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@ poster, dis issues shld av been resolved/settled before now so as to know where things are goin. Lord av mercy. When xtian disagree over where to solemnize their marriage, we preach not d teachings of the Bible.
Pls I encourage all intending couples preparing 4 their wedding to sort out issues among themselves and stop running here for answers or solutions that may not help.

@ poster, frm all u said, seems u did not have a pix of wat he`s suppose 2 sell. Hate 2 sound dis, but be prepared 4 a shocker.
Likelihood is dat ur car has arrived, but accidented. He could be fixing it (2 wks is wat most panelbeaters take 2 work on them) and buying time.
From my sour experience, the car was delivered 6 months after. (after threatening 2 go 2 EFCC)
I pray dis is not ur portion.

@ Poster, obviously your wife`s reaction shows her allegiance to her mum and not you cos u did not state that she reacted in your defence and dat my friend is a HUGE minus. Why leave the home you pay rent on and inconvenience ya self while ur MIL n her daughter are feeding and feasting away aty ur expense. C`mon go back home and ask grandma 2 leave in the next 24 hrs or go to the police and report a case of physical assault, threat to life and property and get her arrested. Whichever action you decide to take, make it drastic and a warning signal 2 ur spouse.

@ Poster, Yes its possible. A friend (female) from Isoko got married to a Yoruba chap abt 6 months ago and they`re living happily ever after. All d best.

@ Poster, I suggest ur friend shld quietly disengage now dat he has the opportunity. It just wont work becos he`ll end up enslaving himself 4 his "in-laws" and not realise his dreams n potentials.

@ poster, Stop being childish and grow up. You have turned your r/ship into a competition. I feel sorry if this is how you conduct yourself in all your r/ships. The result is what you`re getting now. He may have moved (I wish)

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@ poster, u`re more into his looks than his personality. Good for you to have seen some red flags. My sincere advice? BACK OFF or have your heart chopped into bits and pieces and fed to the dogs and come back to this forum to curse men.

Poster, u `re allowing your obsession blindfold you that you`re failing to see the enormous potentials for you to grab. Go ask any successful 9ja musician, there`s always a business side that makes the whole endeavor worthwhile.
You should be grateful that you have a business minded partner. If I were you, I`ll simply make her my business manager and probably tap from her skills. Amongst other thinngs, try make her see the prospect(s) in your project, let her have a say in how you can maximize sales and even promo. Who says she must know how to play an instrument for you to succeed?

I can go on and on to give loads of ideas you`ve never thot of on how to succeed in this but men, you have to pay me.

Quit cpmplaining and get off on a winning start

Listen to your parents for now, after the wedding listen to your spouse. All the best

Seems u did not have a hold on her. Truth is, she`s done with you. You move on and re-dedicate your life to God in whom their is no hurt but happiness.
Shalom

Never had any fear about going in to labour ward with my spouse. I even had the priviledge of recording the birth of my 1st 2 kids from when my spouse was in labour till actual delivery. The 3rd baby escaped my camera lens cos he came thru CS and the medical personnel would not allow me into the theatre. But I filmed him immiately he was brought out. (I hope this is the last one).

I intend to play it for them when they`re much older and make them see what they made "mummy" go thru to bring them into the world. (It`s just to make them appreciate mummy more).

A BIG thank you to all mothers who went in and out of the labour room safely with their babies in their arms crying tears of joy. God bless You.

The recent "tsunami" that swept across the banking industry seems to have caught up wit the telecomms industry. Globacom has begun a three phase tsunami cleansing exercise which cuts across all units/dept.
Pls don`t ask me for source. Make your enquiries and come back to confirm or dispute. In the meantime, some major casualties include the ED, Communication, Mr. Okon, Modele Sharafa Yusuf. The call centre is worst hit.

Pray for your friends and families working there to escape this unfortunate incident.

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@ poster. While I do not advocate dovorce or seperation, I suggest you move out of the house for a while so as to get some "fresh air". Go stay with a relative or friend or hire a short-term accomodation (if you can afford it). You should consider your safety first and don`t hesitate to tell your parents and his as well. If need be, make an entry at the nearest police station. Better the whole world know how he`s treating you than keeping mute and God forbid you`re not around to tell your own side of the story.

Like they say in my place, "na play, na play laba-laba take dey enter bush". He could hit you in the wrong place and the story will change. Pls madam, na who dey life dey fit talk.

As for his misdeeds, he`ll get past it and realise how foolish he has been. Becos, "the cane wey dem take flog 1st wife dey corner dey wait for the 2nd, 3rd, 4th . . . . . . . . "

Keep him in your prayers and my sincere advice, NEVER consider DIVORCE or SEPERATION. God will see your through. Amen

If the house will accomodate N18,000.00 civil servants, then I will believe him.

Interesting post and responses alike.
@ Poster, I had a similar experience and was even worse. My mum from all intent was pretending to like her, but along the way, she blew up. This included both physical and spiritual attacks/confrontations. I was told some of the things you`re hearing now and even more. To the extent she said the girl would not bear children. (Na loooooonnnnnnggggg STORY)

In my case, if my dad had put up that resistance, no thinking twice, I would have opted out cos I see him as almost faultless.

Today, the story is different. The same girl is now my spouse who has given three beautiful and wonderful kids. My mum has been apologising for her past deeds and begging for forgiveness saying she did not know what she was doing. Now she takes pride in coming over to visit and spend time with her "darling daughter-in-law and beautiful grand children.

I guess they`re using the "death" story to put you on hold. (Don`t be deceived, DEATH is sure) so make your life worthwhile. Like I always say, Marry who you love or love who you marry.

God help you.

How well I know our newly employed day-time nanny and in-house maid? Not so well afterall. Just found that My nanny has a son who was involved in a fight and was shot at but did not enter. (Odechi). I understand she was kinda boasting about it. (She`s an Ijebu woman. No insult meant)

The name our housemaid bears (which we all call her), is not her real name. Says they keep changing names with each employer and the so called elder sister that brought her is not her blood relative.

I wonder how much is there to find out. God, Please protect our children. Amen

My heartfelt sympathy. I really do not know what soothing words to say to you and yor wife. The good lord will comfort you and repalce your loss with more than you heart desires.
I suggest try talking to "madam" takes it easy so she can recover well. Make sure she`s in good company so as to take her mind off it for now.
God will make you smile.

Become partially blind, deaf and dumb.

I don`t wear mine. Reason? I`m not a jewelry person. Like I say, marriage or being married is a thing of the mind and how u carry yourself. My spouse understands this better now cos she gets toasters and even proposals from other men (married and single) who know she`s married as evident by the wedding rings on her fingers.

The ring to me its just an outward symbol, but the mind is where the real marcoy is. (my opinion)

eeya my apologies bro breathless

Accepted. All contributions noted so far. Question on my mind now is how do you do a background check on these people without them knowing? Will their past employers be willing to cooperate? Will it be "wise" to involve the police? (in 9ja). Are there any method(s) you use to scoop enough info to safeguard yourself and family?

So many questions, so many.

L W K M D o o oo o ooo o

They are not proud of their status and who they are married to.

have left the house once to go to a friends place when i got tired of his rantings only to come back and get beaten up while i was 4 months pregnant

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