice that is not in line with the will and intentions of God.

"Pastor", you don't have to go personal and refer to my comment as "meaningless" just because it does not go down well with you neither did I "teach or giving wrong advice that is not in line with the will and intentions of God".
Seeing that you quoted scriptures to state/support yours, kindly quote the ones that talks about women sharing financial responsibilities or does being "a suitable helper" mean only sharing financial responsibilities to you?
My "advice" was in my last paragraph as "added bonus".

Mike008:
As plausible as your view is, this is not a manual to a successful marriage. This mindset is in fact the reason why marriages these days are doomed to fail.
What is the idea of being life partners, if both parties are working, yet only one shoulders the financial burden?
What exactly is the woman keeping her own money for?

Most men are married to women who are good earners, yet when they need to sort out simple domestic issues they resort to friends for help, while their wives have the means.
Why then is she your partner?

The advantages of partners pulling their resources together cannot be overemphasized.
You make better financial decisions, and achieve more as a family.

There's no law that says a man must foot the bills 100% where his spouse is also earning. It shouldn't be a matter of discretion on the part of the woman. She must be ready to bear a financial cross in the family too, except she is not working.

So too it is with chores, a man must contribute too, whether the wife earns or not.

My view is not intended as "a manual to a successful marriage" but from personal experience and that of others as there's no one "recipe" for a successful marriage. Couples should figure out what works for them and stick to it and not copy or imitate others or compare.

translux:
Just yesterday, I gave my Wife N25k to cook soup for the weekend and guess what, when she came back from the market she said darling things were damm expensive in the market and I borrowed you N7k, imagine borrowed fme or the food both us us would eat o.

Bro, the first five years of marriage is sometimes characterized by lots of trials, temptations and "tribulations" one of which you're dealing with now. There's perhaps more to this than you know and your wife is not telling you about. I'm tempted to say she may be listening to a more "superior" voice for her to be locking her phone and insisting you let her know when you want to access it.
Also, you need to accept the fact that you now live in a foreign land that (may) favour women more and that puts you at risks and disadvantage of losing more.
I suggest you have more intentional conversations with her. You can first start by asking her what she fancies about her colleague, what she thinks is missing in your marriage and what you can do to fill in the gap, id she has thought of the consequences of her action and the effect on your son etc.
On your own part, begin to compliment her looks especially when she's dressed for any outing (including work), consciously occupy her time when she's at home or off work by gisting/gossiping, "netflix and chill", dates, walks/strolls, help out in the kitchen and other chores.
Oh lest I forget, make sure you engage her frequently and have lots of s*x in different parts/corners of your apartment spontaneously with either clothes on, partially on or unclad (with your son out of sight) and show "no mercy".

1. If the wife is working class, Is it expected that the man pays 100% of the rent?
ANS: Yes. You are expected to "chest" the full rent. That's 100% your responsibility. Remember you took her from her father's house where she knows nothing about paying or sharing rent. However, wisdom dictates that you get an accommodation that's within your means and make projections for future increase.
2. If the wife is working class, is it expected she contributes towards children school fees or the man pays 100%?
ANS You pay the school fees 100% bro. Again, choose a school you can afford and get the termly bill and pay directly yourself. Make no mistake of giving her the money to pay. If she does pay, it should be voluntary or freewill and ensure you reimburse her as soon as you can. However, if she's "magnanimous", she may take care of some things like the child(ren)'s lunch pack/box(es), extra clothing etc.
3. If the wife contributes financially, is there an expectation that the man does chores? (Ps I don't want to do any chores in this life apart from occasional cooking lol).
ANS This can occur especially of your spouse is not the "domesticated" type. She can use it as an opportunity to "rope" you into doing chores. That's when you'll be called to "bring out the food in the freezer to microwave for yourself or the children because she's running late getting home". Trust me, women have ways of making you do things you ordinarily will frown at but you won't due to the circumstances. However, try make yourself useful when at home by taking on some chores intermittently like clearing cobwebs , help iron her clothes for church while she's in the bathroom , clearing and washing dishes together as a way of bonding etc.
4. If the wife contributes financially how does it affect the decision making in the family?
ANS You don't get to make decision by fiat but through dialogue and compromise (which can sometime hurt your ego)
The last question is ONLY for married men who share bills?
I don't share bills with my spouse but she supports voluntarily especially when she senses I'm not financially buoyant and I make up for it in KIND.
5a. Do you feel respected by your wife when you share bills with her?
ANS During my "downtime", I had to reorientate my mind that she was earning her money with my name and what she
*5b. If you don't share bills with your wife and she keeps 100% of her earnings to herself, what do you think is the purpose of a woman working?
ANS Don't go into marriage with this mindset bro. Women want some level of "freedom and independence" including their finances. Let her spend her income the way she deems fit. That's a way to know if she's a good or bad with finances and to what extent you can trust with your finances or that of the family.

As an added bonus, I suggest you both have this conversation not with the mind of sharing financial responsibilities but to build and secure your future financially. Have a goal or plan and be committed to it wholeheartedly. For instance, if you earn more, you can suggest to her to use her income to run the home while yours is put into capital projects like securing landed properties, setting up and running a family business etc.

All the best.

Respect her wish/desire and stay away from her.
DON'T make any attempt to reach or contact her and ignore if she does.
You too, try and stay without her. You'll be fine.

First foremost you need to assure her it's not her fault as she didn't walk into it knowingly.
Next is to take her for medical tests for STI/HIV to know her status including pregnancy test. If the outcome is all negative, encourage her to stay chaste. If positive 9in any way), immediately seek medical attention. All this should be done in a public health institution and well documented preferably a General Hospital.
But a more critical aspect of this whole debacle, is to encourage to speak out and get her parents to be supportive and report the matter to the Police or Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (if it happened in Lagos) for investigation.
While cases or rape are difficult to prove in Nigeria, with concrete evidence(s), justice will be served correctly.
All the best.

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

I'm the one who has influenced her.
Now she loves starch and banga soup with fresh fish served in earthen wares (clay soup bowl).

Deeprooted:
I don't know if this should be here or in the family section.

About 5 years into the marriage, my wife been able to influence me into not being a fan of meat 🍖🥓 generally. The last time I had meat was around 3 years ago.

This is basically because my wife does not like meat, she has been able to get me so much in love with fish 🐟🐠.

Na you influence your partner abi na the other way round?

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I strongly believe that the Nigerian military authorities know exactly what to do to end this menace that has led to the loss of innocent lives, wanton destruction of properties and displacements of tribes and peoples from their ancestral homelands.
Until they decide and takes the very action needed to end this carnage, the killings will continue (unfortunately) with little or no resistance.

To the software gurus in the house, kindly recommend trusted, robust and scalable software that are predominately used in the Nigerian hospitality industry.
Thank you.

Another stat showing women live longer than men.

Men, take very good care of yourselves and live your life to the fullest to the glory of God.

Morbeta11:
https://www.visualcapitalist.com/ranked-top-25-countries-with-the-highest-life-expectancy/

A needless war.

ubest1:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQbFTNM308c?si=Vd91jotpJXQGxpye



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